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How would you like to be able to leave an impression on a man
so impactful that the thought of you keeps him awake at night?

With the help of this guide, you’ll have exactly what it takes in
order to leave an impression of a guy that leaves him head over
heels and seeing stars – the way that you can accomplish this is
with the use of something that I like to refer to a “Curiosity
Pricks”.

Essentially, a curiosity prick is like little spike of banter that

seems silly but serves a highly functional purpose.

It’s little more than just a little sarcastic or ambiguous

comment, but when used properly, what you’re left with is an
unconventional verbal tactic that helps you make a strong
impression by completely breaking the status quo of a typical
expectation that a man has of you to say or think.

Most men go about their lives with a certain number of

presumptions and expectations about what certain women they
meet are going to say to them, and with the power of curiosity
pricks, you are essentially going to breaking down the most
typical expectations that they have in order to send them into a
small state of shock and silently scramble for an answer that
they didn’t know that they would have to reach for.

The basic formula of the curiosity prick is a fair simple thing

altogether – all that you have to do take something that initially

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seems good, and then when they’re lulled into a false sense of
security, flip whatever that good thing was around into
something negative – or vice versa!

Depending on what the particular situation is, the sky is the

limit when it comes to how you can twist things for the optimal
effect.

Ultimately, the effect that you’re going to be looking for with

this technique will be to either:

A) Create an immense level of immediate curiosity that makes

him seriously want learn more about who you are just to figure
you out. Plenty of women only want to be listened to, but they
are at a loss for how to make their man see that.

With curiosity pricks, you will be able to have your man listen to
you with an intensity that you may have never even seen in him
before. When you present your thoughts as an unsolved puzzle
that he has to solve, his logically-oriented brain is going to start
getting to work and try to find a way to defog the mystery of
your true inner dialog.

Or

B) Make such a powerful impression that you immediately

make your man feel as though he’s got to prove himself to you
at the same time that he’s figuring you out.

With the power of a single well-placed curiosity prick, he’s going

to start seriously questioning exactly what it ever was that he
ever thought he fully understood about you up until the point

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you started teasing his curiosity in a brand new way.

Because of how curiosity pricks compel the man to invest more

energy in learning about you, giving him a sense of
accomplishment and allowing you to be listened to more
thoroughly, it can be called mutually beneficial exercise.

When he starts to think about how he can pass the test that
you’ve laid out in front of him, he’s going to be overrun with
thoughts about how he can recognize the level of validation
from you that he believed that he had before.

When he gets consumed by that validation-seeking, approval-

hungry behavior, all of the necessary pieces will have been set
perfectly into motion.

Now naturally, the implications of what I’m talking about here

can seem just a little bit intimidating when you consider the
scope of the results that I’m suggesting.

In order to make this just a little bit easier to understand, I’ve

taken the liberty of putting together a couple of examples that
can assist you figuring out how to form your own curiosity
pricks once you get a firm grasp on the basic structure.

Now it’s important that we specify that there are specially

designed types of curiosity pricks that you can use for various,
specific and different purposes. If you’re looking to use a
curiosity prick that’s dripping in sarcasm, you could say
something like:

· “I have a habit of liking a guy early on, but then suddenly

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something happens after a while, so I don’t trust myself around
you.”

Or

· “I want to feel that you are a great lover, but I am getting

this intense “friendly” vibe from you.”

Or
· “For a while now, I’ve been wondering if I am your type,
because I like to be challenged.”

Or

· “I guess that I could end up being too hard to handle for

you”.

Now even though they are noticeably differently-worded, each

of these different phrases is brimming with the same kind of dry
attitude that accomplishes a certain type of effect that all
sarcastic curiosity pricks are highly useful for – they’re going to
leave the man you use them on definitely confused.

The sarcastic curiosity pricks don’t need to be made to address

any one aspect of you or your man specifically, so long as you
make sure that it concerns his ability to understand you or
handle you.

Knowing how driven men are to be able to stay on top of any

and everything, assuming control and security, teasing his
ability to handle something is one of the most effective ways to
get under his skin.

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He’ll very badly want to assert that he in fact can achieve that
next level that you are implying that he’s just out of reach of,
but at the same time, he will know deep inside that there’s
nothing he can do to convince you aside from showing you in
the best way that he can.

