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EMPOWERMENT
HANDBOOK
THE
EMPOWERMENT
HANDBOOK
By Eve Gracie
First published in 2018 by Gracie Global ®
With contributions from Rener Gracie, Victoria Gracie,
© 2018 by Gracie Global, LLC.
Law Enforcement Professionals, Licensed Therapists,
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TA B L E O F C O N T E N T S
05 The History of
Women Empowered
by Rener Gracie
49 Understanding Consent
Through my grandfather’s efforts and those of several other family members, Gracie During my research, I was alarmed to learn that nearly 80% of all sexual assaults
Jiu-Jitsu became known as the most effective martial art in Brazil. are committed by a non-stranger (someone known to the target) – a classmate,
acquaintance, co-worker, family member, significant other, etc. This made it especially
In 1978, my father packed his kimono and came to the United States determined to share clear to us that women needed a full range of self-defense options, from situational
our family’s self-defense system with the rest of the world. In 1993, he created a pay-per-view awareness, verbal assertiveness, and non-violent de-escalation techniques to
television spectacle, called the Ultimate Fighting Championship®, to showcase the devastating joint locks and deadly force options if the situation calls for it. We are
effectiveness of the Gracie self-defense system. Within weeks, military, law enforcement, proud to say Women Empowered is one of the few self-defense programs that includes
and martial artists from around the world wanted to learn more about this amazing method a full range of options enabling students to scale their responses to fit the situation.
of self- defense. In 1994, the U.S. Army asked our family to develop a program that would
quickly prepare soldiers for hand-to-hand combat. The result was a specialized program While we have marginally improved the time-tested techniques over the years, we
based on Gracie Jiu-Jitsu’s most effective techniques called Gracie Combatives ®. achieved a major breakthrough when my wife, Eve, applied a woman’s perspective
to the program. Eve fell in love with jiu-jitsu in her first class, and as soon as she
As a member of this famous fighting family, I was introduced to the art before I could completed the Women Empowered program for the first time, she knew she found her
walk. I taught my first class at age 13 and, by my early 20s, I knew that I would dedicate niche and committed herself to sharing it with as many women as possible. She
the rest of my life to helping others achieve total confidence and ultimate empowerment significantly changed the selection of techniques and how we facilitated the course.
through Gracie Jiu-Jitsu. As our first female Women Empowered instructor, she has educated and inspired
thousands of women on their way to empowerment through jiu-jitsu!
After over two decades of working with countless military and law enforcement
professionals worldwide, we became aware of the pervasive problem of sexual Today, we teach the Women Empowered program to women of all ages and
assault in America. One study from the early ‘90s reported that 683,000 women are athletic abilities, and from all walks of life. We are grateful to have taught this course
raped each year, and that one in four women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime. to the US Air Force, as well as many academic institutions and corporations seeking to
That was when we realized Gracie Jiu-Jitsu hadn’t yet served its most meaningful empower the members of their communities.
purpose.
From all the women who have discovered their hidden strength to the survivors who
I spent several years studying the circumstances surrounding sexual assaults. Through have revived their personal power, we’re proud to say that jiu-jitsu is finally being taught
correspondence with law enforcement professionals, licensed therapists, and reports to those who need it the most.
submitted by sexual assault survivors, I discovered that, while the specific details of each
Rener Gracie
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INTRODUCTION
by Eve & Victoria Gracie
A fter we were both taught jiu-jitsu for the first time, our first thoughts were: why weren’t These limiting statements, and countless others, bombard the lives of women every
we exposed to these invaluable life tools sooner in our lives? And why doesn’t every single day. They infer that women and girls should be soft-spoken, polite, put others’ needs
woman in the world have jiu-jitsu in her back pocket? As athletes, and women who before their own, and not express their opinions. While some of these behaviors are
always felt we could “hang with the boys,” we still remained starkly aware of the physical appropriate for certain encounters, when they become our default responses, our safety
differences between men and women, and the sometimes subtle, yet ever-present is at risk.
impact these differences had on everyday interactions.
We both happen to be ‘people-pleasers’ by nature. For us, the most difficult part of owning
Whether it is a work relationship, romantic relationship, business/client relationship, or this program was not the physical aspect; it was making the choice to fight our
familial relationship, physical intimidation can adversely impact (sometimes subliminally) pre-programmed behaviors and set personal boundaries with others, even when it
our self-confidence and how we interact with others. Once we realized that training meant breaking conventional expectations. We are sometimes misled to believe that
jiu-jitsu actually reduced our vulnerability to intimidation, everything changed. This isn’t other people’s wants and needs should come before our own, even when it makes us
to say that we went around challenging punk men to fights, but that jiu-jitsu changed feel uncomfortable or unsafe. If this mental framework sounds familiar to you, we hope
our mental framework in a way we never could have anticipated. the Women Empowered program will encourage you to take a deeper look at your
programming, and help you identify any required mental reconditioning to allow you
What we now know is that our mindset is our most important self-defense tool. Safety is to overcome your limiting beliefs and, in turn, fully embody the self-defense mindset.
not just a matter of avoiding physical harm; it also means staying safe from psychological
damage and mistreatment. We had to identify and overcome some deeply held limiting While our goal is to give you the tools necessary to reduce your risk of being targeted
beliefs in order to reach our full self-defense potential. For each of us, the root of our limit- and the confidence to defend yourself if needed, there’s nothing we can do to
ing beliefs can be traced back to specific personal interactions or life experiences.As an completely “prevent” attacks against us. The only people who can prevent violence
example, think about how many times you have heard these statements in your lifetime: against women are the perpetrators of these crimes. In other words,
S exual assault is never the fault of the survivor. As women, we There is no “right” and “wrong” in self-defense. If you have ever
cannot “prevent” sexual assault; the word “prevention” implies that experienced sexual assault in the past, and did anything other
we have an active role or a choice in the act. We can, however, reduce than what we present in this program, you did not do anything
our risk through education, awareness, and physical self-defense. “wrong.” In fact, you did everything you needed to do to survive with
We will cover all of these components in the Women Empowered the tools you had, and that’s all that matters. Our goal with this
program. program is to add more tools to your arsenal so that you have
more options to choose from should the need arise. If, in the
future, you find ourself in a situation similar to those we explore in this
Throughout this program and in this manual, we will refer to the program and do not use the tools we teach you, you still will have
done nothing wrong. Every situation is unique, and anything you
assailant as “he” or “him,” and the target as “she” or “her.” This is not to
say that an assailant cannot be a woman, and that a target cannot have to do to survive is right by us.
be a man. These terms were chosen to simplify the instruction
terminology to reflect the majority of cases of sexual assault, which
are committed by a man against a woman (91%) (23). While learning self-defense can be an extremely empowering
experience, for survivors of assault it can also bring up painful or
overwhelming emotions. Due to the nature of the content of the
T he techniques and safety principles of this program are not gender
Women Empowered program and this survival manual, it is possible
that some participants may experience mental, emotional, or
exclusive, can be applied by all genders, and will work on all genders.
