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N EW YO R K
HAR CO U RT ,
B RA C E
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s CO M PANY
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C P YRIG H T , 1 926 , B Y
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HARC U RT , B RAC E C OM P A NY,
P R IN T E D I N T H E (D S . A
1 2 9 03 8
iv I N T RODU C TI O N
pends on a favourable settlement For there can be no
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and all .
facts only two conditions are indispensa ble : first that the
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aspects are limited in number and since they can appear in,
s ubj ect E ach question with its answer is worked out with
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read for a second time the first part which contains the
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made the most vivid impression on his mind was j ust what
concerns him personally He will realize that he has been
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and deliverance.
I n tr o ducti on
PA RT O NE
C OU NT H E RM A N N K E Y SE R L N G I
T h e C o r r ect Statemen t of th e M i ge
ar r a Pr bl
o m
e
P A RT T W O : M A RR IA G E I N S P A C E A ND TI M E
A . W . N IE U W E N H U IS
T he G en es s o i f M a r r ia
ge
L EO FRO B E NI U S
M ar r ia
g e an d M a tr i a r c y
h
RA B I N DRA N A T H T A G O RE
T h e In d i an I d ea l o f M ar r a i ge
I
R C H A RD W I L HEL M
M ig
T h e C h in ese C o n c eptio n of ar r a e
C OU N T P A U L T H U N -H O H E N ST E I N
Th M i g
e f C n v ti n i n E ur p
ar r a e o o en o o e
P A U L E R N ST
M i g d P l t i n ism
a rr a e an ro e ar a
R I C A R DA H U C H
R m n ti M r i g
o a c a r a e
J A K O B W A S S E R M A N N
B u g is M
o r i geo arr a e
M A RT A K A R L W E I S
M i g d th C h n gi g W m n
arr a e an e a n o a
BEA T R I C E M H I N K L E .
M i g i n th N w W l d
ar r a e e e or
X C O N T EN T S
PA GE
T HO MAS MA N N
M arr i a
g e in T r a n si ti on
LE O N I E U N G E R N -ST E R N B E R G
T he M a rr a i ge of th e Futur e
P A RT T H R E E : M A RR I A G E A S AN E T E R NA L
P R O BLEM
COU NT H ERM A NN KE Y SE RL I N G
T he P r op er C h o ic e of P t ar n er s
E R N ST K RET SC H M ER
Phy i l s ca an d Sp i r itua l H ar mony i n M ar r i a e
g
H A N S VO N I
HAT T N G B E RG
M a r r ia
g e as a n An a lytic l a Si tuat ion
C . G .
J U N G
M a rr ai ge as a Pyh l
s c o ogi c a l R le a ti on s hip
A L FR E D A DL E R
M ar r ia
g e as a T k as
H AV E L O C K E L L IS
Lo v e as a n Ar t
M E C H T I L DE L IC H N O W S K Y
M ar ri a
g e as a W or k of A rt
P AU L DA H L K E
M arr a i ge as a Fetter
M A T H I L DE V O N K EM N T Z I
M ar r i a ge a s Fu lfil m en t
A L P H O N SE M A E DE R
M a r r i a ge a n d Se f -l D vl e e o
p m en t
L EO B A EC K
M a r r i a ge as My t y s er an d C o m ma n d
J O S E P H B E R N H A RT
M ar r ai ge as a Sa c r a men t
Po stscr i p t by the d E i to r
N o te o n the T r n sl ti
a a on
T h e C o r r e c t S t a t e me n t
o f t h e M a r r i a
g e P r o b l e m
COUNT H E R M A NN K EY SERL IN G
1 Fo r th e si gn ific a n c e o f d
e ath , s ee th e ylc c e e nti t l e d Wer d en a nd
b
Ver g eh en i n my ook W i ed er g eb ur t, p bli
u sh e d by O tt o Rei c h l, D a r msta d t,
1 92 6.
4 C O UN T H ERMAN N KEYSERL I N G
pendent of any per sonal interpretation ; it insists on being
understood and endured A false notion here , in one wav
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spirit
,
in contrast to tho s e considered above have in the ,
stan ti al
,
but what ought to be Whereas natural forms
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signify for humanity given facts ( G egehenh ei ten ) ,
cultural forms represent results to achieve ( Aufgab en ) .
2
this book .
tion of all problems dealing with love nor yet the natural ,
2
d
Rea er s O f my o ok s w i b ll
h a e a r ea v l dy
r ec o gn i ze d
f r o m th i s i ntr o
d p
uc ti o n th a t T h e B o o k of M a r r i a g e i s a s ec i a l ma ni f es t a ti o n o f th e
p p l
s i r it a n d i m u se o f th e S ch oo l o f W i s o m d
In f a c t I
h a e c o n c ei e v vd
d l ly d l
.
a n d a r r a ng e i t si mi a r t o o n e o f th e D a r ms ta t s es s i o ns T h e so e a i m
l d b lly
.
o f th e S c h oo o f W i s o m i s th e r ec o n s tr uc ti o n o f l i f e o n th e a si s o f f u
r ea i zel d s i g n ific a n c e It c a n o n ly pl
a cco m i sh th i s gen er a l ur o s e p p by
l
.
v
gi i ng th e r i gh t so uti o n to e a ch s ec i fic p p bl ro p em T he r i n ci a u p l p bl
i
l v b b
.
c a ti o n s up t i l n o w h a e een my oo k s S c h b pf er i s ch e Er k enn tn i s a n d
b bl d
W i ed erg eb ur t, w h ich a r e ein g p u i sh e b y O tto Rei ch ! i n th e a utumn
o f thi s y ea r l d dp b
A t th e a nn u a s ess i o n s a t D a r mst a t, w o r l ro
lems a r e g i en v a n ew a dj y p x ly
u st ment a n d s m h o n i c tr e a tment, e a c t
a s w i th ma r r i a g e i n th i s b
o ok l p d
T h e r esu t s a r e th en r i n te i n th e
lp b ld
.
a nn u a u li c at i o n en ti t e v v v
D er L eu chter ( up to 1 92 6, s e en o lumes h a e
app d ea r e ) l d d p l p bl
T h e S c h o o o f W i s o m e a ls w i th s ec i a b ro ems ea r i ng
l p d d v
.
d
.
b
o tai ne d
f r o m th e offic es o f th e S chool of W i s om, D a r mst a t,d
P dp
a r a e l atz 2 .
6 C OUN T H ERMAN N KEYSERL I N G
more so than man as her eroticism is more delicately
,
the same way only in very exceptional cases does the wife
,
tion exi sting between the two In the very same sense .
mutual destiny are formed which for any one who is not ,
“
best illustration o f the truth that to a great extent sig
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n i fican ce creates the facts and not vice versa The ele
,
.
4 T h i s i s th e ma i n th es i s Of my S ch opf er is che Er k i
enntn s .
lO C O UN T H ERMAN N KEYSE RL I N G
the r e veil da li on the reverting of a widow no matter
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, ,
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how much she was formerly merged in her husband s
—
character to her original family type it re sts largely on
,
5
tating social instinct Consequently the empirical ego .
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lly xp l i i my b k U bli h k it h w p i d i v i d l
I fu e a n n oo ns ter c e o su er n ua c o ns
p d i d i v i d l i i mp
s c ro us n es s r ece d h w v y
es n hi l y ua n o r ta nc e, an o e er et ca s s
tem d p d e hi enTh li y
s f h m
on t m s (M hh i te r ea t o a u an co s os ens c e s
p mi b d p y hi p li y i d l wi h i
.
k m )
os os as a re se ase on s c c er s o n a t s ea t t n an
y i l d W l h g d L b g l g i my Wi d g b
es sa en t t e e ta ns c a uun an e en s es ta tun n e er e ur t
T h p i ip l m i h l f i d ivid l p y h l gy ( I d i i d
.
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e r nc f h a er t o t e sc l oo o n ua s c o o n v ua
p y h l gi ) f
s c o o d d by A l f d A dl i
e h v
o un dm
e d h re er , s to a e e on str a te t e
p h l gi l h d f d f
,
at o o f i l i
ca c iv i l i
a r a c ter io so a t o n an o e ec t e s oc a nst nct .
12 C O UN T H ERMAN N KEYSERL I NG
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is from the outset bound to a correlative thou N ow .
But the vast maj ority of people have not outgrown racial
bonds nor are they above egotism or metaphysically con
,
nese with their sense for the correlation of the cosmos see
, ,
well in spite of all exi sting prej udices The essential dif
,
.
r ia e
g The. con s cious acceptance of responsibility in life
means ips o fa cto the acceptance of su ffering It thus b e .
6
6
p
C o m a r e th e c c e Wer yl dW
en a nd Ver g e/zen es ec i a p lly th e p a r t e nti tle d
d
,
t,
I4 C O U N T H ERMAN N KEYSERL I N G
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the Vitalizing feeling o f the as yet untouched , and this
is terminated by marriage O ne may even say that the
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.
C ORRE C T S T A T E M E N T OF MARR I AGE PR O B LE M 17
tween man and woman where this is n ot the case are either
prelim inary stages or retrogressions U nder the latter.
life seem s abj ect From thi s one can j udge how perni
.
people can stand conditions of life that are too happy ; the
great maj o ri ty become stulti fied by them Life is only .
state .
That is why th e rich so Often envy the poor That .
s pared tribulation
—thi s is more liable to increase in pro
port ion to the degree of self determination attained but
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in order to grow S o he accept s the tensile state of mar
.
j ugal i deal .
24 C O UN T H ERMAN N KE YSERL I NG
evolution ; wh erea s the human a spect of propagation is
c ontained in th e idea of breeding that is to say in at
, ,
we find that they one and all purpose to expres s th eor eti
cally and demonstrate practically what we recognize to be
the essential quality of marriage : that it is an independent
category over a n d above sexual uni on as well as racial
considerations and po ssesse s beside s a generic and cosmic
, ,
sen se
, a unique metap h y sical significance , the realization
of wh ich i s the ultimate aim of marriage In fa ct the .
,
situated ,
at the level of the higher component on th e ,
Since the obj ect and aim of all breeding is the evolution
o f a higher t yp e it stand s to rea son that equality o f birth
,
son to enter into a state of b i— polar ten sion with more than
one other From an intellectual p oint of view a p olyga
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,
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predicted that marriage far from being eclipsed will
, ,
zati on does not lead away from N ature ; this is the most
realization .
W
E are now in a position to approach the practical
problem wh ich marriage po sits in every single
case M arriage as we have seen is not a fixed state
.
, , ,
i n g f r o m w ithi n to w a r d d
t h e o ut s i e, th r o ugh th e me i um o f d a f r ee
subj ec t.
C ORRE C T S T A T E M EN T OF MARR I AGE PRO B LE M 29
s—
R eal love marriage I refer only to such for it is well ,
motives which lie both above and below the personal plane
should decide as the social factor is actually the most
,
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counts for conventional marriages ( S tand eseh e ) , ar
ranged by others being in general more sati sfactory than
,
“
man can only acquire requisite integration by realization
”
of significance and the sub sequent new adj ustment o f
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intellect and soul Where this is wanting the choice
.
,
case the neces sary art consists in the person being integrated
11
Com ar e p th e ch a pt er , Wa s u ns Not f a t, in my S chopf er ische
Er k enntn i s .
C ORRE C T S T A T E M EN T OF MARR I AGE PRO B LE M 33
to such an extent by the aid o f creative recognition prior ,
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being married itself We must deal with this more
.
as she chooses the man and not vice versa except where ,
ties also it is the woman with whom the final decision rests ;
coercion very seldom takes place and seduction without ,
h i story were great queens This is one more rea son why .
In th i s
12
c o nn ec ti o n , it i s a st r i k i ng f a ct th a t M athi ld e v on K mn i tz ,
e
w ho i s a t p r es ent th e b e st a uth o r i t y on th e p y h l gy f
s c o o o w o men , h a s
a dv o c a te d th e p r ot ecti o n of y o uth s a g i
a ns t th e se d iv w i l uct e es o f w o ma n
a nd fin d s th e p i
r o t ec t o n O f gi r s l su p fl
er u o u s. S ee h e r E r oti s ch e Wi ed er
g eb ur t, Ver l ag
“
Die eH i mk eh r , ”
P a si ng v or Mii nch en .
C ORRE C T S T A T E M E N T OF MARR I AGE PRO B LE M 35
harms a man s spirit and soul than it does a woman s ;
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almost equally diffi cult art for both man and woman .
For the same reason the separate life of each has been
,
the only real way to make her truly happy O n the other .
hand the entire value of the man s part consi sts in what
,
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he performs alone and thus outside the sphere of mar
,
13 T he b w ork s
est d li g w i h
ea n t th i s s u bj t
ec th at v
h a e so f a r a ea r e pp d
h
are t o se o f o u r tw o ll b
co a or ato r s , Ma th i ld
e von K emnitz a n d B eatr i c e
M Hinkl e
. .
