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In the gospel Matthew 18:12, Jesus Christ preaches that we should forgive
people seventy times seven times. With this equation amounting to four hundred
ninety times, we can infer that by this statement that Jesus meant we should always,
in all circumstances, forgive those who have wronged us. Some may argue that some
sins are so evil and damaging to the integrity of humanity that they should never be
forgiven. Some sins of this magnitude include rape, murder, and genocide. My
personal belief matches that of Jesus Christ. I think that all sins can be forgiven, as
long as the person is truly sorry for the sin committed and vows to change his or her
character to never commit such a sin again. No one is perfect and everyone makes
mistakes, so why should we hold grudges against those who wrong us, if we too
have wronged others ourselves? I believe that anyone, no matter the severity of the
important in giving forgivingness, because if one forgives someone, but still holds
back on allowing oneself to trust that person, has one truly forgiven the person? If
there is still “residue” present, as in, hurt and negative feelings, as a result of the
wrong committed, then forgiveness cannot be granted at that time. “The Residue
Factor,” per se, I believe exists after each and every relationship break-up. Unless it
relationship usually have hurt each other in some way. Each person has his or her
fair share of wrongs committed toward the other person. While he or she may be
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sorry for these wrongs, it is usually best to give time and space before one asks for
forgiveness, due to this “residue factor.” If the issues are still fresh and the other
time has passed, that the history and events of the past are no longer hurtful, and
the person who has committed the wrongs has exhibited a change in character,
As a result of getting to the point where one can forgive, trust should be
regained as well. A true, sincere apology means that one is truly remorseful for a
wrong that he or she committed and includes a promise to not commit the same
sincerely sorry for his or her actions and also trusting that he or she will not do
them again. If this kind of trust cannot be given, there is still some doubt in one’s
mind that the person who wronged him or her may wrong him or her again in the
same manner. The residue factor comes into play here again, because if one cannot
give back the trust that was once present, one still has “residue” remaining that
example, forgiving, with the inclusion of regaining trust is the only way of getting
over a significant other or spouse’s infidelity. The best example that I know, of such
a case, is my aunt’s relationship with her husband. Several years ago, my aunt’s
husband had an affair that he had been able to keep secret. Only until he had a child,
as a result of that affair, did he have to confess to having the affair. I do not know for
sure if my aunt’s husband asked forgiveness at the time, but I would say it is likely
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that he did. In the case of someone finding out about evil, rather than being honest
believe that when one begs for forgiveness after an evil of his or hers has been
uncovered, this is not a true apology, but one trying to recover their good reputation
in the moment. Do I believe that my aunt’s husband, had he begged for forgiveness
after his cheating was uncovered, deserved forgiveness? Absolutely not. I am not
sure he would have confessed to cheating if my aunt did not find out in other ways.
If he were truly sorry and feeling guilty about it, he would have confessed it himself,
as difficult and hurtful as that may have been. In their relationship, the residue
factor was very much present at that time and for many years after that. My aunt
was suspicious of pretty much any time her husband was out of the house on his
own. For many years, she clearly still had doubts and hurt feelings that prevented
Today, however, I believe that my aunt has truly forgiven her husband and
regained trust in him. Ever since his affair, I hear stories from my family about how
hard he has worked to regain her trust, going out of his way to help her in daily life
and showing his love for her frequently. The best example I can see of my aunt’s
restored trust in her husband is that his daughter he had with his mistress now lives
with my aunt and her husband. At first, this disturbed my entire family. Many people
told my aunt that she should never even allow his daughter into their home, as she
is the living, breathing result of his infidelity. However, my aunt welcomed her
husband’s daughter, with open arms, once she was able to forgive and trust him
again. I can even see now that my aunt loves her husband’s daughter as if she were
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her own. For this, my aunt truly exhibits the “seventy times seven” teachings of
Christ.
