The Sexual Self

THE SEXUAL SELF:
Enter If You Dare
“Could you use a balloon as a condom?”

-Anonymous
Palean, E., Nazario, M., Valero, J., & Descartin, I. (2018). Introspection: Understanding the Self. Mandaluyong City, Books Atbp. Publishing Corp.
Learning Outcomes
1. Demonstrate critical, analytical, and creative

thinking.
2. Appreciate the complexity of the human condition.
3. Examine the contemporary world from both

Philippine and global perspectives.
4. Reflect critically on shared concerns.
Introduction
We will discuss sexuality from an

academic and scientific perspective
relevant to understanding who we are so
we may know better how to take care and
protect ourselves and even those we love.
Ice breaker
• Group yourselves
• Propose a metaphor (besides baseball
and pizza) to represent the things or
concepts, you associate or identify with
the word/topic: sex
• Draw it on paper
I’m all about context. Talking about
sexuality, intimacy, relationships,
and pleasure can’t be done in a
vacuum. -Al Vernacchio
https://ideas.ted.com/what-teens-really-want-to-know-about-sex/
Sexuality (King, 2014, p. 373)
Sexuality is commonly defined as

“the ways people experience and
express themselves as sexual
beings.”
Survey/Evaluation Questions
Please answer as honestly as possible. You

may or may not write your name. Please
indicate your gender
1. What do you consider as having sex?
2. When do you think it is ok to have sex?
3. Have you ever had sex?
4. How old were you the first time you had
sex
5. Do you have sex with guys, girls or both
6. Have you used some sort of protection in
the past?
7.Have you ever been hurt in a sexual way
or forced to have sex when you didn’t want
to?
8. Do you feel safe in your relationship?
9. There are things people can do that may
reduce their risk of sexual assault. Do you
know how to reduce your risk of sexual
assault?
Sexuality (WHO, 2006a as cited in “Defining Sexual Health,” 2018, para. 6)
• a central aspect of being human

throughout life encompasses:
• sex,
• gender identities and roles,
• sexual orientation,
• eroticism,
• pleasure,
• intimacy, and
• reproduction.
Sexuality (WHO, 2006a as cited in “Defining Sexual Health,” 2018, para. 6)
• can include all of • desires,

these dimensions, • beliefs,
• attitudes,
not all of them are • values,
always • behaviors,
experienced or • practices,
• roles, and
expressed • relationships
View about sexuality
Our view about sexuality is heavily

affected by education, occupation,
income, economics, law, politics, history,
media, society, culture, and religion
(“Defining Sexual Health,” 2018; McKee, 2013).
Sexual Health
In our country,
“few data [are] collected nationally
on sexual health, or sexual
practices or behavior”
(“Defining Sexual Health,” 2002, p. 16).
Thought to Ponder On
“Withholding information about sex

and sexuality will not keep children
safe; it will only keep them
ignorant” (Hauser, 2013, para. 2).
If more Filipinos would continue to learn, whether
formally or informally, about proper sex
education, then it may be indirectly passed on
to young children through teaching proper
hygiene or through being discerning of a
child’s actions, reactions, questions, or
comments about sex.
Sex education is NOT to
promote sexual intercourse but
to promote good sexual health
and safety from sexual violence.
• You may want to watch:
https://www.ted.com/talks/al_vernacchio_s
ex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_one
?language=en
Sex vs. Gender
SEX vs. GENDER

What's the difference?
Sex vs. Gender
Wise et al. (2016) states that:
• SEX refers to a person’s characterization as

female or male at birth, typically based on the
appearance of external genitalia or other
biological characteristics including
chromosomes
Sex vs. Gender
Wise et al. (2016) states that:
• GENDER refers to social characteristics that

may be [or may not be] aligned with a
person’s sex and adopted by an individual as
their gender identity (para. 4).
Sexual Awareness
“It’s natural for everyone to

become more sexually aware, but
it doesn’t mean you are ready to
have sex” (Cole, 2009, p. 11).
Puberty
“Puberty is the one to three-year process

of hormonal and physical change that
causes the young person to reach sexual
maturity, girls usually entering it about a
year [or two] earlier than boys” (Pickhardt,
2010, para. 3).
Puberty
Every individual “develops and reacts in