40 C O UN T H ERMAN N KEYSERL I N G
sib i lity The marriage relation however, requires unity
.
, ,
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displays or scenes This real training can be accom
.
ment and flux E veryt hing beyond this already lies in the
.
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dimension of what I call realization of significance
_
,
For all these reas ons there is no better warrant for con
j ugal happiness than to observe the third principle strictly .
with sexual nor with s ocial ass ociation The only other.
“ ”
h igher stages o f development , equivocation is no longer
e ffective ; if a thing is not actually ideal it cannot hold its ,
it will not tend more and more to become the only pos
sible relation between the sexes but on the contrary as , ,
C ORRE C T S T A T E M E N T OF MARR I AGE PRO B LE M 43
evolution p roceeds it will always become less so
,
On .
the tendency will grow for only those men and women
to marry between wh om love ari ses as a consequence of ,
14In th i s c o n n ec ti o n, co m p a r e th e s ec ti on K y oto i n my T r a v el D i a r y
f
o i
a P h l os oph er .
44 C O U N T H ERMAN N KEYSERL I N G
the parents ar e merely agents Thi s course of evolution
.
ba sis
.
ill bred and even barbaric The person who does some
-
.
C ORRE C T S T A T E M E N T OF MARR I AGE PRO B LE M 45
thing that would cause another to su ff er if he or she b e ,
from reproach if they can show that they have been true
to their husbands in the usual narrow sense o f the word !
Here clear and unprej udiced thought is required .
which are valid only for his spiritual nature but which ,
all other cases the ethical claims are the outcome o f the
,
Its true nature will always come further to the front and ,
last resort and for this reas on in spite of all its draw
, ,
For it then plays the p art for man that a tuned in str u
ment does for a mu sician O ne can play only on tightened
.
C ORRE C T S T A T E M EN T OF MARR I AGE P RO B LE M 49
strings The fulfilment of that life which is the life o f
.
a religious cult .
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A . W . N IE U W E N H U IS
gator also finds that there are ever ywhere three motives
that lead to marriage : mutual sympathy the desire f or ,
progeny and the neces sity for mutual aid in the struggle
,
M alay races for example that the men and women belong
, ,
who have come from outside the district group bear other
group names O n the husband s death one of his brothers
.
’
,
2
d
A c co r i ng to A . W How itt s Nativ e
.
’
T r i b es o f S outh ea st A us tr a li a .
TH E GE NES I S OF MARR I AGE 57
tive was for the young couple s to elope The custom of .
women consider that the men do not pay sufli cient atten
tion to them , they take the initiative and form a closer
acquaintance according to their rude custom by com
, ,
mencing an a ff ray For this purp ose they kill some bird
.
,
one Of the next days the young men kill a blue wren ;
“ ”
the girls in turn have to avenge their elder si ster and ,
youth and his friends lie down in a place near the en,
ca mp men t where all can see them and s ing magical songs
, ,
addre ssed to the girl I f she does not hear them her
.
ing sleep and thus aided the flight o f the lovers A s the
,
.
the woman .
are kept so strictly that the pair run the risk of being
caught and attacked with weapons, and thus many a young
life is lost The readine ss on the part of th e young men
.
side for h i s bride and then leads home the young woman ,
only within their class Thu s the choice o f both the men .
-i
to h is future parents n law He gives his father
- -i n -
law .
o
f s exua l This failure
inter c our se to recognize
. the rela
ti on sh ip between coitu s and pregnancy is vouched for by
such excellent Observers as S pencer G illen and S trehlow , , ,
the striking fact that a child need not belong to the totem
group of i ts parents but to that o f the migratory territory
where the woman first became aware of her pregnancy .
tir ely di ff erent A difli culty that ari ses in this connection
.
During the engagement which can last two years the pair
, ,
si onall
y s pends a night with his wife helps her in agri ,
his family This does not however corre spond with the
.
, ,
will and a ff ection to marry for the sake o f the large sum
obtained as purchase money but often the girl has still ,
gether with their wives and sisters if the latter are still ,
bers and both pays and receives bridal sums for the young
women The Batak family is strictly exogamic, and this
.
M arga and selects his wife from the second M arga which ,
3 A S ch r ei
. b D i e B a tta s i n i hr em Ver ha ltni s
er , zu d en M a la i en . U eb er
S uma tr a zm a llg emei n en .
70 A . w . N IE U W E N H U IS
have done so “
A woman has no private property among
.
general that is the case all over India and even applies to
th e matriarchal M inangkabau If she has children the .
,
the children are related to both families and are the heirs
o f both parent s Where the M alays come into close con
.
P ub ty er si gn i fi s f or b th
e
g o th e y oun D j k
a a m en an d w omen
[h s y !
e a s a co e e e omp l t r v l uti
on o f th ei r p er son a i t l y T yb
. he e in
g
to a
p y m o r e a tten ti o n to th ei r r ess a n d th ei r o u tw a r adpp ea r an c e d
in gen er a l y l
T h e oun g gi r s pu out th e h ai r f r om all o er
. ll v
th ei r b dio es ex c e
pti n
g th a t gr ow i n g on their h ea ds ; w hi le the
T HE GENES I S OF MARR I AGE 73
y oun g men r emo v yl
hes an d e e r o w s a n d th e scan t hai r s
e e e as yb y
f r om th ei r ear
g b
o eth er w i th th e ds T ph si c a c h an ges that
. y l
k
ta e p a c e i n l b
oth m en a n d w o m en , th er e i s a
g r o w in
g esi r e to d
p l
ea se the o th er sex T h e f a sh i on i n
g of
g i f ts o cc upi es a
. ar e
g l
p or ti on o f th ei r f r ee t i me T h e
g i r s ma e
p ea r n ec a c es, . l k l kl
dbl
sw or - e ts, a n d a o r n men ts f o r sw or d sc a ar s T h e m en d bb d .
g i v
e i n r etur n ne c ar e a m oofi ly esse s, fl ut es, oa r s, v d b
ni f e b v l k
ha n es, etcdl T b
hus o th pa r ti es ha e a n a mp e c h an c e, i n th ei r
. v l
d l v
esi r e f o r o e, to fin d ex r essi on i n a r t
p .
y l
T he oun g p eop e h a e e er oppo r tun i t o f getti n g to n o w v v y y k
eac h o th er b
e f or e m a r r i a e a n d to
g p u t th emse es r o er
p p to th e lv ly
test . T y
h e do this a ll th e mo r e r ea i d ly b
ec a u se m ar r i a e IS
g
l k d up n s a s r i us m tt r d m n d in g l y l ty n b th si d s
oo e o a e o a e e a o a o o e .
B f or e m r r i g b th s x s h v f ull f
e a a e o d m t g sf r s
e e a e r ee o o o a a a
t k
a f n cy t
e a a n n th r c u st m
o o e a
p r m i ts th m t
o e i n d ul
, g i n o e e o e
a n un i n t up t d c m mun i n
er r e Th o f v ur i te p sti m o is t
. e a o a e o
r
a ra n
g fi seh i n -
g p r ti s B f r a th f e d i n
g
. w y f
e o e th m i ld e a a a o e
tr pi c l n i ght w h n th
o a , l ight f th m n is j ust suffic i n t t
e e o e oo e o
a
pp r l :
a e b r o d
a b l u l i n
a -c l th n d e v r i o
g t d s i lk h o d -c l th a a a e a e ea o .
B l c k r ml ts an d tu f ts f sc n t d gr ss r Sp c i l r n m n ts
a a e o e e a a e e a o a e
w ith p w r f ul st k s s n b in gs th b t t th pl c w h r
o e ro e oo r e oa o e a e e e
sh i s w i tin g
e a T h gi r l w h i s d r ss d in th s m m nn er
. e , o e e e a e a ,
g t
es i n t th o b t w i t
eh h r oa a l m s b w l w ll fill de n d si ts i n th - o e e a e
st r n
e st , r in
g w
ee i t h n o r T h y u n g m n st n d s r
a a . dy t e o a a ea o
p l c a e w h r h e i m
e e
g i n s fi s h r l iak ly t b
e m st p l n ti f ul
a e e o e o e .
Thus th p ir m ve d w n th r i v er n d i f th c tc h p v s suffi
e a o o e ,
a e a ro e
ci n t f r a m
e o l th y l n d U su lly n mpty b ut in th r ic
ea ,
e a . a a e e e
fi lds r n i n tim t sp t b en e th th tr s n th r i v
e o a a e o b n k is a e ee o e er a
th i r fi n l
e l a T h e so f t t n s o f th fl ut p l y d w i th th e e e a e e
g oa . o
n so e a dd sp c i l c h r m
a e f r i n th e si l n c
a a f th n i ght th s
, o e e o e e e
w i l in g b ut l v ly n t s a w k n s n s ti on s t w h i h th t n d r
a o e o e a e e a o c e e e
spi r it f th K j an i s v y su sc pti b l
o e a In tim s w h n th
er e e . e e e
74 A . w . N IE U W E N H U I S
f r i en d s k p w t h by n ight i n th v ic in ity f th l v r s
ee a c e o e o e .
W k in g t g th r in th fi lds l s gi v s th y ung p pl
or o e e e e a o e e o eo e
a g d
oo pp t un i t
oy f b or
c m i n
g c
q u i
o n t d w i th n
e o n t h r a a e o e a o e ,
e sp c i lly i f th
e a
p r n ts g e t thi s e a e O th r w i s th f r ti tu d
a re o . e e e o e
o f th l v r s i s f t n put t a s v er t st
e o e o e I nc bs rv d h w
o e e e . o e o e e o
a b utif u l y ung gi r l w i th g
ea o t w ill -p w er b r u ght h m r ea o o o e a
l v r w h w s nythin g b ut w l c m t h r p r ts b c us h
o e o a a e o e o e a en e a e e
co u ld n ot d h vy w k i n th fi ld s n d w s n t y t b l t
o ea or e e a a o e a e o
b ui ld b o ts E ven f t r th m r i g w hi ch r quir d gr t
a . a e e ar a e, e e a ea
d l f en r gy th y un g husb n d h d v ry g t t ub l in fin d
ea o e ,
e o a a e r ea ro e
i g hi s p l
n i n th h us ac e f h i s p r n ts-in -l w
e o e oWh n m i g a e a . e ar r a e
i s b in g c n t mpl t d th p r n ts f r m b th si d s m t n d di s
e o e a e ,
e a e o o e ee a
c uss th e d w ry nd
p u
o rch s m n y th t th y un g m n must
a a e o e a e o a
p y a h i s p r n ts-in -l w a e If th p r n ts r n l n g r l i v th y
a . e a e a e o o e a e e
a er r p s n t d by r l ti v s
e re e e r b y th c hi f
e a Th e m un t th t
o e e . e a o a
th y u n g l v r h s t p y i s usu lly n t g
e o o e a o t ; th p
a n ts i n l w a o r ea e ar e - - a
r n r lly s ti sfi d w i th n w d d O th th r
a e
g e e a as r e n
g g n no e o a a o . e o e
h n d r i c h c hi f s h v t p y as muc h s th
a ,
e a e hun d d d ll r s
o a a r ee re o a .
I t i s th ught d si b l th t b th p ti s sh u ld b l g t th s m
o e ra e a o ar e o e on o e a e
C l ss
a C h i f s l s th ir pr sti g i f th y m ry r d i n ry w m n
. e o e e e e e ar o a o e ,
a n d th ir c hi ld en h v e l i ttl ch
re c f suc c d in g th m
a e Am ng an e o ee e . o
th K j n -D j ks f c n tr l B r n
e a a a a o m t h s b tw n n t n ly
e a o eo , a c e e ee o o
cl s o e b l d r l ti v es b ut al s b tw n r l ti v s by m r i g r
oo e a o e ee e a e a r a e a e
f rbid d n
o M i g b tw n n ighb ur in g b ut n t r l t d
e . arr a e e ee e o o e a e
t ib s i s n t p r hi b i t d b ut i t
r e o o cu s s e r r ly th t
,
f r mploc r o a e a , o ex a e,
th e T m n-D j k n d K j n -D j k h v l i v d o v r hun d r d
a a a a a a a a a a e e e a e
y rs c l s t one n th r w ith ut mi in g Th y
ea o e o a o e l ut o x . e are e e er o
g am i c T h r
. e r e s o m e n y r s t
a r i c ti n s r g r d i n g m a ri
g e o e a ar a e,
sp c i lly f m th w dd i g up t th n xt N w Y r s f st
’
e e a ro e e n o e e e ea ea ,
th t th K j n m r ry by p
a e a a f n ce Sh
a tly b f r th N w Y re er e r or e o e e e ea ,
in d r t v i d this unpl s n t p i d T h d in y D j k
or e o a o ea a er o . e or ar a a
w dd in g i s v y S i mpl
e T h ch i f s r r n ge b i g f sts w h n
er e. e e a a ea e
th i r c hi ld r n m rry w h i c h c n l st f r tw
e e a ,
r th r d ys n da a o o o ee a ,
a
i n w hi c h ll th n t b i l i ti s f th v i ll g t k p r t
a e o a e Th o e a e a e a . e
w dd i n g t k s pl c i n th b i d s h us w hi th r th b r i d gr o m
’
e a e a e e r e o e, e e e o
i s sc t d b y h is f i n d s
e or e A ll th h us h ld f u n i tur is t k n
r e . e o e o r e a e
ut f th
o t m n ts
e a w h i har th n d c
e t d w i th gr
c n nd
ar e e e or a e ee a
o p ,
c l ou r d f b i c s
o e n d th a w ll s
r ,
a hun g w i th l l th gi f ts th t
e a ar e a e a
th b
e ri d s p r n ts p e
’
r s n t to
a e th i r s n -i n -l w s sc t T he
e e e o a
’
e or .
