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A Reflection on Dancing with Life by Phillip Moffitt
In his book Dancing with Life, author Phillip Moffitt asks the questions “Do you have a
conscious relationship with your suffering? Do you utilize it to enrich your life? Or is it merely
something you try to avoid?” These are broad questions that I think can tend to go unanswered
by the average American. With the constant push and pull of societal duties, it can become easy
to fall into the trap of never taking time to self-reflect and allow for deep insights. While I can’t
confirm my hypothesis without research, I think there is enough evidence that people don’t take
time to think critically and deeply in other examples (e.g. such as the amount of people who vote
on party lines without doing any research). In some ways, I have no doubt that this lack of self-
reflection is at least part of why mental illness seems to be becoming more prevalent, even
within the last ten years. In my humble opinion, in today’s society it is quite easy to get sucked
into the whirlpool of constant motion. If one does not occasionally force themselves to
momentarily take a step back from the whirlpool of constant motion and examine their life
decisions and emotions, they will drown. What are we as a society to become if day-by-day, we
merely follow the norms of society (go to school/work, return home, etc.) and never question the
beliefs that we hold, the emotions that we experience, our position in life, and other abstract
questions?
For Moffitt’s first question, yes, I am aware of my suffering, but I also recognize and
accept it as an element of life. Being able to identify the root cause of negative feelings in one’s
life is just as important as being able to live with them, accepting that they are part of life, and
also being able to identify the positive feelings in one’s life. Using Plato’s Allegory of the Cave,
prisoners in the cave cannot know what objects form the shadows on the wall if the shadows are
all that they see and everything else is darkness. How can one know pleasure without first
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knowing pain? How can one experience warmth without first feeling cold? How can one know
joy without first experiencing suffering? In order to enjoy life to its fullest, one must accept the
duality of reality. In a way there is some beauty in suffering. Suffering is suffering, but suffering
To know one’s suffering does not mean to succumb to one’s suffering. In fact, it is quite
the opposite. To know one’s suffering is to be freeing. We fear what we do not know, and by
knowing our suffering, we are no longer held down by the fear of it. We can begin to ask
we ask ourselves “Why am I unhappy?,” we might yield something along the lines of “I am
unhappy because I don’t have ____” or “I am unhappy because I wish I could ___.” The issue
becomes when we don’t follow up and then ask, “Why do I want ___?” This approach attempts
to alleviate suffering, but in all truth, it is just a palliative. Sure enough, mitigating one source of
suffering will just replace it with another source. After all, suffering is a fundamental part of
exist? It is cliché to say that in life there are choices. We can choose to remain bitter and
apathetic about our suffering. Or we can chose to not let it define our life. Meditation can teach
us to observe our suffering from a distant perspective and not react to it. It can teach us to be in
control. To be able to choose not to react is to exert control over one’s emotions; instead of
letting our emotions control us, we become aware. We can use suffering as a tool as well. It can
be used as a motivator tool to help us change ourselves. Suffering is just one part of life; it does
and around four or five brain leaks (small brain bleeds) throughout my childhood. So my early-
to-middle childhood required that I work to overcome the speech issues, gross motor skill issues,
and other developmental issues that resulted from the strokes. In addition, I have severe ADHD
and technically fall on the autism spectrum. Through resilience and access to early intervention
services, I managed to go from special education pre-school, to regular kindergarten (albeit with
several hours a week in the special ed room for OT and speech therapy), to ~5 AP classes senior
year of high school and a decent group of friends. It is also worth noting I had moved four times
by age 12 and had lost all four grandparents + grandaunts by age 18. By all accounts, I have
experienced more suffering than a lot of my peers. However, that does not make their suffering
any less invalid. It is pointless to qualify suffering. Suffering is suffering. I do feel, however, that
my experience has uniquely shaped my perspective on life. Overcoming autism required that I be
extremely introspective. Having this skill (and the ability to push away emotion on command
due to the ASD), I am able to think abstractly from multiple perspectives. All of this has caused
me to realize several truths about the world, and for this being the final assignment of the course,
Think not with your eyes, but with your mind. We often make assumptions to fill in the
gaps of what we do not know. However, to quote Plato, “true knowledge is knowing you know
nothing.” In this world, there is so much room for ignorance. People often quote the Christian
Bible and say that “the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil” (1 Timothy 6:10). Yet, from
my perspective, ignorance is the root of all evil. We fear what we do not know or understand.
With that fear, ignorance breeds hate, jealousy, contempt, and other forms of evil.
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It is not easy to do so, but I implore others to step back and imagine things from someone
else’s perspective. We get into this “us versus them” mindset when dealing with deeply
polarizing issues, but the result is that we forget that “they” too are human and fellow man. Close
your eyes and pretend you are one of “them.” Ask yourself “How would I react to me if I were
them?” Ask, don’t make assumptions. Ask them why they feel or think the way they do. Respect
that they can think or feel differently than you. Accept each other’s differences. Find common
ground. Coexist. We are all so different yet all the same. We all live and die on this shared planet
that we call home. We are all so scared. We are all fearless. We are all.