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GLSEN Safe Space Kit
GLSEN Safe Space Kit
KIT
A Guide to Supporting Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual
and Transgender Students in Your School
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GLSEN envisions a world in which every child learns to respect and accept all people, regardless of sexual orientation,
gender identity or gender expression.
p h o t o g r a p h y: Conrad Ventur
D e s i gn : Glenn Gontha
Electronic versions of this guide and other resource materials for educators are available online at
www.glsen.org/educator.
GLSEN’s Safe Space Campaign was launched and sustained through leadership support from the
Wells Fargo Foundation and thousands of individuals, foundations, organizations and corporations whose
donations are making schools safe and respectful for all students.
Contents
2 Questions About the Safe Space Kit
10 Support
20 Educate
26 Advocate
34 Additional Resources
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GLSEN Resources
Other Resources
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Referral List for LGBT Youth
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Glossary of LGBT-Related Terms
Questions About the Safe Space Kit
What is a Safe Space?
A Safe Space is a welcoming, supportive and safe environment for
lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) students. From GLSEN’s
National School Climate Survey, a biennial survey of LGBT secondary
school students, we know that school is not always a safe place for LGBT
students. Most LGBT students frequently hear anti-LGBT language and
experience harassment related to their sexual orientation and gender
expression, and the majority of LGBT students feel unsafe at school and
are likely to skip class or even full days of school to avoid the anti-LGBT
name-calling, bullying and harassment they face on a daily basis. But
educators can make a big difference! For many students, simply knowing
that allies exist can be a source of support. Research shows that LGBT
students with many supportive educators feel safer at school, skip fewer
classes, and earn higher grades than students without supportive educators.
By using this kit, we hope you will become one of these supportive educators.
The LGBT pride flag, or the rainbow flag, first appeared in 1978, when
it was flown during the San Francisco Gay and Lesbian Freedom Day
Parade. The San Francisco artist Gilbert Baker designed the rainbow flag
in response to a need for a symbol that could be used year after year. The
different colors of the flag symbolize different components of the commu-
nity: red for life, orange for healing, yellow for sun, green for nature, blue
for art, and purple for spirit. A black stripe added at the bottom symbolizes
a hope for victory over AIDS.
We’ve combined both of these potent sym- How do I use the Safe Space Kit?
bols — the triangles and the pride flag — for the
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GLSEN recommends that you carefully read
Safe Space symbol displayed on the stickers through the Guide to Being an Ally to gain an
and posters. The emblem reminds us of the joy understanding of how to be an effective ally to
of the diverse, accepting community we hope to LGBT students. This guide will provide practical
build through programs like Safe Space, as well ways to transform schools into a safer space
as the struggle against oppression we face as for all students by supporting and educating
we try to make that vision a reality. students, sharing your knowledge with other
educators and advocating for school-wide
What is the Safe Space Kit? changes. The “Ask Yourself” questions through-
The Safe Space Kit is designed to help educa- out this guide provide an opportunity for you
tors create a safe space for LGBT students. to consider your own experiences and beliefs
One of the most effective ways for an educator about the information provided and how it may
to create a safe space is to be a supportive ally relate to your own work in school. Once you
to LGBT students. The hard copy of the Safe have reviewed the guide, you will be ready to
Space Kit includes the Guide to Being an Ally, make yourself visible as an ally by displaying
ten Safe Space stickers and two Safe Space the Safe Space posters and stickers in your
posters. The downloaded PDF of the Safe office or classroom. You will also be better
Space Kit includes the Guide to Being an Ally, prepared to prevent and/or intervene in LGBT
a printable poster and printable stickers. The based bullying.
Guide to Being an Ally provides educators with
practical ways that they can be allies to LGBT What’s Included in the Guide to
students and create a safer school environment Being an Ally to LGBT Students?
for all students. By displaying the posters and The Guide to Being an Ally contains four
stickers, you can make yourself a highly visible main sections.
ally within the school community.
▼ Know the Issues gives background informa-
As a complement to the Safe Space Kit, tion about the experiences of LGBT students
GLSEN provides relevant resources for athletic and anti-LGBT bias.
coaches and physical education teachers at
sports.glsen.org. ▼ Support describes specific actions
you can take to be an effective support to
Who should use the Safe Space Kit? LGBT students.
The Safe Space Kit is designed for school
▼ Educate discusses ways to teach students
staff who wish to support LGBT students
and inform school staff about combating anti-
and create a safe space for all students,
LGBT bias and behavior.
regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity
or gender expression. ▼ Advocate provides strategies you can use to
promote change within your school.