T HE GE N E S I S OF MARR I AGE 75
d v l k
f r i en s h a e a so th e r i gh t to ta e h o me w ith them all th e go o d
thin gs tha t th e c hi ef s h ospi ta i t
’
l y
a n d th e c o n tr i uti on s o f th e b
v ll
i a ger s O fi er th em ea r s
p .a a P l ly
p r o m i n en t
p a r t a mo n
g the
g i f ts w hi c h th e ri e an d b dr i e r o om
g b d
g i v
e o n e a n o th er , a n d thi s
l l
a so app i es t o th e m em er s o f th e f a mi b ly
Fi r st o f a l l th e r i e
. b d
v
r ec ei es f r o m th e r i e r oo m a
g b d “
dl ”
gi r e f or th e w i f e w hi c h c o n
si sts o f a st r i n g o f f o u r o l d p ea r s l
A t th e c o m mon m ea sh e
. l
fi dn s tw o mo r e p ea r s i n h er r i c e, l b d
esi es w hi c h sh e r ec ei es on e v
v yer fin e p ear l l v
T h e r e a ti es a n d f r i en s gi e h er a str in g o f
. d v
p l
ear s th a t h a s to b e a s o n g a s sh e i s ta l ,
a n d th e ll
a u e o f th ese v l
d d
i s epen en t o n th e w ea th o f th e on o r s l d .
T h e househo ld
i s man a ge d by
th e str on ger c h ar a c ter A .
b r ea c h o f l kd
f a ith , w hi ch i s oo e upon a s a mis f o r tun e to the
en ti r e f a mi , ly
i s str i c t ly d
pu n i sh e , b ut i t seems r a r e to o c c ur ly .
l k
T he on e a t f au t h as to m a e a ton em en t to th e o th er s f a mi
’
ly .
y
i s w i thout issue, the pr oper t o f th e ec ease r etur n s t o th e f a mi d d ly .
M a r ri a ge an d M a t ri a r c h y
77
78 LEO F RO B EN I U S
He wished to prove from these legendary fragments and '
other data that the position o f the two sexes had Changed
during the evolution of culture and he made of the ma
,
the fact that out o f the man s yearning grows the idea of ’
t h gh h
r ou f er ec u n t h i r ea ea r n t e ne c a n, s e s a u ct e an
h h
t us t e s pi i l r tu awi h h l i v d D ig h m ig
c o nta c t t t e c an s se er e ur n t e ar r a e
m y h k ll di i g i h d i pl dbf h b id
.
c er e on f
t e s u o a st n u s e a n c esto r s ac e e or e t e r e
by th h d f h l ; h w i h
e ea o t eff i g f h ly g i
c an w hi h
t en t an o er n o o r a n, c
f m ly l y
or er h a k ll hon t i i v k d
e s p mi h i m l f
u t e a n c esto r s n o e to er t se to
w ly m i d w m
,
b b e g i
or n ah gh h
a n t r ou F f th p i
e ne ar r e o an or ur t er a r t en
l
.
D
a r s , see b k as t Af i kun e a nn e r a.
MARR I AGE A ND MA T R I ARC H Y 81
born Woman does all the work ; she makes the skins
.
The man only hunts tends the cattle and wages war
, ,
.
and Often treats him to cruel tempers and lets him feel
her aversion .
best The men court the women and then the p lay b e
.
,
finally when the girl believes that she has found the
,
accept s him .
to woo him with the same insi stence P atriarchy with its .
,
child splits ofl from the mother and thus the life of the ,
to creative work .
the cus toms bound up with these two conceptions and their
corresponding outlooks it will be found that there is no,
2
p
C om ar e Da s ster b en d e Af r i k a, Vol . II .
84 L EO F RO B EN I U S
ter m in ed course ) o f culture seem s identical with the es
s ence of the general organic surroundings ; that i s to say ,
of,
ab sorbing into oneself retention and economy ; taken
,
, ,
heir But the ascendancy of the female line did not show
.
ing over them , and in the centre the chief priest symbol ,
as his first wife his own sister or daughter This and the
,
.
.
,
This was the time when the dragon ship ruled the seas ; -
friendly night the night sky and the sea O f stars that are
, ,
bility .
3 Fo r f ur th er d eta i l s s ee d
the n ew e i ti o n o f P a i d euma , Er l ebte E r tei le, d
Vo l IV,
. 1 92 5 .
92 LEO F RO B E N I US
for the quiet work o f woman continues mostly without
man s noticing it or even comprehending its significance
’
.
“ ”
Th is is the quiescent matriarchy which triumphs in the
next episode .
—
of polarity naturally an intensification takes place which
is in accordance with the two original principles : the cen
tr i f ugal principle always develop s more externally and
thus gives the privileges of the male a more decisive form ,
with all its attributes found its way from western A sia to
the A egean and held the archipelago as far as the G recian
mainland veiled in a matriarchal wealth of form ( Crete
,
of the sexes .
every individual .
son al ity bridges over the ever -fading contrasts and space
essence o f marriage .
R A B IN D R AN A T H T AG O RE
T he I n di a n Id ea l o f M a r ri a ge
thi s diarchy.
98
1 00 RA B I N DRA N A T H T AGO RE
Kshatriyas extended their sway and populous settlement s ,
gre w up in their wake the need for peace was felt and
,
Ram ayana .
self sacr i fice ; there; bravery has for its Obj ect the triumph
-
tions between king and subj ect , father and son brother ,
tional. I f any such should say that he does not care for
domestic j oys but prefers the freedom o f irresponsibility
, ,
”
tality should be accepted from an unmarried householder .
great tree ; for j ust as the roots o f the latter supp ort its
,
G r ihasthopi k r iyayukto na g r i h en a
g r ih as ra mi ,
Na c ha i va putr a dar en a sva k a r m a par i va r j i ta .
T atha ta th a i va ka yan i
r na k alastu vi dhi ya te,
n o t a w a it our ow n c on v eni en ce .
, , ,
other ways are the Indian people kept reminded that the
dh ar ma of the householder consists in fulfilling the vari
o us claims o f humanity A nd further in M anu s op 1n1on
.
,
’
,
high estate .
1 05
and its so lution thus sought by India her society has had ,
, , ,
In .
whatsoever that may loo sen our mind from its mooring
,
and disturb the fixed habit of our thought and belief and
behaviour is bound to undermine the very foundation of
,
o ur society .
, ,
g en i cs like
,
all other sciences attaches but little
,
weight to
personal sentiment A ccording to it selection by personal
.
,
body and mind along with the ecstasy of form and move
,
Of hospitality
; for when N ature is busy s ecuring an y S p e
cial purpose she throws all other purp oses into the back
,
.
,
—
conscious activity in the past t h is striving of hers for the
—
be t p ossible progeny was fully consonant with the con
s
In his K uma r a —
sa m b h a va it is the s ame thing that the
'
lant watch from the out side But when external comp ul-
.
ried state we all have to make our plunge into the doubt
ful and leave it to Providence whether we s hall sink or ,
swim through .
“ ”
The de sire however against which India s solution
, ,
’
— —
best results such was the conclusion and this cultiva
tion should begin before marriage Therefore from their .
,
man on this side of the sea from cros sing to the other ,
its Obj ective has been busy cultivating the pa ssive quali
,
there was once a good reason for this state of thing s does
not help to save her when the reason has ceased to exist .
world .
conflict with her Own inner nature ; and thus constantly dis
RA B I N DRA N A T H T AGORE
upheld if the emotion of woman and the intellect of man
are contributed in u sual sh ares for its purposes Then .
h er child ,
but for creating the be s t po ssible Child — not as
an addition to the number o f men but as one o f the ,
o
f D e li h t )
g attributed,
to S hankar ach a rya S he who is .
” “
striven for life says the Rishi if this dnanda ( j oy ) had
, ,
” “
not filled the sky ? It seems to me that the Intellectual
Beauty whose praise s S helley has sung is identical with
”
”
sweetness for in thi s charm there is a combination 0
,
T HE I ND I A N I DEA L OF MARRI AGE 12 1
—
several qualities patience , self abnegation , s ensitive in
-
l
te gli en ce,
grace in thought ,
word ,
and behaviour — the
reticen t expression of rhythmic life the tenderne ss and ,
of man who has sought to use it for the purp oses of his
,
because she has not found her true place in the great
world that she sometimes tries to capture man s special ’
, ,
l
cip e, no limit is set to th e expansion of the clan In the .
obedient the hu sband con siderate and the wife sub mis
, ,
it was held that the ance stor was reincarnated in the grand
child The old custom according to which the grandchild
.
,
His wife stood by his side to perform certain ofli ces while ,
, ,
and only beloved that lives once and will never be found
,
i —
groom fetches his bride n a gaily decorated s edan chair ,
bridegroom .
R I C H ARD W ILHELM
bride are about the same age In country district s the bad .
A d b
n l th d
e c o i n c l ur d g
e o o e ar m en ts ;
Red ga r t s th y w i ll w
er e ea r ,
A n d th e y w i ll m k y u r h us
a e o o e f a m ou s by l
thei r r u e .
D ught s w ill b b
a er un t
y u; e or n o o
Th y w i ll l p up n th
e th ;s ee o e ea r
Th y w i ll b w pp d i n sw ddl in g l
e e ra e a c oth es ;
132 RI C H ARD W ILH E LM
tegr ate d
. But in China this process w as confined to the
outer edges O f the cultural system .
ries for they are all more or less alike M ore I mp o rtant
,
.
“ ”
The golden lotu s flowers and the gracefully wavering
walk were considered alluring Thi s is the motive for
.
—
conversation for in the pre sence of ladies in China on e
“ ”
may not even mention the word shoe .
How ever one must admit that love in all its intensity
,
his beloved into the family To meet such cases the idea
.
,
easily ari se in which the wife fears her husband the sub
, ,
r i age this part o f the subj ect cannot well be left out A .
cumstan ces ,
marriage in China as elsewhere is an , ,
supreme relation ,
where marriage becomes a kind
friendship in which two people complement on e another
,
”
ten tru stw orthy ministers and on e of them i s my wife
,
.
“ ”
looked upon with love and respect as a full matron .
That is why wife and child are not only an indispen sable
part of the family but even of marriage itself C onse
, .
Chinaman .
T he l
c an T h e i n w ar d spher e i s appr opr i at e to w o ma n , th e
.
pl ac es i s N a tu r e s gr ea t est c o n c eptio n
’
Ther e a r e str ic t master s .
a mon
g th e m emb er s o f th e c l a n : th ese a r e th e pa r en ts W h en i n .
ver ity the f a ther i s a f a ther , a n d the son a son , a n d the eld er
b rother a n eld er b r o ther , a n d th e youn ger b r oth er a youn ger
b r other , the hus b d
an a h us a nb d ,
a n d th e w if e a w if e, then ind d ee
is th e h o use i n the r i ht w a
g y . By b uild i n g th e h o use on a s un d
o
d
f oun ati on , th e w or ld i s ma d e secur e.
C O U N T P A U L T H U N H O H E N S T E IN -
T he M a rri a ge o f C o n v en ti o n i n E u rop e
1 38
1 40 C OU N T PAU L TH U N H O H E N S T E I N -
grows .
Consequently, it can signify only something
similar to wh at is understood as culture by the Indians or
Chinese Culture which is transplanted to a foreign soil
.
status for its origin is not due to any social order no mat
, ,
their roots encircle man s sphere and are deeply and surely
’
the blood and tissue of its race remain vital The body .
,
but
also led to concerted action The p ower o f this plastic
.