physical triggers. For more information on triggering, and some tools
The contents of this program and handbook are also meant to
to help you manage triggers, please see the Women Empowered
support members of the LGBTQ communities.
for Healing section. (page 63)
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“
I learn
S E C T I O N
not because it is my
”
but because it is my
– Eve Gracie
THE EMPOWERMENT HANDBOOK OUR REALITY
Sexual assault takes many forms including attacks such as rape or attempted rape, as 8% of men admit committing acts that meet the legal definition of rape or attempted
well as any unwanted sexual contact or verbal threats. Usually a sexual assault occurs rape. Of these men who committed rape, 84% said that what they did was definitely
when someone touches any part of another person’s body in a sexual way, even through not rape. (1)
clothes, without that person’s consent. Some types of sexual acts which fall under the
category of sexual assault include forced sexual intercourse (rape), sodomy (oral or More than 1 in 5 men report “becoming so sexually aroused that they could not stop
anal sexual acts), child molestation, incest, fondling, and attempted rape. Sexual assault themselves from having sex, even though the woman did not consent.” (6)
in any form is often a devastating crime. Assailants can be strangers, acquaintances,
friends, or family members. Assailants commit sexual assault by way of violence, threats, 35% of men report at least some degree of likelihood of raping if they could be
coercion, manipulation, pressure, or tricks. assured they wouldn’t be caught or punished. (7)
Sexual assault offenders were substantially more likely than any other category of
violent criminal to report experiencing physical or sexual abuse as children. (5)
THE NUMBERS
Nearly 1 in 4 women may experience sexual violence by an intimate partner in their
How often do sexual assaults take place?
lifetime. (11)
Every 98 seconds, another American is sexually assaulted. (20)
In a study of elder female sexual abuse victims 81% of the abuse was perpetrated
321,500 Americans age 12 and older are sexually assaulted or raped each year. (20) by the victim’s primary caregiver, and 78% by family members, of which 39% were
sons. (12)
1 in 4 college women report surviving rape (15%) or attempted rape (12%) since
their fourteenth birthday. (1) What are the circumstances?
A survey of female high school students found that 1 out of 5 girls had experienced 57% of rapes happen on dates. (1)
forced sex (rape). Half of these girls told no one about the incident. (3)
75% of the men and 55% of the women involved in non-stranger rapes were drinking
Among developmentally disabled adult females, as many as 83% are victims of or taking drugs just before the attack. (1)
sexual assault. (17)
About 70% of sexual assault survivors reported that they took some form of
The National Violence Against Women Survey found that rape is a crime committed self-protective action during the crime. (5)
primarily against youth. Of the women who reported being raped sometime in their
55% of gang rapes on college campuses are committed by fraternities, 40% by
lives, 21.6% were younger than age 12, 32.4% were ages 12 to 17, 29% were ages 18
sports teams, and 5% by others. (8)
to 24, and 16.6% were over 25 years old. Thus, 54% of women victims were under age
18 at the time of the first rape and 83% were under the age of 25. (18) More than half of all rape and sexual assault incidents occur within one mile of the
survivor’s home or in her home. (5)
18,900 military members experience unwanted sexual contact each year. (21)
In 29% of rapes, the offender uses a weapon. (15)
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Sexual Assault in the LGBTQ community What happens after the sexual assault?
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), lesbian, gay, The National Crime Victimization Survey has reported that approximately 30% of rape
and bisexual people experience sexual violence at similar or higher rates than survivors over the last 10 years reported the incident to the police. (2)
heterosexuals. (25).
Of those rapes reported to the police, only 16% result in prison sentences. Therefore,
Studies suggest that around half of transgender people and bisexual women will approximately 5% of the time, a man who rapes ends up in prison; 95% of the time
experience sexual violence at some point in their lifetimes. (25). he does not. (2)
44 percent of lesbians and 61 percent of bisexual women experience rape, physical 30% of rape survivors contemplate suicide after the rape. (1)
violence, or stalking by an intimate partner. (25).
82% of rape survivors say the rape permanently changed them. (1)
46 percent of bisexual women have been raped, compared to 17 percent of hetero-
The adult pregnancy rate associated with rape is estimated to be 4.7%. (9)
sexual women and 13 percent of lesbians. (25).
Each year, an estimated 25,000 American women will become pregnant following
40 percent of gay men and 47 percent of bisexual men have experienced sexual
an act of sexual violence. (13)
violence other than rape, compared to 21 percent of heterosexual men. (25)
There is at least a 50% likelihood that a woman will develop Post Traumatic Stress
47% of transgender people are sexually assaulted at some point in their lifetime. (26).
Disorder (PTSD) after being raped. Sexual assault is also closely associated with
Among people of color, American Indian (65%), multiracial (59%), Middle Eastern depression and anxiety disorders. (14)
(58%), and Black (53%) respondents of the 2015 U.S. Transgender Survey were most
In a survey of victims who did not report rape or attempted rape to the police, 43%
likely to have been sexually assaulted in their lifetime. (26).
thought nothing could be done, 27% felt it was a private matter, 12% were afraid
Nearly half (48 percent) of bisexual women who are rape survivors experienced their of police response, and 12% felt the assault was not important enough to report. (16)
first rape between ages 11 and 17. (25).
Rape survivors who had the assistance of an advocate were significantly more likely
to have police reports taken and were less likely to be treated negatively by police
officers. These women also reported that they experienced less distress after their
contact with the legal system. (19)
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IF IT HAPPENS
If you are sexually assaulted, it is critically important you understand that, no matter what While we appreciate the extreme difficultly of recounting a personal assault, this detailed
you did, where you were, what time of day it was, or what you were wearing, the assault documentation not only helps to identify and prosecute the assailant, but can also
was in no way your fault. Sexual assault has little or nothing to do with passion, lust, or restore a survivor’s control and confidence by providing an active role in the investigation
sexual arousal; it is primarily based on the perpetrator’s need to control, dominate, abuse, and trial.
and humiliate. If someone discloses to you that they have been sexually assaulted,
here are some things you can do to help:
Survivors of sexual assault react in many different ways following assault. Reactions
can range from shock, rage, unfounded feelings of guilt or shame, numbness, or fear of Listen without judgement Encourage the survivor to
embarrassment. Some survivors are unable to recall the exact accounts that took place. seek medical attention
The first step is to make sure you are in a safe place or move to a place where you feel safer. Believe them
Consider the possibility of calling a friend, relative, partner, the police, or an advocate Keep their disclosure confidential
Assure them the assault
(unless the situation requires
specifically trained in assisting survivors of sexual assault. Specially trained advocates was not their fault mandatory reporting)
can give critical information and advice, and everything you share remains confidential.
Let them know they did what Never pressure them for
The decision to report a sexual assault is yours. If you intend to report the was necessary to survive more information than they
assault to law enforcement, attempt to preserve as much evidence as possible.
