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Patrick Preston
ENG 372
Dr. Bromley
3/15/2011
A comparison of times is not uncommon in the social sciences, and serves to bridge the gap
between how society behaved in one age and evolved into that which people live today. Of the topics
studied, love, its effects, and outcomes are perhaps the most voraciously observed traits of human
beings. While love has been studied and characterized by many before William Shakespeare and even
more after his death, his Romeo and Juliet serves as a critique of the time in which his society acted out
love and the confines to which it was held. With love comes marriage and hopefully, but in not all cases,
happiness. The former serves as the institution in which love is supposed to grow and thrive, while the
latter is the most sought after prerequisite and outcome for marriage. Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet,
serves not only to tell a story of love, but also to analyze that patriarchal society under which Romeo
and Juliet as characters live. It is under those stipulations of patriarchal society that Romeo and Juliet
serves to exemplify and exonerate lovers’ methods of finding happiness and true love, and condemn the
Why would a parent ever force something upon their child if their child had no interest or desire
to do such a thing? It seems almost abusive in Western society today, but in a patriarchal society the
male was the head of the household and his demands were like those of Christ’s in the Church. More
importantly, class and pedigree were the factors separating society at the time. A properly courted and
carefully designed marriage had the ability to heighten one’s status and wealth considerably. Charles
Gibbon writes about the paradoxes of happiness and marriage in the 16 th-century in his “A Work Worth
the Reading,” where he argues both for and against the establishment of arranged marriages. In doing
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so he often brings up the point that many marriages are arranged for the aforementioned reasons of
extending one’s reign and wealth, regardless of the feelings of the parties involved: “We make no regard
of Godliness, but goods, of Righteousness, but riches, how well, but how wealthy” (Gibbon 257).
Marriage is supposed to be an institution of love under God (according to Gibbon), meant for reasons of
piety rather than materialistic desires. In marrying for such desires, Gibbon claims, the institution of
marriage is defiled.
It does not become apparent in Romeo and Juliet until midway through the play that Juliet will
have no choice in the matter of marriage. In fact, Capulet originally leaves the decision to his daughter
during his first conversation with Paris: “My will to her consent is but a part, / And, she agreed, within
her scope of choice / Lies my consent and fair-according voice” (1.1.15-17). It seems here that Capulet
does indeed wish for his daughter to be happy in marriage, giving no indication that he will force it upon
her if she refuses. It is Juliet’s mother, rather, that seems at first to desire marriage for her daughter for
esteem: “What say you? Can you love the gentleman?... / So shall you share all that he doth possess /
By having him, making yourself no less” (1.3.81-96). Juliet’s mother serves to break love down into
mere beauty and wealth, rather than desire for happiness. This is because Lady Capulet, like most
women, was married off to Capulet for those same materialistic reasons, and knows not true love but
This misunderstanding of true love is ultimately one of the most complex themes within Romeo
and Juliet. Arguably, only Romeo and Juliet can understand why they are in love in the first place. If
Capulet and Lady Capulet have any understanding of love, it is based upon the time spent with each
other over the many years they have been married, not because of their initial arrangement. When it
comes to the point that Tybalt has died and Juliet’s parents are forcing her to marry Paris, they do not
understand Juliet’s desire to be happy during her wedding itself, rather than some time after it or
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because of what she may acquire thereafter: “He shall not make me there a joyful bride” (3.5.117). Her
parents believe that moving the marriage with Paris would end her grief and help her get over her the
death of Tybalt, yet when Juliet declines, Capulet comes at her with full force and threatens to disown
her if she does not comply. Here Shakespeare defines a problem within the structure of the family:
parents are not involved enough in their children’s lives to be making life-long decisions such as
marriage for them. Juliet (and perhaps the Nurse) is the only person who knows what will make her
happy. Despite Capulet’s and Lady Capulet’s good intentions for their daughter, they have not raised
her. Therefore don’t know enough about her as a person and do not understand what she wishes for
herself in life. To her parents then, Juliet is merely an object to be given away: “If a man may give his
goods to whom he will, he may as well bestow his children where he thinketh best, for children are the
If parents do not actively seek happiness for their children, then they are only seeking it for
themselves, even if they place it under the guise of their child being happy. Gibbons exemplifies this by
saying: “The parents’ joy depends upon their children” (256), but this raises the question: what of their
children gives parents joy? In the case of Juliet, her parents seeing her married to Paris would bring
them joy, but not herself. Her happiness would be secured with Romeo but not her parents because he
is her family’s enemy. If a child’s obedience rather than his/her happiness is the means by which joy is
brought to the parent, how can a child and a parent ever both be happy through a marriage in this time
period? Shakespeare would probably argue that in life in his day and age, it is not possible in a
situation such as that within Romeo and Juliet since there is a lack of common ground for which both
Shakespeare’s purpose thus turns back to the aforementioned desire for social advancement,
which, when acquired by a child also passes back up to the parents. In spite of the affirmation of Lady
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Capulet to Juliet: “Well, well, thou has a careful father, child; / One who, to put thee from thy heaviness,
/ Hath sorted out a sudden day of joy” (3.5.107-109), the reasoning behind it is out of selfishness and
advancement rather than benevolence towards Juliet. Interestingly, Gibbon, regardless of saying the
child is the property of the parent to use as they will, also says: “for albeit parents ought to yield their
consent to their children’s choice, yet they have not power to provoke them to marry, if necessity
urgeth not” (255). When applied to the situation at hand, Shakespeare is evidently saying that the
Capulets believe that to marry for money and social advancement is an urgent and legitimate excuse.
