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BY RICHARD B. AJAYI.ksj.
(+2348034707364)
richieajai2002@yahoo.com
Be careful how you live; you will be the only Bible some people ever read. ~William J.
Toms
Do you know you are a rare Gift from God? All the components of your body are free
gifts from Him who created you in His own image. He wants us, you and me and
everybody, to use them for His Glory, to praise Him and appreciate but not to lead others
to Hell fire or scandalize. If not for His love for you, He would have opted for you being
created an animal. Or, with your life and the way you live it, my friend, is it true that God
is regretting creating human Being, even in His own image? If He likes, He withdraws
you His gift from existence. If He likes what you think you flaunt or misuse, He can
withdraw them from you. Masturbation is a sin. It is disrespectful to God who out of His
magnanimity created us in His image! Nudity, pornography, bisexuality, lesbianism and
gayism, all are sins for God sake because “A man will leave his father and mother and be
united to his wife, and they will become one flesh”. (Genesis 2:24) , so asserts the Bible.
Unfortunately, anomaly has crept into marriage ordained by God Himself . The sacredness of
Marriage is, out of man’s excesses and misuse of divine liberty, profaned. Hence, the deviation from
the divine injunction and the thrift of lesbianism, gayism and bisexualism which are at opposing poles
apart with hetero-sexualism”.(Couple of Virtue: Solutions to Marital Problems)
Distraction causing through your body is a sin as well. Whereas our bodies remain ever,
the Temple of God. I love you but God loves us more than anyone. He does not want us
to end up in Hell fire. He does not want you to give Satan His glory. All my being, the
components of my body belong to God who wants me to use them to profit others and
appreciate Him. Life is entrusted to man as a treasure which must not be squandered, as
a talent which must be used well. (Blessed John Paul II).
"You carry your snare everywhere and spread your nets in all places. You allege that
you never invited others to sin. You did not, indeed, by your words, but you have done
so by your dress and your deportment, and much more effectively than you could by
your voice. When you have made another sin in his heart, how can you be innocent? Tell
me, whom does this world condemn? Whom do judges in court punish? Those who
drink poison or those who prepare it and administer the fatal potion? You have prepared
the abominable cup, you have given the death-dealing drink, and you are more criminal
than are those who poison the body; you murder not the body, but the soul. And it is not
to enemies that you do this, nor are you urged on by any imaginary necessity,
nor provoked by injury, but out of foolish vanity and pride." (Saint John Chrysostom).
It is never too late for you to change for better. May God help your thoughts on this
Message and may you be blessed in abundance. Sorry if you think I am infringing on
your Rights, though nobody has any Rights before God. Through His benevolence, we
are just privileged. Let us CHANGE for better. Shalom!
Examination of Conscience: Do I realize God created me because of the love He had for
me? Have I been boastful of my handsomeness, beauty and talents as if they all belong
to me? Do I use all, in praising Him, who has created us to worship Him, to serve Him
and to adore Him? How reasonable will I be when I engage in pornography,
masturbation, homosexuality, lesbianism, bisexuality, nudity and seductive acts that
could draw others to sin and get them scandalized?
Resolution: I realize that leading people to sinful acts is sin against God himself, I need
to change and straighten my relationship with Him who has endowed me with Life. I
must be good exemplary rather than a bad tool of scandal. I must be sincere to myself,
to my neighbours and to God especially when alone and when being tempted to indulge
in acts that could be disrespectful and ungrateful to God.
Offering: God our Father, bless my eyes and prevent them from looking at those things
that could draw me to sins. Bless my tongues to bless rather than curse. Bless my ears
to hear good tidings that will draw me closer to you and win Heavenly Kingdom for me
rather than hearing dirty, vulgar words. Bless my thoughts to be familiar to you rather
than thinking of devious manipulations that could draw one to perpetual damnation. I
ask all these in the unfailing name of Jesus. Amen.
richieajai2002@yahoo.com
Human life is valuable and therefore sacred. No human has ever formed or created any human
being in another human being. God has never delegated this to any person born by a human
being. He preoccupies Himself solely with the work of creation. He knows why you and I should
come to this world. Our coming to the world is therefore attached with a purpose for individuals.