Do not offer physical touch want to share
Do not:
(hugs, etc.) unless they initiate it
Encourage the survivor to
Shower, bathe, or douche Brush your teeth or gargle or you ask permission first
talk about the assault with
Reassure the survivor that they an advocate, mental health
Throw away any clothes that Put on makeup
are cared for and loved professional, or someone they
were worn at the time of the assault
Clean or straighten up trust, and let them know they
Brush or comb your hair the crime scene do not have to manage this
crisis alone
Use the restroom Eat or drink anything
If possible, you should immediately record everything you can remember We are fully aware of the realities facing the victims of personal attacks and encourage
about the incident, including: all survivors to counter negative, self-blaming thoughts. It is our privilege to work to
support survivors. There are major societal and academic advances in research on how
Physical description Details of sexual activity best to support survivors of personal attacks. More than anything, we encourage survivors
(e.g., height, weight, hair color, to seek the emotional and legal support they need after an assault. If the survivor is
Time & location(s) of the incident
clothes, scars, tattoos) unsure of where to seek this support, please refer to the resources on the next page.
Implements used prior to or
Statements, voice characteristics
during the assault and method
Evidence of intoxication or drug use of approach (i.e. -”Excuse me,
can I use your phone)
Description of weapons
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RESOURCES
RAINN - Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network
National Sexual Assault Hotline
1 (800) 656-HOPE (4613)
www.rainn.org
National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC)
The NSVRC connects people with information, tools and expertise needed to address
and prevent sexual violence. It also maintains an extensive library and virtual information
bank of statistics, research, information and speakers on a variety of relevant topics.
1 (877) 739-3895
www.nsvrc.org
The Anti-Violence Project – Serves LGBTQ community
Hotline: 212-714-1124
www.AVP.org
Legal Help:
SurvJustice
This Washington DC based organization provides legal assistance to survivors who
need representation at campus hearings, help securing safety measures and other
accommodations, along with help filing administrative complaints.
www.Survjustic.org/survivors/
Domestic Violence
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
1−800−799−7233
thehotline.org
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2 “
The most common way
is by
give up
– Alice Walker
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On The Town
Have your key or key fob ready as you approach your car. Upon entering, check the
inside of your car and lock your doors as soon as possible.
Do not accept drinks from anyone if you did not see them prepared.
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TRIANGLE We realize you cannot avoid all of these locations, and you cannot remain 100% aware of
OF
your surroundings at all times. Sometimes women have to answer an important call, send
VICTIMIZATION
off an email, or have other everyday distractions while out and about. The key is to train
yourself to recognize when the opportunity for an assault is at its highest, which is inversely
PREDATOR TARGET correlated to the potential for bystander intervention. When the opportunities against us
are most likely, we must rely on our vigilance to stay one step ahead. Sexual predators
are highly opportunistic offenders, so any effort spent avoiding the Triangle of Victimization
The Triangle depicts the three components that must exist in order for a sexual assault is effort well spent.
to occur: a predator, a target, and an opportunity. Let’s first define what an opportunity
usually looks like. Predators are looking to carry out this crime without being detected STRANGER STRATEGIES (Unknown Assailant)
or caught, which means their top consideration when selecting a target is the likelihood
There are two types of sexual predators: strangers and non-strangers. While both types
that someone else might intervene in the attack. Consequently, as the potential for
of predators have a common objective, they employ different strategies. In this section,
bystander intervention decreases, the likelihood of an assault increases. The
we will discuss the four-phase attack strategy most commonly used by strangers as well
likelihood of bystander intervention does not only depend on the number of people
as the defensive tactics that would apply in each phase. We’ll teach you how to defend
around, it may also depend on the bystanders in question, or the ability for the bystanders
against non-strangers, or known assailants, in the next section.
to detect someone in distress. For example, a concert is extremely loud with large crowds
of people, and it may be hard for a bystander to detect that someone needs assistance.
Sexual assault studies and survivor reports indicate that nearly all stranger-related
assaults follow the same four-phase strategy:
If one of the three components of the Triangle of Victimization does not exist, the sexual
assault cannot take place. For example, you could be at your local grocery store standing
right next to a predator, but he will likely not sexually assault you because you are in a 1. Identify an unsuspecting target 3. Control and exhaust the target
well-lit store surrounded by people who would intervene. In other words, there is a predator, 2. Subdue and isolate the target 4. Execute the assault
a potential target, but no opportunity, so the Triangle is incomplete. If, however, you leave
the grocery store and venture into a desolate parking lot without an escort, the Triangle
will be complete and the predator will have the opportunity to carry out the assault.
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PHASE 1: Intrusion target and emboldens the predator. Once the original intrusive behaviors become
Non-stranger assailants take advantage of their existing relationships with potential commonplace in the relationship, the predator will gradually introduce new, more
targets and initially attempt to appear non-threatening. Their objective is to find intrusive behaviors along with control tactics to further desensitize the target, thus
targets who they believe will be more susceptible to the predator’s influence, creating a level of intimacy that would not exist in a healthy relationship. It is
or otherwise unlikely to resist their advances. Once the target has been identified, important to note that drugs and alcohol are one of the commonly used methods
the assailant will begin by probing the target’s boundaries by testing tolerance for of desensitization. Phase 2 ends when the predator believes the target is sufficiently
inappropriate behavior. The intrusion will include everything from suggestive desensitized to maneuver to an isolated site without suspicion or resistance.
sexual comments and questions to inappropriate physical contact. Often, the
influence of drugs or alcohol will contribute to both the predator’s boldness and
Phase 2 Survival Strategies
the target’s willingness to endure the behavior. Phase 1 ends once the predator
Because someone you know commits this type of sexual assault, it is easy to dismiss
believes that the target accepts the initial intrusive behaviors.
or forgive the initial intrusive behaviors under the assumption that the person would
not harm you. The key to Phase 2 survival is to understand that even though you may
Phase 1 Survival Strategies have initially overlooked or even invited the predator’s initial inappropriate gestures,
The most important Phase 1 survival strategy is to establish strong, confident you are under no obligation to continue to accept the behavior. As soon as you
boundaries. In order to do this, you must first know your metaphorical and physical feel uncomfortable or detect bad intentions, express your concerns, define your
boundaries. How much interaction are you interested in? How much personal boundaries, and end it. For most people, the greatest challenge in this phase is
space do you need? How much physical contact is OK? The answers will likely vary openly expressing concerns about previously tolerated behaviors. When your safety
depending on the social circumstances. At all times, however, you have the right to and well-being are at stake, however, you can’t afford to be concerned with anyone
assert yourself and express your disapproval if the predator says or does something else’s feelings or public image, including your own. The longer the inappropriate
you feel is inappropriate.You may use verbal or physical tools to establish boundaries behavior continues, the more desensitized and vulnerable you will become. Anyone
with others, and we will discuss boundary-setting tools in the following sections. The who truly respects us and deserves our love or affection will be understanding of
most difficult part of Phase 1 survival is identifying whether the person in question is any boundaries we set with them. It is important that, once we identify any attempt
a potential threat to you or not. The easiest way to confirm their intentions is by to desensitize or control us, we effectively communicate our desire for the behavior
assessing their response to an established boundary. If they refuse to acknowledge to end.
