B u t the m o s t im p o rta n t th in g o f a ll is

b o d y language. T h is c o n trib u te s to a
m assive 55% o f th e a ttra c tio n .
Host S o w h a t can w e do to im p ro v e o u r
b o d y langu age?
Mary W e ll, it seem s th at the b e st w'ay
to m a ke the p e rso n y o u ’re t a lk in g to
fe e l a ttra c te d to y o u is to lo o k in to th e ir
eves. A n A m e r ic a n p s y c h o lo g is t d id
an e x p e rim e n t a b o u t th is in N e w Y o rk .
H e g o t co m p le te stra n g e rs to stare
in to each o th e r's eyes fo r tw o m in u te s
w ith o u t ta lk in g . A fte rw 'a rd , m a n y o f
the c o u p le s sa id th a t they h a d stro n g
fe e lin g s o f a ttr a c tio n to each other, and
o ne o f the co u p le s even g o t m a rrie d !
Host R e a lly ? T h e n s ta rin g m u st be the
th in g to do! Is th ere an y m o re a d v ice o n
b o d y langu age?
Mary W e ll, i t ’s im p o rta n t to have a
re laxe d b o d y p o s itio n . Y o u need to
sh o w the o th e r p e rso n th a t y o u 're
c o m fo rta b le b e in g w ith th em . A ls o ,
tr y n o t to b e fa r aw ay fr o m them .
O f co u rse , th ere is a c o m fo rta b le
d ista n ce , b u t tr y le a n in g a litt le c lo se r
to th e m th a n u su a l, it w ill sh o w y o u 're
in tere sted , an d h o ld t h e ir a tte n tio n
better. D o n ’t fo rg e t to w a tc h th e ir b o d y
language, too. I f they p o s itio n th e ir
b o d y in a s im ila r w a y to you , it m ean s
th e y fin d y o u in te re stin g , too. T h is is
c a lle d m ir r o r in g .
H ost Is th ere a n y th in g th a t seem s
to w o r k w e ll w h e n y o u 're t a lk in g to
so m e o n e y o u 're a ttra c te d to?
Mary N o t s u rp ris in g ly , it se e m s th at
y o u 'll have a b e tte r ch a n ce i f y o u sm ile .
A n y o n e w h o 's e ve r sp o k e n to so m e o n e
o n the p h o n e w i l l te ll y o u th a t it's easy
to te ll w h e n the o th e r p e rso n is s m ilin g ,
because y o u ca n h e a r it in t h e ir voice.
W h e n t a lk in g to a p o te n tia l p a rtn e r,
a s m ile w ill n o t o n ly a ffe c t y o u r tone
o f voice, k e e p in g it lig h t an d fu n , but
it w ill a lso sh o w the o th e r p e rso n th at
y o u are h a p p y to be w it h them . A n d
d o n 't fo rg e t th a t a s m ile is e x tre m e ly
co n ta g io u s, a n d b e fo re lo n g the o th e r
p e rso n w i l l be s m ilin g b a c k at y o u . T h is
w ill m a ke th e m feel h a p p ie r, a fe e lin g
th a t th e y w ill q u ic k ly c o n n e c t w it h you.
Host H o w in te re stin g , an d v ery true!
U n fo rtu n a te ly , th a t’s a ll w e have tim e
fo r now , M a r y , b u t th a n k y o u so m u ch
fo r jo in in g us.
Mary Y o u ’re w elcom e .

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