He won’t be satisfied until he can provide you with hard,

undeniable proof that what your sarcasm indicated wasn’t
actually true.

Even better yet, he’ll be driven to do his best to surpass the

challenge that you’ve issued to him in order to understand you
and show that you’re capable of handling you in the way that
you implied.

You see, when you use a phrase like these, you’re directly
attacking the man’s sense of security in the belief that he’s
basically got you all figured out and in the bag when it comes to
the consolidation of a relationship. He’ll be thinking something
to the effect of:

“What do you mean? You were complete fine up until now, what
just happened?”

When he gets his with a curiosity prick from left field, he’s going
to start wondering about everything that he’s felt secure about
regarding the status between he and you up until the point
where you threw him for a complete loop out of nowhere.

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Don’t forget how tightly attached so many men are to their
precious sense of control. Men love to feel like when they’ve
known a woman long enough, they’ve more or less conquered
the task of getting to know what she’s all about and no longer
have to try as hard when it comes to impressing her.

When the man starts to feel like he’s grown particularly familiar
and comfortable with his idea of who and woman is and what
he can generally expect from her, it is going to be at this point
that he feels like the ball is more or less in his court – with
curiosity pricks, you are literally pricking that inflated balloon of
satisfaction he has and letting him know that he has to put in
more effort.

When the man’s control is suddenly whisked away from him

with little else than the tactical use of nothing more than some
unexpected words, his curiosity is going to swallow him up
whole and make him start wondering about what his next play
should be in order to keep your interest – or at the very least,
some kind of stable idea about exactly who you are and what
impresses you.

Note that with these sarcastic phrases, you are not necessarily
attacking him out of malice or insulting him. All that you’re
doing with the curiosity pricks is taking him a little bit off of his
guard, making him second-guess his certainty about you and
quashing any assumption he may have had that getting to
know you was going to be a relatively effort-free affair.

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To put it simply, you are effectively giving your man a special
kind of indicator – the indicator is meant to relay the message
that even though he as been doing something right, what he’s
done so far is not “everything” that can be done, and it
certainly isn’t everything that he could have done either.

It is important to note that when you are using this sarcasm

curiosity prick, you ensure that you are not to take your tone so
far that it legitimately seems like you’re ripping the man down
and telling him to get lost – that would essentially defeat the
whole purpose of going through the trouble to test his level of
dedication in getting to know what you’re all about.

If you can help it, you should make an attempt to not use these
phrases with an overly serious tone that could give him the
wrong idea. The words themselves should be enlightening
enough as to the fact that he’s going to need to work just a
little bit harder to fully reach your side of the field, but not so
much that it seems like you’re forbidding him from even making
the attempt.

Be sure in the fact that you are making it clear that he hasn’t
yet won the game, but at the same time, see to it that you
lighten it up just a little bit so that he can pick up on the fact
that you’re issuing a bit of a challenge to him to test his level of
dedication to getting to know you.

You should avoid making any remarks that sound like you’re

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trying to slap him with a label or epithet – there is a big
difference between being a tease and just being offensive or
cruel. Think of it in terms of a punch, and slap and love-tap.

You don’t want to hit so hard that it does serious damage, like
a punch, and you don’t want to say something so bitter that it
offends and stings like a slap across the face – you want to be
able to make definite contact with your curious prick, with just
enough force to be felt but not so much that you end up
causing legitimate pain.

He’ll get the sense that you’re just joshing him around a little
bit, but it won’t be without the sense that there’s also a
legitimate amount of uncertainty about whether or not his
chances are actually as good with you as he had initially
interpreted.

Ultimately, what you should be doing here is making sure that

more of what you say is actually in reference to yourself instead
of teasing your man specifically. If you make sure to focus more
what you say in regards to your own person instead of making
it entirely about him, then you’ll more or less do away with the
chance that he thinks you’re explicitly out to insult him and
nothing else.

Now, you must also understand that there’s more than only one
way to deliver an effective curiosity barb. You could achieve an
equally suitable effect by basing your curiosity barb in a
foundation of ambiguity and not just a coat of sarcasm.

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While sarcasm makes the man curious about the sudden
unexpected shift in your attitude, there are few things that have
the same potential to confuse and befuddle and the infuriating
incompleteness of an unattended loose end.