or accept your desired boundary, it is a clear indicator of their lack of respect for
your personal comfort and safety. The predator will often attempt to make you feel PHASE 3: Isolation
guilty for “making a big deal out of nothing,” but stand your ground. If the behavior In Phase 3, the predator will typically attempt to isolate the target to reduce the
makes you feel uncomfortable, then it’s inappropriate. If it’s inappropriate, it should likelihood of intervention or interference with the planned assault. Isolation also
stop. Bottom line: A well-meaning person will not insist on making you uncomfortable ensures that no one witnesses the predator’s actions. He will generally not need to
or make you feel embarrassed for feeling uncomfortable. physically force her into isolation, but rather, will rely on the false sense of trust he
has created with the target. In some cases, the power dynamic is such that the
PHASE 2: Desensitization perpetrator may not seek isolation, and attempt to carry out the assault in plain
Phase 2 begins with repeated verbal, physical, or psychological intrusions on personal sight under the assumption that the target will not resist and/or that others present
boundaries in those areas where the predator found exploitable vulnerabilities. This will not intervene. Phase 3 ends when the predator has isolated the target.
process – which may last a single evening or several months – desensitizes the
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Even though non-stranger sexual assaults, such as date rape, do not fit the conventional
view of a violent sexual assault, they are just as condemnable as anything you might see
on the news. Non-stranger assaults can be far more psychologically damaging because
the assaults occur in perceived “safe” places with perceived “safe” people. Overcoming
the shame or stigma with these assaults can be extremely mentally and emotionally
taxing. Internal reconciliation may take longer, or never actually occur. You have the
right to defend yourself against non-strangers with the same confidence and tenacity
you would use to fight off any stranger who tried to violate you.
Also, if you are a survivor of sexual assault that was committed by a person known to
you, we encourage you to seek the same help as any other victim of sexual assault. For
some, this may mean taking legal action; for others, this may mean seeking the psycho-
logical support of a counselor or therapist. Please refer to our resource section (page
19) for more options and guidance.
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I t took me 10 years to admit to myself, and then to others, that I was a survivor of rape.
It happened on a night with mutual friends, alcohol, and while I was out of town in an
environment that was unfamiliar to me. At the time of the assault, I used all of these
circumstances to tell myself that I had participated in the act, when in reality, my verbal
and physical resistance indicated otherwise. It is so common for women to believe that
because we didn’t physically “fight” him off, we invited it, and it wasn’t rape. This is not true.
When we are faced with a situation that seems impossible to get out of, or would require
a battle we don’t believe we are equipped for, we often feel we have no other choice
than to continue without resistance. This form of cooperation can even be considered a
survival tool in some circumstances, but it does not mean that we allowed it, wanted it,
asked for it, invited it, or chose it. If we did not offer our consent, it is sexual assault, and
in many cases, including mine, it was rape. It took me embarking on my journey in
Women Empowered to garner the confidence to acknowledge the reality of what
happened, and then share my story with others. In order to authentically ask others to
advocate for themselves, I first had to be an advocate for myself. Self-defense doesn’t
end if/when an assault takes place. Self-defense is the mindset that we deserve to be
protected, supported, and safe, and that may mean seeking help after an incident
occurs. One might think that acknowledging a sexual assault would make someone feel
powerless. In reality, it wasn’t until I was able to identify it as such that I was finally able
to take back the control that I felt was stolen from me that night. I know that if I were put
in the exact same situation, all these years later, I now have an arsenal of physical
and psychological tools to defend against him. As the shame was stripped away, my
power emerged.
- Eve
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BELIEVING IN BOUNDARIES MISCONCEPTION: Being verbally assertive can make the situation more
dangerous.
Our boundary setting tools are just as important, if not more important, than the physical
tools explored in this program. In order to prepare to use these tools, we first have to Reality: When addressing this misconception, the best question to ask ourselves is: What
understand the reasons why many may choose NOT to use verbal assertiveness to set would a potential (stranger) perpetrator want us to do? His ideal scenario is that we
boundaries and draw attention in threatening scenarios. Foremost among these reasons either ignore him all together, allowing him to approach us without being detected, or
is a belief that we are not entitled to have boundaries and/or that unwanted behavior that we shyly engage in conversation, allowing him to get close to us while he plans his
must be tolerated. Other reasons pertain to misconceptions about verbal assertiveness, next move. Based on this, we can infer that our best bet is to do the exact opposite of
such as the following: what he wants! Asserting a boundary both verbally and with body posture makes it clear
to him that he is on our radar and will not be able to approach us without our resistance.
MISCONCEPTION: In order to be a good person, I must be polite to others Additionally, it is unrealistic to think that any respectful person with good intentions will
(even strangers) at all times. suddenly attack you just because you felt unsafe and established a verbal boundary.
Reality: While being polite and courteous to the people around us is generally a positive
MISCONCEPTION: The more verbally aggressive you are, the better.
social construct, it should not be prioritized over our safety. When we are alone, or in any
situation that makes us feel uncomfortable, we should follow our instincts and prioritize our Reality: As mentioned above, verbal assertiveness is unlikely to escalate a situation when
safety over the feelings of others. As an example, if you are by yourself at a gas station, and applied appropriately. At the same time, when it comes to addressing a potential threat,
a man asks for your help because he is having car trouble, you have every right to prioritize it is important to know there is a threshold for combative energy – the point at which a
your safety, tell him you are unable to help, and immediately leave that gas station. potentially violent person chooses to become an actually violent person – and we want
You can always call help for him once you get to a safer location, if you really think he to maintain assertiveness without crossing that threshold. While many women would love
needs it. Anyone who is well-meaning will understand that a woman who is by herself in the opportunity to tell off every man who intentionally makes her feel uncomfortable,
an isolated area cannot be expected to help others, since it would put her safety at risk. avoiding violence is much more important than “telling them about themselves.”
An assertive statement made with open hands and a confident stance conveys:
MISCONCEPTION: I will be embarrassed if I over-react to someone who isn’t “Don’t come any closer. I see you as a threat, and I am prepared for what comes my way.”
actually a threat.
Reality: If your verbal self-defense is effective, you will never truly know what someone’s
intentions were. However, if you set firm verbal boundaries with someone who is an
actual threat, chances are they will attempt to make you feel like you are over-reacting
or being rude – they may even call you crazy. This attempt to embarrass you is expected
behavior from someone who actually had bad intentions, and was called out for his
behavior before getting away with it. Someone who is well-meaning will likely understand
that you felt threatened by them, and respect your space and wishes.
On the other hand, approaching someone with derogatory words and clenched fists
can send the signal: “I am a threat to you and your perceived position of power,” and
this could garner a violent response that puts us in more danger.