For the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender In order to document the experiences of LGBT
(LGBT) communities, an ally is any person who students, GLSEN conducts the National School
supports and stands up for the rights of LGBT Climate Survey every two years. From the
people. Allies have been involved in almost all survey we have learned that anti-LGBT lan-
movements for social change, and allies can guage fills classrooms, hallways, school buses,
make a significant contribution to the LGBT gyms, and cafeterias. For example, findings
rights movement. It is important for allies to from GLSEN’s National School Climate Survey
demonstrate that LGBT people are not alone consistently show that nine out of ten LGBT
as they work to improve school climate, and students repeatedly hear the word “gay” used
to take a stand in places where it might not be in a negative way and three-fourths of students
safe for LGBT people to be out or visible. Any regularly hear homophobic remarks, such as
educator, LGBT or non-LGBT, can be an ally to “faggot” or “dyke,” in school. Even more serious,
LGBT students. LGBT students are routinely called names,
harassed and bullied in school and will often
skip classes or even full days of school because
they feel unsafe. The prevalence of anti-LGBT
name-calling, harassment and bullying takes
a heavy toll on LGBT students, and can have
A sk Yo u r s e l f
negative effects on their school performance.
The reported grade point average of students
▼ Have you seen examples of
who are more frequently harassed because of
anti-LGBT name-calling, bullying
their sexual orientation or gender expression is
or harassment in your school?
almost half a grade lower than for students who
▼ How are students affected by were less often harassed.
anti-LGBT bias at your school?
In addition to the damage it can do to LGBT
▼ Did you see anti-LGBT bias in school students, anti-LGBT bias also affects other
when you were a student? How did it members of the school community. Anti-LGBT
affect you? behavior creates a hostile environment and an
uncomfortable and unsafe space for everyone.
Homophobia and transphobia can be used to
stigmatize, silence and, on occasion, target
people who are perceived as LGBT, but are not.
If certain actions and behaviors are deemed
“gay,” students may avoid these for fear of being
targeted for anti-LGBT behavior. For example,
Anti-LGBT bias is all around us. Yet we tend to overlook the subtle biases — the anti-LGBT jokes, the
exclusion of LGBT related-themes in curricula, even anti-LGBT name-calling. Subtle or not, bias has the
power to hurt and isolate people. Your work as an ally includes recognizing and challenging your own
anti-LGBT bias. Answer each question honestly, and consider how these will affect your work as an ally
to LGBT students.
1. If someone were to come out to you as 5. Can you think of three historical figures
LGBT, what would your first thought be? who were lesbian, gay or bisexual?
2. How would you feel if your child came 6. Can you think of three historical figures
out to you as LGBT? How would you who were transgender?
feel if your mother, father or sibling
came out to you as LGBT? 7. Have you ever laughed at or made a
joke at the expense of LGBT people?
3. Would you go to a physician whom you
thought was LGBT if they were of a 8. Have you ever stood up for an LGBT
different gender than you? person being harassed? Why or
What if they were the same gender as why not?
you?
9. If you do not identify as LGBT, how
4. Have you ever been to an LGBT social would you feel if people thought
event, march or worship service? Why you were LGBT?
or why not?
Recognizing your own biases is an important first step in becoming an ally. Based on your responses to
these questions, do you think you have internalized some of the anti-LGBT messages pervasive in our
world? How might your beliefs influence your actions as an educator of LGBT students? The more aware
we are of our own biases and their impact on our behavior, the easier it is to ensure that our personal
beliefs don’t undermine our efforts to support LGBT students.
A sk Yo u r s e l f
1. Sexual Orientation A The irrational fear or aversion to transgender people of those who are
perceived to break or blur societal norms regarding gender identity or
gender expression.
2. Lesbian
B The inner feelings of who we are attracted or oriented to sexually
and emotionally.
4. Gender Expression D An identity of a person whose gender identity is not aligned with
their sex assigned at birth and/or whose gender expression is
non-conforming.
5. Transgender
E An individual’s physical characteristics, behaviors and presentation
that are linked, traditionally, to either masculinity or femininity,
6. Gay such as: appearance, dress, mannerisms, speech patterns and
social interactions.
7.
Gender F A sexual orientation and/or identity of a person who is female-
identified and who is sexually and emotionally attracted to some
Non-Conforming
other females.
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other educators know that you are an ally and
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share with them the important role they too can
play in supporting LGBT students.
