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High Goals
Dig deep into your heart. “The kind of success I am most interested in is the sort available to every human
being living, breathing, thinking, and doing things on this earth. It does not require
Embrace Failure
Build your confidence. wealth, fame, power or high social status. It needs not involve aspiring to any of
How to PLAN for Success these things. But it does require making the most of what we are, for the benefit
Prepair, launch, adjust, network. of others as well as ourselves. It means making a difference and experiencing the
Consistency deep satisfaction that brings. It means using your talents and following your heart.
= Empowerment. It involves being true to yourself and being good to others.”
Does Your Work ~ Tom Morris from True Success
Feed the fire of your heart?
In this great book, Morris outlines the seven conditions of True Success:
1. We need a clear conception of what we want, a vivid vision, a goal or set of goals powerfully
imagined.
Covey sums it up with this great line: “Private Victory precedes Public Victory. Algebra comes
before calculus.”
One of my favorite Positive Psychologists, Sonja Lyubomirsky (see Notes on The How of
Happiness), tells us that about 50% of our happiness come from our genetic set points and that,
at best, only 10% of our happiness comes from external stuff like wealth, physical attractiveness
or our jobs. The other 40%? That’s under our control.
As she says: “What makes up this 40 percent? Besides our genes and the situations that we
confront, there is one critical thing left: our behavior. Thus the key to happiness lies not in
changing our genetic makeup (which is impossible) and not in changing our circumstances
(i.e., seeking wealth or attractiveness or better colleagues, which is usually impractical), but
in our daily intentional activities. With this in mind, our pie chart illustrates the potential of
the 40 percent that is within our ability to control, the 40 percent for room to maneuver, for
opportunities to increase or decrease our happiness levels through what we do in our daily
lives and how we think.”
So, we know both philosophically and scientifically, that the truly Good Life—one that leads to
an abundance of joy, meaning and lasting happiness and fulfillment, comes from living a life of
virtue. Let’s check out some of Tom’s other brilliant Big Ideas on how to rock it! :)
in life to the fullest. The priorities, doing should always precede having. Only then will we have what we most truly need.”
positive consequences of Having a clear idea of what we want is the first condition of True Success.
recognition that may result
The challenge is that we’re often told by self-help gurus that it’s all about visualizing ourselves
can be enjoyed immensely, but on a tropical beach with a tan and sexy people around us while we’re told to create a vision board
should always be secondary with our new mansion on the cliffs overlooking the crashing waves (next to the 10 houses we
consequences.” bought for our parents, family, etc.).
~ Tom Morris
Of course, there’s nothing inherently *wrong* with enjoying beautiful things in our lives
(and aspiring to enjoy a certain level of luxury) but when acquiring those things becomes our
“It’s not wrong to want For two reasons: 1) The ONLY way you’re ever going to get any of that stuff is by working
resources. It’s not wrong *really* *really* hard and creating a significant amount of value in the world; and, 2) Even if you
to have as a goal the eventually get those material possessions, you’re still not going to get what you REALLY want
positive recognition and (which is happiness) unless, in the process, you’ve also optimized your mind, invested energy
into your relationships and really feel like you’ve made a lasting contribution to the world.
respect of other people.
But money, fame, power, and So, let’s put the vision board in the closet for a moment (gasp!) and start with a fresh sheet of
social status should never paper. Write in the middle of it: “How can I best make my contribution to the world?”
be our primary focus.” And mind map the bliss out of that. Then work hard. With joy, energy and enthusiasm as you
~ Tom Morris give yourself most fully to the world!
P.S. To see a YouTube video on how I mind map, Google “YouTube + PhilosophersNotes + How
I Mind Map” or click here! :)
How about a little more philosophical Morris mojo on the subject of goal setting?
HIGH GOALS
“Setting high goals is not necessarily a matter of striving to become a company president,
CEO, or governor of your state. It doesn’t require planning to be the number-one salesman in
“Nothing contributes so the country or to write a runaway best-seller book. Stretching yourself doesn’t have to mean
much to tranquilize the increasing your income, fame, power, or social status at all. It means digging deep into your
mind as a steady purpose—a own heart, finding what you’re capable of and what you love, and not settling for anything
point on which the soul else. It means not narrowing yourself but exercising and enjoying every aspect of who you are.
may fix its intellectual eye.” It involves discovering your own personal excellence, your own best path to fulfillment, and
~ Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley walking it every day. These are what I think of as high goals.”
Love that.
So, to repeat: Setting high goals is NOT about external stuff/seeing how much fame/power/
“If we want the boldness
wealth you can accumulate. The world doesn’t need another Oprah and you don’t need to be on
to pursue new goals, we
Oprah to be a success.
should not allow ourselves
to dwell imaginatively too So let’s shift from that manic focus on being Big Time and get back to the question “How can I
best make my contribution to the world?”
much on the possible risks
of failure.” For some, THE most important contribution might be (and should be!) to be an amazing mom
~ Tom Morris
or dad—spending LESS time going after all the bling and signs of outward success and spending
MORE time with your kids on their homework or teaching them these kinds of Big Ideas.
In my experience, as we get all geeked up about creating an authentically awesome life, it’s really
“One thing we must do with easy to get seduced by all the stuff our society tells us we need. Namely, the fame, power, wealth
any success we attain is to and social status. But, again, those are, at best, BY-PRODUCTS of living a life of integrity and
use it to launch ourselves inner wisdom.
onto the next quest for So, let’s step back, dig deep into our own hearts, find out what we’re capable of and how we can
a new success. Whenever create our most authentically awesome lives—on OUR terms and in harmony with true wisdom.
you attain your goals, you
need new goals. Right away. EMBRACE FAILURE
Otherwise you risk the
“A lack of failure in a person’s life often indicates a lack of effort, a policy of playing it safe. It
near certain ennui of literal usually signals a lack of risk taking, a dearth of innovation and experiment. People who are
aimlessness.” stretching themselves, trying new things, and setting high goals will try some dead-end streets
~ Tom Morris along the way. At least they’re out there moving, searching, testing and learning. A lack of any
failure may be the greatest failure—in the life of a business or in the life of an individual.”
