Assignment On

Communication During Marriage `

Subject
Law of Evidence

Submitted To
Dr. Bilal

Submitted By
Ahmad Zeeshan
Roll no. 27
Section-C (7th Semester)
2017-22
LLB.5 Year
Table of Content
Introduction

Communication During Marriage

Types of Communication in Marriage

 Basic information
 Partnership
 Conflict Resolution
 Connection
 Personal Revelation
 Intimate communication

Principles of effective communication

 Avoid double message
 Deal it with now
 Cross cultural relationship
 Always show respect
 Focus on current issue
 Fight fair
 Be clear
 Be honest
 Ask question for clarity
 Be conscious of how you are speaking
 Positive statements and humor

Frequently Question asked for communication of marriage

 What makes for good communication of marriage
 Why is communication in marriage so hard
 Is it possible to improve communication in marriage
 Why communication in marriage important

Case laws
Introduction
Communication is the most crucial issue in marriage. It’s the most important thing a
husband and wife can do together because communication transcends everything.
Every cause of stress in marriage—kids, money, sex, etc.—can be addressed with
honest, open communication.

That’s how you overcome conflicts: You talk through them. Talk about money. Talk
about sex. Talk about parenting issues. One study showed that 86 percent of divorced
couples admitted they had communication problems in their marriages.

A lack of communication precedes almost every problem that arises in a marriage, and
that was definitely true for Karen and me. We were terrible at communication during
the first few years of our marriage. The process of learning how to talk to one another
was one of the methods God used to heal us.

As often as I speak about communication, some couples hear that word and
immediately think about long, deep conversations about intimate things. Of course,
those kinds of talks are wonderful! But living up to that ideal can be stressful. All it takes
is a kid or two to make an hour of interrupted conversation seem like a luxury.

With that in mind, I want to challenge you to go through the day paying attention to the
different ways you and your spouse talk to each other. Communication is not one
monolithic thing. It occurs throughout the day at a variety of levels.

Communication during marriage

No person who is or has been married shall be compelled to disclose any
communication made to him during marriage by any person to whom he is or has been
married; nor shall he be permitted to disclosed any such communication, unless the
person who made its, or his representative-in-interest,
consents, except in suits between married persons, or proceedings in which one married
person is prosecuted for any crime committed against the other.
Types of Communication of Marriage
 Basic Information

These are the day-to-day ways a husband and wife convey details to each other, like
“Dinner is ready” or “My parents left on their vacation this morning.” While this is
obviously an important type of conversation, it’s mostly related to facts.

 2. Partnership

Because a husband and wife are partners, they share needs. They share responsibilities,
children, finances and more. Communicating about these shared actions is vital. This
includes talking about money or parenting. Partnership is central to a healthy marriage.

 3. Conflict Resolution

I hear fairly often from couples who like to brag that they never fight. This always gives
me pause, because even good marriages have conflict. People have disagreements! It’s
not a big deal if you fight—as long as you fight fair. Be kind. Listen. Seek understanding.
The goal of your marriage is not to avoid fights but to resolve conflict.

One thing I’ve noticed is that children of divorce tend to avoid conflict as adults—
especially within their marriage. They worry it’s going to end the relationship.
Communication during times of conflict is the way to ensure that it doesn’t. In fact,
conflict often happens during times of growth.

 4. Connection

This is huge in marriage. In a healthy relationship, it’s easy to connect with one another.
You can do it through eye contact, through physical affection, and through the words
you say to one another. As humans, we are designed to seek connection.

One study showed that, during an average meal, a couple will have 100 points of
connection. It should be easy. But in bad marriages, even this connection over a shared
meal is difficult.

 5. Personal Revelation
This is another critically important type of communication because it involves truly
sharing with each other. You tell your spouse about your feelings. You open up your
emotions. You share your opinion about something. This type of communication lets
your spouse into your world.

One of the healthiest things a couple can do together is process negative feelings
together. This might involve letting off steam after a bad day at work or it might require
processing anger related to the relationship. Don’t let anger or frustration fester. Let it
out. Share what is bothering you. Share what hurt your feelings. Instead of dwelling on
them, work through them with your spouse.

