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On a level of beliefs, a person could believe that when people shout, that
is a form of an attack and hence a protection is needed.
On a level of yearnings, a person may long for being seen and accepted.
Coach: So you feel sad about feeling angry. What makes you feel
angry?
Coach: So you want other people to be fair to you. And you want to be
treated fairly. What is a deeper longing behind that you think?
Coachee: (Pause) I think there is a longing for harmony and justice. It’s
been an important part of my life.
Coach: What is the best belief that can help meet the need for harmony
and justice?
People know themselves if they are not fair. Giving them information and
sharing alternative perspectives, and giving them space to make their
own decisions.
Coachee: Great. I think I got it. I used to make it personal but I don’t
need to. I can just share the same information and without blaming
others, or feeling bad. I can still keep harmony and justice. Thank you.
References
Satir, Virginia, et. al., The Satir Model: Family Therapy and Beyond,
ISBN 0831400781, Science and Behavior Books, 1991.