And, as Alexandra and I push our edges and test out all kinds of ideas (from where we want to
live to how we want to run our businesses), we love to remind ourselves of Michael Beckwith’s
genius concept of mis-takes from Spiritual Liberation (see Notes): “A conscious realization of
“You can’t please everybody. our innate oneness with the Ineffable does not mean that we will never make a mistake again.
Even enlightened beings burn their bagels once in a while. It’s important to maintain a sense of
Don’t even try. And don’t let
humor because this is how you will stop being afraid of making a mistake. You’ll make some,
it bother you.“
but so what? That’s why they’re called mis-takes. Humor relaxes the uptight ego. You get a
~ Tom Morris
new cue from your inner Self and simply say, ‘I missed my cue, so let’s do a second take.’ Your
willingness to take the risk of making a mistake is actually an expression of courage and a
willingness to grow from them. Mistakes are about getting the blessing in the lesson and the
lesson in the blessing.”
How can you push your edges a little more and take some more risks. Or, if you’re currently
experiencing a setback, how can you see it from a broader, more confident perspective—where
you can see the strength you’re building and the distinctions you’re making for your next
awesome push?!
The third chapter is all about “A Concentration on What It Takes” and Morris goes into detail on
his PLAN.
Great stuff.
CONSISTENCY = EMPOWERMENT
“Consistency of the highest sort is empowerment. Our goals and values, the commitments we
make to guide our paths through life, must be embodied in our thoughts, actions, emotions,
and attitudes on a consistent basis if they are to make the kind of difference for us that they
are capable of making. Without consistent embodiment, our greatest visions are just dreams.
Consistency of the right kind always enhances our prospects for seeing our dreams become
realities. It moves us along in the direction we have chosen.”
“When love and skill WORK THAT FEEDS THE FIRES OF OUR HEART
work together, expect a “Are you doing what you love? Are you working at something that sets you aflame? That feeds
masterpiece.” the fires of your heart? If not, why not? Make a change. Do something else. Or else just love what
~ John Ruskin you do. Put your heart into it. Now.”
If we’re gonna honor the fifth element of True Success, “A Commitment of Emotion,” we’ve gotta
put our hearts into our work.
As Kahlil Gibran tells us in The Prophet (still need to do a Note on that one! :): “Work is love
made visible. And if you cannot work with love but only with distaste, it is better that you
should leave your work and sit at the gate of the temple and take alms of those who work with
joy. For if you break bread with indifference, you bake bitter bread that feeds but half a man’s
“Many people have the wrong hunger. And if you grudge the crushing of grapes, your grudge distills a poison in the wine.
idea of what constitutes And if you sing though as angels, and love not the singing, you muffle man’s ears to the voices
happiness. It is not attained of the day and the voices of the night.”
through self-gratification, And Carlos Castaneda brings the point home in a passage I often like to share: “Anything is one
but through fidelity to a of a million paths. Therefore, a warrior must always keep in mind that a path is only a path; if
worthy purpose.” he feels that he should not follow it, he must not stay with it under any conditions. His decision
~ Helen Keller to keep on that path or to leave it must be free of fear or ambition. He must look at every path
closely and deliberately. There is a question that a warrior has to ask, mandatorily: ‘Does this
path have a heart?’”
So, two choices here: Love what you’re currently doing or do something you love.
Please don’t hang out in between. Your family, your community and your world need more from
you, yo! :)
throughout the process Notes), George Leonard tells us: “If you’re planning to embark on a master’s journey, you
might find yourself bucking current trends in American life. Our hyped-up consumerist society
along the way.”
is engaged, in fact, in an all out war on mastery.”
~ Tom Morris
Yet, we KNOW that living with character is essential to our well-being.
So, here’s to diligently, patiently, persistently and playfully putting in the time and effort
A CAPACITY TO ENJOY
“The success of inner “True success is best thought of not as a far-off destination, or an end state of any kind, but
achievement, personal as a process, a dynamic process of successful living. As we attain valuable goals that are right
excellence, and moral for us, renew our vision, move toward new goals that have then become appropriate for us,
concern moving out into the and properly attaining them, while building up our own personal excellence, as well as strong,
world and making a positive healthy relations with the people around us, we are experiencing small individual successes
difference can be our within an overall process of successful living. The only guaranteed way to enjoy success within
aim. And it should be. In our lives is to learn to enjoy the process along the way, in its many facets. Dreaming, scheming,
the end, living a life geared striving, wrestling—whatever we are doing at the present moment—can be enjoyed. It need not
be just endured as we wait on some future enjoyment that we think some far-off ultimate success
toward true success is the
will bring.”
only sensible way to live.
It is the only way to have Enjoyment. It’s the seventh element of True Success. What’s the point of all our striving and
a thoroughly meaningful growth if we’re not enjoying the process?!
and completely fulfilling Tal Ben-Shahar also captures it beautifully in his great book Happier (see Notes for his brilliant
existence.” description of the various archetypes!): “Attaining lasting happiness requires that we enjoy the
~ Tom Morris journey on our way toward a destination we deem valuable. Happiness is not about making it
to the peak of the mountain nor is it about climbing aimlessly around the mountain; happiness
is the experience of climbing toward the peak.”
Here’s to creating an authentically awesome life as we embody the wisdom of the 7 C’s of True
Success!
Brian Johnson,
Chief Philosopher