The beauty of ambiguity is that, unlike the sarcasm barb, you

don’t necessarily have to be as inventive in order to come up
with something that will drive him crazy from the lack of
clarification as to what it is that you’re trying to convey with
what you’re saying.

When you’re building curiosity with the art of ambiguous

phrases, it’s not a complicated matter to make the technique
work as its intended. All that you have to do is carry on the
conversation as you normally would, while conveniently (and
maddeningly to him), you leave certain aspects of the things
you mention either unanswered or any half-answered.

As soon as you begin to express something that could be easily

explained if you continued on, all that you have to do is cut it
off without actually going all of the way and completing the
thought.

Here’s an example of something that you could believably say in

order to capture him in the waves of ambiguity that will toss the
possible answers about in his mind like a sea-storm.

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“I had a great time with your today, but it was both exciting and
a little bit odd at the same time. Don’t ask me about the odd
part just yet. I’ll definitely tell you when the time is right.”

Basically, what you can see from this example is a multitude of

factors that can all come together for none of the than the
purpose of making your man as curious as possible.

Just about every aspect of the way that you described things
leaves just a little bit to the imagination, which assures that he
won’t be walking away from you at the end of the night without
a serious amount of questions.

What you can observe here is the principle that we outlined in

the very first chapter, which is the concept of taking something
that is initially positive and flipping it into something that can
be interpreted as possible negative.

At no point of explanation to you fully play your hand and

explicitly reveal whether or not your believed that the night was
a success or a disappointment.

With just one little missing nugget of information, you are able
to open up the floodgates to potential thousands of different
questions in his mind that could explain why you couldn’t just
come out with whatever it was that was on your mind.

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He may be wondering about everything from what he dressed
to the second thing that he said to you all night, and you will
give him nothing.

No matter how much he tries to investigate, you must be

steadfast and hold to the mystique of the secret that you can’t
give him the satisfaction of knowing just because he wants to
find out.

Men are eternal lovers of the chase, and so naturally, he’s going
to be both frustrated and driven a little bit wild by the fact that
you don’t immediately volunteer everything that’s on your
mind.

In the exact same vein, you could very well actually take
something that appears to be initially negative and twist it
around to mean something that could be potentially positive all
the same.

You could make reference to something in the night that just

didn’t quite go as smoothly as had been planned, and yet at the
same time, you can indicate that something else actually went
right.

Just the same as the simple negative factor that you would
refuse to reveal in the very first example, in the reversed
example, you are remaining steadfast in your refusal to reveal
that one little saving grace that actually made everything
completely worth it in the end.

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Whether the secret is of a positive nature or a negative nature,
as long as you make sure that you keep it just out of reach
from him at an extremely simply-answered question, he may be
drive to come up with well over a thousand different possible
explanations for why you would keep the truth away from him
as if it were the most confidential thing on the planet.

The fact that you will be able to guard such an innocuous little
secret so completely will cause him to both feel as swirling
mixture of consternation and fascination with you.

He will wish that he could reach right into the back of your head
and pull out that elusive answer all on his own, but at the same
time, he will have no choice but to respect just how unwavering
you are in your commitment to not giving any relief to his
curiosity.

Now while he’s busy trying to work out the mystery of his life
that you were able to create with nothing other than the lack of
an explanation, he’ll also be at the mercy of extremely powerful
magnetism towards you that will be created out of nothing
other than the irresistible force of his own morbid curiosity
seeking you out in order to bring him that sweet relief of
knowing.

Now no matter how much attention he was or wasn’t paying

you before you decided to leave him at the mercy of his lack of
answers, he will definitely be paying you a lot more attention

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than he used to. His attention will be zeroed in on you like a
homing missile. He will be working to fulfill your every need and
want, all in order to get some positive feedback that may take
the form of the truth.

If you persistently use different ambiguous lines with your man,

he will eventually learn to always expect there to be something
about you that he doesn’t quite understand just yet.

Simply by making a habit out of keeping him in the dark, you

will be conditioning him to always expect there to be more than
what meets the eye when it comes to you

You won’t be doing or saying anything that makes him question

your loyalty, but at the same time, you can be that he’ll never
feel that he’s got you complete figured out, one hundred
percent.

No two people in any couple live forever, but that doesn’t mean
that the relationship has to come to the screeching halt as soon
as the two of you grow bored with one another.

