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mentally and physically. They aren’t worrying as much about what people think about them,
they are becoming free to be themselves. There are many people who will disagree, think that
with LGBTQ it could make everything worse. But if people are being more open with
themselves, how could it get worse? In How Do I Define My Gender if No One is Watching Me,
the author says, “How do I define my gender when I- accustomed to how visible my gender
usually makes me- am no longer being watched” The author explores how people feel about
themselves and their gender behind closed doors. This isn’t only for the LGBTQ either, what
about our people of color? Are people only really changing their appearance to suit what others
want? Or are they finally becoming themselves and others don’t like it? Will this pandemic
change people’s perspectives of others? To others being you is perspective but to you, it’s all
In this generation, liking the same gender or changing your own gender is starting to
become normal, almost natural. I will say there are still people who are old school and
traditional about this kind of stuff like sex, marriage and who you should love based on your
sex. But if you find someone you love and they are someone who makes you happy, why does
others opinion matter? There are a lot of people who are starting to feel less judged by others.
If you were to be gay 50 years ago. You would be outcasted, kicked out. But in the 21st century,
it is starting to be normalized. People understand more than it is not a choice, you don’t choose
When you start to feel more yourself you do become freer, in the sense that you don’t
need to hide anymore. In the article “how do I define my gender if no one is watching me?” by
Alex Marzano-Lesnevich, it states, “I would have imagined this new expansiveness would be
freeing. Instead, it was at first disorienting. With the gender binary all but gone, what did it
sure how to feel with this new freedom. From behind a screen, you can be who you are. In a
pandemic and in quarantine, the only people around you are people who you want there,
usually people who let you be yourself and love you for you. “What’s really struck me,” she told
me, “Is that removing the peer gaze has allowed for more gender experimentation.” Without
the constant watching and judgment people are free to be able to try new things.
The article “What we believe about identity” by Julia Alvarez says, “The territory of
identity in later life needs to be explored and articulated.”’ When talking about gender and
race, there is one common ground. Feeling comfortable in your own skin. People get bullied
just as much for their sexuality and they do race, both are extremely messed up, but it does
happen every day. “We were vaguely of “Spanish origin,” which was better than the more
deprecating slurs of the playground: “spic,” “wetback,” “greaser.” (What we believe about
identity). People would say awful things to people who weren’t white and its horrible, what
people don’t always realize is that it isn’t just the people of color who get the harsh words. “I
started taking testosterone, I thought it would be easier not to see people for a while. Maybe
they wouldn’t hear my voice go scratchy or see up close the hormonal acne splattered across
This pandemic has done wonders for everyone. Before the pandemic Mx. Slarii, a black
performer in Minneapolis, came out as female and people around her pressured her and
expected her to get “breast augmentation”. Later on, they decided they were nonbinary.
“When, during the pandemic, Mx. Slarii pursued a second gender-affirming surgery, a Brazilian
butt lift, it was an entirely different emotional experience. This time, the surgery was no longer
a means of selling a narrative to be believed and seen; now Mx. Slarii’ s body was simply their
own” (How do I define my gender if no one is watching me?). This pandemic gave Mx. Slarii a
chance to do something to their body, not to impress anybody or because someone told them
to do it. Because it genuinely makes Mx. Slarii happy and gives them control on what they do.
COVID-19 required people to stay home and quarantine away from people and with
staying home people had nothing to do, they had technology and social media. “I think many
of us use it to document ourselves and our lives not out of self-love, but out of a genuine desire
for self-understanding” (Always watching by Haley Nahman). People are able to put themselves
out there on social media and be who they want to be and let people see what they want to
see. They could be anybody they want. On social media people get both positive and negative
comments. But it is how they deal with these comments that make people who they are. Social
media is making LGBTQ+ and different races and religions and cultures normal.
There are a lot of people who put themselves out on social media have a hard time with
popularity and being themselves at school. They want to show off that their life is better or
want to be more popular. But constantly being watched and judged is not the answer. “They
say the unobserved life isn’t worth living, but what of the over-observed one?” (Always
Watching). What is so good about being watched all the time? Yes, there are a lot of people
who say that an unobserved life isn’t worth living, but do they really believe that. Being able to
watch from the side lines is not that bad. Being able to be yourself no matter who is there is not
the works thing. People want other people on social media to believe that they have the
perfect life, but it is just a charade. It is behind the camera that truly matters.
Over Quarantine there are people who have felt invisible, over watched and just kinda
there. People have felt that they are not able to be themselves in front of people and others
that put on a charade to make everyone believe they are perfect. People put on makeup to
make people think they naturally look like that; people get surgeries to fit other peoples
people’s image of perfect. Like Mx. Slarii, they originally got a “breast augmentation” surgery
because that’s what everyone expected of her but then during quarantine Mx. Slarii got a
Brazilian butt lift just because they wanted to, because it made them feel beautiful in their own
body. Not everybody is like Mx. Slarii, feeling comfortable in their own body quite yet.
After this pandemic people start to worry about what comes after. What happens after
you have felt almost invisible for so long?. I rework the quote, “With the gender binary all but
gone, what did it mean to be nonbinary? How do I define my gender when I — accustomed to
how visible my gender usually makes me — am no longer being watched?” After not caring
about what people thought for so long, how to you go back to the judgement? Did the work
change while we were stuck indoors? After quarantine ended and we were sent back to school,
we were all forced to wear masks. People covered most of their face when around people and
the only people who sees all of you is the people you want to.
This mask, face covering faze gives people a chance to get more comfortable in their
skin once again, but this time around everyone. People have changed in the sense that they just
want to be around people now after so long of being locked inside. This is a learning stage for
not just people of color or people who are learning and experimenting their very own sexuality,
but this is also a learning point for people who were afraid to go back. Were afraid of being
judged because there is not one person who did not change over this pandemic, it has been
It took 246 years to abolish slavery. And almost 400 for people of color to feel at least
semi-comfortable in this world. 60 years ago, girls who loved girls or boys who loved boys were
unheard of, and when they were they were cast out. And it still happens to this day but not as
much. There are a lot of people who are proud to be gay or happy for their friends or family
who come out. And it is just more recently that people change their gender to feel more
comfortable in their body. Some people just know when their gender doesn’t match their mind.
And they are the lucky ones. For many people it takes years to understand how they feel. There
are people who feel like they are the opposite gender or people who feel like they are both or
There are many people who are just figuring this out. Quarantine helped a lot of people
figure out their own mind and helped them test the waters without feeling judged for it. How
do you define your gender if no one is watching you? You figure out who you are and wait to
tell people till you are sure or maybe you will never be sure, just go by “I am who I am” until
you find a word for it. Over the years people have grown to learn about identity and who they
are. It may have taken hundreds of years, but people are starting to treat each other with true
kindness and not judge someone for being different, special and or just who they are. Because
there is no changing someone else’s identity. There is just growing yourself to be able to grow
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