He knows when to fulfill His creation in any Human Being. Joachim and Anna, the parents of
Mary, the Blessed Virgin and Mother of Jesus stayed for twenty years before Mary was conceived.
Sarah was barren till her 80th year of existence and eventually, she conceived Isaac at the appointed
time. Rachel, also mentioned in the Scripture had long barrenness before Joseph was born. Mothers of
both Samson and Samuel were also barren and God eventually heard their cries with the gifts of the
fruits of the womb.
They waited on the Lord and when God answered them, they did not terminate the lives of their
respective children during conception in form of abortion. The children, Jesus born by Mary, Isaac,
Samson and Samuel later became great in human existence. Pertinent is the fact that there is still that
belief that conceptions very late in life, and births in the case of women that have been barren are usually
attended with something wonderful.
Not far distance was the story of a couple in Poland. The wife of this man got pregnant and eventually
the woman became very sick. She was sick to the extent that when she was rushed to the hospital, the
Doctor told her she did not have the strength to carry the pregnancy and therefore, an abortion would
have to be carried out on her. But the couple refused that they should do away with the pregnancy for the
survival of the wife. They eventually left the hospital with faith that God would intervene. In sickness,
she eventually delivered the baby safely and she afterall got healed as well. They nurtured the baby, sent
him to school and made him a man through their faith in, and cooperation with God. This baby who was
to be aborted then, later became the revered Pope John Paul II, who is now in the course of being made
a Saint after he died in April 2005!
Abortion is rampant today and any reasonable Being will normally frown at it. The Catholic Church
opposes abortion because she believes that life is sacred and inviolable. The Orthodox Churches forbid
abortion as going against the commandment 'Thou shall not kill'. The Russian Orthodox Church
condemned abortion in its document The Church and the Nation published in 2000. Many Protestant
and Evangelical Christians are against abortion. Even Islam acknowledges that life begins at conception
and is created by God. The unborn child has certain rights such as the right to care, protection and life.
Abortion on any grounds is forbidden in the Islamic holy book Al'Quran. "Do not kill or take a human
life which God has declared to be sacred." (Chapter 6,verse 151). The Torah or Jewish law forbids the
taking of innocent life and teaches that human beings are made in the image of God. Maimonides, a
twelfth century interpreter of Jewish law declared: "A descendent of Noah who kills any human being,
even a foetus in its mother's womb, is to be put to death."
Describing the development of an unborn baby, Psalm 139 says: "For you created my inmost being,
you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully
made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I
was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my
unformed body." According to one of the earliest Christian writings, the Didache or the Teaching of the
Twelve Apostles "You shall not kill the child in the womb or murder a new-born infant."
There is life in Foetus. Foetus is not an animal but a young human being coming to life through
growth in his or her mother. In the Luke's Gospel, Jesus and John the Baptist greeted one
another while they were still in the wombs of their mothers, Mary and Elizabeth. Luke Chapter 1
Verse 41 says: "It happened, when Elizabeth heard Mary's greeting, the baby leaped in
her womb, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit." Do you still think the so called
Foetus is irrelevant even with this Biblical record?
AN SMS FROM AN UNBORN BABY TO THE MOTHER.
Hi Mum, how are you? I am doing fine here . How is Dad? Love to you all. Thanks.
Only a few days have gone by since I was conceived. Thanks to you Mummy and Daddy
for cooperating with God, and I am now growing well in you.
Wow Mummy, I do not know how to express my happiness to know that you are my
Mum.
It makes me happier Mum, to know that I was conceived out of love between you and
Dad.
I am sure you will give me this love and I am going to be the happiest baby alive.
(AFTER 1 MONTH) Mum, a month has just gone past and I have started to notice how
my body is forming. I know I am not much to look at now but just wait and see I’ll make
you so proud! Hope you are really preparing for my arrival? I love to open my eyes and
see you and Daddy one day. I am just feeling happy. But I sense something is wrong the
way you are so dull. Be happy Mum…
You seem to be having strange thoughts that leave you restless and worried, but I am sure
everything is going to be okay! Don’t despair.