Here are just some quickly examples of the other ambiguous

curiosity pricks that you will be able to use in order to set his
mind to working with a feverish pace that he was never
prepared for:

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· “Recently, I’ve discovered something really weird about
you. But I am not sure if that’s a good or bad thing yet. I’ll let
you know when I figure it out.”

· “Sometimes you do this thing that really drives me wild,

but, well. I guess I can’t tell you yet, it’s too freaky.”

· “There’s something that has been bugging me for a while

now, but strangely, I really like that. I know that you won’t be
able to guess what it is, but I can’t tell you either, because it’s a
secret.”

· “I recently learned something really shocking about you. I

am not sure what it means yet, but I think it’s a good thing.”

· “You know that you’re a really hard guy, to get to know,

right? I think I might have to stop trying too hard, because I
have learned that I need to try something new. I might tell you
what that is later.”

· “Sometimes I find it sexy when you…oh, that’s too dirty to

share. Maybe when we are closer I can tell you.”

· “I can’t believe that you told me about ______(here you

list something) the other day. It has really got me thinking, and
recently I thought something really shocking about you, but
then because you told me about that, I don’t think it’s a good
idea to tell you now.”

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So you see, with little more than use of just some strategically
unattended loose ends, you will be expertly wielding the
awesome power of his completely curiosity.

As the man is a logically-oriented create by nature, obsessed

with being able to fix problems, bot being able to actively solve
the mystery of your true sentiments will set him into the kind of
frustration hard to comprehend.

“Frustration” may not have the best connotation, but you have
to keep in mind that this frustration you’re referring to is going
to be interspersed with a new level of drive in being able to
figure you out as thoroughly as possible.

Remember, there’s one thing that you need to happen above all
else before you can make sure that the curiosity technique has
truly worked to the optimal effect – you need to have him ask
the exact question about what you intentionally left
unanswered, and after that happens, you’re in the clear.

Once you failed to answer the question once, continue to fail

answering it and just observe the effects. Just before the truth
is about to be revealed, you must make a point to pull away.

When you pull away at the last moment, observe what happens
as you keep your distance after refusing to answer the question
– chances are that, one he is at a loss for ways to try and get

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you to answer the question, he will attempt to come up with an
answer himself.

Remember what we mentioned in the very first section of this

chapter about using sarcasm curiosity pricks in order to tease
your man about things that he doesn’t know about you?

If you’re able to get under his skin enough with the teasing
about how well he knows you, eventually, he’s going to try to
meet you at middle grand by actually guessing that the answer
to the question is.

When he invests more in more in getting to know you better, he

will more often be able to answer the questions that you leave
hanging in the air. As an effect of your curiosity pricks, he will
have literally been driven to understand you at a deeper and
deeper level in order to crack any additional mysteries that may
arise – that is, of course, until curiosity is reborn.

The Impact of Curiosity Pricks

You must not allow him to ever grow completely complacent in

the things that he assumes that he knows about you, which is
why it is important to heed that I’ve instructed in previous
reports about having your own life, outside of the relationship
itself.

You need to be able to have enough things that you invest in

and pursue on your own, aside from what the two of you do

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together, so that there is always enough to keep him at bay
from knowing absolutely everything.

When you are able to have enough things going on your own to
have your own life, you can assure that you aren’t ever
occupying the exact same space in miniature snow globe as
your partner – it’s a snow globe in which your partner is aware
of everything about you that you are aware of about yourself.
In the snow globe, there can’t ever be any curiosity or mystery.

Too many men have grown entirely complacent with their

female partners that they have inhabited a monotonous snow
globe with, never wondering or questioning anything new about
her after years and years spent with one another – these are
the types of relationships that are fated to fail from the very
beginning, even though the partners are technically as close as
can be.

When you assure that you hold onto everything that is yours,
without volunteering it to even your man, you will never ever
be at a loss of brand new curiosity pricks to keep the veil of
mystery and uncertainty will never go down.

You will always have enough different, private elements orbiting

around you to always remain your own woman first. Curiosity
pricks honor a certain component of relationships that a lot of
couples seem to lose the meaning of somewhere down the line
– the component of individuality.

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A lot of people live with the unfortunate misconception that a
requisite of being in a relationship is that the concept of
individuality, for some reason, must completely evaporate
somewhere down the line.