Support Students When
They Come Out
Let your actions speak for you
to You
Sometimes your actions can speak louder than
any button or poster. Here are simple actions you As an ally, LGBT students may come to you
can take that will let staff and students know you for support, comfort or guidance. You may
are an ally. encounter a situation where a student comes
out or reveals their sexual orientation or gender
▼ Make no assumptions. When engaging identity to you. You may be the first or only
with students, or even other staff and parents, person an LGBT student comes out to. It is
do not assume you know their sexual orienta- important that you support the student in a
tion or gender identity. Don’t assume that constructive way. Keep in mind that the student
everyone is heterosexual or fits into your idea of may be completely comfortable with their sexual
gender roles — be open to the variety of identi- orientation or gender identity and may not need
ties and expressions. In our society, students help dealing with it or may not be in need of any
constantly receive the message that everyone support. It may be that the student just wanted
is supposed to be straight. Show students that to tell someone, or just simply to tell you so you
you understand there is no one way a person might know them better. Below you will find
“should” be. more information on the coming out process
and how you can be a supportive ally when
▼ Use inclusive language. Through casual
students come out to you.
conversation and during classroom time, make
sure the language you are using is inclusive of What does “coming out” mean?
all people. When referring to people in general,
try using words like “partner” instead of “boy- Simply put, coming out is a means to publicly
friend/girlfriend” or “husband/wife,” and avoid declare one’s identity, whether to a person
gendered pronouns, using “they” instead of “he/ in private or a group of people. In our society
she.” Using inclusive language will help LGBT most people are generally presumed to be
students feel more comfortable being themselves heterosexual, so there is usually no need for
and coming to you for support. a heterosexual person to make a statement to
others that discloses their sexual orientation.
▼ Respond to anti-LGBT behavior. Similarly, most people feel that their current
Responding to anti-LGBT behavior when it oc- gender is aligned with their sex assigned at
curs or when you hear about it will let students birth, therefore never having a need to disclose
know that you do not tolerate homophobia or one’s gender identity. However, a person who
transphobia. It sends a strong message that is LGBT must decide whether or not to reveal to
anti-LGBT behavior is not acceptable to you others their sexual orientation or gender identity.
and not allowed in your school.
To come out is to take a risk by sharing one’s
identity, sometimes to one person in conversa-
tion, sometimes to a group or in a public setting.
The actual act of coming out can be as simple
as saying “I’m gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgen-
der,” but it can be a difficult and emotional
process for an LGBT student to go through,
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When a Student Comes Out to You…
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When a student comes out to you and tells you they are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgen-
der (LGBT) your initial response is important. The student has likely spent time in advance
thinking about whether or not to tell you, and when and how to tell you. Here are some tips
to help you support them.
▼ Offer support but don’t assume a ▼ Listen, listen, listen. One of the best
student needs any help. The student may ways to support a student is to hear them
be completely comfortable with their sexual out and let the student know you are there
orientation or gender identity and may not to listen. Coming out is a long process, and
need help dealing with it or be in need of chances are you’ll be approached again to
any support. It may be that the student just discuss this process, the challenges and the
wanted to tell someone, or just simply to tell joys of being out at school.
you so you might know them better. Offer
and be available to support your students as ▼ Assure and respect confidentiality.
they come out to others. The student told you and may or may not
be ready to tell others. Let the student know
▼ Be a role model of acceptance. that the conversation is confidential and
Always model good behavior by using that you won’t share the information with
inclusive language and setting an accepting anyone else, unless they ask for your help.
environment by not making assumptions If they want others to know, doing it in their
about people’s sexual orientation or gender own way with their own timing is important.
identity. Addressing other’s (adults and Respect their privacy.
students) biased language and addressing
stereotypes and myths about lesbian, gay, ▼ Ask questions that demonstrate
bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people understanding, acceptance and
also position you as a positive role model. compassion. Some suggestions are:
By demonstrating that you are respectful of – Have you been able to tell anyone else?
LGBT people and intolerant of homophobia
and transphobia, LGBT students are more – Has this been a secret you have had
likely to see you as a supportive educator. to keep from others or have you told
other people?
▼ Appreciate the student’s courage. – Do you feel safe in school? Supported by
There is often a risk in telling someone the adults in your life?
something personal, especially sharing
for the first time one’s sexual orientation – Do you need any help of any kind?
or gender identity, when it is generally not Resources or someone to listen?
considered the norm. Consider someone’s – Have I ever offended you unknowingly?
coming out a gift and thank them for giv-
ing that gift to you. Sharing this personal
information with you means that the student
respects and trusts you.
▼ Remember that the student has not ▼ Remember that gender identity
changed. They are still the same person is separate from sexual orientation.
you knew before the disclosure; you just Knowing someone is transgender does not
have more information about them, which provide you with any information about their
might improve your relationship. Let the sexual orientation.
student know that you feel the same way
about them as you always have and that What NOT To Say When Someone
they are still the same person. If you are Comes Out To You:
shocked, try not to let the surprise lead you ▼ “I knew it!” This makes the disclosure
to view or treat the student any differently. about you and not the student, and you
▼ Challenge traditional norms. You might have been making an assumption
may need to consider your own beliefs based on stereotypes.
about sexual orientation, gender identity ▼ “Are you sure?” “You’re just con-
and gender roles. Do not expect people to fused.” “It’s just a phase — it will pass.”
conform to societal norms about gender or This suggests that the student doesn’t know
sexual orientation. who they are.
