Feel Like Giving Up Trading?

Here’s How
to Fix That…

 By Nial Fuller in Forex Trading Articles Last updated on October 4th, 2017 | 21 Comments

The idea for today’s lesson came to me from a member who emailed me recently
asking for help with his trading. He had become so frustrated with his trading that he
was ready to throw in the towel and give up on trading completely.

This members story is very real, but I have changed the name to keep his identity
private. You will probably identify with much of this story if you’ve been struggling or
have become frustrated with your trading recently.
Here’s the plan of action I gave to this member, to help him re-ignite his passion for
trading and start improving his results…

Meet Johnny
Johnny had spent years trying to trade. He felt like he tried everything and after much
trial and error, he was finally getting confident in his trading abilities. Yet, he still couldn’t
seem to make it work. He still wasn’t profiting, after nearly 10 years in the markets. He
was feeling jaded, like he was ready to throw in the towel and simply admit defeat and
give up on trading forever.

However, he wasn’t one to admit that he wasn’t good at something, and so it was a hard
pill to have to swallow, that maybe trading just wasn’t for him. Maybe he simply didn’t
have the genetic makeup for it or maybe he wasn’t using the right method. He wasn’t
sure. Yet, he still didn’t’ want to totally give up hope.
The same things that drew him to trading were still calling to him from the back of his
mind; no more working a job he hated, no more bosses telling him what to do, no more
sacrificing family time to work to pay bills, unlimited income potential. The allure of total
freedom was what initially drew Johnny to the markets, and it has such a huge pull, that
it was just too hard to give it up completely.

So, after reading Johnny’s story, I sent him a detailed email, outlining some
psychological pitfalls I saw he was making, as well as an outline of how he could get his
trading back on track. Here are some of the points I included…

Remember what first attracted you to trading…

What drew you to trading in the first place? How did you feel about it when you first
found out about it? Just as in a marriage, to keep the flame alive in trading, we
sometimes must stop and remind ourselves what we liked so much in the beginning.
For me, it was the opportunity to truly be free, to not have to do boring work every day,
to not have to be another drone, endlessly typing in a cubicle all day, or doing mindless
physical labor that rendered my body useless right at the age I was finally ready to
retire.

If you need a refresher, go read my article on why it rocks to be a trader, it will remind
you the main reasons why we trading can be so awesome.

Read about successful traders

If you feel isolated and like no one is making money trading, you can simply go and
read some interviews with very successful traders. There are many people who have
already achieved great success in trading, myself included. But for some good reading
recommendations on this topic, go and read some of the Market Wizards books by Jack
Schwager. These books will tell you the story of real-world, very successful traders, and
it will motivate you to read about how other people did what you are trying to do.

I would suggest that whilst you are doing the above things, you are not in any live
trades. If you’ve been losing and feel lost in your trading approach, give it a break. You
will come back feeling better and more clear-headed when you’re ready to trade again.
This break is meant to re-calibrate your mind and help you re-discover your trading
passion.

Stop trying to get rich fast

One of the primary reasons so many traders get burnt out and eventually want to give
up trading or do actually give up, is simply because they are trying to get rich quick.

I have good article on why trying to get rich fast never works and you should definitely
read it because it has a great metaphoric story about this topic. But just to expand on
this topic a little bit…
Obviously, trying to get rich quick in trading means you’re probably doing almost
everything wrong. It means you’re probably trading too frequently and risking too much
per trade, which are two things that quickly lead to a lot of lost money as well as
frustration and mental anguish.

I strongly urge you to change your perspective on trading and stop trying to think you’re
going to make a lot of money fast. The ironic and difficult part about trading, is that to
eventually make a lot of money at it, you must start out slowly and methodically and
totally unconcerned about making money.

FINALLY make a trading plan

I know that everyone knows about trading plans and knows they should make one. But,
I don’t think most people actually ever make one, which is a huge mistake. Especially, in
the beginning, it’s very important you spend time writing out a trading plan and trying to
follow it with discipline.

After you learn an effective trading strategy, making yourself boil it down and aggregate
it into a comprehensive yet concise plan is something that will help you further
understand your method and when you should trade it. You will also then have a
physical / tangible document to guide you and to help eliminate emotional trading
mistakes.

You have to stay accountable to your plan. If you break your trading plan rules you
essentially are proving to yourself that you don’t have what it takes to be a trader, and to
me, that is something I always wanted to avoid. I have always had a trading plan; at first
it was a physical one that I read and followed each day, but now, due to my experience
and developed skill, it is more of a mental checklist, but I remain disciplined and
accountable to it. However, if you are new, or ready to give up at trading, you need to
go though the process of making a physical trading plan, for the reasons mentioned
above. (fyi – I provide a detailed trading plan template at the end of my trading course.)

Take calculated risks

Here’s an easy way to figure out how much you can risk per trade. Sit down and think
about how much money you have that you consider risk capital; money that you can
potentially lose in the market. Now, divide that amount by 20 and that is your per-trade
or 1R risk amount.

Your risk should be a dollar amount that you could lose 20 times in a row and still be
able to take another trade with the same risk. This will make it so you aren’t risking too
much per trade, which in turn, will greatly help you develop and maintain the proper
trading mindset.

I promise you that if you get into the habit of risking more than you’re comfortable with
losing per trade, you are going to start having some big losses and quickly blow out
your account which will lead you to wanting to give up on trading. So, let’s avoid that!
Demo trade
If you aren’t sure what you’re doing or you have an overly complicated method, you will
lose money and eventually give up. Keep it simple by sticking with simple price action
methods, ‘naked’ charts and higher time frames.

Make sure you aren’t trading live without having first learned and mastered the trading
strategy you are using. You also should not trade live before having made a trading
plan, as discussed above.

Demo trading is a critical component to getting back your trading passion. If you’ve
recently felt burnt out and ready to quit, stop trading live for a while and just go back to
demo. Demo trading returns you to a neutral, emotionless mindset, which will help you
regain focus and perspective. It also restores the market to more of a competition or a
game, rather than just about making money, which is a huge help in getting back your
passion. When you think of trading as a game that you are just trying to play as good as
you can, so that you win, you will be in a much more effective frame of mind than if you
are just thinking about it from a profits / money perspective.

When you are ready to go live again…

When you feel like you want to give live trading a shot again, I recommend you try
aiming for smaller wins for a while, maybe 1 to 1 risk to rewards up to 1 to 2, to build
some confidence and get some wins under your belt.

Once you have some runs on the board and if you’re confident, you can increase risk
gradually up to your 1R amount, whilst remembering each trade needs to be carefully
planned and shouldn’t exceed your pre-determined 1R amount.

Conclusion
When you feel frustrated and ready to give up on trading, just remember that it’s not the
‘end of the world’. Take a big step back and remove yourself from live trading for a while
to get back on track. Reassess your trading method and make sure you like the method
and it’s not overly-complicated and that it makes sense to you. All you need is a method
that gives you an edge that provides slightly more than a 50/50 chance over series of
trades, you don’t need the ‘Holy-Grail’ of indicator-infused perfection (also it doesn’t
exist).

The determining factor in one’s success or failure in the market is always their own
mind. That is why I cover trading psychology in my professional trading course, in
addition to the other topics. Anyone will get burnt out and want to give up if they don’t
have the right trading method, mindset and money management approach, I call this
the 3 M’s of trading.

Good trading, and let me know if you have any questions by contacting me here.