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Personal Development
Quarter 1 – Module 1:
A. Explain That Knowing Oneself Can Make A
Person Accept His/Her Strengths And
Limitations And Dealing With Others Better
B. Share His/Her Unique Characteristics, Habits,
And Experiences

Self-Learning Module

“Una sa tanan, BATA: Buligan, Amligan, Tudluan, Alalayan!”

DIVISION OF BACOLOD CITY

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Personal Development - Grade 12

Self-Learning Module
Quarter 1 - Module 1 – Explain That Knowing Oneself Can Make A Person
Accept His/Her Strengths And Limitations And Dealing
With Others Better
Share His/Her Unique Characteristics, Habits, And
Experiences
First Edition, 2020

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SDS Gladys Amylaine D. Sales, CESO VI
ASDS Michell L. Acoyong, CESO VI

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Personal Development
Quarter 1 – Module 1:
A. Explain That Knowing Oneself Can Make A
Person Accept His/Her Strengths And
Limitations And Dealing With Others
Better
B. Share His/Her Unique Characteristics,
Habits, And Experiences

This instructional material was collaboratively developed and reviewed

by educators from the Public Schools in the Division of Bacolod City.

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 Introductory Message

For the facilitator:

This Self-Learning Module is a Division Initiated Learning Materials in

Personal Development which is intended for the learners of the Division of Bacolod
City using distance learning modality. Learners who could not afford online or face-
to-face learning can utilize this module. It includes a learner-friendly pre-test, self-
check exercises, additional activities, and other learning instructions intended to help
learners learn even teachers and learner are geographically remote from each other.
This covers topics in Grade 12 in the 1st Quarter, First Semester with corresponding
learning activities for learners to achieve the most essential learning competencies
and lesson objectives. Moreover, each exercise in this module is designed for
independent learning and practice. However, ensure that the learners’ parents, elder
siblings, guardians or relatives at home will guide and support them as they
accomplish its given tasks.

Furthermore, explain to students that taking the tests diligently will allow them
to learn their lessons for their academic progress. Most importantly, remind them to
answer the given activities on a separate answer sheet and handle this module with
utmost care.

For the learner:

This Self-Learning Module (SLM) is a learner-friendly learning material in

Personal Development which is specially designed for your learning needs and
progress. Your patience and dedication in reading and answering its learning
exercises will help you successfully cope with lessons. You are free to ask
assistance from your teachers, parents, siblings, friends, and family members whom
you think can help you best. Read each lesson carefully and follow the instructions
for your activities after reading.

Remember to answer the given exercises in a separate sheet of paper. When

you are done, kindly return it to your teacher to check and evaluate your level of
competency.

Good luck and God bless.

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Parts of the Self-Learning Module

The following are the parts of this module that will help you finish your tasks.
Read the following descriptions below to better understand each part.

This part will be your guide to learn in the

I Needspecific
To Know lessons specifically your skills and
competencies.

This contains a 10-item pre-test that will

I Will Check On This check what you already know.

This section will give you the topic,

information and concepts as a brief
Lesson Overview discussion for you to learn.

It is in this part that the new lesson will be

introduced to you in different ways: a story, a
I Will Do This poem, a problem opener, an activity, or a
situation. You will be given specific
instructions on how to go about the activity.

In this part helps you generalize your

I Learned This understanding of the concepts. This includes
a short fill-in the blanks summary of the topic.

This section includes an activity or exercises

I Apply that
Thiswill help you apply your knowledge into
real-life situations.
This is composed of 10-item exercises to
I Test Myself assess if you have attained the learning
competency.

Key Answer It contains the correct answers to all the

activities in the module.

References List of all resources used in developing this

module.

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 Personal Development
Week 3
Quarter 1-Module 1

Learning Competency:

A. Explain that knowing oneself can make a person accept his/her strengths
and limitations and dealing with others better (EsP-PD11/12KO-Ia-1.1)

B. Share his/her unique characteristics, habits, and experiences

(EsP-PD11/12KO-Ia-1.2)

I Need To Know
This module was designed and written with you in mind. It is here to help you

A. explain that knowing oneself can make a person accept his/her

strengths and limitations and dealing with others better
B. share his/her unique characteristics, habits, and experiences

The scope of this module allows you to use it in many different learning
situations. The language used recognizes the diverse vocabulary level of students.
The lessons are arranged to follow the standard sequence of the course. But the
order in which you read them can be changed to correspond with the module you
are now using.

After going through this module, you are expected to:

1. Understand the dynamics of personality

2. Identify various components that manifests your personality
3. Determine personal examples related to these components
4. Design a plan to modify undesirable behavior
 Lesson Overview

Psychoanalytic – Individual Psychology by Alfred Adler

 Unconscious is not the only one that can direct our lives
 An individual has the capacity to consciously monitor and give direction to his/her
inner life
 Compensation – developing one’s own abilities in order to overcome real or imagined
fear
 Overcompensation – trying to hide a weakness or is denying the existence of a real
situation of inferiority
 When we meet with others, we are aware of our own strengths and weaknesses.
 We want to hide our weaknesses and maximize our strengths.
 Compensation
 Developing one’s own ability to overcome real or imagined inferiorities or
weaknesses.

