​ Have you ever imagined that buying everything for your child and offering him all the

things he wants can lead to his own depression rather than his happiness ?​ ​This is what John

Rosemond claims in the video, “Is Your Child Getting Enough Vitamin N ?”.​ ​The speaker

argues that parents should say “No” to their children when they demand unneeded things,

because over indulgence of kids and giving them all the things they want make them selfish, hard

to satisfy and eventually lead to their depression. Rosemond supported his point of view by

stating that parents usually try to satisfy their kids when they cry or whine by giving them what

they ask for, so the children learn that manipulating and demanding is the easy way to obtain

what they desire , instead of learning that hard working and sacrificing are the keys of achieving

dreams and success in real life​. ​Currently, This topic is very controversial and many people have

different opinions regarding it.​ ​Personally, I strongly agree that spoiling children lead to their

depression and failure in real life, because the over-indulged kid grows up to be very dependent

and he never achieve his goals that he learned how to ask for, but he never learned how to

achieve himself.

​ I totally agree that over spoiling of kids affects them negatively and leads to their

disappointment in life​. ​In the video, “Is Your Child Getting Enough Vitamin N ?”, John

Rosemond mentions that the kids In the fifties were more mentally healthy than the kids in these

days because they had less things and were not offered all what is easily available for the

children currently. He advocated his claim by a study that shows that depression among

teenagers and children increased in a worrying way specifically in the last decades, when parents

started to over spoil their kids to the extent that this became a phenomenon. The speaker made a
valid point here because it is very logical that when the child is used to have all the things he

wants without any compromising or suffering from his side, he will not value or appreciate any

of them and he will grow up to be a demanding person that complains about everything and

waits for the others to work hard to satisfy his needs instead of doing his best and offers all what

he is capable of to achieve his targets​.​ Personally, I experienced this through what happened with

my brother Omar. He is my younger brother and we were grown up together but we were raised

completely different. Like most of the middle eastern people who tend to spoil their sons more

than their daughters and usually give them wider space of freedom, my parents spoiled my

brother a lot when we were young. They used to get him everything he asks for even if it was

over expensive. That triggered me to offer all what I have and motivates me to do my best in

order to grab their attention to my capabilities and prove that he is not better than me just

because he is a male. He started to fail in his school exams and he scored a very low grade in

high school, while I was a high honor graduate and I joined the faculty of my dreams. My

parents payed a lot of money for him to join the American University of Cairo, but unfortunately,

he continued to fail and his progress was very slow, while I also graduated from my faculty with

a very high GPA and started to work in the profession I have always wanted. He is still studying

in the university until now and this is the tenth year for him, But now I was offered a full

scholarship at the same university my parents payed thousands of dollars for my brother to join

for all these years without being able to get his degree. I am very sad that their over-indulgence

of him lead to this unpleasant situation right now, but honestly I am feeling lucky that they

unconsciously motivated me to be who I am right now by my own hard work and persistence.

This example shows how spoiling kids can ruin their lives by making them dependent and
unrealistic about their expectations in life, which will most likely lead to their disappointments

when they face the fact they will not be able to get all what they want through just asking for it

or demanding it​. Targets are only achieved through persistence and hard-working. Thus, parents

should know when to offer their kids what they need, and when to refuse giving them what they

want, if it is unnecessary for the children.

​ In conclusion, I agree that sometimes saying “No” to the children by their parents can be

very vital and important.MISSING THE REASON WHY YOU REACTED​ ​Sometimes parents

think that spoiling kids and giving them unnecessary things will make them happy, but on the

contrary, this leads to their disappointment when they grow up to find that demanding things is

not the way to obtain them, but they should work very effectively and be productive to achieve

their dreams. Parents must learn when to give and when to deprive their own kids in order to

raise them properly with a better mental health. Currently, This topic is very significant because

raising kids is a very complicated and difficult process as well as important to our own families

and society too. Our kids will grow one day to be adults and they will be responsible of their own

families; therefore, we should teach our sons and daughters how to be mature, reasonable, and

how to be independent in order to have a better society in the future with good mental health

individuals and greater achievements. TOO LONG ​ I recommend that parents satisfy all their

kids’ actual needs according to the priorities they know matter more and they should never

surrender to their children’s persistence when unless they are giving them what they want as a

present if the kids did something they deserve to be rewarded for.