different ways” due to factors like stress,
weight, “nutrition, hormonal activity, and
inherent characteristics”
(Cole, 2009, p. 4).
Secondary sex characteristics
“Secondary sex characteristics are

traits that differ between the two sexes but
are not part of the reproductive system;
they include breasts in females and facial
hair in males” (King, 2014, p. 359).
“The emotional region of the brain
develops maturity ahead of the part
controlling the rational thought”
(Cole, 2009, p. 8).
Since most teenagers are not

oriented on the drastic
transformations and temporary
emotional takeover, what usually
does this result to?
Pop-up Question : How was your
puberty journey? What specific
experiences did you find
interesting? Scary? Frustrating?
Mishandled stress, sadness,

shame, low self-esteem, unmet
expectations, from school, work,
family, and peers, may lead to
depression.
“young men are more likely to be arrested than

anyone else in society.
Statistics show that for most boys, criminal
behavior begins around the age of 13, peaks at
17 and disappears in early adulthood”
(Cole, 2009, p. 10).
All adults have gone through

puberty but not all adults have gone
through proper sex education.
Erogenous Zones
Erogenous Zones
Information on erogenous zones

relevant are beneficial not only for
sexual excitement but also for
protection against sexual violence.
Erogenous Zones
When the erogenous zones are touched,

there is an expected automatic sensation.
However, the quality of the sensation
depends on who and how the zones are
being touched (Evans, 2015).
We all need to be aware of the

importance of how to take care of
ourselves, protect ourselves, our loved
ones, and the young children from the
reality that we are still working on
eradicating: sexual violence.
Sexual violence
Sexual violence is defined by WHO (2012) as:

• any sexual act, attempt to obtain a sexual act,
unwanted sexual comments or advances, or acts
to traffic, or otherwise directed, against a person’s
sexuality using coercion, by any person regardless
of their relationship to the victim, in any setting,
including but not limited to home and work (p.
149).
“You're NOT a victim for sharing your

story. You are a survivor setting the world
on fire with your truth. And you never
know who needs your light, your warmth,
and raging courage" — Alex Elle
Have you ever experienced any
form of sexual violence?
This is not to scare you but to equip

and empower you with knowledge
and vigilance, and even the
capability of protecting and helping
others.
(9) forms and contexts of sexual violence happening
around the world as listed by WHO
Learn to protect oneself
• In our own ways, we can prevent sexual

violence.
• Be aware.
• Be vigilant, not paranoid.
• Filter what ideas you expose yourself to.
• Talk to people who can help.
• Report to concerned agencies based
on Republic Act 9262:
Understanding Human
Sexual Response
sexual response pattern
The sexual response pattern

is the physical and emotional
responses one experiences during a
sexual activity.
Understanding Human Sexual Response
“Falling in love is stronger than the

sex drive” (Fisher, 2005, p. 60).
[Love is almost uncontrollable but
sex drive is definitely controllable!]
Lust vs. Love
What’s the difference?
Lust vs. Love
It's important to know the difference, especially

in the beginning of the relationship
• Lust is an intense physical attraction.

• Love is attraction and affection.
• You profoundly care for your partner, which
creates an emotional attachment in addition
to your sexual connection.
SIGNS OF LUST
• You're totally focused on a person's looks

and body.
• You're interested in having sex, but not in
having conversations.
• You'd rather keep the relationship on a
fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
• You want to leave soon after sex rather
than cuddling or breakfast the next
morning.
• You are lovers, but not friends.
SIGNS OF LOVE
• You want to spend quality time together

other than sex.
• You get lost in conversations and forget
about the hours passing.
• You want to honestly listen to each other's
feelings, make each other happy.
• He or she motivates you to be a better
person.
• You want to get to meet his or her family
and friends.
Understanding Human Sexual Response
According to Fisher, “we are drawn to

certain people not only for cultural
reasons, such as socioeconomics,
intelligence, and values, but also for
biological reasons”
(Zamosky, 2009, para. 2).
3 stages of romantic love
(3) stages of romantic love as far as

our brain chemicals are concerned:
1. lust,
2. attraction, and
3. attachment (Greenberg, 2016)
The Reproductive System
THE MALE REPRODUCTIVE SYSTEM
Passage of the sperm
cell from the testes to
the urethra to the penis
Main male organ