▼ Be prepared to give a referral. If there ▼ “You just haven’t found a good woman
are questions you can’t answer, or if the yet” said to a male or “a good man
student does need some emotional support, yet” said to a female. This assumes that
be prepared to refer them to a sympathetic everyone is straight or should be.
counselor, a hotline, your school’s GSA or
an LGBT youth group or community center. ▼ “Shhh, don’t tell anyone.” This implies
that there is something wrong and that
Some additional things to keep being LGBT must be kept hidden. If you
in mind when a student comes have real reason to believe that disclosing
out to you as transgender: this information will cause the student harm,
▼ Validate the person’s gender identity then make it clear that is your concern. Say,
and expression. It is important to use “Thanks for telling me. We should talk about
the pronoun and name appropriate to how tolerant our school and community is.
the gender presented or that the person You may want to consider how this may
requests — this is showing respect. In other affect your decision about who to come
words, if someone identifies as female, then out to.”
refer to the person as she; if they identify ▼ “You can’t be gay — you’ve had
as male, refer to the person as he. Or use relationships with people of the opposite
gender neutral language. Never use the sex.” This refers only to behavior, while
word “it” when referring to a person, to do so sexual orientation is about inner feelings.
is insulting and disrespectful.
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2. Name the Behavior.
Anti-LGBT behavior comes in all shapes and 3. Use the Teachable Moment
sizes: biased language, name-calling, harass- (or Create One).
ment and even physical assault. GLSEN’s Make sure to educate after stopping the
National School Climate Survey consistently behavior. Decide if you are going to educate in
finds that many LGBT students regularly hear the moment or later, and if it will be publicly or
homophobic slurs, such as “faggot” or “dyke,” at privately. If you decide to educate later you will
school, and most students have been verbally need to create the teachable moment. You can
or physically harassed in school. Youth who then take this opportunity to teach one class,
regularly experience harassment can suffer the entire grade or the whole school about
from low self-esteem, high rates of absenteeism language and behaviors that are acceptable
and low academic achievement. Educators can and those that are not.
make a difference by intervening in anti-LGBT 4. Support the Targeted Student.
name-calling, bullying and harassment every Support the student who has been the target
time they witness it. Taking action when you of the name-calling, bullying or harassment.
see it occur can help create a safe space for all Do not make assumptions about what the
students. Intervening on the spot will also serve student is experiencing. Ask the student what
as a teachable moment to let other students they need or want. You will have to decide
know that anti-LGBT behavior will not be toler- whether to do this in the moment or later, and if
ated. One of the most effective things you can it will be publicly or privately. Suggest that the
do as an ally is respond to anti-LGBT behavior. student visit with a counselor only if the student
requests extra support.
How to Intervene in Name-Calling,
Bullying and Harassment 5. Hold Students Accountable.
Follow these steps when you witness anti-LGBT Check school policy and impose appropriate
name-calling, bullying or harassment. consequences. Make sure disciplinary actions
are evenly applied across all types of name-
1. Address Name-Calling, Bullying or calling, bullying and harassment.
Harassment Immediately.
Concentrate on stopping the behavior in that What Do I Say When They Say “That’s
moment. Sometimes it’s a simple response so Gay?” Responding to Uninten-
to hearing a derogatory term like, “That tional Anti-LGBT Language
language is unacceptable in this classroom.” Almost all LGBT students regularly hear the
Make sure that everyone can hear you. Never word “gay” used in a negative way at school.
miss the opportunity to interrupt the behavior. Though many downplay the impact of expres-
Remember: no action is an action — if an sions like, “That’s so gay” because they have
incident is overlooked or not addressed it can become such a common part of the vernacular
imply acceptance and approval. and are often not intended to inflict harm, most
LGBT students say that hearing “gay” or “queer”
used in a negative manner causes them to feel
Not all students may understand why this lan- For free public service announcements, lesson
guage is offensive, so you may need to educate plans, discussion guides and other resources
the students on why this is anti-LGBT language. that address anti-LGBT language, visit
For example, ask them why they would use www.glsen.org.
“gay” to mean that something is bad or boring.
Let them know that it is offensive and hurtful to
LGBT people when they use “gay” to describe
something as undesirable. When challenged
on using this type of language, a common
response from students and adults is that they
did not mean “gay” to mean homosexual. They
may say that it’s just an expression and they
“How do you think a gay Puts responsibility on the Student may not
person might feel?” student to come up with say anything.
the solution.
“Do you say that as Asking this rhetorical Students may just laugh
a compliment?” question in a non- off your question, or
accusatory tone may reiterate that they’re
lighten things up enough “Just joking.”
for your students to
shake their heads and
admit, “No.”