 6. Intimate Communication

These are exactly what you think: expressions of love, words of affection, whispers of “I
love you.” These are statements that no one else will say to your spouse. These words
bind your hearts together and build the kind of closeness that keeps a marriage strong.

Principles of effective communication

 Avoid double messages:

 Saying something and contradicting it in a non-verbal way.  We communicate with

words, tone, facial expressions, gestures, and body language.

 Deal with it now:

 Delays have the potential of creating layers of negative emotions.

 Cross-cultural relationships:

 Understand that people from different cultures may attach a different meaning to
certain gestures.

 Always show respect:

 For your partner’s value as a human being.

 Accept that issues can be view uniquely: 

Don’t assume that your perspective is the only one or the valid one.
  Focus on the current issue:

 Communicating becomes clouded when the past is dumped into the conversation. It is
wise to avoid bringing unrelated grievances, complaints and past sins to the table. “For
better or worse” is the promise of forgiveness and a pathway to effective
communication in marriage.

 Fight fair!: 

Resist fault finding, exaggerations, put-downs, name calling, blaming, insults, sarcasm,
and absolutes…” You always” …” You never.”  It is advisable to avoid “You should” or
“You shouldn’t” as well.  These unfair verbal weapons only escalate an argument due to
the attacking nature and usually result in the other person taking a defensive posture.

 Be clear:

Be concise and specific with your words.

 Be honest about your feelings:

Resisting “You made me feel.” Giving your personal power away is an excuse for bad
behavior.  “I” statements are more concise…” I felt like crap when you said…”

 Be honest, but be sensitive:

Be aware of your spouse’s feelings.  We know the words that hurt; intentionally using
hurtful words is sabotaging and damaging to any relationship.

 Avoid making or accepting excuses too quickly:  

Man-up to your actions, whether right or wrong.

 Listen:

 Carefully, respectfully and courteously WITHOUT interruptions or criticism.

 Ask questions for clarity: 

And be willing to answer any questions to help your spouse gain a meaningful
understanding.

 Be conscious of how you are speaking: 

 Use the kind, soft, and polite road to getting your message across.  Shouting stimulates
the need to be heard and is the driving negative energy of arguments. Emotions fuel
disagreements on both sides of an argument. “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but
harsh words stir up anger.” (Prov.15:1)

 Positive statements and humor: 

Helps to keep the doors of effective communication in marriage open.

 Be in the habit of giving the gift of life, positive and loving words: 

Such as compliments, encouraging words, full attention listening, finding the good, and
acts of kindness.

Frequently Asked Questions about

Communication in Marriage
 What makes for good communication in marriage?

Listening to learn, instead of listening to win an argument. Talking about yourself and
asking about the other, instead of assuming you know what the other person thinks or
should do.

 Why is communication in marriage so hard?

A lot of people didn’t hear positive models of communication from their parents.
Without a strong foundation in skillful communication, it’s easy for emotions to run high
and to get off track. Fortunately these skills can be learned at any age. 

 Is it possible to improve communication in marriage?

Yes! There are some simple skills that can make a world of difference. It just takes a bit
of practice and a willingness to learn. 

 Why is communication in marriage important?

Effective communication allows good thoughts and feelings to flow between a couple.
With the right skills, bickering, hurt feelings and resentment will go way down. 
Case laws
Owen v. State,

78 Ala. 425, 56 Am. Rep. 40

(1885).

The acts of counting the money and (presumably) of purchasing merchandise would
also be privileged under the narrow meaning of communicative intent. There was
apparently a specific intent on the part of the husband that his wife should receive the
communication, she having taken part in the acts in question .

Tex. Crim. 205, 280 S.W. 586 (1926),

applying Txx. CODE CGlu.Ppoc. Art. 714:

"Neither husband nor wife shall... testify as to communications made by one to the
other while married; nor shall they, after the marriage relation ceases, be made
witnesses as to any such communication... they shall in no case testify against each
other except in a criminal prosecution for an offense committed by one against the
other."