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Effective Leadership

Leadership coaching frameworks to help you

become a more effective leader
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opportunity to build good physiques, to invigorate their
intelligence with knowledge, or to broaden their hearts with
love and compassion?”
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Task vs Relationship
Fear vs trust-based mindset
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Fear vs trust-based mindset
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Embrace the
shadow
"Knowing your own darkness is the best
method for dealing with the darkness's
of other people. One does not become
enlightened by imagining figures of
light, but by making the darkness
conscious.
The most terrifying thing is to accept
oneself completely. Your visions will
become clear only when you can look
into your own heart. Who looks outside,
dreams; who looks inside, awakens.”
~ Carl Jung
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Some fears/beliefs below the
surface
Passive defensive Constructive styles
n 3. Approval - fear of being rejected n 11. Achievement - belief that setting goals
motivates
n 4. Conventional - fear of standing out from
the crowd n 12. Self-actualising - Belief in realising our
potential
n 5. Dependent - fear of being shown as
incompetent or incapable n 1. Humanistic encouraging - belief that
believing in others makes them become that
n 6. Avoidance - belief that it won’t make a
difference (better to withdraw) n 2. Affiliative - belief that people matter
Aggressive defensive
n 7. Oppositional - fear of looking stupid or
being attacked (attack first)
n 8. Power - fear of losing control
n 9. Competitive - fear of losing or not being
number 1
n 10. Critical - fear of not adding value, not
being good enough What defensive behaviours/beliefs do you
recognise in the model in yourself?
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Attachment and fear

n Rága/blind attachment – getting attached and being unable

to let go or face feeling the loss (fear-based mindset –
anxious attachment)

n Dveśa/repulsion – avoiding an experience or attachment for

fear of being hurt or facing feeling the loss (fear-based
mindset – avoidant attachment)

n Vaeraga/non-attachment – allowing the

experience/attachment in but then also allowing for the
eventual feeling of loss with an ideation that everything is the
Supreme (the creative/trusting mindset – secure attachment)
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Our mental obstacles

n PÁSHAs. The eight fetters of mind: hatred, doubt, fear, shame,

censure, bondage of lineage, vanity of culture, false sense of
prestige.

n RIPUs. The six inner enemies: passion, anger, avarice, pride,

envy, enchantment with material objects.

n “…the Ripus have got to be controlled and the Pashas must be

resisted” - Anandamurtii
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Overcoming fear

n “To successfully combat the fear instinct, one has to march with
rapid steps towards the source of fear and, if necessary, with the
requisite physical and psychic weapons. If one hides inside behind
locked doors, then the fear will become so entrenched in your
mind that you will not be able to get it out of your mind. … The
way to get rid of the Pashas is to expand the mind – to elevate
human potentialities.” - Anandamurtii

n We overcome fear with the feeling of loving protection and

boundaries.
n Heal our fear of loss, abandonment, rejection, alienation etc by
giving self love and healing messages to those parts

n Learning emotional hygiene practices that help us to feel our

feelings in a way that brings psychological safety to our lives
and leadership style
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Self reflection and group sharing
Pick a passive or aggressive
behaviour that some people in your n 3. Approval - fear of being rejected
group recognize in themselves.
Brainstorm some ways to overcome
the fears/beliefs under those
behaviours e.g.:
n How to apply loving protection?
n How to confront the fear?
n Healing messages?
n Use of mantra?
Passive defensive
n 4. Conventional - fear of standing out from
the crowd
n 5. Dependent - fear of being shown as
incompetent or incapable
n 6. Avoidance - belief that it won’t make a
difference (better to withdraw)
Aggressive defensive
n 7. Oppositional - fear of looking stupid or
being attacked (attack first)
n 8. Power - fear of losing control
n 9. Competitive - fear of losing or not being
number 1
n 10. Critical - fear of not adding value, not
being good enough