The issue with the “seventy times seven” theory is that while Jesus, and all
individuals who act in a Christ-like way would forgive someone seventy times seven
times, not all individuals are Christ-like figures. My aunt is a Christ-like figure. I
would say that generally, I am a Christ-like figure too because I also believe that
Not everyone holds this belief. Jesus’ seventy times seven theory implies that he
would forgive anyone, no matter the wrongs committed, but that does not imply
that every person wronged would act as he did. Sure, by preaching that theory, he
wanted us to follow in His example, however, clearly not all people will. This past
summer, I briefly dated my best friend’s ex-boyfriend. This fling was very short
lived, because he and I caught on early to the evil already committed, as well as the
greater evil that could be committed if it continued. Though we stopped what was
developing, and though I did feel sincerely remorseful for my actions and apologized
to her, I still have not been fully forgiven. She and I are no longer best friends. Many
times, I have questioned her for being unable to forgive me for acknowledging that I
have made a mistake and am truly sorry for it. I am not perfect and neither is she.
However, in studying forgiveness, I realize now, that firstly, she may not believe in
the “seventy times seven” theory as passionately as I do. She may not think that all
people can deserve forgiveness. She may not even think I have earned forgiveness
yet. Sure, it has both frustrated and upset me that somehow my change in character
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has not merited forgiveness, but I have to remember the residue factor. The residue
still probably remains and all I can do is wait until she wipes it away.
forgiveness. Additionally, I believe that a change in character can only occur when
one admits to oneself that his or her actions were wrong and evil, just as a person
would admit this to someone he or she has wronged. Forgiving oneself means that
one vows to change after realizing one’s errors and not committing this wrong
again. In that sense, in my previous example, even though my friend has not
forgiven me, I take comfort in the fact that I have now forgiven myself. To be
completely truthful, when all of this started, I did not feel that I was committing
wrong or evil. My best friend’s ex-boyfriend was also one of my closest friends as
well. Developing a romantic interest in each other made both of us happy. Our intent
was not to purposely hurt anyone, so we did not see the wrong in that. Had I
apologized at this stage, I would not warrant forgiveness, as I had neither admitted
my wrongs to myself, nor to my friend. Soon enough, I started feeling guilty for
various reasons, like that dating her ex-boyfriend had the potential to destroy the
friendship we had built, that she would be hurt by anyone ruining her future
chances with him again, let alone her best friend, and that she would probably never
do such a thing to me. At this point, I had admitted my wrongs to myself and
recognized the evil I had committed. I believe that my change in character necessary
for forgiveness occurred when I decided I could not date her ex-boyfriend anymore
without feeling guilty about it and cut off anything else from developing with him.
As I said before, I think I am worthy of forgiveness on my end, but on her end, much
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“residue” still remains. I have to respect that and allow her to rid the residue at her
own pace.
Having all these solid beliefs about forgiveness, developed through my life
experiences, when I was asked if I could ever forgive someone who raped me, I
responded yes. I cannot say for certain if this is truly the outcome, because I have
thankfully never been raped, but I do have reasons I can predict that this would be
the outcome.
Rape is a different kind of evil, because one hundred percent of the time, it is
done with a malicious intent. There are plenty of ways to justify committing various
sins, all related to non-intentional cause of the resulting hurt of another person.
With rape, there is no justification. If one tries to have sex with someone else, and
happening, yet one proceeds anyway, there is absolutely no way that this action can
be deemed reasonable.
Though rape has no justifications, it still can be forgiven under Jesus Christ’s
seventy times seven theory. Although the average decent, moral person would never
even think of raping someone, Jesus’ theory underlies the belief that no one on this
earth is perfect and all people have the potential to make mistakes just as many
times as anyone else. While the magnitude of these potential mistakes varies greatly,
all people are capable of committing very serious, as well as less serious wrongs.
Therefore, under the seventy times seven theory, Jesus would believe that I should
forgive my rapist, because I have the capability of doing the same wrong onto
I do not believe that Jesus Christ’s seventy times seven theory alone warrants
forgiveness in the case of rape. I also believe that my theory of a change in character
must also apply. With a rapist, it is extremely difficult to make a sufficient change in
character. There is first the need to forgive oneself. If a rapist can acknowledge that
raping someone was evil and wrong, truly feels an immense amount of remorse for
this action, and has absolute certainty that he or she would never rape someone
again, under my theory, the rapist has sufficiently forgiven him or herself. As for
what kind of actions the person could do to show this change in character, I am
uncertain and think I would have to experience the event first hand to really know. I
imagine the actions may start with a well thought out letter or in person apology.