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Referring to the graph above, your familiarity with the individual increases along the In all of the above examples, you could choose to use the broad term “uncomfortable”
horizontal axis. For example, a complete stranger who you will likely never see again is on if being more specific makes you feel uneasy.
the far left, and on the far right may be someone you know extremely well, such as a family
member. Along the vertical axis, the level of perceived power or authority increases as When delivering the Three-Part Statement, stand tall with your shoulders back, maintain
you go up. At the bottom of this axis may be a child; at the top of this could be a police eye-contact, present a calm, serious face, and use a firm voice to stress the gravity of the
officer. What we can infer from this graph is when the level of perceived power and/ situation and your commitment to neutralizing the predator’s behavior. If the predator
or the level of familiarity increases, setting boundaries becomes more challenging (the senses any degree of uncertainty or hesitation in your statement, he may misinterpret or
pink area). Someone you know very well who also holds a position of power (such as intentionally dismiss your statement. Even with a clear delivery, he may ask, “Why?” Just
a boss) is likely the most difficult individual against whom to set a boundary. It is impor- remember, you are under no obligation to explain further. You can answer simply, “It just
tant to understand this so you can be prepared for a high level of discomfort in these does,” and then repeat the desired outcome (see The Conversational Web on page 49).
situations. And how do you prepare? By practicing boundary setting techniques and If the predator ignores your request, use the “Broken Record” strategy – simply repeat your
believing in your right to set boundaries in the first place. statement, at progressively higher intensity levels, until he acknowledges the boundary.
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Boundary Pushback
Here are some examples of some different desired outcomes, and how the boundary
setting technique used in each circumstance supports that outcome: When addressing someone who doesn’t respect boundaries, it is very likely that he will
EXAMPLE 1 offer some pushback on your initial attempt to set one. Anticipating their responses will
“I want to be safe.” help us deal with the pushback more decisively. Their resistant behaviors/responses may
A person stands behind you in line at a grocery store who smells like alcohol and is making include the following:
you uncomfortable by continuously brushing up against you. You immediately grab your
grocery basket and move to another line. Questioning Slander
“What is your problem?” Spreading rumors or lies about you.
You removed yourself from the situation without having to verbally address the behavior. The
behavior did not stop, but you protected your boundaries by removing yourself from his space, Retaliation Humiliation
so he can no longer be a threat to you. You are safe. Seeking a way to damage Shaming you in the
your reputation or humiliate you. presence of other people.
EXAMPLE 2
“I want the behavior to stop” Trivializing the interaction Challenging the boundary
There is a man at your gym who consistently tries to engage in conversation with you. “Don’t flatter yourself!” “What are you going to do about it?”
His conversations are often attempts at finding out about your personal life. You do not
It is important to recognize that these behaviors are a reflection of his own insecurities, lack
want to continue these conversations, and want to remain focused on your workouts. You
of respect, and perhaps his own humiliation. They do not reflect reality, and by setting a
say to him, “I come to the gym only to get a workout, and not to engage in personal
personal boundary you, in no way, warranted any of these responses. One way you can
conversations with others. I would like you to leave me to focus on my workout.”
respond is the following:
While there may be other people who enjoy being social at the gym, you do not. You communicate
that you want this engagement with you to stop. The desired outcome is that he respects the I see you are _________ (questioning/retaliating/attempting to slander my name,
boundary and stops the behavior. If he continues with the behavior, you may have to resort to etc.) because I set a boundary with you. I won’t let you do that.
other options.
You don’t owe him any further explanation nor do you need to engage with him any longer.
EXAMPLE 3
“I want him to never repeat this behavior again with me, or anyone else.” If he does respond with any of these forms of resistance to the boundary, you can
Your co-worker with whom you have worked on a few projects makes you feel
assure yourself that you have identified someone who is a threat to your safety. This is
uncomfortable by always complimenting you on your outfit or your body. You pull him
an emotionally manipulative individual that has been testing your boundaries in a very
aside and say “John, I’m not sure if you’re aware of this, and you may even be meaning
calculated manner, and you should continue to enforce boundaries or keep distance
it as a compliment, but when you make comments about what I am wearing or my
body, either in private or around other people, it makes me feel like I am not being from this person.
taken seriously. I’d like you to stop making those comments to me. As someone who
knows what a great partner you can be on a project, I would hate to see other women Boundary setting is an extremely effective empowerment tool. Just like with our physical
start to avoid working with you because of this behavior. My recommendation to you self-defense techniques, we will get better at setting boundaries the more we practice,
would be to keep the conversations more professional, or if you want to compliment and the more we believe that we deserve to set clear boundaries with others. Feel free to
someone, focus on the work they are doing.” role-play boundary setting situations such as those addressed in this section with your
Based on your relationship or perception of how he would receive this information, you saw this
training partner, or with friends.
as an opportunity to not only stop the behavior, but also offer him insight into his actions with the
hopes of influencing his behavior with others. We will have no control over whether he actually
stops or changes his behavior.
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves ,
even when we risk disappointing others.”
– Brené Brown
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A woman reserves the right to change her mind at any point during the course of the
sexual activity, and any new boundaries should be respected.
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COLLEGE CONCERNS
Figure 4: Victim-Offender Relationship for Rape Victimizations Committed
A national survey found that 83% of the women who reported being raped at some by Single Offenders
point in their lives were under the age of 25 at the time of the incident. This indicates that
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college-aged women are within this high-risk range. A recent study entitled “The Sexual
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Victimization of College Women” revealed that approximately 24% of all female college
students have been sexually assaulted and that non-strangers conducted 90% of the 40
Completed rape
reported sexual assaults. In this section, we will explore some additional statistics and 35.5
34.2 Attempled rape
safety considerations that, when used in combination with the non-stranger survival
Percentage of sample
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for female college students. 24.2 23.7
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In an abusive relationship, here are behaviors that one partner may engage in:
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If you have sought out the Women Empowered program because you are in, or are a
survivor of, a domestic violence relationship, here are some important points:
In cases of domestic violence, it is not our intent that the Women Empowered
program should take the place of a safety plan. Quite the contrary, it is best that a
safety plan be in place and specialized guidance be sought through advocates,
in addition to learning our self-defense techniques.
You are not alone. 1 out of 5 women have been severely physically abused by her
partner. (22) There are communities of women ready and willing to support you on
your journey.
We are proud of you. By embarking on the Women Empowered program you are
taking steps to regain control in your life. You are on the path to safety.
Focus on survival. A large part of our program focuses on neutralizing threats without
escalation, and simply surviving the worst-case scenarios. We want you to have the
tools to keep yourself safe if your partner decides to retaliate or act out in violence.
Only you know the details of your situation, so you should feel empowered to decide
what principles and techniques may or may not apply as a tool to keep you safe.
Our goal is that by building your confidence through self-defense, you will feel
empowered to make personal choices that will not only get you to safety, but help
keep you there.
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Bystander intervention. Whether it was a catcall, an inappropriate sexual joke, or
a physical sexual assault, most men have witnessed some form of sexual harassment
in their lives. As bystanders of the behavior, you can do something about it. Here are
some ways you can intervene when witnessing sexual harassment or sexual assault.
Explain to the perpetrator that his behavior was inappropriate. You can say things like:
“that was inappropriate” or “that was sexual harassment” or “you just made her feel really
uncomfortable.” By calling out his behavior, we are identifying that it is not an acceptable
A MAN’S ROLE way of communicating in our society.