H
A VE I gone out of my way to write this to you ? I
believe not and feel convinced that you will un
,
der stand .
groping life of the child with its early purpose and com
prehension ; in a word with tr a diti on
,
.
down his life for his ideal and who did not practi se self
,
1 49
—
the one side the world wide conception o f Citizenship of
,
heart holds to an ethos that all the others did but f ear ,
knew now that none o f the N ibelungs would ever see thei r
native land again He is the only one wh o po ssesses thi s
.
—
L oyalty above death above one s Own life indeed a ’
,
- —
to every non Teuton but it is all the deeper for that tak ,
15 0 C OU N T PAU L TH U N H O H EN S T E I N -
—
Two of my examples which came t o me unsought
are women Thi s is not chance ; in such grave matters
.
Vogelweide sang “
O h ne M inne k ann ni emand G ottes
,
15 2 C OU N T PAU L TH U N H O H E NS T E I N -
who married the lord of the manor knew full well that
she had an Ofli ce to fulfil that would mean setting aside all
private and personal matters Thus the particular part .
M a r ri a ge an d P ro l et a ri a n i sm
M
ARR I AGE is both a private and a s ocial matter and can
be comprehended biologically and sociologically .
( S t a n d e s e h e
) will rise up to oppose proletari a n marriage .
onate becomes the social order for the small man From .
over to the big estate owners and then had the use of it
in exchange for tribute and work The reason for thi s .
“
also taken over by the Church under the title of Christian
”
marriage and was amalgamated with the ascetic ideal in
a variety o f wa ys .
b il ity for the lower Classes But not only the church but
.
,
made po ssible .
to reappear .
is connected with his house and his fields with the estat e ,
Roma n t i c M ar ri age
ible leader and the latter found him self obliged to give
,
no a ff ection for his real wife and could not free h is heart
of love for the other woman he should after Obtaining , ,
1 68
RO MAN TI C MARRI AGE 1 69
His will both in life itself and in the Word which He had
,
cip l es
,
h e maintained Should be complementary He
,
.
all human cal lings This follows from the fact that the
.
”
alone. As there is scarcely any sphere o f human activity
where so much confu sion disagreement and perplexity , ,
took the matter seriou sly to heart and made use of every
opp ortuni ty to p oint out how pleasing to G od was the
state that enabled men to conduct their lives in a chaste
manner He realized h owever that marriage was only
.
, ,
right for him self O nly in two cases did he recognize the
.
deav our ed to keep the law Of the world separate from the
law of G od It is natural that from this p oint of View
.
udici n g her son s studies and pointing out that she herself
’
,
”
written that parents should not hinder their children .
free and daring girls and women They would also hear .
who was trained in the arts satisfied man with her com
,
—
gust on middle cla ss or conventional marriage which ,
It was termed love when the man s imply fel t the attr ac
tion of sex or the woman merely re spected the man s ’
stem .
sons and lived freely with her lover for some time before
,
life in the dej ected woman and they became in disp ens ,
band s house but she was not able to still her conscience
’
, ,
1 82 R I C ARDA H U C H
which told her that it was her duty to endure in marriage ;
and after much hesitation sh e returned to her cage At .
his part , had always really loved her , and all h is best
qualities came to the fore in this a ffair S he had refused .
him when she was still happy and for him to o ff er her ,
gether .
was not in harmony with himself ; and for him it was the
very best thing to be in love with a star, which he could
not besmirch since it was out of his reach
,
.
L ove religion , and death were all one In the young poet s
,
’
take place .
f essor and fell in love with her she being eight years
, ,
an end but she was divorced and met him again when she
,
time she left him the best po ssible love gift : the illusion
,
-
never led to marriage ; and here the fault was not hers .
and still less did they realize that it had the right to lay
stress on this point We are at the summit of an in
.
believed that man would choose the right course when left
to himself and consequently demanded freedom even for
,
thing for duty that it had never come across her path ,
“
If one takes into consideration the preliminary exp er i
ment s and the idea that marriage without love could not
”
“ ”
be counted as real marriage and was consequently
readily dissoluble then one is bound to admit that what
, ,
It
y Is wrecked by family re strictions as by the very passion
that seeks to break through these barriers A high moral .
1 94 R C I ARDA H U C H
ideal towers above the world and its conventions and
avarice O ut o f the human heart issues the noblest love
.
But there has never been a deci sion that was j ust ab
solutely or in all res p ects
,
In spite of G oethe s most
.
’
have to build up again the very thing that had been pre
v i ously abolished in order to satisfy it It is j ust the .
B o u rgeoi s M a rri a ge
An Open Letter
to Count Hermann K eyserling
glance and it was di ffi cult to bring it into shape and order
,
.
I 97
1 98 J AKO B W ASSERMAN N
c uld h v
o t ld a f m n w h h d b n i mp s d n f r y r s
e o o e o a ee o e o o ea ,
w h h d pl d g d th i r s ul s f th i w i v s i n t g i ty ; f m l ’
o a e e e o or e r e e r o or a
sl u gg ds w h f u d i t c v n i n t t n ti n thi g s s n t
ar o o n on e e o o ce o n , o a o
to h v a t s ec i fi oc t h i a r w n c m f te; f l v
e r o - St i c k n m n w h o or o o e r e e o
b c m sl v s f th ir w i v s n d m n w h w c k d th ir
e a e a e or e e ,
a e o re e e
w i v s h l th b c us th y u d st d s mu c h b out w m n s
’ ’
e ea e a e e n er oo a a a o a
b dy s b utch d s b ut si lk spi i g
o a a er oe a o nn n .
H c u ld h v t ld f w m n f r w h m b ll -d r ss m n t
e o a e o o o e o o a a e ea
m r th n th h l th f th i r c hi ld n ; f th s w h pu t th m
o e a e ea o e re o o er o e
s lv s
e n
e l v l w i th h us h ld im l s p r tly ut f t r n d
O a e e o e o an a ,
a o o er ro a
p artly t b g uoi l t h i e h u sb n d s e O t h r w
e r m n d i fi d tah i r . e o e e e e
h ea rts ut th
o th n ra ll w th ms lv s t b c n vin d th t
er a a o e e e o e o ce a
th s m n w
e e e
pu y m r t l s er e l ittl gi v n to r gu y Th
n o a ,
a e e o er . er e
w e w m n wh
er o u s d u p th i r h
e o l th i n y ly p gn n c i s
e e ea ear re a e ,
w hi l the m st r f th f mi ly f l i g th t h h d d n h is
e a e o e a ,
ee n a e a o e
w m n w st d th m
o e a y th t th ir hu b n d s rn d w i th gr t
e e on e a e s a ea e ea
d iffic ul ty n d th s s v d v ry h ll w hi l th i r m f lk
,
a o er a e e e e er e e en o
th w
re w y h un d d s
a a f th us n d s i n s n s l ss sp c ul ti n
re O o a e e e e a o .
Th r w ch i ty f u i s w h s h us s w
e e ere ar - r e s un i n h b i t b l
, so e o e er e a a a e a
ra i l w y st ti s
a Th w i n t ll tu l n d spi itu l min s
a on . er e er e e ec a a r a or ,
wh h d bo a f d i t m r i g t f d w y th
een or c e n o a r a e o a e a a ere .
H c uld h v
e o
pl i n d h w
a l l
e ex t h s d i ff a n t
e
p p l p ir o a e e er e eo e, a
a f t r p i r d r pp d i t m rr i g
e a , o f i v l u s n d i gn r n t
e n o a ft n a e, r o o a o a , o e
h l f st n g s t
a ra ch er th w i th u t suffic i n t s n s
o ea o of er , o e e e
re sp n si b i l ity
o n d st b i l ity f t mp
a m nt a Th y b th w r o e er a e . e o e e
d is pp in t d n d in fl ic t d d is pp i tm n t n th s Th y
a o e a e a o n e o o er . e
sig d ne nt c ts w hi h th y h d n
co ra i t ti n f k pi g v n s
c e a o n en o o ee n ,
e e a
th y s t th
e e
p n si d e d w hi l e th i n k w s sti ll w t n the
e a e an e a e o
B OU RGE O I S MARR I AGE 20 1
a nd ff r n t a s d v ry d ign ity v y r m mb r n
o er a e f th
e e ,
e er e e a ce o e
ex ch n g af w h t h d n c b n h ly v w s
e o a a o e ee o o .
H c uld h v d sc i b d ll this n d h v dd d t i t th j y
e o a e e r e a a a e a e o e o
o f th t tisti i n w h sh w s i r f ut b l f cts n d p n un c s
e s a c a ,
o o r e a e a a ro o e
th l w e f c us ti n
a oB ut i t pp a s th t his mi n d w s
a o n
. byss a ea r a a a a
in t w hic h
o ch c s w i th ll i ts tt n d n t ss c i ti ns f ll l i k
ea a e, a a e a a o a o ,
e e
a st in t
on e d p w ll H k pt th m l c k d up i n th d pths ;
o a ee e . e e e o e e e
th y u ld n t b r sc u d r b r u ht t l
e co og th ei ght f d y
e e o o o e o a .
R p titi n O f t n n v t s m n s Spi it N v r th l ss i t
e e o e e er a e a a
’
r . e e e e
o n L u di n s t
a m k i ts ff t a m k d o It h d a th i n g t
e e ec re ar e . a no o
d w i th h i s p f ssi n l w k
o P h ps cir umst c s w r
ro e o a or . er a c an e e e
o p ti v
er a h r th t
e h c u ld n t
e e c c un t f r a n d th s w e o o a o o , a e e er e
str n g r
o m r w ryin g n d t m n ti g th n hi s d l i b
e ,
o e ea ti n s a or e n ,
a e er a o ,
i ts dr y en um er a ti o n s a n d r egi str a ti o n s w a s a t ti m es m o r e el o
q u en t f o r h i m th a n th e o qu a c i o us statem en ts w or o f m o uth l by d
an d a ll th e a m en ta ti on a n d l
isc o n ten t th a t m en a n d w om en d
d isc l o se d to hi m Th . er e w as so m uc h h i dd en b ehi n d it a ll , so
th at w h a t th e y tu llyac a sa i d w as n o t th e l
pr i n c ipa m a tter , w as n o t
th e ter r i bl e c a r i c a tu r e, th e tr em en d o us di sen c h an tm en t B ut i t .
w a s that w hi c h l ay i mp i e eh i n i t a ll l db d —
i t m ust b e m emb er e d re
k
tha t h e n ew It, ha d to n ow i t : th e m a n y k di m l abyr i n ths o f mi s
er
y c ll c ti n s f w i tt n n d p i n t d m tt r
, o e o o i pts n d pr f s
r e a r e a e ,
r ec e ,
a oo
o f tr h y n d d c i t c n t i n d i n ll m nn r f p p s w hi h
ea c er a e e o a e a a e o a er ,
c
w uld h v t b sh w n n d th n p r s v d un ti l th y tu n d
o a e o e o a e e er e e r e
y ll w i n th d c um n t b in t Th y w th k ys w ith w hic h
e o e o e ca e . e er e e e
h c uld p n th i r d w ll i n gs p l c s f
e o o e c ur
e d h t d ; th e ,
a e o r an o an a re e
b d r ms in w hi h ki ss s tu d t p i n n d mb r s t p sms
e oo c e rn e o o so a e ac e o s a
o f g ra H k n w th i r s c
e . ts eth i r hi dd e
n l t i n ships ; i t e e re ,
e e re a o
w s h i s t sk t d s
a This s n l f d iss n i n t m d w ith
a o o o . ar e a o e s o ee e
p oo f s ; b th m m ry n d i m gi n ti n w r fill d w i th i t l i k
r o e o a a a o e e e ,
e
a
p dl es p c k stu
ar ff d ’
w i th w ar m - t n t ru m
p y w ieth d i ty o ea e er ,
r ,
bi rr p tty n d b h r n t t ifl s n gin g f r m s i l d b d
za e, e ,
a a or e r e ,
ra o a o e e
p i d mi ll i n r s b i ll f r m th s n i c r si d u
’
t n un
o a a e in c o ff , o e ar e e e a ee
2 02 J AKO B W ASSERMAN N
c up to a g f
a r ter
oun i d
n a ho te , f r o m a f o r ge l n ote to a f o r ge d d
c h eque . T l
h en the etter s, m oun ta in s o f th em , m ou n tai n s o f i es, l
of suff er in g, In su tin
g l
an d f u of h p oc r i ti c a ll p r o m i ses y l .
