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Hat Are The Most Important Personal Qualities To Have
Hat Are The Most Important Personal Qualities To Have
If you take absolutely nothing else from it, then you should take that
personal qualities are cultivable – you aren’t stuck with what you have
(or haven’t) got.
It’s fine to want to cultivate certain qualities that you feel you don’t
have. But there is something in just going with the natural flow of your
personality, and owning the strengths that are innate to you.
Think about your own personal qualities and the potential weaknesses
they produce as a side effect.
1. Joy
Also known as: Gratitude; optimism; cheerfulness; hope; humor;
satisfaction; and appreciation.
If joy could speak, she would say: ‘Life is good. It is great to be here
and to be me. This is fun.’
I am sure we can all agree that without joy, life is pretty gloomy. So
what things help to create more joy?
2. Kindness
Also known as: Compassion; generosity; patience; service; warmth;
and sensitivity.
If kindness could speak, she would say: ‘I take your feelings and
wellbeing as seriously as my own. You and I aren’t separate. We’re all
in this together. How can I be of service to you?’
3. Humility
Also known as: Modesty; egolessness; simplicity; deference; and
respect.
If humility could speak, she would say: ‘I don’t know. Everyone has
the ability to teach me something. It’s always possible to know more.’
In the words of C.S. Lewis, true humility is not about thinking less of
yourself; it is thinking of yourself less. Being genuinely happy with
other people’s successes and accepting the uncertainty of life, and
how small we are, are all signs of humility.
4. Equanimity
Also known as: Peacefulness; temperance; patience; tolerance;
acceptance; resilience; and fortitude.
5. Non attachment/Letting go
Also know as: Non-clinging; forgiveness; dispassion; non-
attachment; forgiveness; and moderation.
If non-attachment could speak, she would say: ‘I am the only
reliable source of happiness. This is out of my hands. I can only
control my own actions and reactions.’
6. Trust
Also known as: Faith; acceptance; openness; willingness and hope.
Having trust is having the attitude that life is happening for you, not to
you. Without trust, we adopt negative interpretations. Trust tells us
that there is something good to be learned or gained from any
situation.
Without trust, life can feel lonely, scary, or unfair. We feel alone in a
cold and uncaring universe.
7. Calmness/ tranquillity
Also known as: Serenity; calmness; non-reactivity; gentleness;
peace; and acceptance.
Tranquillity involves keeping your mind and heart calm. You take your
time to perceive what’s going on and act purposefully, without
agitation, without hurry, and without overreacting.
8. Courage
Also known as: Boldness; fearlessness; decisiveness; leadership;
assertiveness; confidence; and magnanimity.
Courage is the ability to place our fears and feelings to one side, and
see something through. For a few, it is the absence of fear – for most,
it’s the willingness to act despite fear.
9. Discipline/focus
Also known as: Energy; enthusiasm; tenacity; passion; vitality; zeal;
perseverance; willpower; determination; discipline; self-control;
resolution; mindfulness; steadfastness; tenacity; and grit. Also
includes focus.
If discipline could speak, she’d say: ‘However bad this gets, I’m
committed to making it work.’
Unlike the other virtues listed so far, wisdom is not something that you
can directly practice. Rather, it is the result of contemplation,
introspection, study, and experience.
Without wisdom, we don’t really know what we are doing. Life is small,
often confusing, and there might be a sense of purposelessness.
Books and/or practices that have helped me to develop wisdom: So
many things! I think that a lot of it is intelligently reflecting on your
experiences as life unfolds.
12. Integrity
Also known as: Having honor; truthfulness; sincerity; honesty;
responsibility; reliability; loyalty; and dignity.
Summary
Even if you have worked to develop half of these, chances are you’re
already enjoying greater levels of life satisfaction. And the more the
merrier, as they say.