Patterns of Overcompensation
 Inferiority Complex
– Exaggerated feelings of weakness and inadequacy
 Superiority Complex
o Exaggerated feelings of self-importance, but still mainly to mask or hide
feelings of inferiority
 Some theories on Family
 Birth Order – Significant on the personality
 Eldest Born – Loved, Nurtured and expected to be leader, or is overly loved and
allowed to be pampered. Believes that power should be his.
 Second Born (if same sex) the exact opposite of the eldest born. Competitive and
wants to overtake the eldest.
 Middle Child – neither eldest nor youngest, caught in between, feels not loved and
often compares self with eldest or youngest.
  Youngest – Loved, babied, allowed to do whatever he wants, does not go through
rigidness of former children.
 If there is a big gap between children (4 or more years) then a second family is made.
Thus the child born after 4 years acts like the eldest and so on.
 Only Child – Birth is a miracle and is loved. Interacts with adults and does not know
how to interact with peers
 Adopted Child – overly loved and can be spoiled or overly demanding
 Only boy – Tries to prove masculinity and may become effeminate
 Only Girl – either overly feminine or tomboy; out to please the father.
 All boys – if mother wanted a girl, may become effeminate and dressed like a girl
 All girls – if mother wanted a boy, dressed like a boy
Psychoanalysis – Sociocultural Modification by Karen Horney
 Women who envy men because of their favored status in society
 The prime motive of all people: Need For Security (not sex, aggression or
pleasure)
 Three Main Strategies to cope with Life’s Problems

1. Compliance
– also known as the moving-toward strategy or the self- effacing solution
2. Aggression,
– also called the moving-against and the expansive solution
3. Withdrawal,
– often labeled the moving-away-from or resigning solution

 Three Main strategies used by individuals in coping with the Problems they meet in
life:
 Moving towards people (becoming dependent on others)
 Moving away from people (becoming independent)
 Moving against people (becoming aggressive to others)

– An insecure person, someone who has a lack of security in self and in others, uses one
or more of these strategies in exaggerated proportions
 Carl Roger’s Approach

 We all start out with positive feelings about self

 This gets eroded by significant persons in our lives
 We start to have negative feelings about self
 To get back to a positive feeling about self, we need POSITIVE SELF REGARD
 Positive self regard
 To regard self as a positive person and to have positive feelings about self
 How do we get this Positive Self Regard
 Someone who will listen to me unconditionally
 Someone who will respect me whether I am good or bad
 Someone who will bring me back to feeling good about myself
 Someone who will not judge me and accept me as I am.
 Two types of self
 Real Self: the self as a result of experience; who I am now
 Ideal Self: Person I would like to be
 The greater the difference between the Real Self and the Ideal Self, the more the
person finds it hard to adjust to situations
Abraham Maslow Approach

 Theory of personality is based on the hierarchy of human needs.

 Man has needs and this is in a hierarchy
 We can only get to the top by satisfying our lower needs.
 Two types of needs
o Deficiency Needs
o Growth Needs
 All lower needs must be met first before higher needs can be addressed
 When the needs are not met, a person may become alienated, weak or cynical
 I Will Do This

Direction: Answer the questions in the table below.

What is your birth order? Do you agree with the Why or Why not?
description of Adler on
your birth order? (Yes/No)
Eldest Born Yes Some or the traits are not
accurate, but I do believe
that this may vary
depending on the
environment each has.
Eldest, or First Born
typically has all the
pressure and expectations
bet on. They expect the
eldest to be the leaders of
his/her siblings and is
suppose to be the role
model of the said family.
They can be very ambitious
and perfectionist, but
mostly is not nurtured once
it reaches the age of being
independent, but is one of
the motivation of the
family.

I Learned This

Direction: Answer the following question. Minimum of 3 sentences.

1. How will your needs and goal shape you as a person?

We all know that setting our needs and goals is important, but we often realize how important they are
as we continue to move through life. Our needs and goals helps us to trigger new behaviors, and
guides our focuses in sustaining our momentum in life.

This gives us a clear direction in our lives. It gives us the aim and to tell us where to direct our efforts.
And when it comes to making decisions, we know how to decide because we know what we want and
how to get there.

Not only that, our needs and goals gives us a sense of purpose in life. It gives us long-term visions and
short-term motivation that could shape our roles as we play in daily life and could color our interests
and passions.
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Department of Education – SDO Bacolod City

Office Address: Rosario-San Juan Sts., Bacolod City 6100

Telefax: (034) 704-2585
E-mail Address: bacolod.city@deped.gov.ph