(AFTER 2 ½ MONTHS)(Happy) Two and a half months have gone by Mum, I now have
hands that I can use to play with. Oh, I am so happy Mum.
Haha Mum! Please tell me what is wrong. Why are you crying all through and so much
lately?
I noticed you and Dad had misunderstanding. Why are you and Dad arguing every time
you meet up with one another? Iron things out with Dad, Mum and show me love.
Don’t you people want me any more? I’m going to do everything I can to make you want
me and to make you proud when I arrive.
(AT THREE MONTHS) Three months have now passed Mum. You still seem to be so
distressed. What is the matter? Put it before God Mum. I am not sure what is going on . I
am so confused and you refuse to open up to me Mum.
Today, I noticed that we went to see a Doctor and he booked an appointment for you
tomorrow. Are you sick?
I do not know why I am feeling so good and elated and you aren’t Mum!
(Following day) Where are we going Mum? What is happening? Tell me now.
Mummy, this is not the time you normally have your Siesta to take afternoon nap, do not
lie down on your back. But even, I did not complain to you I am tired. I want to play with
you.
Uh!!! This is an uninvited visitor.( Scissors and Forceps, one at a time) This is strange to
me. What is this thing doing in my house?
Mummy is this a toy you bought for me?
Hey, it is tearing my house Mum…
(Crying) Mummy! Mummy!! Mummy!!! Won’t you answer me? Don’t you love me
again? Stop these intruders. Stop them, they are injuring me. That is my hand.
Please, stop hitting me, you are hurting me. What is my sin? You asked for me. See me
bleeding. Mum, help. Call Daddy to help.
Defend me Mum, call Daddy to assist you to defend me. Heeeeelp!
Can you not see me, I’m still small. I can not defend myself. What have I done to deserve
this? Please protect me.
Mum, my leg, they are cutting it off. What will I use to walk when I come?
Tell them to stop. I promise I’ll stop kicking them if they do.
How is it possible a human being can be doing this to me?
Oh, Mummy, I am weak. I can not go on any more. Heeeelp me.
(Looking up to Heaven) Oh God, I am coming back to you. Into Thy hands O Lord I commend
my Spirit. (And Junior, agonizing, gave up the ghost)
17 YEARS AFTER
Your Baby.
Brethren, help save Lives. Preach against abortion. Say YES to LIFE
NO to ABORTION.
May God Bless Us all.
ABORTION
Date: Year of the Lord
Dear Mum,
A LETTER FROM AN ABORTED CHILD
Calvary Greetings. I have decided to talk to you, to let you know my feelings
through this medium. I want to know why you did it. My story is short. I have
stayed inside you for only three months. While I was in you as God placed me
there, I was very comfortable and warm. I felt really protected, thinking you
would cooperate with God in His creation. I know you are a special person
because I ate the food you ate. I shared your blood and I was divinely
connected to you before the violent separation.
Mummy, I longed for the day I would see your face. Nine months was a long
time to wait, but I
was determined to wait and I remained gentle and persevering. I had to be
patient. One day I heard you converse with a man about me, and at some stage
you quarreled. The man then offered you some money to get rid of me. You
thought I did not see you but my Guardian Angel, who God assigned to me
showed me and related everything to me through divine connection. I was
happy and I prayed that this meant that I would at least see you, the only
person that I knew in the world. Alas! I was wrong.
Though you kept me in suspense that I had almost forgotten the issues until I
felt something sharp pierced my tiny ear. I jerked silently and in pain, and
asked you to protect me. Seconds later the object came, fiercer than before.
“Oh! My God! ”, I said painfully. My tiny being was cut off, starting from the
ears, then arms and legs. It was an agonizing experience, my head was then
cut off and I died.
It took me a whole hour to die, a whole hour for an innocent three months
Human Being to be dastardly murdered. I remember the whole incidence
vividly and I keep asking myself even till now what I did to deserve that cruel
death? Why me, an unblemished Innocent ? Why did you do it to me? And
why was I not given a chance to live?