H a l
gg g i d v
n , en ea r in g, a o w in ,
g g gbl
a m i n , fl a tter i n , sc o ffi n , e x e
g
c r a tin g, a n d e
gg gi nb l
e tter s ; so m e u n r a mma ti c a , o th ers i n a
g l
no bl e st eyl . T b “
l
h en usi n ess etter s : I h a e the h o n ou r to i n f o r m v
y o u ,
”
f ll
o ow e d by ll
c a o u s p er fi dy h er e w er e
p . T
o eti c o ut o ur
p
y
i n gs ; thr ea ten in g, sp i n g, a n d exp r ess etter s ; a ff ec tin g o e-l et l l v
l v
ter s an d etter s o f f o r gi en ess, a n d a gai n o thers f u o f ha tr e ll d
an d d vl
e i i sh c a umn l y .
s imply thi s : O utward and inward law not only have noth ~
system has long lost its sacred and inviolable character and
h as taken on in its stead a haphazard , superficial opp or ,
B W A S S ERMAN N
i mp o r ta n c e I a m c on en t th a t f o r e er
. ma v y l nd f m l fid e a e a e
dvd l
in i i ua th er e i s o n ly l
o n e c o m p em en t p o ssi e b l W h t hu m n . a a
soc i ty w u ld g i n
e o by ti n u l i
a s
,
f ppr p i t ly
a c on a n c r ea e o a o r a e
m tc h d p i s i n p c
a e a r
p l u
,
b u y n y ea n d i n pu r i ty
e, eas d r e, o a c ,
a an
l n l in s is h dly i m gi b l
c ea e s, arC s qu tly ll at i ti na s e. on e en a r es r c on
re r d i g th
a n h i f m e ct sh uld b
o ce o m v d ; n i th
a m n
a e o e re o e e er e
g
n r w m n
o oh u ld b h i n d
e s d by m l d ium th b u d n f
o e er e or a o ,
e r e o
t i
a er n ty m t h h
or d r b y c n si d
o er ti n s foo v i tu f m
o o er a o o r e, ro
p ,
t sti g
e nnd p i n i n g l l th d i ff
a ex er e nt f ms f ph n m n
c a e er e or o e o e a
and dv tu w hi h ist i n th i d si r s n d i m gi ti n If
a en re c ex e r e e a a na o .
th y p
e ss i ti
osse t th y w i ll m k i t ll th k n r ; i f th y
ns nc ,
e a e a e ee e e
h v a e aw i ll t s i l l i f i t w i ll l d th m t th i g l
o oc a e, Any ea e o e r oa .
thi g i p
n f s b l t w h t is t p n t t m d m i g D
re er a e o a a r ese er e arr a e. o
n t f
o thea r u
pp ssi e s f m l s re v n th i on om p l t d i s l uor a or e e e r co e e so
v y v
In e er p er son , e en i n su c h a s app ea r mo st r ec ess, th er e i s a n kl
d
i n h er en t esi r e to a tta i n a an c e hi s must a n d w i nab l . T ll fi lly
c o n u er e e r
q f v y
or m o f e en er a ti o n
g A h st er i c a s p d
a sm ha s . y l
c h a in e d
o ur w o r ld l
w i th a w s a n d c usto ms tha t w er e o n c e si gn ifi
c a n t a n d n ec essa r , b ut w hi c h to a y
a r e sen se ess an d m er e so dy l ly
y y k
ma n em pt h us s Si n c e c api ta p un i sh m en t h a s een a o ish e ,
. l b b l d
b
th e n u m er o f mu r er s c o m mi tte ha s ec r ea se d r o h i i ti o n s d d d . P b
k l
ma e c r i mi n a s ; p un i sh m en ts c r ea te c r i m es h er e i s so meth in g . T
d l
w on er f u i n m a n , a n a r en t esi r e th a t c a nn o t b e sti e , w hi c h d d ll d
w as c on e fid d
to th e go o i n h i m , e en i f th at go o b e m er e d as v d ly
a t1n y g r ai n .
R espectfull y y our s ,
JAKO B WASSERMANN .
M A R T A K A R L W E I S
W
IT H IN the domain of Christian culture both as r e ,
2 09
2 10 MART A KARL W E I S
only on account of her sex and is thus debarred from -all
intellectual and spiritual development O nly an in
.
in mind how even the simple st young girl put s all her
pride and honour into the determination that her hu sband
Should b eco me s omething that he should continually de
,
—
able claim the Claim that woman should not change
became an endeavour to thwart the growth of life in the
case of female individuals whose minds as well as their
,
mother and pro stitute the student and worker type has
,
are holy as guarantee the most ample scope for her spirit
ual and intellectual development O f course a sanction .
,
M a rr i age in t he Ne w W o rl d
M ONG the many subj ects agitating the minds of the
A people of the United States today none compares in
its insistence and acuteness with the question of the future
of the institution of marriage in A merica A complete .
2 16
MARR I AGE I N TH E NEW W ORLD 2 17
count for the earlier beginnings of the laxity and the more
exaggerated conditi ons manifested at present .
for here the numbers of men and women are about equal .
are null and void in another There are only two i ssues .
o f the d i fl er en t states .
were able- they lavi shed money and material pos se ssions
upon their wives looking to them t o symbolize the suc
,
B EA T R I C E M H I N KLE
.
—
to engage in all forms of labour professional educa ,
into the new and untried form s o f labour which the mas
culine world o ff ered .
ices It is safe to say that neither the men nor the women
.
after the final adj ustment had been made to the separa
tion the transformation o f the wife from submergence
, ,
capacities .
p i n es
.s Hard pioneering work s till existed for the ma ss
The girl enters the marriage state today with a full sense
o f herself as an equal partner in a relation which means a
tical subj ects for the whole tendency i s to raise the status
,
cus s
.
23 2 B EA T R I C E M . H I N KLE
family The possession o f an earning capacity by the wife
.
of the home and children and their out side work is n eces
,
sar ily limited They are thus confronted with the ques '
toward which all women strove But this was not woman .
the wife told me that she felt the experience had brought
her an increased consciousness and a new understanding
of life A fter the first months o f bewilderment and dis
.
traction the adj ustment began and she looked for and
,
to make the change with the least possible inj ury to all
concerned It is to be observed that the children were
.
not considered at all until the father s initial aim had been
’
eated shows also the e ff ect upon the man o f the changed
p ,
Spirit and impul se for service which has been the dominant
spirit of women in the past and which formerly found
,
the neces sity exi sts for an honesty to w ard oneself for ,
s erious
—
reflection and thoughtful action intellect co
operating with feeling— in order to insure the ba sis for
the development of a true relationship .
I r ea li ze th a t I ha v b e een l i vin g d r a ea m w i th H ar vy e . No w
my y
e es a r e o
p en e d an d I I ha e
s ee the si tu a ti o n a s it r ea lly i s . v
n ot f a c e d b v d
i t e f o r e, b ut ha e tr i e to pr et en tha t i t w as a ll r i ght d
a n d tha t thi n s w er e a s I w a n te
g th em to b e d
hi s h a s mea n t , O f . T
c o ur se, th at I h a e v b
een e m oti o n a ou n , a n d thus un a lly b
e to d bl
c o m e thr o ugh to a n y r ea l
huma n r e a ti on sh ip ar e l
h as een . H vy b
so j lea ou s o f m e i n e er w ay — v y
h e c a n t ea r tha t I shou
’
be b ld
l v y
succ essf u o r h a e a n thin g o f m y o w n , a n d h e c on sta n tl c r iti
'
y
v y
c i z es e er th in
g b
a o u t m e an d e er th i n
g th a t I do Ov y
u r who e . l
l d
ma r r i age r e ati on i s epen en t upo n his moo s d ’
B ut I ve go t to d .
MARR I AGE IN T HE N EW W ORLD
w or k i t th r ough . k
I n o w I mustn t r un a w a , a th o ugh som e
’
y l
ti mes I thi n k b
I c a n t ea r i t an y o n ger
’
l
I thin ther e must b e. k
so me n ew r e a ti on l b b d
et w een h us a n s a n d W i es th a t c a n b e a t v
ta i n ed . B ut to ga i n th at ther e must b e a r ea mo r a i t etw een l l yb
m
the , f o r th e n ew e o uti on o f v l o e a n d r ea i t l v l y .
the situation .
, ,
individuali sm .
ter nally the living of the new ideals has produced a reality
not met in the finest marriages o f the past There are .
this she has her hu sband s sy mpat h y and often his coun
’
,
shall develop .
T H O M A S M A N
M a r ri a ge in T r a n si t i o n
since you have intru sted us with subj ect s for literary treat
and has not the right to say : This thing this extremely ,
2 44
MARR I AGE I N T RAN S ITI O N 2 45
are bad times in which the neces sary the original order no , ,
spirit the
,
“
eternal Homeric ”
; D ickens Balzac and Tol , ,
s toy ,
and Wagner in the theatre, wrought with it their
gigantic works Whatever still exi sts of the great epic
.
“ ”
Woman as the housewife to man was al s o civil
,
“
And
, ,
.
”
he shall be thy lord and ma ster is not merely biblical ;
it is O ld Frankish as well What we are experiencing .
,
”—
ful which is a human characteristic but not a truly ,
“ ”
manly one ; ambition is no longer set on being manly
or
“
womanly ”
. O r el se he knows that he is beautiful .
stage ,
subj ect to authority but as p o ssessing an inde
,
—
if ou young people and we wish them pro sperity in
r
because this subj ect is now practically free from all its
former taboos A nd doubtle ss it is on this account that
.
.
,
book that the genesis of the state itself may have actually
arisen out o f this a ff ective sphere N or can homosexual
.
the intere sts N ature has in the matter, the love— illusion
which is only her s eductive trick a means O f realizing ,
cip l e o f beauty and form does not spring from the sphere
1 “ He w ho s ees b ea uty w i th h i s y
e es is l dy b p
a r ea es ok en by d e a th .
”
25 2 TH O MAS MAN N
f ection : it is not creative ; it does not build families and
races .
laws of the Jews who were from the earliest times well
,
They are one, and it is quite impo ssible t o say which came
first marriage or fidelity ; and both seem equally absurd
,
ter ial life with a foundation , the youth had already dealt
with the questions of marriage and fatherhood in a very
pessimistic sense and spirit The metaphysical experience
.
”
“
, .
ss en
g e
T r a ns la tor s N ote
'
.
25 6 TH O MAS MAN N
The latter as I have already pointed out is intrinsically
, ,
“
di sloyal wh ereas marriage according to Cohen is th e
, , ,
tab lish men t o f spirit in the body ; and the latter comes
first because flesh and blood are a part of all sacramental
, ,
—
among other things explains its decay must be sub or di
“ ”
nate to the other ; and in the old the classical form of ,
“ ”
then marriage and the household menaced and ren
,
“
he means may fulfil it self in mutual love and help
,
.
“ ”
f er entiates itself from all others ; free since with it ,
go not too badly but that its moral ba sis is not of the best
,
“ ”
marry a woman simply in order to pos ses s her The .
“ ”
It must be exactly this di fl er en ce which exalts that habit
which permits the persistence of the maj ority of marriages
until death against all individual inj uries and di sturbance s ,
Human .
woman as an individual .
g e ou s since
,
for a considerable time th e change left her no
dence and its severance from family and home has had
the e ff ect of relieving woman The domestic administra .
has won the possibility o f a life of her own ; she can now
“ ”
lead an independent manless exi stence without p er ceiv
,
TH E MARR I AGE OF TH E F U T U RE 2 65
every kind with trained teachers and nurses will more and
, ,
deeper the spiritual life o f the parents the less will they
,
desires .
woos the virgin but not the personality These are bad
,
.
ence in which the woman can support her self, and in which
even children are or need to be only in the rare st in stances
, ,
M
ARR I AGE in the future can survive only if borne by a
personal relationship from human being to human
being This new marriage will be more difficult in many
.
tools o f life All Obj ects o f use are more and more con
.
These are eternal for the relatio nship o f the sexes can
,
T he P rop er Choi c e of P a r tn er s
—
principally because people usually fall in love a care
ful distinction should be made between infatuation and
real love— with a type different from that which would
prove suitable for marriage E very on e is aware that
.
superficial character s .
,
.
d l p k
.
“ — ”
di scovery in the s oul image ( S eel en bi l d ) which is 4
,
a s in a mirror
“ —
the reflection of h is own soul image ”
,
4 p
C o m a r e Jung s P s y ch o log i s ch en T yp en,
’
Z
u r i c h , R a s ch er a n d C o m
p y
an l
( Eng i sh tr a n s a ti o n u i sh e l p bl d by H
a r c o u r t, r ac e a nd C om an ) B p y .
