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Book Report - Emotional Intellience - Swati Gaur Agarwal
Book Report - Emotional Intellience - Swati Gaur Agarwal
EMOTIONAL
INTELLIGEN “In a very real sense
we have two minds
CE one that thinks and
one that feels”
- DANIEL GOLEMAN
COMPILED BY
SWATI GAUR AGARWAL
Topic: Emotional
Intelligence
What is this book all about?
This book sheds light on scientific insights into human emotions and how they work in the most
perplexing moments in our lives and in the world around us. It is divided into 5 major parts as
explained below.
Part 1 talks about new discoveries about the brain’s emotional architecture that offer an explanation
of those most baffling moments in our lives when feeling overwhelms all rationality and how
understanding the interplay of brain structures that rule moments of rage/fear or passion/joy can
help to subdue destructive and self-defeating emotional impulses.
Part 2 takes the reader in seeing how neurological givens play out in the basic flair for living called
emotional intelligence.
Part 3 examines how having emotional intelligence can preserve most prized relationships and lack
of it corrode them.
Part 4 shows, the emotional lessons we learn as children at home and at school shape the emotional
circuits, making us more adept or inept at the basics of emotional intelligence.
Part 5 explores what all difficulties and failures await those who are unable to master the emotional
aspect and how deficiencies of it increases the risks of depression or life of violence to eating
disorder and drug abuse.
Information
Part 1 – The Emotional Brain
What are emotions for?
Deepest feelings, Passions and longings are essential guides, and that power is extraordinary. Our
emotions guide us in facing predicaments and tasks that are too important to leave to intellect alone.
Each emotion offers a distinctive readiness to act and shapes our decision and Despite the social
constraints, passion overwhelm reason time and again.
Emotions are powerful and each emotion prepares the body for a very different kind of response like
Anger makes blood flows to the hand making it easier to strike at someone whereas with fear, blood
goes to the large skeletal muscles such as in the legs making it easier to flee.
these biological propensities to act are sharped further by life experiences and Culture.
In a very real sense we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feels.
Know Thyself
Here author talks about the importance of Self-observation and Self-awareness in this chapter. Self-
awareness is all about being aware of both our mood and our thoughts about that mood.
Psychologist John Mayer finds that people tend to fall into distinctive styles (Self-aware, Engulfed
and Accepting) for attending to and dealing with their emotions.
Passion’s slaves
Anatomy of Rage along with various ways on ‘Cooling Down’, ‘Ventilation’ and ‘Soothing anxiety’ is
explained in detail. ‘Managing Melancholy’ with ‘Mood lifters’ is something that would resonate with
almost everybody.
Takeaways
My takeaways from this book are several and are listed below.
- IQ and EQ goes hand in hand when we talk about successful and happy people.
- It is high time that this concept is taken as seriously as food in our day to day lives.
- Different activities in our brain's different parts affect our emotions by releasing hormones and
which in the end affect our actions.
- EI can be developed and improved at any stage of life with practice.
- Positive feelings are the medicines of mind.
- Having emotional intelligence can make one thrive in all areas of life.
I resonated with this book at so many different levels but the biggest is the realization that whenever I had
applied emotional intelligence to people or situations, the results have been very positive and encouraging.
And the times when I failed to apply it, results were sad and demotivating.
How and where would you apply your learnings moving ahead?
I would apply all these learning in my day to day personal and professional life and while taking all decisions.
Not only will I invest in self observance but also in observing people around me. I will put myself in shoes of
others to understand them better which will in turn improve my decision-making skills.