The desire to completely melt into one another, body and soul,
is no doubt very easy to romanticize – you can preserve the
flame longer if you refrain from doing this, however.

Your curiosity pricks are going to be more than just playful

teasing remarks and ambiguous statements about the day or
night that you had with one another – they are also indications
that the relationship itself is still alive. The fact that a curiosity
prick is even still possible in a relationship, especially one that’s
been going on for more than little while, is reason to celebrate.

You need to show your man not only that there’s more than
what they already know to know about you, but also that
there’s still some kind of life force still pulsing through the
relationship itself.

Imagine just how boring it would be if you had to live through

the rest of your life without ever being surprised by anything,
ever again. Imagine how extremely boring it would be to
constantly repeat the same conversation, with the same person,
in the same tone of voice, at the same time of day, until the
day that you die.

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In a relationship in which there are no longer any more secrets
to be found, you are doomed to forever more dwell in a reality
in which there can no longer be anything left to incentivize you
to hear something new that your partner has to say.

Now, with the presence of legitimate curiosity phrases, you are

allowing your relationship to continue being open to the same
zone of wide-eyed wonderment that was possible when the two
of you met one another for very first time.

It would be sad if you could never actually see your partner and
be expect to be surprised by something, but when you keep
certain aspects of your life your own, your man will always
know that within you is the possibility for well over a thousand
stories with over ten thousand different beginnings.

The relationship is not only beautiful due to the fact that it

brought the two of you together in the first place – the
relationship should also be celebrated for the opportunity it
offers for the two of you to move through your lives together.

Note the use of lives together, instead saying “life” together.

The two of you may very well be committed for what you hope
is going to be an indefinite period of time, but if you want to be
able to accomplish that without regrets, then you’re going to
both need to keep giving each other reasons to look forward to
the next day.

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Your two lives, as a couple, may intersect, but they do not have
to be completely broken down and blended into one. You are
able to respect one another as individuals more when you two
can actually coexist as committed individuals, with your own
secrets to keep and stories to tell.

Now we’ve already discussed at length how a man is built from

the ground-up to be enchanted by the thrill of the chase – at
the core of his DNA is the programming to go off after the lure
of the unknown and yet attractive prospect of a potential mate
that has caught his interest.

Now when the chase has finished, that doesn’t mean that all of
the thrills of getting to know one another has to come to an end
right then and there. As long as you two are able to still able to
see in one another things that have yet to be discovered, the
thrill of getting to invest in a brand new person can be
refreshed and enjoyed once more, for a lifetime.

Use curiosity pricks not just to challenge your man, but also to
incentivize him. The ability to love and understand takes a real
degree of strength, and if that strength isn’t used often enough,
then it becomes weaker over time – encouraging your man to
be curious about you is testing and re-consolidating his capacity
to become invested in you and understand you once again.

Curiosity pricks capitalize upon twisting the negative into the

positive, and vice versa, for a good reason. A lot of couples are

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just far too naïve and optimistic about the ebbs and flows of a
relationship from the outset and aren’t able to cope with the
sudden emergence of a day or situation that isn’t picture
perfect.

With the use of curiosity pricks, however, you exhibit that you
don’t have any illusions about the tendency of things in a
relationship to occasionally fluctuate. Instead of just sweeping
things under the carpet, you will have a way to honestly
acknowledge the imperfections that can present themselves on
any given day of the relationship regardless of your plans.

When you are completely honest about the fact that there are
certain aspects of the relationship that you aren’t sure about, in
the form of a curiosity prick, you’ll be illustrating that you can
identify an area of uncertainty in your relationship without
going into denial or exploding over it.

Now when your man learns to meet you halfway when it comes
to understanding the implications of what you mean when you
use a curiosity prick, he will gradually come to understand how
to read between the lines and meet you halfway at a conclusion
that matches exactly what you’re thinking.

You won’t only be testing his curiosity with these phrases, but
also opening the door to a certain kind of communication that
can lead to a higher level of cohesiveness between you and
your partner in general.

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Now, just to review, we have covered two different kinds of
curiosity pricks that you can use in order to test how well your
man thinks he understands you – the sarcasm brand, and the
ambiguity brand.

Not only are both the sarcasm and the ambiguity able to
function as legitimate challenges, but more importantly, they
just plain keep things more fun!

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