I know you are having a lot of nightmares. You remain guilty for the beastly
act. Though I have forgiven you, please you have to explain to your God why
you committed the heinous act. I knew you could not create, still, with your
accomplice, you cut my life short and prevented me from coming into the
world. Were you to have been treated that manner, you would not have come
to the world as well. But with this sin, you have murdered sleep as this act
would hunt you for life.
Personally I have forgiven you though physically, I never lived to see your
face. My
journey back to my creator was safe and I arrived safely, reporting that I was
not welcome by you . However, I was given a red carpet welcome by an
Angel. I am infact, without bitterness.
I still love you mum and I keep praying for you for a change of heart for you
to see Beings like me as divine Gifts from God to those He loves.
But the question is: Do you support Abortion???
Thanks Mama
Your child,
INNOCENT.
EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION: A TOOL FOR
FAMILY STABILITY
By Richard B. Ajayi
INTRODUCTION
Anyone who picks coins on the street is on his way to becoming a millionaire.
Poverty is not a cloth that should be put on everyday of one’s life. To break
the jinx of poverty in life therefore, you must have dreams, vision, passion and
embark on actions to get the toga of penury off you. Doing a self-analysis, ask
yourself where you are now, where you will be tomorrow, in a year’s time, and
in ten years time. This is life projection. Plan it well and be organized . You
must make comparison of yourself with that person of your age or those of
your age outside Nigeria. Do you contribute to the economy of the country
positively? If you are 18 years of age and you are still dependent on
somebody, then you are not just a loafer and parasite, but a thief.
Gone was the Nigeria of yesterday when jobs were waiting for people ever
before finishing from school. Pitiable is Nigeria of today where
unemployment grows geometrically. This has made many to start adjusting
their ages, going to change affidavit after affidavit. Many have died of hunger
and many are co-habiting with malnutrition, ill-health, suffering, frustration,
crime and eventual untimely death. The Nigeria of the future which many
thought would be handled by the youth of today now faces a gloomy state.
Now is the time for you to start the race. Now is the time to charge the
optimism and positivism in you. Now is the time to think of what kind of life
you want to live. Now is it, when to determine what you want to do to own
what you want. Now is it to prepare your future and that of your children. Or
you want them to live their lives without you mentoring them and teaching
them how to fish? Blaze the trail now, seize the Bull by the horn, crush the
hard nuts and let water flow from the hill top, all through your efforts.
Each one of us has the tendency of becoming great. Our greatness eventually,
if done the proper way, would make us do great things. There are potentials in
every human being except that some have been passive to discovering
themselves and the hidden potentials that could make them great. Never
embark on anything without necessary investigation if you must succeed. The
environment where you want to operate your business is a determinant factor
that could either mar or make your business. What business do you think
would thrive well in the environment you find yourself? You have ideas. Your
ideas could be meaningful if they are well managed and married to a viable
environment. You know your ideas at times could be a bunch of wishful
thinking if not properly processed? An idea conceived unprocessed is worth a
dollar. This idea you have, could turn you around and make you wealthy if
well processed. It is then your idea is worth billions of Dollars. An impression
without expression leads to depression. You must be active with your ideas or
else, when you allow procrastination to set in, somebody else grabs this idea
and processes it to his own gains.
The cemetery remains a place full of richness. This is a place rich of potentials
and ideas. Some of them there would have been sources of inspiration to some
people but for the fact that they were so miserly and myopic with what life had
for them, they died with their ideas. Many talents are there buried in the sand.
Must you be like some of these? My friend wake up from slumber!
To help you make meaningful things out of life and succeed, you need people
to put you through. People could help you discover yourself and the potentials
in you. They are the necessary push that will move you to your greatness.
They are there for you to invest resources on you even at the expense of their
time to promote the discovery of those potentials in you.
Look at yourself as you sit there and ask “who am I?”. Oh! Do you find your
identity in others? Then, your self-esteem and sense of worth will be
dependent on their choices and leadings. But you must be yourself, original as
you are, then act like it.