There are many great men who, like many women, feel hopeless in the battle against Talk to her. Depending on her state of vulnerability and your relationship to her, you can
offer some private acknowledgement of what just happened. “I’m sorry he said that to you.
sexual assault. If you are a man who wants to know what you can do and how you can
I think that was extremely inappropriate.”
help, here are some important actions you can take to support survivors and help prevent
violence against women. Be an advocate. One of the many reasons women don’t report sexual harassment is the
fear of not being taken seriously. As a witness of the behavior, you can offer your support in
Lead by example. This is one of the most important roles a man can assume in reporting the incident. For example, if it occurs in the workplace, you can offer to go with
the fight against sexual violence. By exemplifying respectful communication and the woman to report the behavior to Human Resources. Knowing she has support and a
witness to the behavior may make her feel more empowered to speak up.
interactions with women, you are serving as a much needed role model for other
men and boys. Physically intervene. Men who invest in their self-defense capabilities are more likely to
intervene when witnessing someone being mistreated. If you see a woman being hurt or
Understand consent. While many men (and women) believe they understand physically assaulted, having physical self-defense tools, and the confidence to use them,
consent, many do not fully understand what constitutes a consensual engagement. will allow you to intervene safely. If you have not yet embarked on the self-defense journey,
Consent does not just apply to sexual activity, and you can practice this go to www.GracieUniversity.com, and enjoy the first three lessons of the Gracie Combatives
understanding in your everyday interactions. For example, rather than hugging program for free.
someone (young or old) without their participation, ask if you can have a hug, and
respect their response – even if it is your own child!
Believe them. Another reason women don’t report sexual assault is because of the
Educate other men/boys. Help other men and boys understand consent. Some fear of being accused of lying, or being told they are overreacting. They often know
young men are never educated about consent by someone they know and trust, it is her word vs. his word, and it can be difficult to prove his guilt. Sexual predators
and then embark on their adolescent years as a potential liability to themselves and are often very well liked personalities in social settings, and this can make people
others. When the belief that women should have autonomous control of their bodies in their circles question the validity of an accusation. Just because someone is well
is modeled and spoken about, our younger generations will subscribe to those same liked, good looking, funny, charming, financially successful, or a public figure does
beliefs. When speaking to other men/boys about a woman/girl, rather than only not mean they are incapable of abuse. It is an extremely difficult and emotional
focusing on her appearance, talk about her as a complete human being. When process to follow through with a sexual assault allegation, and they should never
women are only described by their appearance, it reinforces the belief that women be taken lightly. Your default response to an allegation should always be that the
are one-dimensional and serve only one purpose: to be an attractive physical woman is telling the truth.
specimen for other men. When you focus on women’s other attributes such as their
intelligence, humor, or unique capabilities, it reinforces the belief that women are
equal contributors to society, and should be treated with respect.
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so we
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Grounding Techniques
N
o matter how diligently we practice awareness or how effectively we establish
boundaries, there is always the risk that a determined attacker will make it past our
initial lines of defense. Regardless of your age or physical condition, you CAN and you
When we sense that we are in danger, our body’s sympathetic nervous system prepares to run or fight.
Our body releases adrenaline and prioritizes which bodily functions are most needed at that time, and
DESERVE to defend yourself. You have the moral and legal right to defend yourself even if which are not. Our breathing changes. We may hyperventilate or we may hold our breath. We may lose
the assailant hasn’t made physical contact. Many people fear that fighting back will anger touch with our hands and feet or begin to feel dizzy, floating, or no longer connected to the ground. These
the attacker and worsen the outcome. Statistics strongly suggest that your odds of survival processes are a normal part of a healthy body’s response to danger. When someone is triggered, her body
are far greater if you do fight back, and your risk of injury is no greater than if you don’t. may falsely sense that she is in danger, and experience one, or several of these reactions. In order to stop
the release of adrenaline and come back to the present, the following are just three of many Grounding
There are no “right” or “wrong” techniques in the context of a self-defense fight for your Techniques used by mental health professionals.
life. Every assault is different, and the only thing that matters is your survival. Our objective
in the Women Empowered program isn’t to give you a precise technique for every 1. REGROUND YOURSELF: Reconnect to the ground under your feet by stomping each of your feet one at a time into the
floor. Do you feel your heel, the ball of your foot, and toes connecting to the floor? See if you can wiggle and find each
possible scenario – that would be impossible. Instead, we want to use our exploration
individual toe. Now notice your legs. Without looking, see if you can notice where your clothing touches your legs. Is it
of the most common threat scenarios and reliable self-defense techniques to empower soft, loose, or snug? Now, notice how you are feeling overall. Do you need more time to return to a peaceful state? If you
you with an understanding of the principles that can be applied to any situation you find still feel uncomfortable and want to ground yourself further, find a place to sit down and lean against something (on a
chair with a back, or against a wall) and continue the grounding exercise. Without looking, notice what it is made out of
yourself in. and how it feels (soft, hard, comfortable?). Notice how it is safely holding your weight. Now see if you can very slowly
scan your body from your head down to your toes. Try to find and release any tension you feel in your body.
Everything you will learn is based on the time-tested principles of Gracie Jiu-Jitsu – 2. DIAPHRAGMATIC BREATHING: One of the most helpful regrounding techniques is to check in with your breathing. Take a
leverage, timing, and energy efficiency – so that you can complete the program deep breath in through your nose and extend your belly out. Exhale slowly. You may also try ujjayi breathing (inhale through
regardless of your age or physical ability. In addition, Women Empowered is the only the nose to completely fill the lungs, and while slightly contracting the throat, exhale through the nose). Do this 3-7 times.
These breaths help to activate the parasympathetic system that slows down and stops the adrenaline from pumping and
self-defense system that effectively addresses what to do when an assailant pins you works to return your body to a calm state. Once your breathing is back to normal, you can check in on the rest of your body.
to the ground against your will. Without any previous experience, you will learn the
3. SCALING: Ideally, we would like to be aware of where we are at on a scale of 1 – 10. 1 is calm and content. 10 is
techniques and elevate your confidence with Women Empowered! extreme discomfort. 4, 5, and 6 are where we do our best work to grow and learn in the discomfort. If you are quickly
approaching 7 or are already in 8, 9, or 10, you are at risk of re-traumatizing yourself and could potentially make the
memory or reaction worse. If this is the case, it is important to revisit steps 1 and 2 until you find yourself at a 6 or below.
WOMEN EMPOWERED FOR HEALING
While learning self-defense can be an extremely empowering experience for survivors of At this point, reassess what feels right for you. Honor your body’s needs, whether it is to stop training for
assault, it can also bring up painful or overwhelming emotions. Due to the nature of the the day, or to continue. You may need to simply sit and breathe for a while longer, or you might be ready to
content of the Women Empowered program and this survival manual, it is possible some get up and go. Be aware that like our other techniques, these three tools will serve you better in the time
participants may experience triggers. A “trigger” is something that causes one to have of need if you practice them before you are actually triggered.
flashbacks or vivid memories about a past trauma. It can cause an onset of emotions, a
“fight, flight or freeze” response, anxiety, or an uncontrolled physical response such as an It can be very helpful to practice these tools with the aid of a mental health professional. In the midst
inability to move. If you experience triggering while practicing the physical techniques, of being triggered, it can be very difficult to remember all the above steps. Having a therapist walk you
stop the practice, try to identify what is happening with your body and mind, and if through the steps until you have mastered them makes it much easier for you to access them within
possible in this space and time, allow yourself to express the emotions that come up, yourself during future acute situations.
even if that means crying or yelling. Take as much time as you need to re-ground yourself
and identify your emotions. The following is some information provided by Anna Pirkl, - Anna Pirkl, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (BBS 89201)
Marriage and Family Therapist (BBS 89201) and a Women Empowered graduate.
