THEOLOGY-15

MARRIAGE AND FAMLY

MODULE 1&2

BRIAN KYLE C. UNCAINO MR. PAOLO ANGELO C. GUIBANI

BSCE-IV INSTRUCTOR

Course Title: Marriage and Family

Course Code: Theology 15
No. of units: 3 Units
Module 3 II.Marriage in the New Testament
A. Marriage in the Gospels
Module 4 B. Marriage in St. Paul teachings

ACTIVITIES:

(Think/Assess)

Make a short essay (5-7 sentences only) by answering the following questions:
A. WHAT ARE THE TWO IMPORTANT ASPECTS OF MARRIAGE?

The two important aspects of a marriage are; “the parties' legal ability to marry each
other”, second is “mutual consent of the parties”.

Marriages take work, commitment, and love, but they also need respect to be truly happy and
successful. A marriage based on love and respect doesn't just happen. Both spouses have to
do their part. Below are some important keys to work on each day to make your marriage
successful.

B. WHAT ARE THE TEACHINGS OF JESUS ABOUT DIVORCE?

The word “divorces” is the same term the Pharisees used in verses 3 and 7. It is the Greek
word for “letting go.” Also, “marries” refers to the marriage bond between a husband and
wife. These words grammatically link together and equally relate to the word “anyone”.

Jesus said in Matthew 19:9, “I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital
unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.” Jesus restored God’s creation
 law rather than merely commenting on the law of Moses. He spoke of two classes of persons
who commit adultery: explicitly, husbands who divorce their wives without the cause of
“marital unfaithfulness” to marry other women; and implicitly, women who marry husbands
who have divorced their wives for reasons other than “marital unfaithfulness.”

(Experience)
A. IDENTIFY WHICH TEACHINGS OF JESUS ON MARRIAGE ARE ACTIVELY
PRESENT IN THE MARRIED COUPLES YOU KNOW?

The first important teachings of Jesus on marriage that are actively present to married
couples is Ephesians 5:25. God, through the Apostle Paul, said, “Husbands, love your wives,
just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it….” The husband is to be the
servant-leader. As Jesus loved the church so a husband is called to love his wife. As men, our
role is to love our wives with a sacrificial love.

B. IDENTIFY COMMON PROBLEMS AMONG MARRIED COUPLES?

For me, these are common problems that are present among married couples. These are the
most common problem for me in my opinion these are “Jealousy” and “Communication
Problems”.
Jealousy is another common marriage problem that causes a marriage to turn sour. If you
have an overly jealous partner, being with them and around them can become a challenge.

Jealousy is good for any relationship to an extent, as long as it is not a person being overly
jealous. Such individuals will be overbearing: they may question who you are talking to on
the phone, why you are talking to them, how you know them and how long you have known
them, etc. Having a spouse that is overly jealous can put a strain on the relationship; a lot of
stress will eventually end such a relationship.

Lack of communication is one of the most common problems in marriage. Communication

encompasses both verbal and non-verbal cues, which is why even if you have known
someone for a long period of time, a slight change in the facial expression or any other form
of body language can be perceived incorrectly. Men and women communicate very
differently and can fall in a habitat of improper communication, and if such relationship
issues are allowed to fester in a marriage, then the sanctity of marriage is definitely at stake.

Healthy communication is the foundation for success in marriage.

(Challenge)
Prepare a diagram about “Marriage in the Gospel” in simple terms.

ON THE MATTER OF ON THE ISSUE OF

LOVE MARRIAGE

MARRIAGE IN
THE GOSPEL

THE WEDDING FEAST QUESTIONS ON

EVENT DIVORCE
(Challenge)
Prepare a diagram about “Marriage in Saint’s Paul Teachings” in simple terms.

Marriage in
Saint’s Paul
Teachings
(Harness)
Imagine that you have friends who are experiencing troubles with each other and are tempted to break up
their marriage. Write down what you would tell them, using the teachings of Christ in this lesson as your
basis and guide.

Your first priority is to listen.

We all need someone to listen and not just hear us. When a friend is facing struggles in their marriage, it
is a very important time to hear what they are experiencing with compassion. Fixing the situation is not
your primary concern. Hearing them out is.

Be available as much as you can.

Through email, phone, or face to face, let them know you want to walk this journey with them as part of
the support team they need. Often times the hurting person feels like a nuisance and needs reassurance
that they are not a bother. Ideally, it is good for them to have 2-3 friends to go to. Ask who else they are
talking to and encourage healthy friendships. But encourage them to keep the circle of confidence small.
You can expand the circle as needed, but you cannot take back a confidence. This is especially important
regarding the BIG issues like adultery, abuse, addiction, etc.

Help in practical ways.

People in crisis need meals, childcare, groceries, etc. Being practical can be such a huge gift during the
crisis phase of marital mayhem. As the person transitions to the “new norm” these practical needs fades.
There may be repeated times when, after things have settled for a while, they hit another bump that may
require more practical help again.

Direct them to Christian resources.

Websites, articles, blogs, online mentoring, Family Life marriage conferences, books, a mentor couple,
counselor, are all great resources to help hurting couples. Remember to direct them to Christian resources.
Jesus is the true source of real help.