“So the connotations are Not accusatory. There’s always the chance
negative?” or “So maybe Could open up the that students will still be
it’s not a good thing?” floor for discussion. reluctant to speak up.
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18 Support Student Clubs Only half (50.3%) of students
For many LGBT students, student clubs that reported having a Gay-Straight
address LGBT student issues (commonly called Alliance (GSA) or similar
Gay-Straight Alliances or GSAs) offer critical student club at their school.
support. These clubs are student-led, usually
at the high school or middle school level, and — 2013 National School Climate Survey
work to address anti-LGBT name-calling,
bullying and harassment in their schools and
promote respect for all students. The existence
of these clubs can make schools feel safer and
more welcoming for LGBT students. GLSEN’s GSAs, like all student clubs, must have a faculty
National School Climate Survey has found advisor. Serving as the advisor for your school’s
that compared to LGBT students without a GSA is one important way that you can be an
GSA, students in schools with a GSA or similar ally to LGBT students. Not only does being an
student club: advisor allow you to help the efforts of your
GSA, it makes you more visible as an ally to all
▼ Reported hearing fewer homophobic remarks. members of your school community, making it
easier for LGBT students to identify supportive
▼ Experienced less harassment and assault
school staff.
because of their sexual orientation and gender
expression. As an ally, you may also need to advocate for
the rights of students to establish a GSA in their
▼ Were more likely to report incidents of
school. Although some opponents of GSAs
harassment and assault.
have attempted to restrict the existence of or
▼ Were less likely to feel unsafe because of access to these clubs, the federal Equal Access
their sexual orientation or gender expression. Act of 1984 requires public schools to allow
GSAs to exist alongside other non-curricular
▼ Were less likely to miss school because of student clubs.
safety concerns.
▼ Listen. One of the simplest yet most ▼ Think you have all the answers. Do
important ways to be an ally is to listen. Like not feel you must always have the answers.
all students, LGBT students need to feel If you are faced with a problem you don’t
comfortable expressing themselves. If a know how to solve, let the student know you
student comes to talk to you about being ha- will look into the subject to try and find an
rassed, feeling excluded or just about their answer. Sometimes the best thing for you
life in general, keep in mind that you may be to do is to refer the student to an outside
the only person they feel safe speaking to. source that may be able to help them. The
Be there to listen. last section of this guide includes a list of
LGBT-related resources and referral sources
▼ Respect confidentiality. Effective allies for LGBT youth.
will respect their students’ confidentiality
and privacy. Someone who is coming out ▼ Make unrealistic promises. Be careful
may not want everyone to know. Assume not to promise something you may not be
that the person only told you and just wants able to deliver. This can damage the rela-
you to know, unless they indicate otherwise. tionship you have with the student as an ally.
Informing others can create an unsafe
environment for the student. ▼ Make assumptions. It is important to
avoid making assumptions and perpetuat-
▼ Be conscious of your biases. Effective ing stereotypes. These can be extremely
allies acknowledge how homophobia, offensive and may turn a student away from
transphobia and heterosexism may affect you. It is also important to avoid assuming
their efforts to be an ally to LGBT people. you know what the student needs. Be sure
They continuously work to recognize and to listen to your student and ask how you
challenge their own biases. can support them.
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Educate
s an ally, you have the opportunity to educate
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▼ ThinkB4YouSpeak Educator’s Guide. successes of the LGBT community. You can
GLSEN has created an educator’s guide to show documentary films, such as Out of the
22 accompany its public service awareness Past or Gay Pioneers, or you can use GLSEN’s
campaign, created in partnership with the Ad When Did It Happen: LGBT History Lesson or
Council, about the hurtful and demeaning term Unheard Voices to teach about important lead-
“That’s so gay.” The guide assists middle and ers and events in LGBT history. For resources,
high school educators in facilitating student visit www.glsen.org/educator.
learning about the negative consequences
of homophobic language and anti-LGBT ▼ Include diverse families. Whenever
bullying. The core of the guide consists of six possible, include examples of diverse families,
educational activities that increase awareness including same-sex couples and LGBT parents,
and knowledge of the issues, develop skills for whenever referencing families in the classroom.
addressing them and promote social action. Providing students with these examples can
Each lesson and activity can be used on its own help LGBT students and students with LGBT
or in conjunction with the others. To download family members feel included in the classroom.
the free guide visit www.glsen.org. ▼ Use LGBT-inclusive literature. It is impor-
tant for students to see themselves reflected
in the school curriculum. Using LGBT inclusive
Make your Curriculum literature will help create a welcoming space
LGBT Inclusive for LGBT students, as well as promote respect
and acceptance among all students. Be sure
LGBT-inclusive curriculum that provides positive to use books that feature positive and diverse
representations of LGBT people, history and representations of LGBT characters. You can
events helps to create a tone of acceptance of find appropriate books for your curriculum and
LGBT people and increase awareness of LGBT- literature guides at www.glsen.org/educator.