Speculation of this logic gives way to the idea that perhaps the Capulets did not consider a possible
marriage uniting Romeo and Juliet and ending the blood feud between the Montagues and Capulets, as
Friar Laurence hopes, worthier than a heightened social status. Conceivably, a social advancement
would allow them to overshadow the Montagues and thus eliminate the feud through stature and might
Regardless of the possibilities, it is not until Act 4, when Juliet and Friar Laurence put their plan
of deception into play, that the Capulets finally realize the folly in forcing unwanted love upon their
daughter. After the Capulets find the body of Juliet, ostensibly dead, Friar Laurence remarks unto Lord
The first five lines serve to replicate that which was said already, now recognized as a mistake: that to
marry only for money and wealth is to love falsely. Capulet desires such a good life for his daughter that
he will use any means necessary to procure it, regardless of the cost. Unfortunately, the cost is his
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daughter’s life, which is the highest cost one can pay for fame and fortune. The last two lines serve to
allude to the fact that she was already married, and to delegitimize the wedding that Paris and she were
to have, not only because she was already married to Romeo, but also because it was forced and for
erroneous reasons. They also serve to exemplify the happiness that marriage is supposed to bring. A
long marriage is rarely a happy one since there is time enough for the flames of love to fade and simple
contentment to grow. A short marriage that dies early but is full of love dies happy. Friar Laurence
could also be playing on a mockery of Lord and Lady Capulet by comparing them to Romeo and Juliet in
that Romeo and Juliet have a love for one another that the Capulets have never and never will have.
The love that Romeo and Juliet have for one another serves to forgo the binds placed upon
them by their parents and society in general. Their motives for love and happiness transcend the
materialistic desires that form the stereotypical foundation of marriage, acting to reestablish the
holiness and Godliness of matrimony. Before their marriage, the Friar states: “So smile the heavens
upon this holy act / That after-hours with sorrow chide us not” (2.5.1-2). In saying this he gives God’s
approval of their secret marriage, for it is of good purpose. Further, he alludes to the pains that may be
caused by Romeo’s and Juliet’s union, but hints that the outcome will be more fruitful than any
consequences that may present themselves. In marrying, Romeo and Juliet abolish the remaining
obedience held for their families and figures of authority. When societal and parental pressures thus
present themselves, Romeo and Juliet are utterly alone in their choice. The Friar can receive no blame,
and in fact does not at the end of the play: “We still have known thee for a holy man” (5.3.271), because
Romeo and Juliet, despite the consequences, take happiness into their own hands and disregard
that of their parents, for they wish only to be with one another. Shakespeare legitimizes this selfishness
by allowing his characters to develop a love for one another that transcends the cultural demands and
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expectations of the time and situations within the play. Romeo and Juliet are Shakespeare’s tools which
he uses to show the folly and outcome of a society that puts money and purpose before their child’s
lives and hearts. Their deaths give weight and example to Shakespeare’s words, a permanent fate that
serves not only to send a message of grief to his audience, but also to use the foundation of tragedy to
mock the establishment of the class-based society in which he lived. The death of Romeo and Juliet is
for both a parent’s and child’s happiness in life. The death of Romeo and Juliet bridges that gap by
bringing happiness to their parents through the alliance of the two feuding families, and to Romeo and
Works Cited
Romeo and Juliet: Texts and Contexts. Ed. Dympna Callaghan. Boston: Bedford/St. Martins, 2003.
Shakespeare, William. Romeo and Juliet. The Norton Shakespeare. Ed. Stephan Greenblatt et. al.
New York: W.W. Norton, 2008. 905-972.