Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Self Perf - Over
Self Perf - Over
_________________________________________________________________________________________________________
PERFECTIONISTIC OVERCOMPENSATOR
_________________________________________________________________________________________________________
What are some common triggers for this mode? (People, comments, situations, feelings)
__________________________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________________________
What do you feel when you’re in this mode? (Stressed, anxious, nervous energy)
__________________________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________________________
What difficulties do you experience when you’re in this mode? (Burnout, procrastination, shame,
self-sabotage)
__________________________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________________________
Mode Management
Develop a plan about how you will use your Healthy Adult to reduce your Perfectionism
Overcompensation.
What are your goals for managing this mode? (To accept the idea of "good enough")
__________________________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________________________
What are your needs in this mode? (To set boundaries, to get reassurance that my worth is more
than my grades)
__________________________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________________________
What will you do to meet these needs for yourself? (Self-validate, take breaks, practise opposite
action)
__________________________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________________________
What will you say to yourself when you’re in this mode to soothe it? (I don't need to be perfect to be
worthy)
__________________________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________________________
You may find this hard because it is unfamiliar, or you may notice other modes getting in the way,
like your Demanding Parent Mode or a different MCM jumping in. Keep trying and remember that you
are learning new strategies for meeting your own needs that have previously been neglected.
Check out our website for more resources, handouts and videos
Scan the QR code for the Youtube clip for this handout