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In addition, discussing these triggers with a professional or someone you trust can assist 3. Reflex Development Drill: In some lessons we have a Reflex Development Drill.
in the overall healing process from trauma. While discovering your triggers is a difficult During these drills we will teach you how to execute all the variations of the newly
process for all survivors, it can be a part of the healing process when addressed in learned technique in combination with previously learned techniques. The Reflex
a healthy manner. If you wish to overcome a particular trigger, along with seeking Development Drills train you to remain calm and avoid panic by strengthening your
professional help, you can experiment with trying small amounts of the triggering ability to choose the most applicable technique for any particular threat scenario.
experience at a time, and then increase your exposure in a gradual and manageable
4. Mindset Minute: At the end of each lesson, we summarize the most important
way. Always refer back to your Grounding Techniques should you need them. You may
details, concepts, and principles of the featured technique.
continue until you have successfully managed your emotions to the point that the
experience is no longer a trigger. It is also possible that triggers can reappear, even long 5. Fight Philosophy: In some lessons, we have Fight Philosophy discussions. These
after you believe you have overcome them. We ask that you have patience with yourself discussions cover some critical self-defense principles and are, in some ways, more
and this process. You should embark on this journey at your pace, and you should feel in important than the physical techniques. Many of these concepts will be tested in
no rush to get back to practicing a particular position or technique that caused a trigger.
the Pink Belt Qualification Test, so don’t skip ahead!
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Most importantly, it is absolutely essential that you cycle through all 20 lessons at least
four times before you consider the program “completed.” There is a huge difference
between simply memorizing the steps of a technique and internalizing it to the point of
developing the reflexes and conviction that will save you during a real assault. No matter
how dedicated or focused you are when you first cycle through the lessons, our experience
has taught us that these additional cycles provide two crucial benefits. First, you will
pick up on several important details each time you re-watch a lesson, and second,
your confidence in the execution of the techniques will grow immensely with repeated
practice. With this program, we have provided a Progress Tracker Card to facilitate review
sessions and track your lesson progress, along with an 80-day Recommended
Training Schedule to guide you through the cycling of each lesson a total of four times.
GRACIEUNIVERSITY.COM
If you haven’t yet, make sure you log on to GracieUniversity.com and create your free
online profile. This is how we will stay connected to you throughout your training, answer
any of your questions, and eventually evaluate you for your pink belt. If you visit the
Women Empowered section, you will have access to the technique forums where other
students from around the world have posted their questions, and received answers from
our team of certified instructors. If, at any point during your training, you have a question
that isn’t effectively addressed in the video lessons, you can search these forums for the
answer or submit a new post and a Gracie University instructor will be glad to help you.
To make the most of your learning experience, make sure you familiarize yourself
with all the resources at GracieUniversity.com before you begin.
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“ and
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are an
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– George Herbert
THE EMPOWERMENT HANDBOOK T H E P I N K B E LT
I n Gracie Jiu-Jitsu, we use different colored belts to reflect each student’s progress
through the system. A student starts as a white belt and progresses through blue belt,
purple belt, brown belt, black belt, and then eventually, red belt over a lifetime of study and
women are encouraged to continue earning all Gracie Jiu-Jitsu belts from blue to black,
it became clear that the pink belt isn’t a limitation at all, but rather a beginning for many
women who might have never otherwise given Gracie Jiu-Jitsu a chance.
practice. When the belt system was created in the 1960s, very few women practiced Gra-
cie Jiu-Jitsu, and there was no program designed exclusively for women. With a program as enlightening and empowering as this one, I hope that the pink belt,
and all that it takes to earn it, will bring power to a color that some view as uniquely
When we created Women Empowered, we sought a way to acknowledge a woman’s feminine, or even “weak.” In martial arts, the meaning of the belt is not determined by
successful completion of the course. We wanted to stick with the tradition of awarding its color, but rather, the amount of time, sweat, and dedication that goes into earning it.
belts, but, because the course featured so many unique techniques, objectives, and For me, and other dedicated students of the Women Empowered program who have
psychology tailored to a special set of circumstances, the standard Gracie Jiu-Jitsu belt devoted countless hours to earning our pink belts, it has become synonymous with
system did not apply. So we decided to add an entirely new belt, and since pink was strength, technique, and empowerment.
one of the only colors not used in the existing belt system, we introduced the Women
Empowered Pink Belt!
Some women have understandably asked, “Why was pink the color chosen for the belt?”
When selecting the belt color, pink came to us as the only distinct common color not yet
used in jiu-jitsu belt promotions (white, yellow, orange, green, blue, purple, brown, black,
red had all been taken). Because the techniques and philosophy of the Women
Empowered program differ from the general Gracie Jiu-Jitsu curriculum, we felt that
creating a distinctly colored belt for Women Empowered would be a way to symbolize
the uniqueness of the program.
Initially, we realized that tying the pink belt to the Women Empowered program could be
seen as too gender specific and therefore limiting, but when we consider the fact that
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TESTING INSTRUCTIONS Be sure you have a good “bad guy.” Your testing partner should attack you in a
Once you are 100% confident in your execution of all the Women Empowered techniques manageable yet realistic fashion.
we invite you to take the Pink Belt Qualification Test via our Video Evaluation Process.
At the end of the video, tell us what you thought of the program, the reason(s) why
The belt testing process consists of three steps.
you decided to embark on the jiu-jitsu journey, and the benefits you’ve obtained
from it. We have no time limit for this portion of the recording. You may pause the
Step 1: Perfect the Techniques
camera after the technique demo and take a break before recording this segment.
True mastery takes time, so don’t rush to take the test. Cycle through all 20 lessons at least
four times before you consider testing. If a lesson is particularly challenging for you, Step 3: Upload the Video
dedicate extra time to mastering the move before you test for the pink belt. Once you have digitally recorded your test, upload the video to the online Testing Center
Step 2: Record the Test at www.GracieUniversity.com. A Gracie University instructor will evaluate your test based
on the criteria outlined in the next section. If your performance meets Gracie University
Once you can confidently execute all of the techniques, you will digitally record your test standards, we will award you a Women Empowered Pink Belt.
performance. When recording:
Begin by stating your name. When you upload your test, please disclose any disabilities, injuries, or physical conditions
that prevent you from executing the techniques as demonstrated in the video lessons
State the 4-phase stranger attack strategy.
so that we may take this information into consideration during your evaluation. Adhere
State the 4-phase non-stranger attack strategy. to the digital file size and format specifications to ensure an efficient upload of your test.
