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Quicker, shallower breathing is the first trigger which catapults all the other anxious symptoms
into action. So by controlling breathing you control all the other anxiety symptoms as well.
If you purposely breathe out longer than you breathe in, your body has to calm right down
(regardless of what tricks your imagination is playing on you).
So if you start to feel fearful:
Stop
Focus on your breath
Take a breath in (to the quick count of 7 in your mind)
Then slowly breathe out (to the quick count of 11 in your mind)
If you do this for a minute or so, you'll be amazed how quickly you've calmed down. We call this
'7/11 breathing' but the numbers are up to you, just as long as the out-breath is longer than
the in-breath.
"That's all very well!" I hear you say. "But when I get anxious I forget everything and all good
advice goes out the window!"
So you might be thinking about next Wednesday's dental appointment and find yourself
breathing more quickly or your palms getting moist. This in turn primes your body to become
even more anxious in the actual situation and so the vicious cycle continues. And note the role
of the imagination in priming your mind and body to feel fearful (see opening story).
But you're going to find that breathing in a relaxed 7/11 way whilst imagining the upcoming
situation ahead of time calms the association down, priming your mind to feel more relaxed
naturally and automatically when the actual situation arrives.
So when you find yourself thinking about the future event, do 7/11 breathing.
One symptom of too much fear or anxiety is not being able to think clearly (Nasrudin stumbled
into the nearest tomb!). This happens because the emotional part of the brain 'swamps' the
thinking part so as to avoid, say, over-analysis getting in the way of running like Bejessus from
a lion.
But in most modern situations we want to retain clear thought. And keeping your 'thinking
brain' working actually calms you right down. The next step helps you do that.
3) Use a different part of your brain
When we become very anxious, it's harder to think clearly. But if we force ourselves to use
parts of 'the thinking brain', this will dilute the emotion and begin to calm you down.
The easiest way to do this is with numbers. You can scale your own fear from 1 to 10, 10 being
the most terrified it's possible to be and 1 being the ultimate relaxed state.
When you're feeling anxious, ask yourself: "Okay what number on the scale am I right now? Am I
a 7, or a 5?" Just doing this will lower anxiety because it kick-starts the thinking brain, diluting
the emotion and automatically making you calmer.
I recall the first time I gave a speech to three hundred people. Just before I was about to start,
I was feeling more anxious than I would have liked. So I scaled myself at a 6, breathed longer
out than in for a few moments, and waited for myself to go down to a 3 before starting. I took
control. Scaling (sometimes known as 'grading') your fear puts a 'fence' around it, making it
more manageable, and forces you to think.
Some people don't even really know they are doing this. So:
Sit down and do your 7/11 breathing.
Count yourself down from whatever number you deem yourself to be to a 2
or a 1.
Imagine seeing yourself in the situation you were dreading, but see yourself
being calm, composed, cool, and comfortable and things going well. Doing this
starts to recondition your mind to feel calmer and more upbeat about upcoming
events or regular situations which were causing anxiety.
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