You have a choice to make today. To move forward or to stay in a place and
wriggle on unemployment, poverty, distress, nagging, pettiness and all in the
family of backwardness? Your choices are based on your identity. Every
choice you make is a determinant of who you are. The identity you construct
yields decisions, attitudes, and actions that are puzzle pieces of your life. This
speaks volume about you to people. Your picture reveals more about you. You
must be proactive in life, or else others will take you along for the ride. Your
life will revolve round the people. Every decision you make contributes a
piece to the art of your existence. Your attitude to life matters to taking rightful
decision. You must therefore be positive. Value-related concepts are germane
to make good decisions.
Are you satisfied with your present position? Wow! If Bill Gate was satisfied
with his earnings, there would not have been need for him to introduce Office
2007 and Windows 2007. If the world’s presidents were satisfied with
reaching the topmost position in government, I wonder the reason for the
clamour for the second or third term. Never be satisfied with this your
financial position especially now at the prime of your age when the agility is
unquestionable. Never allow it to set limit to your dream and vision of
growing in life. You must have a dream. You must work towards making it a
reality to your gains. A dreamless person will forever remain visionless. Such
person does not make any meaningful impact in life. Be a winner rather than a
loser and let the insatiable spirit in you propel you to wanting more success,
but you must wake up from slumber and work harder. A winner will always do
what a loser did ordinarily in an extra ordinary manner. That makes a
difference in-between the two. Opt out of the cobweb of mediocrity where
other parochial mediocre see as conducive milieu to thrive.
Never be a failure. Be positive and start something from somewhere. It is the
failure who criticizes success. There are Treasures in you untapped. All you
need is courage with dynamism in the face of available freedom. This is the
secret of success. You are sitting and walking on raw gold that is not mined.
For you to move, you must start from somewhere. Or, how can you walk if
you do not crawl? How can you crawl if you do not trust your knee? Let your
will be positive breakthrough even if you fall once, twice or thrice. Never be
downcast. Abraham Lincoln, who later became a prominent President in
America contested elections many times and failed. Though undaunted all the
time, he eventually won and performed brilliantly as an Assemblyman and
later as aPresident in America. You can therefore still excel.
Oh! You want to be pitied because of your condition, because of some failures
and disappointments in life? When you allow tears to run down your cheeks,
you will be blindfolded to see new doors of opportunities opening. Humans
are no puppets of fate. Your destiny is in your hands. You can control it. Never
allow it to control you. The time is now for you to rise up and begin the race.
Never grumble about your conditions, about people you think have treated you
badly or those who have disappointed you. Never gamble with your life.
Discover yourself now and the flying opportunities around before it will be
too late. It is the loafers that procrastinate and dine with retardation. It is what
one sows that one reaps. Your own efforts to squeeze water out of rock would
be original and worthwhile.
Successful people like Thomas A. Edison, Aristotle Onassis, John D.
Rockefeller, J. Paul Getty, M.K.O.Abiola, Mike Adenuga, AlikoDangote
became what they are today because of their determination to succeed and
doing ordinary things in extra-ordinary manner. These are successful people.
There are windows of opportunities to peep through in order to make
something meaningful out of life. Never build your castle in the air, or else,
through your myopic nature and your parochial view, you could be living in
the world of utopia. Should you be miserly with the potentials in you, you
could be debarring the windows of opportunities to open widely, not against
somebody alone but even against yourself. The road to prosperity
consequently becomes thin.
TRAITS OF SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE
Never crucify yourself but forgive in order to start a new life as a potential
successful person. Successful people always
Enjoy their work
Have high self-esteem and positive attitude
Are persistent and consistent
Have integrity and help others to succeed
Use their weaknesses and negative experiences to discover their
strength
Take risk
Surround themselves with competent, responsible, meticulous and
supportive people
Possess developed and sound communication and problem-solving
skills
Are healthy and possess high energy
Hold appointment jealously
Have sense of purpose and a desire to contribute to the society
Recognize God as the Ultimate whose hand is needed for grand
success of the programme.
Are innovative and encourage ingenuity.
Motivate subordinates and others to attain success.
