Think before you Speak and Act

I have experienced a lot of communication problems between friends and family.

I think that this is a usual problem that I have been experiencing and I have been trying
to resolve it as much as I can. There are times when I do and say things out of
frustration and stress that I didn’t meant. There were also the times when I say
something but the tone of my voice and expression completely changed its meaning. I
think most of the time they misunderstood my words and actions just because of a bad
mood or as I said earlier stress. When I am too focused and pressured then someone
talks to me the tone of my voice usually sounds like I’m irritated but it was not my
intention to sound like that. I never thought of the actions and words that came out of
my mouth could be actually really disrespectful and hurtful. My emotions made me say
and do things I did not mean to say. It has totally changed how they see me. Constantly
practicing this bad habit in every communication you are involved in will not end well.
Especially when you only have met the person for the first time his/her impression of
you will never be changed. It can also cause fights and misunderstanding between me
and other people or worse it can destroy my relationship with them.

My words and actions are a reflection of who I am. Your words are powerful and
being careless with the words we choose is like presenting yourself as being
thoughtless, careless or just plain hurtful. The outcomes of situations or conversation I
am involved in depend on what I say and what I do. Since communication is not only
about the words but also about how you express those words. You should consider
what words you will use, what these words will mean to another person, or how they will
feel about what you’re saying. The relationship between someone's speech and
someone's thinking is critically important.

It is a bad habit that can get me into trouble and hurt me in the most important
areas of my life. I could not take back the actions I did and the words that I said since
communication is irreversible so what is said and done will never change. Now, that I
am aware of this habit of mine, I can already change and improve it for the better. Being
able to control my emotions and thinking carefully of my word choice before I say it out
loud can help me express myself much better without hurting anyone. We should keep
in mind that communication is completely nonverbal. Tone or the voice quality is also an
important factor in communication. There are things that you can’t say with words but
can express easily with your actions so we have to be careful on it since it takes up 55%
of what actually influences people when we communicate. So think before you speak
and act.