of reproduction
Produces the sperm cell

and male hormone that
gives male characteristics
THE FEMALE REPRODUCTIVE SYSTEM
Passage of the mature
egg from the ovary to the
uterus
The womb holds

the baby as it
develops
Produces the
egg cell and
the female
Entrance to the uterus
hormone that
or the womb
gives female
char.
78 percent of menstrual cycles are between 26 and 32 days long
Egg- fertilized embryo
Embedding of the embryo in the uterus
To establish contact with the mother’s blood

supply for nourishment
This is backed up by Wolfson

(2010) stating that “desire and
sexuality are practically
inextricable” (para. 3).
• Whatever we desire is a summation of

what we have been exposed to or
shown growing up (Wolfson, 2010).
• This is a reminder for us to be careful of
what we continually expose ourselves
to.
sexual awareness
We may have the freedom to choose to whom we

engage sex with and with how many, but if we are not
careful and discerning, we cannot and will never be
able to choose or limit the number of unpleasant
irreversible long term consequences it can bring to our
lives, to people who matter most to us, and even to
the society we are part of.
Risky sexual behavior
New file
Diversity of Sexual Orientation
Being able to respect diversity,

can help in effective, ethical,
relational, and professional
communication.
“Many teenagers who have

crushes on people of the same sex
never have same-sex
relationships” (Cole, 2009, p. 36).
Sexual orientation
Sexual orientation refers to our

sexual preferences towards
males, females, or both (Cole,
2009; King, 2014).
Gender identity
Gender identity is one’s concept of

being male, female, both, or neither
and is “entirely determined by
socialization (nurture), not biological
factors (nature)” (King, 2014, p. 361).
In the acronym LGBT which stands for
lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender,
“LGB” pertains to sexual orientation”
(“Lesbian, gay,” 2018).
The “T” in LGBT, which stands for transgender

or gender non-conforming, pertains to gender
identity.
“Some who do not identify as either male or female
prefer the term “genderqueer” (“Lesbian, gay,” 2018, para. 2).
transgender vs transsexual
• A transgender is different from a

transsexual.
• A transsexual is one who transitions
from one sex to another through
undergoing several surgical
procedures.
sexual awareness
Though we may have experienced

“having feelings towards or fantasies
about people of the same sex, it doesn’t
mean you are gay or bisexual, it can be
part of emerging sexual awareness”
(Cole, 2009, p. 12).
sexual awareness
Sexual orientation, sexual

behavior, and gender identity
are independent concepts.
All could be fluid or changing.
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THE SEXUAL SELF:

Enter If You Dare

“Could you use a balloon as a condom?”

1. Demonstrate critical, analytical, and creative

2. Appreciate the complexity of the human condition.

3. Examine the contemporary world from both

4. Reflect critically on shared concerns.

We will discuss sexuality from an

Sexuality is commonly defined as

Please answer as honestly as possible. You

• a central aspect of being human

• can include all of • desires,

Our view about sexuality is heavily

“Withholding information about sex

SEX vs. GENDER

Wise et al. (2016) states that:

• SEX refers to a person’s characterization as

Wise et al. (2016) states that:

• GENDER refers to social characteristics that

“It’s natural for everyone to

“Puberty is the one to three-year process

Every individual “develops and reacts in

“Secondary sex characteristics are

Since most teenagers are not

Mishandled stress, sadness,

“young men are more likely to be arrested than

All adults have gone through

Information on erogenous zones

When the erogenous zones are touched,

We all need to be aware of the

Sexual violence is defined by WHO (2012) as:

“You're NOT a victim for sharing your

This is not to scare you but to equip

• In our own ways, we can prevent sexual

The sexual response pattern

“Falling in love is stronger than the

It's important to know the difference, especially

• Lust is an intense physical attraction.

• You're totally focused on a person's looks

• You want to spend quality time together

According to Fisher, “we are drawn to

(3) stages of romantic love as far as

Main male organ

Produces the sperm cell

The womb holds

To establish contact with the mother’s blood

This is backed up by Wolfson

• Whatever we desire is a summation of

We may have the freedom to choose to whom we

Being able to respect diversity,

“Many teenagers who have

Sexual orientation refers to our

Gender identity is one’s concept of

The “T” in LGBT, which stands for transgender

• A transgender is different from a

Though we may have experienced

Sexual orientation, sexual

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