Blessed John Paul II says: “I cannot fail to note once again that the poor
constitute the modern challenge, especially for the well-off of our planet,
where millions of people live in inhuman conditions and many are
literally dying of hunger. It is not possible to announce God the Father to
these brothers and sisters without taking on the responsibility of building
a more just society in the name of Christ.”
So, your future starts from today. If you must therefore succeed and win
the race, the time to rise up is now. And Blessed John Paul II still beckons
to you “Dear young people of every language and culture, a high and
exhilarating task awaits you: that of becoming men and women capable
of solidarity, peace and love of life, with respect for everyone. Become
craftsmen of a new humanity, where brothers and sisters — members all
of the same family — are able at last to live in peace.”
Gentlemen and ladies, rise up, begin the journey with the opportunities you
have today, discontinue with life distractions, jettison the unnecessary and
unprofitable attractions of this time, be focused and today will be a turning
point in your life!
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But one’s quick change from this unusual behavior is a matter of choice. One chooses what
one wants to be. Irrespective of a class or social circle or the social status one belongs or has
attained, the reciprocity nature of respect, compels it on one to be kind, moreso, that manners
are kindness. A person without manner is a shame not only to the parents and the family he or
she comes from, but to all categories of societies he or she affiliates himself or herself with.
Lacking manners could be rudeness in a situation where the person concerned remained
inconsiderate to the feelings of others when exhibiting the negative behavioral trait in whichever
form.
However, talking about etiquette is talking about orderly way of doing things. In etiquette, there
are a set of rules to be followed to sanitize the society. It is not Law but a code of conduct to
help straightened behavior in a place. Whereas, manners are a result of graciousness and kind
heart. Rules of etiquette are always unwritten, save for the aspects of etiquette that are usually
codified. These rules are spread over to most aspects of social interaction in any milieu.
GREETING MANNERS
Either you are meeting a new face for the first time or an old customer, friend or stranger, your
face should be charming and welcoming, rather than wearing a muscled morose visage. Firstly,
know that SMILE opens doors of opportunities while sour facial outlook sends people away
sequel to the un-welcoming nature it has. Employ the tool of smile to welcome people. It
demonstrates how kind and helpful you could be to people.
Welcome that person with respect. For instance, as you smile, greet politely, ‘Good morning
Sir/Ma. How is the family?’ . ‘May I help you Sir/Ma?’. If he or she starts introducing himself or
herself, politely REPEAT THE NAMES AND TRY TO GET THEM AT ONCE. When you repeat
the names with courtesy, he or she feels at home and welcomed. Answer the questions posed
with positivity, finding solution to knotty ones even through superior. RESPECT BOUNDARIES
IF THAT IS THE FIRST MEETING or if what you may mention at the course of interaction could
be what that person might not like. Injuring feelings is not a good manner. At the end, do not
forget to say NICE TO MEET YOU or LOVELY MEETING YOU SIR/MA.
It is still part of manners to go extra mile in finding solution to the nagging issues that could give
your visitor or customer challenges. It is kindness that will be appreciated. That appreciation
from him or her as well is still part of manners.
DINING TABLE COMMON ERRORS
Many people have fallen prey to committing some avoidable Dining Table errors. This is
dangerous while in a social circle or gathering. It could be embarrassing even to those at the
table. For the avoidance of doubt, all the underlisted are those errors which individuals might
have committed while at the table.
APPEARANCE- It is expected of one to sit straight and keep the elbows off the
table. Let the hands then rest on the lap, in case of any confusion.
CUTLERY- there is a way of handling the fork and knife while wanting to eat at the
table. The fork should always be held by the left hand appropriately and the knife
held not like a dagger with the right hand. The cutlery should not be waved in the
air while demonstrating or making a point. Never put silverware partly on the table
and partly on the plate. Once you are set to eat and you pick up any of the cutlery,
never should any of them be allowed to touch the table again. Knife would be
placed on the plate and the blade facing in and touching the inside of the plate.
Only the handle should rest on the rim of the plate.