related issues, resulting in a more supportive
environment for LGBT students. GLSEN’s
National School Climate Survey consistently
finds that students with inclusive LGBT cur-
Only a small percentage
riculum in their schools have a greater sense of
belonging to their school community, hear fewer (18.5%) of LGBT students were
homophobic and transphobic remarks and taught positive representations
are less likely to be victimized or feel unsafe at of LGBT people, history or
school than those without inclusive curriculum. events in their schools. Yet
There are many ways to include positive repre-
in schools with inclusive
sentations of LGBT people, history and events curriculum, LGBT students were
in your curriculum. Here are a few suggestions. more likely to report that their
classmates were somewhat
▼ Include LGBT history. Raise the visibility
or very accepting of LGBT
of LGBT people and communities by providing
students with concrete examples of LGBT people than students in schools
people in history and LGBT-related historical without (79.2% vs. 39.6%).
events. For example, when teaching about the
— 2013 National School Climate Survey
Holocaust or about civil rights movements, be
sure to include the persecution, struggles and
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Sample 20-Minute Presentation to School Staff
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This is a sample outline for a 20-minute presentation to school staff. With a
short amount of time, you have to be sure to share key information that will get other
educators interested in taking action to ensure a safe school environment for all
students. There are two main points of information you should focus on during your
short presentation: 1) The reasons why educators need to take action; 2) Concrete
ways educators can respond to anti-LGBT behavior in the school. You can use this
sample presentation outline to help focus your message and make the most of your
brief presentation.
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Advocate
key role of an ally is to use the power and
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LGBT-Inclusive School Checklist
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Policies & Procedures Course Content
❑ Fairly enforced non-discrimination and ❑ Health and sexuality education that is
anti-bullying/harassment policies that inclusive of all sexual orientations and
explicitly protect LGBT students. gender identities.
Co-curricular Activities
❑ Athletic teams and events that are safe
School Events & Celebrations
for and inclusive of LGBT students.
❑ School dances and proms that are safe
for and inclusive of LGBT students. ❑ GSA’s and other student clubs that
combat name-calling, bullying
❑ Proms, homecoming and athletic events and harassment.
that allow for gender-neutral alternatives
to “King” and “Queen.” ❑ School publications that cover LGBT
people and issues.
❑ Valentine’s Day celebrations inclusive of
LGBT and non-coupled students.
Once you have assessed your school’s policies and practices, you should decide which areas
of your school need the most work. Collaborate with other educators and administrators to
implement realistic changes within the school.
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the fields, in the gym, in locker rooms and at their same-gender guest or are refused entry
sporting events, and sports activities can be because of their guest’s gender.
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▼ School libraries. Work with school librar-
for LGBT students. Some LGBT students,
facing harassment or assault, choose to avoid ians to include LGBT-themed literature in the
the athletics program altogether. Those LGBT school library collection. Go to www.glsen.
athletes that do participate may learn to feel org/educator to access an online list of
shame and self-hatred and hide their identities recommended books and video resources,
at great psychological cost. For more informa- to find grade‑appropriate literature for your
tion about making K–12 sports and physical school library. School libraries are a wealth of
education inclusive and safe for all, visit information and provide students with literature
sports.glsen.org. on many topics, including multicultural literature.
Far too often, even multicultural literature
▼ School uniforms and dress codes. Work
excludes LGBT people and history. Imagine
to ensure that school uniforms or dress codes
being in your school library full of books about
are gender-neutral, with the same set of rules
all peoples, except people like you. Leaving
and expectations for all students, regardless
out LGBT people, history and events in the
of gender. School uniforms and dress codes
library can contribute to LGBT students feeling
that require students to wear clothing deemed
excluded from their school.
appropriate for their gender can restrict stu-
dents’ gender identity and gender expression, ▼ Internet filters. Work with your school ad-
resulting in students feeling uncomfortable or ministrators to ensure that the Internet filters are
unwelcome in their own school community. not blocking students from finding positive and
helpful information about the LGBT community.
