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The fault lies within you, you are the one who chooses a person on the basis of your self-created
need. You let them be part of your life and it is certain that there is a difference between you and
them. The difference could be in the moral, emotional, physical, intellectual or any other strand.
One among you will definitely try to eliminate the difference, however the one who approaches
is obsolete one, by decreasing your level of that particular aspect. So now you are able to
communicate with them, not just verbal communication, by giving them the remote control of
your life. Also, let me introduce one more trouble maker in your life other than you; society
plays a very crucial role in making you feel worthless. Society has self created the definitions of
the things in a way that it fuels your problems. When we are in the age of accumulation where
we are supposed to get introduced to new terms which will be part of our future life this is the
stage when society plays its role. It has answers to all of those popping curiosities, right or wrong
but it has something to say about it. For example the knowledge you are gaining from the school
is just to make you sensible and educated and that is a lie because then they would have focused
on our learning abilities more than the grades we get. We all are sent to the schools and colleges
just to be able to get a job and to earn our living and it starts with a lie.
Now coming back to the point, similarly when it comes to the public relations whether
emotional or material you are guided by the society. Now when the time comes that you are now
set to fly with the other person for whom you made sacrifice of things no matter bad or good.
What I actually mean by bad or good let me make you understand by an example. Suppose you
are a chain smoker and the person you falled for doesn't want you to continue this bad habit
because you are now in their life and they can't let you die because of it and leave them without
their permission in the simple terms they say " I don't want to lose you, why are you being so
careless about your loved ones". As you have already given them the remote controller of your
life you either don't smoke in front of them or if you have given them total control over you then
you simply quit. I am not encouraging you to smoke or not to quit but I am giving you an explicit
example that is very relatable. For all the sacrifices you do, society also plays a role to make you
do that because they have defined things for you and you sacrifice because the definitions say
that if you do so you are the perfect.
After sometime when you are flying the fuel is your obedience and sacrifices towards the other
person. Suddenly the spark is gone. That is the time when you want the other person to sacrifice
something for you. If they are sure enough to decide that they really want to be with you then
they will compromise and maybe in future they will be ready to sacrifice for you to make this
flight go. Now if they are not sure about you they will try to make you feel that you are not doing
a right thing and you will obviously agree with them but things will start getting scratchy and the
relationship has come to that point where it demands sacrifices from both the parties. You will
start hating yourself for not being up to the other person's requirements at the same time you will
demand for something from them. This is the phase where you will be in trouble.
In the end the plane crashes because you are exhausted and you are prone to make mistakes. The
time you say May-day the society defines it and it says you are the one responsible for this
because of your mistakes and you are doomed to destroy yourself to make the other person
realise that I accept the mistake and I repent for it. Until the other person decides to take the
stand and agree with you that is nearly impossible because you made them believe that you are
the one at fault and break their trust which actually never existed, if that was so they would have
come to you and helped you to fix the problem. Most likely parents are the ones who can do this
for you because their love is unintentional. Now if you mention the sacrifices you have done for
them they will get on you and say as if you did it for me and you will have no answer, you have
thrown every single bit of yours in their feet, you can't tell them that yes everything I did was for
you. They won't accept the fact and will give you every reason to destroy yourself because of
their ego, for every single thing you will try to remind them of what you did for them they will
reply "as if you have done any favour".
The thing is that I am trying to make you understand that don't let anyone take control of your
life in any way indeed be nice to everyone but set limits for others. It is obvious that we tend to
socialize however we should respect ourselves to create a shield against any invader. There are
so many fancy quotations we encounter in our day to day life. I suggest you not to believe in
them. Try to be real and don't indulge yourself in these thoughts that I don't understand what
happened to me when I met him/her or when they left me. You exactly know what is happening.
You are lying to yourself and that can cost your life. It can put you in trouble like depression.
Thank You.