TH E PRO PER C H OIC E OF PAR T NERS 28 1
the same time the best answer to the question under con
“
s ideration : that to ask oneself How can I in a practical ,
,
help for the blind ; that is to say for those lacking instinct ,
.
with eyes sees the landscape in front o f him ; for the con
tact between souls is j ust as direct as that experienced in
the material world O ne can only advi se each per son to
.
open h is eyes to put a side prej udices and self illu sions
,
-
,
,
2 82 C O U N T H ERMAN N KEYSERL I N G
not here go into further detail s on this point that life is ,
“ ”
essentially significant and consequently an expression of
,
5
C om p a r e th e ch a pt
er on A d en i n my T r a v el D i a ry .
2 84 C O U N T H ERMAN N KEYSERL I NG
o ff spring of another scholar or lawyer The polarity o f .
the sexes even implies that equality of exp erience does not
“
mean equality of significance If in hi stor y conventional .
”
marriage ( S tand eseh e ) seems to contradict t h is it is due ,
“ ”
quent ca ses as when women dedicate their lives to save
men wh o from their own personal point o f view are lost
,
.
7
s cience What is the ultimate common aim of all such
regulations ? The perpetuation of a special s tanding or
rank in the natural and cultural order A nd if the gen .
8I ha e ea e a u st i e w i th th i s ques ti o n i n th e ch a er e nt t e
W eltub er l eg en h ei t i n my S ch b pf er is ch e Er k en ntn s
' '
i
.
.
2 86 C OU N T H ERMAN N KEYSERL I N G
dent : O nly people of the same standing can be comple
mentary to one another in the true sense If they belong .
between the unity o f the single soul and that o f the mar
r iage relation we shall realize that it is impossible to
,
ess en ti a l c on di ti on f or th e p r op er ch oi ce 0f p ar tn er s th at
or reflection o f —
correct j udgment this is often the case
with women ( consequently their feelings rarel y urge them
to make ra sh deci sions ) rarely with man Here we are
, .
“ ”
people suppose that conventional marriage ( S tan des eh e )
was conventional from the outset This is not at all the .
fas hion its soul anew then the next generation would
, ,
cance of all that the reader will find in these books has
been anticipated by this es say I n fact , the special state .
9 v l k Elli C h i f P t
S ee Ha e oc l th w k f F ! d s 8
’
o ce o a r n er s , a so e or s o ore an
M g a H i h f ld d h i ll g w h i h d l w i h
n us r sc e i i w i d st
an s co ea u es , c ea t s ex n ts e
P b b ly th m
s en s e. romp h iv w k
a th bj t i Hi h
e o st c o re en s e or on e su ec s r sc
f ld hl ht k d J li P ttm V V y v l
’ ’
e G s S es c
g ec s gun e, tu tt a r t, u us u a nn s er a er a u
b l i G S h ib M d i l Ex mi i
.
a e s c B fre M i g w hi h
er s
’ “
e ca a n at o n e or e arr a e,
”
c
pp d i T h W ld H lth A g
.
’
a ea r e n 9 5 e or s ea u u st, 1 2
d i S gg ti
, .
B d A t gg ti
10 ’
S ee au ou n s u es on an u os u es on .
2 92 C O U N T H ERMAN N KEY S ERL I N G
kno w today that the natural element s of life are im
mutable and that acquired Ch aracters are tran smitted so
,
12 d xp d d p
T h i s i e a i s e a n e i n th e Jey p ur ch a ter o f my T r a v el D i a r y a nd
p
th e c h a ter D er S i n n d es oku men i s ch en Z us ta n ds i n D i e n eu ents tehend e
Welt .
T HE PROPER C H OIC E OF PAR T N ERS 2 93
tory A nd in cases such that the nece ssity for birth con
.
13 l
T h i s h a s a r ea dy b
een f r equen tl er f o r me yp
i n A mer i c a d
S ee T h e .
“
l v d v p ”
l i
L egi s ati e a n d A mi ni st r a ti e A s ec t s o f S ter i i z a t on , Eug en c s Rec o r i d
ll
O fli ce B u eti n , Vo l X , 1 91 4 ; a ls o G u nth er s K le n e Ra ssen kun d e,
.
’
i
1 93 p . .
2 94 C OU N T H ERMAN N KEYSERL I N G
vidual rights for the good of the maj orit y cannot be Ob
j e cte d to A nd toda y as
. far as I can se e thi s form of
, ,
but to elevate the standard of all clas ses wit h out excep
tion there should be only pure stock bred regardle ss of
, ,
14
of birth as an imperative condition for every marriage .
14 d
T h i s i ea i s w o r k e o ut mo r e f u d lly
a n d f r o m a S i gh t l ly d i ff er ent
po i n t o f V i ew i n Z ur U eb er cw i n d u n q d es B os en d ur c h G u tes , P ar t V, i n
my W eq zur Vollend ung, D a r msta t, Otto R ei ch l Ver a g d l .
2 96 C OU N T H ERMAN N KEYSERL I N G
right up to the wasting of talented people in technical
pursuits in our own times ; or else they have become
torpid The caste system proved unfavourable to the r a
.
15
p . . . ll
C o m a r e F C S S c h i er s T h e C a s e f o r Eug eni c s, i n T he D a l
’ “
h o us i e R ev i ew
ly v l b l dd d
.
16
p
C om a r e th e e tr eme x a ua e w o r k s o f L o th r o S to p
ar , es e p
c i a l ly hi s R ev o lt a g a i n s t C i v i l i za ti o n, New Y l
o r k, C h a r es S c r i n e r s S on s ,
’
b
a n d T h e Ri s i n g T i d e o
f C o lor a g a i n s t Whi te W or ld S upr ema cy T o
x p v d dd
.
w h a t a n e tent th e Eur o e a n r a c es h a e et er i o r a te ur i n g t h e c o ur s e o f
th e c en tur i es i s g r a h i c a p lly
a n d t er r i b ly p
o r tra e yd
i n G r a nt s T he P as s
’
K l ei n e Ra ss en kund e E ur op a s, M unch en , I
F Leh ma nn
. . .
T HE PRO PER C H OIC E OF PAR T N ERS 2 97
18
Al bert Reib mayr has shown that it is probable that the
civilizing o f barbaric peoples i n hi storic times was made
p os sible only by intermarriage with civilized people A t .
i
1 92 0, V d
a n enh oec k u n d Ru r ech t p
k
.
site
“
cultural ferment is in reality ever ywhere at hand
”
, , ,
Welt .
T HE PROPER C H OIC E OF PAR T N ERS 3 0 1
p l e
,
r because when people married their first consider ,
are his passions— but the pure and consecrated man makes
of his passions a chariot for G od ”
M an is a human
.
v y
In stin c t i s a n a c ti i t w h i ch a l w ys
a
ppear s
a
to b e d d d
ir ec te to w a r some i d ea, an d
yet i s
u i te w i th o ut a n u h
q y s c .
SC H OP EN H AUER ,
“ ”
encounter such irrational elements in human actions ,
3 05
3 0 6 E RN S T KRE T S C H M ER
real or legitimate if we follow it from the personal into
,
”
proportion is likewi se outside of every ideal of beauty
o f that group of people , it is apprehended sometimes
“ ”
simply negatively as ugly ,
sometimes humorously ,
“
creations which are outside o f e sthetic good proportion ”
, ,
“ ”
phraseology under the designation dyspla stic are on ,
“ ”
valuation of abnormal .
pulsion .
“ ”
Has this valuation of the physically beautiful and
”
ugly a bearing also on the spiritual harmony of married
couples or a significance for the preservation of the spirit
ual qualities of the race ? This has Often been denied with
great emphasis A reasonable opinion says : S piritual qual
.
, , ,
autistic eccentric ) .
1
1 Mo r e d et a i sl l
w i l b e f o un d i n my b oo k, K or p er ha u a n d Ch a r a ter k
d l
( P hys i ca l For m a n d C h a r a cter ) , f o ur th e i ti o n , B er i n, S r i nger , 1 92 4 p .
yp
y ld
T h e c y c l o thy mo us t e s, w h o a r e l i e i n g a n d i nc i n e to fl uc tu ati n g
p d ll
e r i o s o f o sc i v y
l
a ti o n , by v l d
ar b
i n th ei r f ee i n gs s e er a eg r ees etw een
v
th e ly v
i go r o us vy b l d d d pp d
a c ti e a n d th e h ea y l
- oo e h an i c a e T h e i n c i ne
l l p y lly
.
p
to a r ea i s ti c -h umo r o us c o m r eh en si o n o f i f e a nd h s i c a to a t h i ck
b d ly
s et o i s tr uct u r e l d y l
In c a s e o f ment a i s ea s e, th e i n c i n e to ma n i c
dp v l y y yp l
.
e r e s si e ( ci r c u a r ) i n s a n i t T h e sc h i zo th mo us t e s i n c i n e to
l dv p
.
a uti smu s p
( th a t i s, to s i r itu a l i so a ti on ) , to th e e elo ment o f a c o m
pl d l d l dvlp ll p
ic a t e i nn er i f e, t o a o esc ent e e o ments f u o f c r i s es . T h ei r s i r
l v
i tu a l i f e dl p
a r i es f r o m v e i c a t e s u er sen s i ti en es s ( HOld er li n n a tur e s ) t o
d y d p
f r i gi i t o f y l
i s o s it i o n d l
T h e i nc i n e to h umo ur l es s s er i o us n ess, to i ea
p y ly d l y l dl
.
p p b d ly
r o o r ti o n s i n o i ld
gr o w th y ll
I n c a s e o f ment a i se a se, th e w i
gen
d p d p x y i iy
.
3 14
”
dissimilar give the direct impression o f contrast in their
s piritual structure e specially in their temperaments and
, ,
family .
s s —
complicated erotic predi po itions which sometimes lack
s —
impul ive drive and with their tendency to solitude .
cup s
.
in the syntonic .
3 18 ERNS T KRE T S C H M ER
“ ”
Here , as in the case of the e fiects of beautiful and
”
ugly or that of the primitive horror of incest we are
, , !
stin ctive i s not simply identical with the racial intere t nor
s,
the rational with the individual M an y instin cts serve the
.
quent enough But they arise only in part from the tragic
.
‘
nance of one sexual type over the other might p ossess dif
f er ent degrees in the same individual so that strictly , ,
the man .
astounding .
o f M et a tr o p i c
“
T y pus meta tr op i s ch er Fr a u en ( A C er ta n e
“
They instinctively seek to preserve toward them the up
”
ward looking character o f their normal sexual r Ole ; oc
-
at his side .
failed under the burden of her great social ta sks and was
inwardly rej ected by her husband , she herself a pro ,
M a rri a ge as an An a l yti c a l S i tu a t i o n
but even put into the po sition of a father ; and thus all
that need f or tenderness which the child could not gratify ,
the stutterer sets his defect between him self and mankind ,
of which he is afraid as excessive weakness is often con
,
into the snail —Shell of his i s olation before the suppo sed
menace , the more dangerously does terrified illusion
33 4 H AN S VO N H A TTI N G B ERG
change its obj ect H e defends himself ultimately against
.
himself .
his yearning for his other half even where the impulsive ,
one s own exi stence Yet only a very few know how far
’
.
2 In th e c a s e o f th e ma n “
f emin i n e o r p iv i th
a ss e, n at o f th e w o ma n
ma s c u i n e l ”
or a c ti v e, th e x
mo s t e tr eme d v l pm t
e e o en s o f w h i c h b eco me
a pp ar ent i n th e ph eno mena o f ma soc h sm i and di m
sa s .
340 H AN S VO N H A TTI N G B ERG
o fensuality and in the same way when we exaggerate
s ,
If both come into motion the one very rarely will be able ,
3 In th e sa me d eg r ee as th e too f emi ni n e m a n w o u ld d v l p
e e o hi s
l
ma sc u i ni t y ,
h i s to o ma scul i ne W fei w ould b ecome mo r e w o ma nly .
MARR I AGE As A N ANALY TI C A L S IT UA TI O N 34 1
“ ”
development love but only that other less passion
-
,
“ ”
from psychoanalysis the many meanings of resistance
and in what multiform external appearances the s ame
occurrence can be veiled O ften it is recognizable only .