▼ School events. Work to ensure that school
Internet filters are often used in schools to block
events are inclusive of same-gender and
materials harmful to students, such as violent
gender-non-conforming couples. School events,
or pornographic sites, but they sometimes
such as proms, that limit student’s guest/date
can block useful and necessary information.
choices to those of another gender can make
Students may be denied access to websites
students feel excluded and unwelcome. For
that have LGBT-related information, such as
example, if a prom limits a student’s guest
research, historical facts or support services for
choices to someone of another gender it may
LGBT youth. And in some cases, students may
make students feel excluded and unwelcome.
be blocked from positive information but still
This may particularly be a problem in cases
have access to sites condemning LGBT people.
when they are explicitly told they cannot bring
Anti-LGBT Bias in School his boyfriend and enjoy the special night with
his fellow students. Vincent approached one
Vincent was an out, of the teachers on the prom committee with
sna p gay-identified senior his concerns. She promised Vincent that there
sh o t at his town’s only high wouldn’t be a problem. After spending hours
school. Although he had preparing and getting ready for the prom,
occasionally experienced Vincent and his boyfriend were rudely told
anti-gay name-calling and they would not be allowed in the prom on the
bullying in the school, he was well-liked and grounds that all couples needed to be of the
felt fairly comfortable at school. The senior opposite sex, and that they should take their
prom was approaching and Vincent was “offensive lifestyle” somewhere else.
worried that he wouldn’t be allowed to bring
Advocating for changes in your school will undoubtedly lead to a conversation with your
principal or administrator. Administrators are notoriously busy people — you’ll likely only have
a few minutes to get your point across and make an impression. You want to make sure you
give your administrator information that will motivate them to take action and support your
efforts as an ally. Here are some tips for making the most out of those few minutes.
▼ Be direct. Let them know exactly what you’re ▼ Show them how the school community will
there for. “I’m here today to talk to you about the benefit from the change. “These actions will help
need to make our school a safe space for all make our school a safer and friendlier place for all
students, regardless of sexual orientation, gender students, regardless of sexual orientation, gender
identity or gender expression.” Let them know that identity or gender expression.” Provide information
you are an ally to LGBT students, and there are on how this change can results in a more positive
some changes that can be made in the school to school climate and improve student achievement.
help LGBT students feel included and safe. For example, share research from GLSEN’s
National School Climate Survey about the benefits
▼ Show them why the change is necessary. of having supportive school staff or a comprehen-
“I think there is a need for a comprehensive sive anti-bullying/harassment policy.
anti-bullying/harassment policy (or a training for
all staff, a change in the Internet filter software, ▼ Give an overview of how educators can
etc.) in this school because…” Use statistics be allies to LGBT students and the changes
from GLSEN’s National School Climate Survey the school can make. Briefly share with them
or results from your school’s climate survey to specific ways educators can be a supportive ally
inform your principal or administrator about the to LGBT students, such as intervening when anti-
prevalence of anti-LGBT behavior in schools and LGBT behavior occurs, not assuming the sexual
its effects on LGBT students. If possible, use orientation or gender identity of their students (or
statistics from a GLSEN Research Brief for your their parents) and including LGBT people, history
specific state (see www.glsen.org/research) or and events in their curriculum. Briefly share with
a local school climate survey you have conducted them the specific changes that will make your
in your school. Give them brief descriptions of school safer. Use concrete examples like starting
the anti-LGBT behavior you have personally a GSA or making the school’s anti-bullying policies
witnessed in the school. inclusive of sexual orientation, gender identity and
gender expression.
▼ Put the focus on safety. All school adminis-
trators have a responsibility to make sure their ▼ Leave information and schedule a follow-up
schools are safe (physically and emotionally) for meeting. Photocopy or print key information from
the students who attend them. “As you can see the Guide to Being an Ally and leave copies with
from these statistics (or incidents, stories, etc.) your principal or administrator. Leave the informa-
the climate in the school is having an effect on the tion that you think will get them to support your
comfort, safety, and sense of belonging of many efforts. If possible, try and secure some future
of the students as well as test scores, attendance time to further discuss the issue. Give the principal
and grades.” Point out to them the negative or administrator time to learn more and digest the
effects anti-LGBT behavior has not only on LGBT information before continuing the discussion.
students, but all students.
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Make Your Action Plan
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Now that you have learned how to be an effective ally to LGBT students, it’s time you make your
plan of action. By making realistic goals and documenting them, you will be more likely to make the
change you seek. Use the questions provided to specify your next steps.
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Additional Resources
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Local GLSEN Chapters Jump-Start Guide for Gay-Straight
There are currently more than 30 accredited Alliances
local GLSEN Chapters around the country. This guide consists of eight self-contained
While some Chapters have full-time or part-time sections designed to help students jump-start
staff, most are entirely volunteer-based. GLSEN — or bring fresh and creative energy to — their
Chapters, with the support and guidance of the student club. The resources take you through
national office, work to bring GLSEN’s programs the process of establishing or re-establishing
and visions to their specific communities your Gay-Straight Alliance, identifying your
on a local level. Connect with your local mission and goals, and assessing your school’s
chapter today! climate. Jump-Start your school and your GSA
www.glsen.org and create safer schools for all.
www.glsen.org/gsa
Educator Network
Sign up for the Educators Network to stay Resources on Policy and Legal Issues
up-to-date with LGBT-related education news,
classroom resources and upcoming events. GLSEN believes that a quality K–12 education
This regular e-newsletter highlights the is a fundamental right of every American. To
resources, tools and information you need to that end, GLSEN works with elected officials
create safer schools for all students. and other policymakers at the local, state and
www.glsen.org/educator federal level to ensure that the best and most
inclusive safe schools policies are considered,
Educator Forum passed and implemented.
