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Philosophical Counseling: Understanding Self and Other Through Dialogue
Philosophical Counseling: Understanding Self and Other Through Dialogue
T
he philosophical counseling movement started during should be on life as lived rather
the early eighties in Europe and the US. It seemed to than on the self’s problems. More-
be a zeitgeist phenomenon: the time was ripe, and a over, to look at philosophical coun-
number of people around the world who had a strong interest seling as I do, from a dialogical per-
in philosophy ‘suddenly’ had the brain wave, why not apply spective, as understood by Martin
philosophy to everyday life? Some present-day philosophical Buber (in I and Thou, 1923, for
counselors recount how they wanted to study philosophy pre- instance) is to focus on the interac-
cisely for its merits with respect to everyday life, and how dis- tion between people rather than
appointed they were to find out that academic philosophy concentrating on what happens Martin Buber
seemed to have stripped philosophy of its application to lived solely within a person (psychologi- 1878-1965
reality. Academic philosophy seemed to be only that – acade- cally, emotionally or rationally).
mic. Where did the philosophy of Socrates go – the philoso- We think we live in the same world, but that’s hardly true.
phy of the market place? The idea behind the philosophical We live in a multiverse in which we are so different from one
counseling movement was to rescue philosophy from the ivory another that it often seems a miracle that we can understand
tower and let her live in the world of the everyday. each other at all. For Buber the only way to come to an under-
Philosophical counseling is somewhat more established in standing of the other is through dialogue, not through already-
Europe and Israel than in the US. Dr Gerd Achenbach in Ger- existing thought structures steeped in our experience. Buber
many is said to have started what has become the movement of refers to this as viewing someone as “content of my experience”
Philosophical Counseling. Shortly after, Adriaan Hoogendijk in instead of as “other”.
the Netherlands picked it up. Hoogendijk received a lot of pub- Hermeneutics, which is the art or science of interpretation,
licity across Europe. Achenbach’s idea came out of the ‘anti- developed quite separately and differently in Germany and the
psychiatry’ movement, whose core notion was that it is not Netherlands, the countries where philosophical counseling
enough to listen to people for the sole purpose of discovering originated. German hermeneutics originated in Lutheran the-
symptoms. This may be too narrow an approach by itself, and ology, which was focused on understanding fixed texts, essen-
fails to do justice to a person’s story. In contrast, philosophical tially Bible texts, through the experiencing subject. In Holland,
counselors are interested in people’s stories in order to get a however, a different kind of hermeneutics developed, out of the
better idea of the bigger picture. Perhaps the bigger picture Socratic tradition. Roughly speaking, one could postulate that
points to life dilemmas around values, loyalties, trust, etc and the German tradition led later to the concept that in order to
does not only indicate psychological traumas. gain a deeper understanding of the world we need to overcome
On a sliding scale of counseling professions, one may think the alienation caused by the limits of our contexts or ‘horizons’
of psychotherapy as dealing predominantly with a person’s psy- as so-called ‘fixed texts’. The Dutch tradition, on the other
chological and emotive make-up, R.E.T. (Rational Emotive hand, led to the concept of becoming familiar with a forever-
Therapy) as combining the rational and emotive aspects of a changing world. This approach implied that our contexts were
person, and philosophical counseling as focusing predominantly on not quite as fixed as the Germans imagined them to be; and
the rational by concentrating on people’s worldviews – their since horizons are perpetually changing, we need not make our
conceptual understanding of the world. Right now there are understanding of the world and others conditional on over-
probably as many interpretations of philosophical counseling as coming them. It is this second way of coming to understand,
there are philosophical counselors. Over the years, I have been which I have taken up in philosophical counseling, and for
developing my own theory of philosophical counseling. I per- which I have found a solid basis in Buber.
sonally do not understand philosophical counseling to be Buber’s notion of the other (person) is diametrically opposed
mainly focused on the rational. To me, it seems that life is to the postmodern notion of other. In postmodernism, ‘other-
inherently problematic, and cannot be reduced to a set of iso- ness’ refers to that which has been exiled and excluded from
lated problems (whether psychological, emotional, or rational) the I; it refers to that which is the denial of ‘I’. For Buber, the
which need to be solved and overcome in order to live life more ‘other’ simply refers to that which is ‘not-I’. The difference lies
successfully. I’m not ready to throw the baby out with the bath- in the fact that Buber’s notion of the ‘not-I’ (or ‘Thou’) is
water and discount everything other counseling professions rooted in trust, whereas the postmodern notion is rooted in dis-
have achieved in helping people and relieving their suffering; trust. With the widespread collapse of belief in modernity and
but life can never be problem-free, and was never meant to be. its grand narratives of progress, distrust prevailed, and the
Life is not meant to be solved; it is meant to be lived! Philosoph- notion of ‘otherness’ was contaminated by distrust. In contrast,
ical counseling, therefore, should approach a person’s life as a Buber’s notion of the dialogical implies acknowledging the
Case Study
Mrs S., a retired M.D. who specialized in asthma and who was very well respected in her field, came to visit my private practice in
Holland after she had attended one of my presentations on philosophical counseling, where she made an appointment to see me.
Before Mrs S. retired, her time was pretty much organized around her private life on the one hand and her professional role on the
other. She would wear her two hats alternatively, depending on whether she was in the office or at home. Yet, now that she was
retired, it was no longer clear to her when and how to wear her separate hats. Her life, which had seemed so well organized, was
suddenly in disarray, and she felt lost. She also mentioned that she was having the same dream repeatedly. In the dream there was a
closet which, once she opened it, she could no longer close, because it was such a mess and everything kept falling out.
We philosophized on the meaning this dream could have for her, playing around with a number of different interpretations, and we
concluded that her strictly scientific worldview had made it very difficult for her to deal with her present chaotic reality. She was used
to fixing things in other peoples’ lives, and was now left feeling quite powerless trying to fix things in her own life. This is what we
thought her dream seemed to imply.
After a few weeks she reported that she wasn't having the dream anymore. She was quite relieved, because the dream had made
her quite anxious.
At some point, Mrs S. told me about her sister's meaningless suicide, and how she could never forgive her sister for the grief this
had caused their parents. At this point I suddenly shifted from being understanding to almost accusing my client of not recognizing her
sister's pain and screams for help. My client was shocked. However, later she told me how grateful she was to me for "waking her up."
As I interpret these events from a dialogical perspective, I see I had succeeded in shaking some meaning into a world which had
appeared meaningless to her. She had glimpsed the otherness of the world of the ‘meaningless’ other – enough to know that it too
existed, and had a unique meaning of its own. Through "imagining the real" (Buber), I tried to imagine her sister's suicide. Through the
dialogical relationship I had with my client, I tried to convey to her the sister's position as I had "imagined" it. My client, who was able
to hear me, was now also able to hear her sister for the first time through me. She moved from being caught in an I-It understanding
of her sister's suicide, to one in which her sister had again become a Thou. The sister's scream was finally heard. As a result, the sui-
cide no longer appeared meaningless, for it had not been meaningless for her sister. Their realities were incompatible and incommu-
nicable, yet through entering into an I-Thou relation with her sister, my client was now also able to "imagine the real", and so "meet"
her sister for the first time.
Shortly after, we terminated the sessions. Maria DaVenza Tillmanns