5
5 T h us di b
ner vf hous x l li f ( imp t
s tur a nces i h o t e s e ua e as o ence n t e
h b us d f i gi d i y i h w i f ) f
an or r i ti hi w yn t Th e h ei l o t en a r s e n t s a e t eo r et c a
p i f F dh d b k h di b l
.
i nter r eta t o n o r eu f h m
as tr a ce ac t e s tu r a nc es o u an r e a
i
t on s hip i m si g n p i lly i h fi ar r a e,
g l m x l i v ly
es ec a n t e r st st a es , a o st e c us e
to suc h di b f x l i y W hi l hi i f
s tu r a n ces o se i i j
ua t e t s s o ten tr ue, t s u st a s
f p y h ly i
.
i
c er t a n h i i t at i mi t pi s an er o t c v sc o n c e t on o s c o ana s s
”
to o er
e stim h i mp
a te t e f x li y h
o r ta n c e o x i d d h
se uah t to s uc an e tent, n ee t at t e
b li v h i v y hi g d p d
,
h v
,
i i i
un n t at e m a e co h h
e to e e e t at t tea c es t at
“
e er t n e en s
o n se x l i y T h i x gg i w
ua t
”
v hl s e a yi h er a t o n as ne er t e ess n ec ess a r n t e c on
ly i l p
.
i
t nu ti y f h go t e w hi h w
r ea t an a bj ; d
t ca r o ces s to c e a re su ec t an
t h i
er e n, h h h d ht at g e y i h gh l i
a t e c o ur a h l e to c ar r t t r ou es no t t e ea st
vi f F d S l i y i i ll h w v q i
,
f h i mm
“ ”
o t e l o r ta s er ce o r eu en s u a t s st o e er , u te
lly l k d p i ly l A l h gh m y p p l
.
iv
,
un er s a oo e u on as n ec ess a r un c e a n t ou an eo e
h v v m hi i di i f m l i y w h i h i d y
.
a e o er co e t s nn er c o n tr a ct o n o a or a t c s to a
d v i d f m i g h d i p w hi h w h v m l ly v m i
e o o e an n a an ca c e a e en ta o er c o e s n ot
l m v d i l m f h i i iv I w
,
f or h t at r ea s o n h a on e r e o e n t e r ea o t e n st n ct e t as
y dm h b d w y
.
h f
t er e o r e n ec es s a r im d g ito i e o n s tr a te t e an a a n n t e r oa est a
h w o v y hi g i
e er p y h i l i f h h i gh
t n n o ur h gh s c m i
c e, t e
“
est
”
t ou t s, are ot
v d b y h i mp l i v f
a re t e f h i ;u s m e h or cehi f o t e e r ot c no a tter t at t s o r ce
h as th by ber e d d x l i y If v y hi g
e en un er stoo x li y
as
“
se ua t
”
e er t n is
“
se ua t
”
m k b y w hi h w
.
mp h i
,
“
i uot a t on-
”
h
t en h q t e ar s li ty f ll f c e e a s ze s ens ua a o
h m lv
t e se es .
MARR I AGE As AN ANALY TI C A L S IT UA TI O N 3 45
ever simple the mental translation is made it is difficult ,
within him self When fear arises one can find help in
.
,
Violent demand .
e v er
y cli s tur ha n ce o
f th e m ar i ta l r el a ti on must be regarded
6 An al mo st t er r i fie dy f m l i mi g h h l p
r eti c enc e p v re ent s ma n ro c a n s uc e
v ym m p w i h h i m l f O ly w h h i
,
”
is nc e e er an u st c o e h t se n en t er e s no ot er
di i h b d v l p d h p i f
.
n er v di b
o us d
stur a nc e,
g h d i k m
o es o n e i d o to t e o c to r as a
“
s c
”
an, n or er
to l d h
oa i p i b i l i y p hi m B j
t e ent r e r es ons g l vl i t u on ut us t a s en er a e o ut o n
f h p hy i i
.
p h h
us es k d pp
t e ta s s a n i i o v f h i h
o r tun t es o t e s c an e er ur t er n t e
d i i f d i l d p i i l iv i y
r ec t on o e uc at on a d h p
an f
S r tu a a ct t so un er t e r es su r e o
g w i g d i ffi l i d i pp d y i d v id f
,
ro n h i
c u t es t whi h
at r et c en ce sa ear s c to a s e o o
m i g h
ea n n id f h i d ivi d
t e r es l i i x gg i w h i h h d l f
ue o t e n ua st c e a er a t o n c a e t
h p i i ly him l f I b p ly h i l q i
,
t e a t en t ent r e m
to se t eco es a ur e t ec n c a uest on ,
b h f h i ifi k w l
.
as h g wi g i
t e ro i n h v i n t er est n t e a r o us r a nc es o t e s c en t c no
ed g f m ki d p v ( ph y i g my g p h l gy d b v l l p y
e o an n ro es s o no ra o o an a o e a s
p mi lf b h lp d i d v
, ,
ch ly i ) w h h
o a na s s et er o ne er ts o n es e to e e e n or er to o er
l d iffi l i h m q i kly
,
co m i e nter n a c u t es t e or e u c .
M a rri a ge as a P sycho lo gi c a l Rela tio n ship
V
,
a whole series o f subj ective and obj ective data very heter ,
“ ”
Wherever we Speak of psychological relationship we ,
3 48
MARRI AG E AS A P SY C H O L OG I C AL RE LA T I O N S H I P 3 49
birth of connected consciousness a psychological relation
ship becomes p ossible Consciousness as far as we under
.
,
girls than of young men ) but it has not long risen out o f
,
not compete with the latter or will fall into the hands ,
35 2 C . G JUNG
.
—
S elf will bent on self is broken : the woman becomes a
, ,
until they begin to live their own life and multiply ; and
imperceptibly they overtake him M other s are super .
when man sets to his work with all his strength and will .
But this very moment brings forth the eve ; the second
half o f life sets in P assion changes its face and becomes
.
JU N G
A s a rule this state does not appear simultaneously in
,
clings the more the containing feel s him self forced out
,
.
more he does so the less can the other do the same The
,
.
greater longing ari ses i n him for that unity and undivided
ness so nece ssary to him according to his di sassociated
nature ; and it is generally then that things happen to make
him aware of the conflict He becomes conscious of the
.
himself .
live and the one derives its life from the other
, .
B er li ng.
M ARR I AGE A P SY C H O LOG I C AL ELA TI O N S HI P
As R
36 1
anima E ssentially they are mental images Often in
.
,
o f the proj ective relation ship does not come into con si d
“ ”
cratic The normal man is a fiction although certain
.
,
humanity ? D oes not every one bear the measure for such
evaluation within himself ? Is there a man in the com
p l e te possession of h i s sense s wh o cann o t dis criminate b e
ror and its consequences al w ays lie far apart makes insight
difficult and hardly permits of fruitful experiences for the
individual and for p osterity The thousandfold exp er i.
“ ” “ —
In the concept M an the Fellow M an is inextr i ”
,
man cannot unfold itself apart from these premi ses The .
with laws of its own which do not j ust happen and which
are not to be circumvented without the gravest obj ection s .
to notice the fact , our love relation ships are formed wit h
-
For him who shares our point of View the master of the ,
great measure the sense and the task o f love and marriage
are thus missed one can see from the gro w ing prevalence
,
r i age are not remedies In most such cases one only cre
.
,
ates new inj uries without removing the old The same .
ness .
will let the other feel this and cheat him incessantly out
o f his happy sentiments Flaws in the marital relation
.
,
Lo v e as an Ar t
3 73
3 74
'
H AVE LO C K E L L I S
Th i s primary obj ect we may term the animal end o f mar
r i a ge .
Th i s obj ect remains not only the primary but even the ,
tion of offspring .
o f G od ,
”
to be recognized as a mighty storehouse o f
“
”
force ; and he pointed out the significant fact that in the
course of human progress its importance increase s rather
than diminishes While it is perfectly true that sexual
.
of souls The outward and visible Sign has been the con
.
prayer .
“
Every true lover it has been well said by a
”
,
“
woman knows thi s and the worth of any and every
, ,
see the que stion o f sexual abstinence discus sed when the ,
1 M r s Ha v el ock
. ll
E i s, Ja mes Hi nton
, p . 1 80 .
378 H AVE LO C K E L L I S
desirability o f sexual gratification is asserted or denied ,
and erotic side are O f far greater exten sion than any act
of procreation ; they may even exclude it a ltogether : and
when we are concerned with th e welfare of the individual
human being we must enlarge our outlook and deepen
our insight .
organism .
sy stem ,
and e special ly that of the ductles s glands has ,
op m en ta l —
and balancing o n the whol e organism of the
,
3 Th t m e m t h v b
er s ee d vi d by P f
s o M
a i P ml
e een e se r o es s o r a ur c e ar e ee,
P er s ona l i ty a nd C ond u ct, 1 9 1 8 , pp 1 04, 1 07 , a n d 1 1 3 B ut i t i s un d er s to od
l xt d d I v d
.
v
.
”
sake . But it is certainly true t h at in proportion as we
,
rema i ns i mpossible .
3 82 H AVE LO C K EL L I S
N entering this field indeed we have not only to gain
I true knowledge but to cast o ff false knowledge and
, ,
all thi s is difli cult and for some people even painful ; to
,
p er i en ce it
,
so that while,
the hu sband is content wit h a
—
Few people realize few indeed have the knowledge , ,
she h as not mastered the art of love with the result that ,
are born But during all this time the hu sband has never
.
But she has never once been profoundly aroused and she ,
has never once been utterly sati sfied The deep fountains .
. .
face ; now that she has grown mature and that they have
been stimulated yet unsati sfied for so long they have
, , , ,
unfair to her hu sband and oppo sed to all her moral tradi
tions We are not here concerned to consider th e mo st
.
t h en often so late .
cient growth s whi ch may once have been true and beauti
,
4
cies . It removes inhibitions even inhibitions that were
,
consciou sly placed upon him self with the best moral in ,
, ,
—
N othing it has been said is so seriou s as lust to use the
beautiful term which has been degraded into the expres
sion of the lowest forms of sen sual pleasure— and we
have now to add that nothing is so full of play as love .
how it is that the brain organs and the sexual organs are ,
4 S ee f o r i n st a nc e H W Fr i nk , M or b id Fea r s
. . a nd C o mp uls i ons , 1 91 8,
p
C h a ter X .
390 H AVE LO C K EL L I S
and equal dignity Thus the adrenal glands among the
.
,
and intimately associated alike w ith the brain and the sex
organs As we rise in the animal series brain and adrenal
.
,
their human play has become one with that divine play
of creation in wh ich old poet s fable that out of the dust,
once created M an .
392 M E C H T I L DE L IC H N O W S K Y
limousines .
the strength and all the forces of N ature with its primae
Val hostility to re strictions of civilization culture and art , ,
.
su ffering .
i
r age .
reason ;
b Wedding for love, entered into in later and in
.
take up one s cross and follow the L ord ; but thi s is only
’
and religion has never yet app ointed for the participant s ,
, ,
tary enemy o f every art since only art can tame her is , ,
ful work which we call the civilized world with its lan ,
and less than one But enormous diffi culty lies in the
.
waits in vain for melodies ; and even when the two artists
have completed their work but f ew will be aware of it , ,
But let the same courtesy prevail even when there are no
witnesses True courtesy in daily intercourse that is
.
, ,
“
of one s neighbour be virtue : when it germinates o f it
’
”
self and therefore grows wild it is neither the one nor
, ,
them from his fellow players but peers industriou sly into ,
not to gain a pers onal advantage but to let the others win ,
.
s — n o s —
M arried people tand G od k w l in life ! But it
would do them no inj ury if they lived as if they stood on
a stage so that they would not so often step out o f their
,
Divine .
M
ARR I AGE is a form of completion of life completion ,
-
.
”
of the Buddhi st canon : A ll beings consist in nutrition
“
“
the individual being as illu strated by the phra se the
, ,
”
other half in speaking o f married per sons It represent s
,
'
life This desire or urge lies in the final anal ysi s at the
.
, ,
406
40 8 PAU L DA H LKE
nay it is even now bearing them There are laws of
,
.
th e score of their
“
naturalness ”
E ating and drinking
.
v i ce ver sa
s
When thi s difference is apprehended under
.
,
f ect
.
”
A nd to be perfect means to require no completion .
its nature does not p oss ess the attachments and comple
,
“
Buddha referred when he said : It is hard to find such as
”
understand For man understands be st what lies in the
.
“
essay on S amsara and N irvana in the periodical D er
”
,
and spiritual base and r efin ed— for its exi stence ; nourish
,
“ ”
completion toward an ideal wholene ss in it self wh ich ,
forms the ear and the sounds the no se and the smells
, , ,
the tongue and the tastes the body and the tangibilities
, ,
E n ough n ow f or ever ! ,
”
being the N oble in itself to ,
“
There are two kinds of comfort , ye priest s Which are .
”
greate st comfort Nih X II I ) For where
-
.
,
.
r i age
,
di sclaim completion by nutrition as well ; that is ,
by starvation ?
The answer is : N o ! for what matters is not the act of
feeding but that there should lurk no lust no passion
, , ,
The Oil of the flame of life the oil by which life sustains ,
”
“
It i s t h ir st that creates man ( tanha i aneti pa r isani
S ani y Ni h I )
.
- .
,
.
“
to a p lay on the word marriage M arriage is essen .
”
—
reason that the Anga ttar a Nihaya says : Three things O
“
,
and is not hidden The disk of the sun shines openly and
.
be historically proven .
self .