Perhaps the rapist may offer to indirectly aid the victim in the victim’s recovery
stage, like offering to pay for the counseling services the victim attends. Many more
sincere, truly remorseful actions would need to be taken, probably even extreme
measures like the rapist seeking therapy for his or her clearly deranged mental
state, or the rapist turning him or herself in to the police. Perhaps after enough
actions that show the rapist is truly a changed person who would never commit
imagine that for some rape victims, the residue factor never fades. However,
counselors often teach rape victims that the only way they can get over the incident
is if they learn to forgive the person who raped them. A rape victim able to forgive
his or her rapist would show that although the rapist damaged their integrity and
well-being, the victim succeeds as the stronger person in the end for seeing past the
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evil brought upon him or her. To forgive means to gain back the power taken away
from the victim in the vulnerable state during the rape. This regaining of a power
taken away can rid the residue, as any remaining residue means that the victim still
lets the rapist’s evil bother him or her and affect the way the victim lives in daily life.
Forgiving a rapist would basically be like telling the rapist that he or she hurt me
both physically and emotionally, but that the rapist would never be able to do such a
Therefore, even in the most evil of sins, such as rape, Jesus Christ’s seventy
times seven theory does indeed apply. While not all people who have sinned will
take the same amount of time to warrant forgiveness, all people have the potential
toward such a feeling of sincere remorse and a sincere change in character will take
longer, the more serious the sin, but ultimately, when these two things are proven,
no matter the magnitude of the sin, a person does deserve forgiveness. Once again,
the final step in truly forgiving a person is trusting the person again. If a rapist has
indeed showed tremendous amounts of remorse and the victim is certain that the
rapist would never act in such a manner again, trust can ultimately granted as well.
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Obedience to Authority
When we were kids, our parents taught us that we must obey what they tell
us, no questions asked, no exceptions. I believe that since learning and developing
this way is common to all humans, we have an innate duty to obey authority. When
we know of a person who is in a superior position to us, we obey them for fear of
it is easy to see how people could ultimately feel an obligation to obey authority
Growing up with the obligation of obeying our parents, as our first real
authority figures, has taught us that sometimes our own personal beliefs and
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opinions about a situation do not matter if those superior to us, like our parents, feel
otherwise. For most things in life, I can say that my parents have always guided me
in the right direction. For other things, I know that my way of thinking and dealing
with a situation differed from theirs, but I followed them any way. Sometimes, in
doing so, I would discover that my way would have actually been the better way to
handle it. There was a time when I was driving in the car with my mother, trying to
find a restaurant. I had an instinct that we had to take one road, while she had an
instinct to take another. Even after I had given her reasons why I believed my road
was correct, like that I had vaguely recalled taking that road before and ending up at
that restaurant, she adamantly insisted her route was correct. Because she is my
mother and I feared her possibly scrutinizing me if I were incorrect, I took her route.
In the end, my route was indeed correct and my mother apologized. Even with the
authority figure’s judgment even though we think we may have better judgment.
We have grown up to accept there are other authority figures we must follow
as well, besides our parents. For example, we obey the orders of police officers, no
matter the circumstances, for fear that not obeying them would get us ticketed,
determine whether or not a person has been drinking and driving. One would think
that with today’s technology and the accuracy of breathalyzers that it is easy for a
police officer to determine whether or not a person is under the influence. However,
police officers additionally make people perform physical tests of their sobriety that
supposedly one would not be able to complete when drunk. One of these tests is
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standing on one foot and holding the position for a few seconds. Is this really
necessary to perform such a test when we now have a gadget that can detect one’s
blood alcohol content from one’s breath? These tests are highly embarrassing and
could even yield inaccurate results, as I know for a fact that some people do not have
good balance even when sober and may fail at standing on one foot. However,
everyone follows a police officer when ordered to perform a test like this. Saying no
would make the officer suspicious and assume that one will not perform the test
room with another supposed participant who volunteered for the experiment. The
first participant was an actual subject who volunteered for the experiment by
however, was an actor working for the experimenters. Both participants had to
draw two slips of paper, one that read teacher and the other that read learner.