Visit the online Testing Center for more tips on recording and uploading your test video.
Perform all the techniques in the EXACT order we’ve outlined in this section.
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1. Accuracy: Precise and correct execution. Four Phases of Attack (Stranger) 5. Rear Attack Defenses (4) 11. Punch Block Series (5)
1. Identify an unsuspecting target Rear Choke (Pull Back) Stage 1
Execute the techniques exactly as we teach them on the instructional videos. We will 2. Subdue and isolate the target Rear Choke (Shoulder Slip) Stage 2
accept slight modifications based on different body types and physical capabilities. 3. Control and exhaust the target Rear Bear Hug (Under-arm) Stage 3
4. Carry out the assault Rear Bear Hug (Over-arm) Stage 4
2. Efficiency: Fluid, relaxed movements and efficient use of energy. Stage 5
Four Phases of an Attack (Non-Stranger) 6. Hair Grab Defenses (3)
We want to see you demonstrate maximum use of leverage in every technique. 1. Intrusion Standing Armlock 12. Guard Chokes (4)
Additionally, we want to make sure you know when to move, and when NOT to move – 2. Desensitization Guard Armlock Triangle Choke (Giant Killer)
3. Isolation Guard Pull Variation Triangle Choke (Stage 3)
especially in Phase 3.
4. Carry out the assault Shirt Choke (Giant Killer)
7. Trap and Roll Escape (5) Guillotine Choke
3. Reflexes: Instinctive and timely responses to all indicators. 1. Combat Base (3) Standard Variation
Base Get-up Punch Block Variation 13. Drag Defenses (3)
We assess reflexes by measuring the amount of time between indicator and response. Push Base Spread Hand Variation Wrist Drag
For example, if it takes you several seconds to decipher a wrist grab, you will receive a Pull Base Wrist-pin Variation Ankle Drag
1-point deduction for delayed reflexes. Hair Grab Variation Hair Drag
2. Wrist Releases (7)
Note: Add the Super Slap to all variations. 8. Elbow Escape (3) 14. Weapon Defenses (4)
4. Principles: Deep understanding of the core concepts. Standard Grip – 1 on 1 Standard Variation Straight Armlock (Gun)
Standard Grip – 2 on 1 Heel Drag Variation Kimura Armlock (Gun)
In the freestyle demonstrations, we will be assessing your knowledge of the core principles
Standard Grip – 2 on 2 Face Down Variation Straight Armlock (Knife)
of the Women Empowered program: boundary setting, distance management, false Inverted Grip – 1 on 1 Kimura Armlock (Knife)
surrenders, and energy efficiency. When a core principle is clearly omitted or incorrectly Inverted Grip – 2 on 1 9. Shrimp Escape (3)
applied, you will recieve a point deduction. Inverted Grip – 2 on 2 Block and Shoot 15. Rear Naked Choke (1)
Inverted Grip – Low Shrimp and Shoot Rear Naked Choke
Rider Variation
If you receive 10 deductions or less, (a final score of 90 points or higher) the evaluator 3. Front Choke Defenses (3) Standing Freestyle Demo: 2 minutes
will recommend you for promotion. If you score less than 90 points, we will return your test Standard Variation 10. Guard Get-up (9) For two minutes, you will be
with a description of each error so that you can use the feedback to grow and effectively Wall-pin Variation (Two-handed) Standard Variation required to demonstrate all standing
Wall-pin Variation (One-handed) False Surrender self-defense techniques at various
prepare to retest. Don’t give up if you fail the first time around. We are committed to helping intensity levels in response to your
you achieve your goal of total empowerment and want to ensure that you are fully Rider Variation
partner’s indicators.
4. Stop-Block-Frame (6) Heavy Chest Variation
prepared for any potential threats that may come your way. Once a Gracie University Distance Control Choke Variation Ground Freestyle Demo: 2 minutes
head instructor validates your test, and you are approved for promotion, you will receive a Block and Move Wrist-pin Variation For two minutes, you will be
graduation certificate and an official pink belt as a symbol of your successful completion Block and Frame Direct Get-up Variation required to demonstrate all ground
of the Women Empowered program. If your performance is exceptional, and you score a Punch Protection Knee Shield Variation self-defense techniques at various
Guillotine Choke (Standing) Power Frame intensity levels in response to your
95 or higher, you may qualify for the Women Empowered Instructor Certification Program Guillotine Choke (Guard Pull) partner’s indicators.
(ICP) should you choose to go down that path. We’ll discuss the ICP in more detail in Exhale, you’re done!
Section 5.
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S E C T I O N
Those who do.
Those who
teach.
– Aristotle
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T he pink belt marks the completion of the Women Empowered program. For some, this
is the end of the journey. For others, it’s just the beginning. Regardless of where you go
from here, you must remember that your new skills are perishable. In order to maintain your
Phase 4: Start Teaching!
If you pass the Live Evaluation, you’ll have the opportunity to begin teaching Women
Empowered in your community. If this happens, here are some of the benefits you
reflexes, plan to review all of the techniques at least once a month for the rest of your life! will enjoy:
The review should take no more than 10 -15 minutes, and if you ever need your skills in
self-defense, you’ll be glad you stayed committed. Regular review will also allow you to
Empowering your community. Learning self-defense helps us discover the
modify the techniques to accommodate your body as you get older. Now that you’ve
confidence we didn’t know we were missing. We believe that the world would
completed the program, if you’re eager for more, there are some exciting options for you
be a better place if every woman knew jiu-jitsu. By teaching self-defense and
to consider!
spreading the belief that we are all worth defending, you will be making an
invaluable contribution to your community.
BECOME AN INSTRUCTOR Mastering your self-defense mindset. When you teach once, you learn twice.
If you’ve fallen in love with the Women Empowered program, you may be interested in Every time you help a student learn a technique or understand a principle, your
becoming a certified instructor, so you can teach this program in your community. We knowledge of the material grows. By taking an active role as a self-defense
believe that Women Empowered needs to be made accessible to women all over the instructor, you are ensuring that your skillset will always be with you.
world, and the only way this is possible is to have highly-motivated program graduates
Profiting from your passion. Success is doing what you love and getting paid
willing to help us make it happen, and that means you! Here is what it takes to become
for it. Once you become a certified instructor, you will be authorized to teach the
a certified instructor of the Women Empowered program:
Women Empowered program in your community for profit, or as a donation-based
Phase 1: Score 95+ charitable service for your community. The choice is yours, and regardless of
The most dedicated students make the best instructors. If you score 95 or higher on your which path you choose, we’ll be there to support you.
pink belt test, you will be able to apply for the Instructor Certification Program (ICP). If you
fail to score a 95, you may retest once you’ve addressed the errors.
For more information on the ICP process, or to submit your application,
Phase 2: Complete the Online ICP
visit GracieUniveristy.com/WEICP
Once you pay the ICP tuition and pass the background check, you will be granted
access to a comprehensive online curriculum aimed at teaching you all the skills needed
to successfully administer and teach the Women Empowered program. Once you learn
all the material, you will upload a series of videos of you demonstrating the most important
teaching skills.
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