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Forgiveness Final Paper
Forgiveness Final Paper
Jodie Jones
COMM 1080
12 November 2020
Forgiveness
Overview
someone, or something that has harmed you or hurt your feelings, regardless of
whether they actually deserve your forgiveness or not, to forgive does not mean to
behavior. In this paper I will define and discuss the theory and concepts that make
up forgiveness. Then, relate the theory to my life experiences and conclude with a
Theory/Concept
brings peace of mind letting go of those feelings of revenge and possible grudges
held, as well as letting go of deeply held negative feelings toward the recipient of
the forgiveness. Choosing to let go of your anger, hurt, and desire for vengeance as
well as letting go of the past enables you to grow with no hurt feelings. Letting go
of the pain and the resentment helps you find peace, and allows the emotional
burden to heal, as well as empowers you to let go of the past. Forgiveness can
reduce stress levels because you have let go of the burden. Forgiveness has an
empathy for other people and you will be a lot more positive minded. Move past
your feelings and learn forgiveness is not only appropriate but necessary in certain
situations. (Cahn, Abigail, 2014) explains, “Forgiveness occurs when a person lets
go of his or her feelings of revenge and need for retaliation and changes his or her
thoughts about the transgression and the transgressor. It starts with anger over a
transgression and moves toward transforming the meaning of the event or changing
the way we view the event in light of other events in our life.” (p.206.) It is
unforgiveness and that is a cognitive process where you don’t let go of the past and
to both mental and physical benefits. For example, research examining social
adjustment and the ability to forgive found a high correlation between the two: As
a person’s social adjustment score went up, so did the persons ability to forgive.”
(p.208)
Analysis
vacation to Hawaii with my friends and we had agreed to all initially pitch in on
the rental car because that is only fair and logical. We all needed a vehicle to get
around. At the end of our trip all said and done my card was the one charged. They
started making excuses for how they had already paid for the rental car and I
reassured them they needed to pay. This dragged on for months and I eventually
got one of them to Venmo me for their portion and they gave me less than that still,
but I learned to forgive them for it. I could have just stopped talking to them and
try to neglect or have a grudge, but money isn’t everything, so I chose to forgive
them instead and there are no hard feelings. “Psychologists generally define
vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether
Reflection
has to forgive nor apologize but must forgive for inner peace. We all make
mistakes, and nobody is perfect but being able to forgive is a powerful tool. “Both
forgiveness and revenge are social instincts that solved problems for ancestral
humans. Although both of these are fixed aspects of human nature, these capacities
can be altered which gives us hope that we can make the world a more forgiving
and less vengeful place.” (McCullough, 2008) You can thus engage in more
productive communication and improve relationships letting go of the past and not
holding grudges. You can resolve conflict more effectively being able to know
how to forgive someone because we all make mistakes and having to being able to
References
from https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/forgiveness/definition
doi:10.1037//0022-3514.84.2.377