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Somewhat crudely, the differences between dialogue and discussion are as follows:
In the table, it is the negative version of discussion that is compared to dialogue. This
does not imply that discussion is always wrong. It can be entirely appropriate to try
to persuade others of one’s views, to assert one’s opinions or claim one’s rights in
the face of disagreement. There are plenty of day-to-day situations when this is
essential. In a discussion, the emphasis is on convincing and persuading. You argue
in order to win based on the premise that he who has the best arguments wins.
Discussion and argumentation are often employed in negotiations, where the goal is
to devise solutions, arrive at joint decisions or reach agreement in order to move on.
Nevertheless, in a diverse world, where people with different views, values and
interests live side by side, the actual manner in which we assert our standpoints
become crucial to coexistence, as well as to the chances of solving problems and
taking decisions. In other words, there is a vast difference between a destructive and
a constructive type of discussion differences between dialogue and discussion).
Two types of discussion
In a destructive discussion, you do not listen very attentively. You focus on
preparing your next argument and wait mainly to have your say. It does not lead to
very much except deadlocked positions. It does not break any new ground. Disaster
looms even larger when the goal becomes to impose your truth or will by offending,
ridiculing or disparaging. Or by lying, manipulating or abusing power. This type of
discussion is outright damaging and fuels conflict.
“He who wants to debate should seek truth in the same spirit as he who searches for a lost item. He
doesn’t care if the item is found by himself or a helper. He considers his conversation partner as a
friend and not a foe.”
“There are only two ways of solving a conflict. You can fight it out and let the strongest prevail. Or
you can talk it through and use conversation to arrive at a more balanced and reasonable
understanding of the problem behind the conflict. The latter is democracy.”