NAPKINS- they are not handkerchief used to rub face. So, do not use napkin to
rub the lower half of the face. Never flap it to get unfolded and never should it be
turned to flag that is waved in the air. It has to rest unfolded on the lap. If by
chance, it requires that one leaves the table, the napkin is placed on the chair,
and the chair pushed back under the table. This should be done gently without
creating any scene. Never refold the napkin after use to forestall it being given the
way it is to another user without washing. Remove the napkin from the centre and
place it loosely on the left of the plate on the table.
SPEED- Never rush meals. Take it easy and eat with same pace like others.
There is no competition. It could be embarrassing when your pace is faster. One
should have same number of courses with others at the table, starting and
finishing each course at about the same time. Never should you rush any of the
foods in order to eat more than others.
CHEWING- Chewing has to be done diligently with mouth closed and without
unnecessary sound from the mouth and without letting any part fall from the
mouth. Take the size the mouth can contain at a time. No matter the urgency of
what you want to say or the banters you want to throw, never do so while eating
food in your mouth. Do not gulp and do not blurt.
PICKING TEETH – In case you have any food, meat or anything trapped in your
mouth, never attempt to remove it while at the table. You may rather get yourself
excused and go to the restroom where you have the whole room to remove
whatever log or animal you have in between the teeth.
LIPSTICK ETIQUETTE- It is bad to leave lipstick traces on the stemware and
flatware while at the table with other partners. In a situation where you have
lipstick on , get blotting tissue or excuse yourself to the restroom and find solution
to it not to embarrass others.
BREAKING BREAD- In a situation where there are bread and butter, cut bread
into bite-size pieces and spread butter on each piece before eating it. Never apply
butter to the whole slice of bread to get it ready for occasional bites during the
course of the meal.
PURSES AND BRIEF CASES- Anything that is not part of the meal like keys, hat,
eyeglasses, books, gloves, eye glass case, newspapers and so on, should never
be put on the dining table during the course of the meal.
SMOKING- Always remember that you are not alone at the table and therefore, a
behaviour of yours could be embarrassing to others. So, even if you are sitting in
the smoking section of the restaurant or even at the table at home with others, it
becomes an aberration to light up between courses. This affects others’ taste
buds. Wait till after the meal and perhaps excuse yourself elsewhere. Never
should the plate be turned into and ashtray.
I AM ANGRY
By Richard B. Ajayi (+2348034707364)
richieajai2002@yahoo.com
01/10/2016
Road to success could be thorny and shaggy. It could be undulating and corrugated. It could be
rough and even slippery at times. This tells us that life’s journey is full of pot-holes that calls for
dexterity to tread. They are checks and balances. They are the natural control put in place in
spite of artificial ones that could act as spanners in the wheel of progress, put in there by man
himself. Though they are to curb the excesses of man, they could be catalysts to man’s
determination to achieve greatness irrespective of the nature of the man-made cog.
The road has to be rough really if value will be added to life. Life’s journey could be tortuous, it
is rewarding if approached with caution and prayer. Experiences on daily basis will never be
same. A life devoid of experience remains a wasteful life. The experience therefore should be a
launching pad to achieving greatness in the life of man. Endurance, perseverance, thick skin,
all are needed to weather the storm of life and get to the Eldorado, the land of abundant joy.
Never be daunted because of a spanner in the wheel of your journey in life. Do you see a
fellow as a stumbling block on your way and therefore you want to be pitied? Have you been
denied of your rightful position and you want to start wriggling in that position? Oh! You want to
fan the ember of sympathy because you are not moving? Joggling on your seat is never the
answer, neither is stepping aside without way forward is the solution but moving forward to
achieve your agreement to make it in life which you had with your Creator. The fear of the
unknown will kill the talents in you. The phobia for the future will guillotine those treasures you
have in you. You must therefore take the bull by the horn, bell the cat if others refuse to, but
without leaping into a dungeon. In doing this, there could be pitfalls, but never be downcast. If
Abraham Lincoln were to be you, he would not have secured any seat in the Congress before
he eventually became the American President after many failures at the polls. If the likes of our
own Governors RaufAregbesola of the State of Osun and KayodeFayemi of Ekiti State were to
be you after losing at the polls, even in the law courts for some time before they eventually
were declared winners in their respective states, they would not have been in the Government
House. Friend, you are never a loser but a winner, identify those hidden treasures in you that
can propel you to greatness.