Unknown to the subject, both slips of paper read “teacher.” Therefore, whenever the
subject drew a slip, he or she had to be the teacher and the actor claimed that his or
her slip of paper read “learner.” The learner then moved into a different room and
was attached to a device that could administer electric shocks to them. In the
teacher’s room, the authority figure, the experimenter, stood and watched over the
teacher’s actions. The teacher supposedly controlled this device from another room
by a generator. The teacher would read word pairs to the learner and the learner
would lately have to recall which words were paired together. For each incorrect
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answer, the teacher pushed a button on the generator that gave the learner an
electric shock. The teacher was instructed to increase the voltage of each shock with
each subsequent incorrect answer. The learner would react to the shocks by
screaming, banging on the wall, and even shrieking that he had a heart condition. If
the teacher showed any sort of remorse or guilt and questioned whether or not he
or she should continue with the experiment, the experimenter made intimidating
statements designed for the teacher to feel obligated to continue, such as “You have
no other choice” and “The experiment requires that you go on” (Milgram 51). In
actuality, the learner was not getting shocked at all, but was being cued to react with
shrieks and screams when the teacher pressed a button on the generator. The test
was whether or not the teacher would continue forth with this experiment that was
clearly damaging both to the health and integrity of another human, for the mere
Shockingly enough, the results of the experiment showed that while several
teachers did muster the courage to express their guilt and morality issues to the
experimenter in persisting with the experiment, none insisted that the experiment
itself be terminated, as well as none physically left the room to check on the
This experiment reveals a horrific truth about human nature. People are
willing to continue forth with an action that conflicts with their own personal beliefs
and that they can acknowledge as evil if another person deemed superior to them
orders it. What consequences did the participants in the Milgram experiment really
have if they left the experiment? Ads for participating in the experiment stated each
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participant would receive four dollars per hour for their work (Milgram 15).
Perhaps if they left, the four dollars would not be returned to them. In the grand
scheme of things, does losing four dollars as a consequence exceed the greater
small amount to lose if terminating the experiment meant preventing one’s health
from danger.
was much higher. Adolf Hitler is perhaps the epitome of an authority figure whom
people felt obliged to obey. He was a captivating public speaker and gained more
and more support as he was able to convince people to adapt his views through his
dynamic and robust speeches. So many were enthralled by Hitler so much that they
would join the Nazis. Once one joined the Nazis, there was an unbelievable
obligation to remain with the Nazis. Though the Nazis’ duty to exterminate the Jews
and all others deemed inferior to them was unquestionably evil, they persisted
forth, for fear that if they disobeyed Hitler and his allies, Hitler would not hesitate to
have them or their family killed as well. It brings about speculation whether or not
the Holocaust would have risen to the magnitude that it did if any member of the
Nazi party were courageous enough to speak out against Hitler and put an end to
speak out against Hitler would lead others to do the same, eventually overthrowing
the Nazi party and terminating their mass killings. I firmly believe in the statement,
“If you lead, they will follow,” but the most difficult part is being that initial one who
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dares to be different and stray from his or her peers to do good to humanity,
even when the wishes of authority figures are unquestionably evil and damaging to
human health or integrity? The answer is that people fear the consequences and do
not have the courage to take the risk to speak against the authority. However, in the
end, the biggest risk is always the one not taken. To overcome the intimidation of an
authority figure, one must realize that although the one, as an individual, may face
criticism, ridicule, or even physical harm from an authority, continuing to obey the
Works Cited
Milgram, Stanley. Obedience to Authority. New York: Harper Perennial, 1974. Print.
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