”
good o f my followers This again is indeed taking a
.
rived from the Buddhi st insi ght into the nature of reality ,
of anything ( M aj j h —Nih
”
. .
,
”
as a Fetter to this j oint work on matrimony I have not ,
MARR I AGE As A F E TT ER 42 1
a n d ev er thi n
y g e ls e i s d ifl er en t L et what I
. have said
all have great s ignifi cance but they must n ever be taken
,
422
4 4
2 MA TH I LDE VO N K E M N IT z
soul .
”
A ctually not only the permanent union but also
, ,
way along which the soul is led without any regard for ,
D i e Hei mk eh r , P a si n g v o r M un c h en
“ ”
.
4 6
2 MA THI LDE VO N KE M N IT Z
body, and in the germ — cell s it experiences an exceptionally
clear obj ectification In spite of this deep anchorage in
.
“ ”
elective a sceticism of genius with the asceticism not in
4
accord with genius The former is in harmony with
.
a nd
“
E th i c s o f V l
er a g
“
D i e Hei mk eh r , ”
P a s i ng vor
M ii nch en .
4 2 8 MA TH I LDE VO N K E M N IT z
”
of the Classes E dda ) Following the introduction o f
,
.
“ ”
barred as sin by the universal contempt for the union of
the sexes except when it was for the sake of procreation
,
.
“ ”
The morality of the last century deduced from the dis
,
first step in the splendid ascent which the ego must accom
MARR I AGE AS F U L FI L M EN T 2
4 9
may smother his own soul and that of his child The act .
“
of generation carries thus the highest consecration is ful ,
”
fil ment to man ; but man can tran sform it into a soul
murdering p oison In view of the erroneou s teachings
.
“ ”
The life o f the more highly di ff erentiated unicellular
entities speaks clearly in regard to the exceptional value of
th e union of choice for tho se beings propagate themselves
,
period they attach them selve s clo sely to the chosen being
of like kind Now the two united ones exchange with
.
,
“
immortal living beings only by the more highly di ff er
”
en tiated which have developed single parts o f the cell
,
it self again suddenly to the cho sen one with all the soft ,
“ ”
ness the plasticity of childhood It is this delicate
, ,
.
than in its mature numbness That is the rea son why many
.
sumes in the union of choice the ori ginal form thi s must
, , ,
for that reason from year to year less imaginable and less
attainable to the struggler for existence I f the soul has .
o ut a skin
”
it feel s the mo st delicate fluctuations S harp
, .
and profound are the pleasures and pains which the chosen
on e prepares A s in earlie st childhood the adult sud
.
,
“
denly sees him self again in an excess o f j oy
,
exulting ,
”
high as heaven ; and eyes which for years have not known
the tears o f sorrow overflow with su ffering as in the most ,
r iage this will has been appea sed in the most precious way ,
“ ”
the world about him , in the so called civilized states -
,
rea s on can perceive the law s for the creation o f plea sure ,
“ ”
o f men of all civilized people s su ff er from this illness ,
9
throughout h is entire life the maj ority of men have b e
,
k b d x
,
” “
d er E r oti i m E i n zelleb en ( E r o ti c R e i r th : T h e D i s ea se Fi a ti o n s o f
“
x l
S e u a i ty ,
” “
v p
Fr o m th e R ac e De e lo ment o f S ex ua li ty, a nd De elo ment
” “
v p
I dvd
o f Er ot i c i sm i n th e n i i u a l
43 8 MA TH I LDE VO N KE M N IT Z
happiness as something holy and thus they are generally
,
the one thing for which they are suited if indeed they ,
sul ting of the other sex and of marriage are the proven
poi se quiet and the longing for solitude enter into them
, ,
.
ships which have only the name in common with true mar
r iage, the reign o f egotism in the husband and o f altruism
“ ”
in the wife seems to foster marital peace considerably .
the husband does not see the j ustice nay the necessity , , ,
band S ince with her thi s pleasure is not as with the male
.
,
“ ”
married people wh o call themselves happy in marriages
which in fact are no more than the mausoleum of their
souls A nd the nearer they are to spiritual death , the less
.
they can know that the twilight of this vault is not sun
light and that its air permits n o fre sh free breath ,
.
have remained the same after their union But the more .
long run to lift this shallow being into the higher atmo s
,
MARR I AGE As F U L FI L M EN T 445
p here o f
his sp irit , since it is unable to fly But on the .
other hand the little soul every day yes every hour with
, , , ,
its sphere ; and Very soon wounds and scars will sho w
themselves A t first they are tiny abrasions of the skin ;
.
deeper .
”
the children , must a human being who is close to the di
vine exchange bli ss with on e wh o draws him down spir
i tually for only this type of union , not the common h ome
, ,
M A E D E R
44 6
448 ALP H O N S E MAEDER
the other The actual solution however, consists in the
.
,
—
bears within itself a danger the possibility of becoming
petty narrow-minded unj ust and subj ective The man ,
, , ,
.
h a rn an thinking .
f n —
found su ering of o e sidedness and loneliness An
f .
sanction and demand that the wife should obey the hus
band are barbaric and with time have become ridiculous
, ,
The process has begun and until n ow has taken e ffect only
to a limited extent N evertheless the approach of the
.
,
sphere .
S he can and will be, not only wife and mother but al so the ,
“ ”
g a i n os
) o f the ancient mysteries the my s tic union o f the
mystics Of all ages—sexual union was to them a prototype
,
1 8 ee th e im p o r ta n t e xp l an a ti o n s o f M Bu b er i n I ch und Du (I a nd
I l V
.
T h ou ) , n se er l a g, 1
92 3 .
45 6 A LP H O N SE MAEDE R
Helen a profound transformation of character ( soul )
,
tary ego which has ari sen out of the longing and the ma
“ ”
turing o f the consciou s masculine I j ust as man and ,
culi ar to him between subj ect and obj ect needs to be over
2
G o eth e s f a i r
’
y l
t a e, th e ta le o f No v a li s
’
p
S o h i e, a nd M ey r i ck s ’
l
G ol em f ur ni sh i nter esti ng a lego r i c a l re p r es enta t o n s i of th i s p r oc es s.
45 8 ALP H O N SE MAEDE R
position toward mystical introversion allows him to ex
er i en ce development not in a dis s ociated obj ect but
p , ,
rather in his own still unified subj ect ( tat twarn asi the ,
”
o f the depths has by laying bare the processes o f the um
,
and monotheism .
following mu st be s aid .
M uch su ff ering d
unhappine ss would thereby be
an
avoided and a new and fertile life might gro w out of the
,
W E h aVe
followed the tran sformation of the primary
polygamous sexual to the monogamous —
-
spiritual
disposition M uch the same things may be said about the
.
3 S ee A M a ed er Hei lung u nd
.
,
E n trw i
c kl ung i m S eel en leb en ( Hea li ng
a nd D ev el op ment i n th e Li f e of
“
th e S oul ) , R a s ch er 85 C o , Z
u r i c h a n d'
p by
.
und N eur o l og i e, 1 92 5 .
M a rri a ge as Mystery an d C o mma n d
lot o f birth and has been born without his choice But
, .
earth Here the line between the sacred and the profane
.
man has received may make it either the one or the other
to him And so, too, may the marriage which he has en
.
eternal since the unending and the eternal enter into our
,
only the secret can reveal itself P oetry and form , the .
customs of the time and the law of the state The ethics .
him neither the one which he has received nor the other
,
cover and display but they do not reveal ; they are always
,
tion to its goal , j ust as that which comes forth out of mys ~
distant— can bring new poetry into the years but even to ,
“ ”
the law of the everyday ; everything mu st be its ful
filmen t . To guard the mystery, to preserve the com
mand everything within marriage must have its character
,
in thy hou se and when thou goest upon thy way ; when
”
thou layest thyself do w n and when thou risest up This .
M a rri a ge as a S a c ra ment
472
MARR I AGE AS A S A C RA M E N T 47 3
course, marriage and marriage above all else would have
, ,
kind will preach to the stones ; for the voice o f his mis
,
still far from establi shing the bond of husband and wife
as the moral and indi ssoluble welding o f a pair into a
unit There remained entire or partial freedom for the
.
Vo l . .
, .
392 ff .
MARR I AGE A S A S A C RA M EN T 477
M ahabh ar ata and O dysseus and P enelope ) has signifi
, ,
cance for our purp ose primarily only as a fact in the his
tory of religion ; even outside of Christianity the bond ,
2
. T o demonstrate the p rogress and the deepening o f
the above -mentioned idea in Christendom where it has ,
must be discussed .
self from her and that she was once more free to dispose
o f her p erson Jesus opposes this marriage law with the -
.
“ ”
created as hu sband and wife and once yoked together ,
one as well as for the other part ; for the husband and
wife are equal to each other in birth since they both share ,
in the on e image of G od “
Have ye not read that he who
.
,
near not only the heroic ethics of the man of the K ingdom
,
2 d y
8 0, a c c o r i ng to th e o ld S r i a c t r a n s l ati o n, r ea d
th e r e ol uti o n a r v y
w or d
s i n M a tt . c onc er ni n g th e equa l r i ghts of th e s e es ef o r e G o d x b .
4 8 0 J O SE P H B E RN H ART
the transformation o f the temporary and evil through the
medium of the E ternally G ood and P erfect The Jew
-
.
“ ” “ ”
struggle against the Ol d for the creation of the new
man he is led up on the way of the spirit , which repudiates
,
sensuality and whose goal and might and figure are the
,
fight f or its existence and its divine right against its denial
in G nosticism and M anichaeism nay again st the hybr is
, ,
olic Church o f our times has not added any new thought
,
not aim and goal in them selves but rather the material ,
end .
quire for His sake even if thou wouldst cast away thy
wife and run away from thy master and f ailest to keep
thy bond For what is it to Him whether thou keepest
.
,
fact of this p ower stands and falls with the p ower o f the
fact The p olygamous marriage al s o which was less o f
.
,
took place not merely that they might live with it , but
that they might live one through the other in perfection ;
marriage was self perfecting union in sexual contrast
-
,
, ,
other any longer and each one is free to enter into a new
,
ment .
”
D oes this need explanation ? O ne knows the
“ ” “
fate of the inwardly untrue relation ship from moral
”
motives ; on e also knows how soon how often the Cana ,
—
marriage p itcher stands waterless and that there is an
-
48 8 J O S E P H B ERN H ART
being In the span between the sub moral impulse and
.
-
and again feels the confl i ct ar i smg from this double order .
—
other The tendency to devotion whether it is in its
.
with the whole o f its exi stence has entered into a union
with the t otality of another, with i ndeed the will to en
during full union—and this is the ca se of the m on oga
,
house ? ( Ar nim )
”
.
“
A nd the kiss remains within ”
more deeply still in the inner law and sense o f the marital
E ros in its inborn destiny to be seized by the right o f
,
flesh and spirit are crossed and in the vortex o f their point
,
“ ”
of intersection the destiny of human being is decided
“ ”
for the man and for the woman as the destiny marriage ,
which does not yet reveal itself truly in the first dawn of
the promise It lies in the twilight of knowledge that
.
by the clever man for the struggle for inner form The .
the symbolic case of the ego world tension , like the p olar
-
“
opinion : Indissoluble it must be There is no suff i cient .
”
reason for separation .
—
slip knot for the tie .
“
I f the case of the man be so with
his wife , it is not good to marry ( M att 1 9:
”
The
.
time to pronounce it .
moral reaches out beyond itself and this other world can
,
the fight between the flesh and the spirit the side of the
spirit is stronger from the beginning and defends itself
again st the claims of the fle sh but in marriage the way
,
same here as there ; the way to it, its sancti fication through
the etho s of the Cross pas ses through marriage as through
,
— “
man should be made free for it va car e Deo to be open ,
“ ” “ ”
Th ou as a representative, as a Sign in the sense
di scussed is consummated in the harmonious union , as
,
”
natural or s omething else it is another N ature of a,
—
Third outside of us in which we are O ne the soil in
5 02 J OS E P H B E RN H AR T
which each o f us takes root the space in wh ich each o f us ,
another not for our sake but that in this event of I and
, ,
, ,
‘
r i age also in the idiom o f religion , is created toward
,
of that is S in
against the Holy G host M ust it be perpetuated ? Could
.
,
. .
,
”—
( The Destruction o f M arriage
“
all published at Mu
nich by G eorg M ii ller ) A mong the men of learning are
‘
“
C h i n esi sch e L eb ensw ei sh ei t ( The Chinese Wisdom of
”—
L ife Darmstadt : Reich l ) and his Ki mgtse ( C onf u “
“
cius ) and L a a tsa ( Lao
”
volumes which have ap
p ea r ed under the imprint o f Fr Frommann E rnst . .
.
, ,