Ezengqondo

Ukuhlukumezeka… Igama isisindo salo esizwakala noma umi wedwa.

Incazelo yalo kwisayikholoji; impilo eshiya amamaki ajulile kumuntu. Abanye
basezingqondweni zethu njengezolo, umphumela usaqhubeka. Ezinye zazo
zifana nesilonda esingabonakali, esifihlekile ngaphakathi kithi, esijule
kakhulu… Ngakho-ke kuyini ukuhlukumezeka, zonke izinhlobo ezikhathele
impela, ezikhathazayo neziphindaphindayo, inaziphi izici nemiphumela?

Izici ezijwayelekile zokuhlukumezeka; Kunzima ukukhumbula futhi kwesinye

isikhathi kucindezelwe ngokungazi, kwesinye isikhathi noma kukhunjulwa,
izingxenye ezingekho zihlakazekile. Ngaphandle kokuba nezici ezifanayo
ezijwayelekile, ngifuna ukuhlola ukuhlukumezeka ngezindlela ezimbili
ezihlukile.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuhlala ngawodwana; Kunokuhlukumezeka okuthile

esikuthintayo emphakathini, njengengozi, ukugula okunzima, ukulila,
ukuhlukunyezwa ngokudlwengulwa noma imicimbi yezepolitiki, izinhlekelele
zemvelo. Ngokwesinye isandla; Okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu okungekuhle
empilweni esikwaziyo noma cha, okusithinta ngokujulile futhi okungaba
yimbangela yezinkinga esibhekene nazo njengamanje, nakho kuyizinkinga
kithi.

Kuma traumas ashiwo okokuqala (ingozi, ukulila, ukuhlukunyezwa, inhlekelele

yemvelo, njll.); abantu babhekana nokucindezeleka okukhulu nokucindezeleka
ngemuva komcimbi. Imizwelo enjengokuthukuthela, ukudabuka
nokukhathazeka ngokuthi kungenzeka kwenzeke futhi iyavela. Ukusabela
ngokomzimba esihlangana nakho; isiyezi, isicanucanu, ukushaya kwenhliziyo,
ukundindizela, njll. njengakuleso sibalo; izimpendulo zengqondo zibuyela
emuva, ukukhohlwa, ukunganaki, izinkinga zokulala; Ukusabela kokuziphatha
njengokuhoxa, ukugwema, ukwehla kwamakhono okuxazulula izinkinga,
kanye nokucasuka nakho kuyabonakala.

Ukuhlolwa kwenziwa ngokuya kwesikhathi nobukhulu benqubo etholakele.

Ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile, kuyabonakala ukuthi lokhu kusabela kwehla
futhi kuphele; Ngemuva kokuhlolwa okudingekayo, uma kungekho ukwehla
kwezimpendulo zokuxineka isikhathi esingaphezu kwenyanga eyodwa,
ukuxilongwa kwe- "post-traumatic stress disorder" kuyabhekwa bese
kwelashwa ngale ndlela.

Isifo sokucindezeleka kwangemva kwenhlekelele (PTSD)Kungaba namandla

ngokwanele ukwenza abantu bacabange ukuthi akukho okuzofana, kepha
ngosizo olufanele, izinga lokululama liphakeme impela.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma sibheka ukuhlukumezeka; Lokhu okuhlangenwe
nakho kwempilo okudlule okusinyikinya ngokujulile futhi kuthinte umzuzu
wethu wamanje, ubudlelwano, nokweneliseka kwempilo. Eqinisweni, uma
njengamanje sibhekene nezinkinga zengqondo, kungabangelwa
ukuhlukumezeka esakuthola esikhathini esedlule. Ngokufanayo, uma
sinezinkinga ebudlelwaneni bethu nabantu, uma sisesimweni sokukhathazeka
noma sokucindezeleka, singahlolwa yini endaweni esingayazi? Noma uma
sihlangabezana njalo nento efanayo futhi singakwazi ukuyixazulula ngendlela
efanayo, kungaba yisizathu? Kungenzeka yini ukuthi sithwale izinkolelo
esizidalile ngesipiliyoni esingesihle empilweni esikhathini esedlule kuze kube
manje? Kusukela ngalolo suku, yenaisipiliyoni esibuhlunguKuthiwani uma
isifundo esifunde kuso siphelelwe yisikhathi? Kungani sifaka izinsalela
zokuhlukumezeka kwengqondo ezimpilweni zethu yize singakudli ukudla
okuphelelwe yisikhathi? Ngicabanga ukuthi kufanele sikubuze lokhu…
Sinezinkinga eziningi. Umbono wethu uhlala usohlangothini olufanayo, iqiniso
lethu namaphethini wokucabanga ahlala ehlukile kithi. Yiqiniso, lezi zindlela
zokucabanga azenzeki, futhi azihlali zilungile ngaso sonke isikhathi. Yithi
nje"Sengathi liqiniso njalo"kungenzeka uyeza. Noma, impilo ayivezi ngengozi
uhlobo olufanayo lwezigameko ezizodala ukuthi siyikholelwe ngokungaboni le
micabango. Isizathu sokuthi sidale lezi zindlela zokucabanga kungenzeka futhi
sibe ngenxa yesipiliyoni esibuhlungu kakhulu.
Abaningi bethu abasazi lesi simo. Izinkinga esihlangabezana nazo zivame
ukufakwa kithi singahlosile. Singakhumbula impilo ngenkathi sisebenzisa
izifundo esizifunde kuye futhi esizisebenzisa ngokuphikelela nanamuhla, yize
ziphelelwe yisikhathi; Ngoba amaphutha ayenzeka emicabangweni
nasekuziphatheni kwethu, okususelwe kokuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu
esikushilo. Umuntu obe nokuhlangenwe nakho kokuphila okungekuhle
ebudlelwaneni bezontanga esikoleni samabanga aphansi kungenzeka ukuthi
wenze umbono onjengokuthi "abantu babi, akumele sibe qotho kubo". Ngabe
ubuhlobo angabakha buqine kangakanani ngenkathi okwamanje esebenzisa
lolu lwazi lapho exhumana nabantu? Noma ake sicabangele umuntu
owahlupheka ngokwezimali ebusheni bakhe. Mhlawumbe wayenenkinga
enkulu futhi wazizwa ebuthakathaka. Ukuphela kwensindiso yakhe
kwakuwukuceba, futhi wayengeke amise amanye amanani asele kule ndlela,
empeleni ayebaluleke kakhulu.

Sizama ukuqhubekela phambili ngazo zombili izinqubo zethu zangaphakathi

nezimo zemvelo. Kwesinye isikhathi sichayeka ezimweni esingazifuni, futhi
zingena kithi singanakile. Inkinga ukuthi yize umcimbi wedlulile, sihlala kuwo…
Izinkinga zengqondo; kungaba yindawo lapho konke kuqala khona futhi
ngasikhathi sinye konke kuphelela. Kumele simnakekele kahle ukuze sikwazi
ukuvala isilonda. Ngaphandle kwalokho, isilonda sethu sizopha kuphela.
Noma singasiboni leso silonda, noma singasinaki, sikhona ndawo kithi.
Ngaphandle kwalokho; Uma sihlangabezana nezinkinga ezingokwengqondo
nezenhlalo, kungenzeka ukuthi uzama ukuzikhumbuza ...

Ngifuna ukuphetha ngokungeza isicaphuno esivela kuWilliam Faulkner:

“Okwedlule akukaze kufe. Okwedlule akukona okwedlule ”.