That is the turning point if identified. Making hay when the sun shines is accompanied with
accolades and one could eventually be a hero. With the agility in you, you must move on
without stepping aside. That turning point is a milestone of your life if well identified. There is
time for everything in life, the Scripture has said it . “To every thing there is a season, and a
time to every purpose under the heaven; A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant,
and a time to pluck up that which is planted, a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break
down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time
to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace,
and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a
time to cast away; a time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to
speak; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace; “(Ecclesiates 3:1-
8). But “the future starts from today, not tomorrow”, Blessed John Paul II affirms. Because we
have our God, we should not be afraid. We should not be satisfied with mediocrity. Let us put
out into the deep and let down our nets for a catch. Kindness is a language which the blind can
see and the deaf can hear. How are we to each other?May His hands continue to lead us
through life in Jesus name. Amen.
INTRODUCTION
The society is generally polluted with social vices.
Many parents, guardians and teachers have
shirked in their respective tasks of building a sane
and just society. Legacy to be bequeathed has
been let loose and therefore, it is evasive and
elusive. All are busy doing things their own ways.
But these ways may eventually lead to perdition
and the perilous time draws near everyday. The
evil days are postponed all because of selfishness
and loss of focus by those who are entrusted with
the task of forming future generations to take over
from the present one. No wonder there are no
more values in the society. In place of these are
cultism, rape, lesbianism, homosexuality, highway
robbery, rituals of various kinds, corruption,
examination malpractices, unwanted pregnancy,
abortion, murder, hemp smoking and drug sniffing,
brigandage and gangsters, seductive dressings,
dancing, singing and moves. But they are not
helped either by the unemployment rate soaring in
Nigeria and importation of detrimental western
culture which is a serious threat to ours and the
future of our children. Youth of nowadays seize the
opportunity of any celebration to perpetrate
nefarious activities in the dark and in the open
glare of all. Moral value is endangered! The
Valentine Day celebration is not exempted. There
is bastardisation of festivals that are supposed to
bring in love, peace, happiness, reunion and
awareness.
As bad as it is, the youth of today do not see
anything bad in immodest dressings, cleavage
exposure, sagging, tattooing, cultism and others.
Whereas, according to Alphonsus Maria de Liguori
"A mortal sin of scandal is committed by
women who go about with their bosom
immodestly exposed, or who expose their
limbs improperly. Also by actors in immodest
comedies, and still more by the persons who
compose such comedies; also by painters who
paint obscene pictures, and by the heads of
families who keep such pictures in their
houses. The father who speaks obscenely, or
blasphemes the saints, in presence of his
children, and the mother who brings into her
house to live among her daughters young men
who are in love with them, or betrothed to
them, or other suspected persons, are guilty of
a still more grievous sin of scandal. Some
mothers say: do not suspect any evil. I answer,
that it is their duty to suspect; otherwise they
will have to render to God an account of all the
sins which may follow”.
MORALITY
Conscience is the bedrock of character formation
in the life of all, the adolescents are not left out. It
is vital to all as it makes one to differentiate good
from bad , and true nature of whatever one does.
The moral disposition from which one gives
spontaneous response to the dictates of the
conscience therefore, makes one virtuous over a
period of time. All must make the conscience to be
functional and alive in order to have a just society.
Not giving the conscience a place to function has
ever been responsible for the insatiable passions
which make many people a bunch of prey to the
societal ills, caprices and influences. The
immorality and insecurity in the world today
coupled with global wars and other degeneration
values in the society are the outward projections of
conflicts waged inside the soul. Morality is helped
through the dictates of the conscience and these
dictates are echoes from the sanctuary, talking to
us and reminding us of the goodness and beauty
of truth. It is God who directs the affairs of all. The
implication therefore is that when people are
guided by objective moral standards in their
actions and decisions, more consciences are
formed, informed and reformed. We must build the
conscience every time.