Join this social networking site designed for Policy and legal resources available from
educators to communicate and share ideas and GLSEN at www.glsen.org/policy.
resources related to creating safer schools for
all students, regardless of sexual orientation or ▼ Tools for Developing and Implementing a
gender identity/expression. Safe Schools Campaign
www.facebook.com/groups/
glseneducatorforum ▼ Model District Policy on Transgender and
Gender Nonconforming Students
Support
Legal Assistance
Refer your students to these organizations
Refer students to these organizations if they are
if they are in need of support or counseling.
in need of legal assistance.
Familiarize yourself with local resources for
LGBT students.
American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU)
The Trevor Project The ACLU works to extend rights to segments
of our population that have traditionally been
The Trevor Project is a national organization
denied their rights, including people of color;
focused on crisis and suicide prevention efforts
women; lesbians, gay men, bisexuals and
among lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and
transgender people; prisoners; and people
questioning (LGBTQ) youth.
with disabilities.
www.thetrevorproject.org
www.aclu.org
Hotline: 866-4Utrevor/866-488-7386
Lambda Legal
CenterLink
Lambda Legal is a national organization
The Community of LGBT Centers exists to
committed to achieving full recognition of the
support the development of strong, sustain-
civil rights of lesbians, gay men, bisexuals,
able LGBT community centers and to build a
transgender people and those with HIV
unified center movement. CenterLink’s directory
through impact litigation, education and public
of LGBT community centers in the US and
policy work.
internationally is online in a new and
www.lambdalegal.org
improved format.
www.lgbtcenters.org
The National Center for Lesbian Rights
GLBT National Help Center A non-profit, public interest law firm that ad-
vocates for equitable public policies affecting
Provides free and confidential telephone and
LGBT community, provides free legal assis-
e-mail peer-counseling, information and local
tance to LGBT clients and their legal advocates,
resources for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgen-
and conducts community education on LGBT
der and questioning youth.
legal issues.
www.glnh.org
www.nclrights.org
Hotline: 800-246-PRIDE
Ableism: A system of oppression that benefits Dyke: A derogatory term directed at a person
able-bodied people at the expense of people perceived as a lesbian. It is oftentimes used against
with disabilities. women who are gender nonconforming, with the
assumption being that their gender nonconformity
Ally: A member of the majority or dominant group implies a sexual attraction to women. Many lesbians
who works to end oppression by recognizing their (of all gender-expressions) have reclaimed the term
own privilege and supporting or advocating for and use it as an affirming label with which to identify.
the oppressed population. For example, a straight
cisgender person who supports and stands up for Fag/Faggot: A derogatory term directed at a person
the equality of LGBT people. perceived as a gay man. It is oftentimes used
against men who are gender nonconforming, with
Asexual: A person who does not experience sexual the assumption being that their gender nonconfor-
attraction, but may experience other forms of attrac- mity implies a sexual attraction to men.
tion (e.g., intellectual, emotional). Asexual people
may also identify as “bisexual,” “gay,” “lesbian,” Gay: A person who is emotionally and/or physically
“pansexual,” “queer,” “straight,” and many more. attracted to some members of the same gender.
“Gay” often refers to a male-identified person
Bisexual: A person who is emotionally and/or who is emotionally and/or physically attracted to
physically attracted to two genders. For example, a some other males. “Gay” should not be used as an
person attracted to some male-identified people and umbrella term to refer to all lesbian, gay, bisexual
some female-identified people. and transgender people; the term “LGBT” is more
accurate and inclusive.
Cisgender: A person whose gender identity and
expression are aligned with the gender they were Gender: A set of cultural identities, expressions and
assigned at birth. roles — codified as feminine or masculine — that are
assigned to people, based upon the interpretation
Classism: A system of oppression that benefits of their bodies, and more specifically, their sexual
people with high and middle socioeconomic and reproductive anatomy. Since gender is a social
status at the expense of people with lower construction, it is possible to reject or modify the
socioeconomic status. assignment made, and develop something that feels
truer and just to oneself.
Coming Out: The ongoing process that an LGBT
person goes through, to recognize their own identi-
ties pertaining to sexual orientation and/or gender
identity and gender expression, and to be open
about them with others.
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