Emotional Mastery

V RANGANATHAN
NLP Master Trainer
Professional Coach
Certified Behavioral Analyst
EQ Coach
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 EMOTIONS
• Emotions are a flurry of biochemical storm in
the brain

• Any agitation or disturbance of mind, body

feeling, passion, and excited vehement mental
state

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 Emotional being with
rational component

• Are we a
rational being
with emotional
component ?
• Or
• Emotional
being with
rational
component ?

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 Our emotions rule our life
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 EQ vs I Q

• INTELLIGENCE HELPS TO UNDERSTAND LIFE

• EMOTIONS HELP US TO LEAD LIFE

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 IQ v/s EQ
(Intelligence Quotient v/s Emotional Quotient)

20%
IQ

80%
EQ
1 2

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 IQ EQ
PERSONALITY
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 Our problems arise
Not because we are not intelligent enough to understand
and handle them,

But because our mind is disoriented and disorganized

But because our mental energies are easily dissipated by

vain seeking and wishes

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 4 ways people deal with emotions

1. AVOIDANCE

2. DENIAL

3. COMPETITION

4. LEARNING & USING

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These days

Abnormal anxiety
runs rampant

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 Is it wrong to be emotional?
• Not at all wrong
• That’s the way we are made
• We cannot not express our emotions

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 WHAT IS Emotional Mastery ?

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 Emotional Mastery

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 When do people become
emotional?

When one feels

- Not connected
- Not capable
- Not counted
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 EMOTIONS

APPROPRIATE INAPPROPRIATE

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• APPROPRIATE
EMOTIONS :
If our habitual emotional
response helps to deal
constructively with people &
circumstances

• INAPPROPRIATE
EMOTIONS:
If our emotions make our life
miserable
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EMOTIONAL GROWTH

Is a movement towards

-Freedom of choice

-Freedom of decision

-Freedom of action

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 EMOTIONAL GROWTH COMPENDIUM

DEPENDENCY

INDEPENDENCY

INTERDEPENDENCY

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 3 R’s
for
Emotional Maturity
• RESPECT : lack of enough self
respect, self worth; lack of respect for
larger system and coexistence

• RHYTHM : UNI + VERSE

life has basic rhythm; body has rhythm;
resonate with rhythm

• RESPONSIBILITY : Response ability

Instead being a product of circumstance,
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be a process in any circumstance.
 Message from emotions
EMOTION Message
DISCOMFORT Boredom, impatience, stress, mild embarrassment

FEAR Caution(beware), danger, unfamiliar, anxiety

HURT Sense of loss, expectation not met, non valued enough

ANGER Expectation not met, rule violated, standard not met

FRUSTRATION Not able to do what you believe you can do.

DISAPPOINTMENT Knowing you cant get what you want; let down;

GUILT Violation of self standard. Or rule

INADEQUACY Less of your self, less ability, less skill, less than others

OVERWHELM Grief, depression, helplessness, you’re disorganized, cluttered

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LONELINESS Yearning for connection with people, sense of incompletion
 Ten emotions of power
1. Love & warmth
2. Appreciation & Gratitude
3. Curiosity
4. Excitement & passion
5. Determination
6. Flexibility
7. Confidence
8. Cheerfulness
9. Vitality
10. contribution

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 • Emotion is energy motion
in body & mind

• NLP says Mind & body

are parts of the same
system

• Issues are in the tissues

• Biography becomes our

biology
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 Grief, sadness, dejection Lungs skin large intestine

Fear, phobia, loneliness, loss, insecurity ear, kidney, bladder

anger, rage, frustration, irritability Eyes, Liver, gallbladder

Hatred impatience, agitation, depression, heart

Anxiety worry dejection spleen stomach pancreas

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 MRS –
MRS
for Emotional Muscle
Regulation
Relaxing
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System
 Power of
resilience
No matter what
happens, quickly,
return to feeling good
Dr Randy Pausch
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 6 1. Identify what you feel
2. Acknowledge your feelings or
emotions
3. Get curious about the message
emotion is offering
4. Get confident that you can
handle the emotion
5. Get certain that you can handle
emotions even in future
6. Get excited and take action
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