marriage and wedding difference -

wedding is a function only, marriage is that what continues after wedding for many
many years
which is the one we are ready for the most?

preparation for marriage

- self personality preparation
- character preparation - jolly, happy, tension
- views of a person

to have the concentration of a builder. to make sure the foundation is right

a farmer who would take care of his plants
what are the challenges of a marital life today ?

marriage is self sacrifice

most important part of it unity and
this is done to make sure
- the couple grow together
- we give birth to a new life and to grow it
we will be one forever what god has joined let us not break

most important thing in marriage-

what is the eligibility for marriage - to be able to love
different expressions for love
-marriage is a relationship between two forgiverrs
begins with love
foundation is love
to be able to love
unity has 4 components -
physical unity
-emotional unity - to be able take right decision and not concentrate on small
things
emotions hijack logic
love is an emotion
sound of the person, sight of the person, feeling of the person being near
idealising the person
- intellectual unity
- spiritual unity

gift to the life partner

- self giving
- marriage is a covenant
- to be never be able to seperate
- to have an unconditional love

what are the elements of love

what are the different dimensions of unity
what are the signs that you find at the beginning of emtional unity
goals of marriage -to be able to grow together
to see the children grow

what is the difference between contract and covenant?

is marriage a covenant or contract

sexual experience in marriage

why is sexual interest important in growing up children
- sexual activities in marriage -
1) kissing, hug, caressing / massage, sex should only be in bedroom
why is sexuality important in marriage life
- in growing up children
-it is the essence of marital bliss

manushik sexuality enna pradhprayogam aarthamakunnath enthanu

what are the sexual activities the couples should engage in daily
- Kissing
Hugging
caressing
sex

What are things to prepare before having sex

preparation for having sex
- to understand your spouses natural sickness and any problems to be communicated
to bath and maintain hygien befor ahving sex
to consider the requirement of both husband and wife, knowledge about my partner
victory in family, during occassions, celebration, after a fight

arogyakaramayi lyngeegath jeevathathinu aavishyamaya karyangal ethellam

- commitment towards your partner until oldage
- Respect your spouses body, to take care of it. To understand the pain and
pleasure
of the spouses body
- be open to your spouse no hiding of feelings
- trust to be there that my body is only for my spouse

emotional unity
emotion is temporary because of the situation, spontaneous shouldndt be taken as
serious
unconscious reaction because of the situation
feeling is different from emotion

what are the elements that influence emotional status

- expression of the person
- attitude of the person
- eye contact
- body movements
- tone of voice

a marriage goes through 5 stages

- honey moon phase
- disentagment phase
- reality phase
- maturity phase

what are the steps to be taken to regulate emotions

- take into consideration the different personality of other people

- To keep a work life balance, to understand social responsibilty
- to understand emotions are only temporary and it should not leave an long lasting
effect
- to understand if spouse has negative or positive attitude person

How do childhood experience afftect marital life

- Many children undergo traumas in life during their childhood which would result
in negative behaviour and emotional instability will also pass it on their spouse
and feel a indirect satisfaction
- children who were made confident about themselves have a positive self esteem
which would also help
them to pass on to the Spouse and help them in overcoming their inablities

What are the basic life positions?

i am ok you are okay - always positive outlook

i am not okay you are okay- submissive outlook
I am okay you are not okay - dominant outlook
i am not okay you are also not okay - Always negative outlook, suicidal outlook

Module-5 finance in marriage

if you fail to plan then you plan to fail

q1)What shall be the attitude towards money ?

ans)Money is not everything but money is needed
three attitudes
-understand money is blessing from god and should not be used to show for pride or
in ways to show arrogance
-should be used for Helping others
-certain percentage should be given to parents for their daily care

q2)Distinquish between family budget and government budget?

government budget
-they declare spending and then announce allocation of resource money for future
programme's
-its always a deficit, total expenditure =total expenses + total loan
-total secrecy

family budget
-its mainly surplus ,total income =total expenditure + total savings
-should be total open between the husband and wife
- wife should know the income of husband
-expenditure should be done with each others consent and knowledge
-for smooth functioning a total of 30 percentage of the income should be saved

q3)Precaution to be taken while availing loans ?

The precaution which should be taken while availing loans

-understand the repaying capacity
-self control for credit card while buying from it

q4)Three main points to avail financial availability?

For the financial availability we have to allocate income by

1)Planning by
by estimating
-Fixed expence - rent ,emi, mostly fixed
-variable expense- due to changing price of the commodities -- this is mostly fixed
-discretionary- going out , buying things for your desire this kind of expense can
be planned
by budgeting
2)financial discipline
3)self control

sacremental unity in marriage

1) what is the core of christian faith

ans: only after baptism can we enter into holy matrimony, faith is a attraction.
Attraction towards jeuss christ is my faith
God is the creator of heaven and earthe out of love. The gift of choice is what god
gave us
1)god is there
2) god sent his son to redeem us of our sins
3) god was crucified for our redemption

2) what are the differences between matrimony and holy matrimony

- holy matrimony is a sacrement
- what god has joined let man not break it
- when two christians marry its joining with the christ and christian community
- holy matrimony is a symbol of love that christ had
differences
- in an ordinary wedding only two people marry the man and the women
- in holy matrimony 3 people are incleded 3rd person is jesus

- ordinary marriage has only self giving

in holy marriage including self giving they give themselve to jesus

- in an ordinary marriage love is the response to your spuses behaviour

- not only limited to thier response but it is a commandment of god that how i
loved you love each other

- in an ordinary marriage it has only limited vision - companionship and children

- in holy matrimony along with companionship and children we always have to make
way for children of god and spread love

3) four ways to enter into holy matrimony with faith

- we have to understand what is hindering our faith in god and overcome it
- before we enter into holy matrimony we should pray nicely
- we should accept koodasha- kurbana and kumbasaram
- we should prepare for holy matrimony by imbibing gods words

Holy matrimony and kingdone of god

what is the relation between matrimony and catholic church

1) what are the 5 areas of holiness in life?

- emotional holiness
- words holiness
- knowledge holiness
- actions holiness

words to be holy
actions to be holy
thoughts to be holy
conduct to be holy
heart to be holy

2) what are the responsibilities of the sacramentally married couple in

establishing kingdom of god?

pravachikaldey dauthyam - sakshi aayi maranam kondu udeshikunnaa prahoshakanamanu

poorohika dauthiyam
rajikiya dauthiyam

fruitful marital life

1)what is the official teaching of the catholic church about the determination
of the number of children in a family?
- a couple should give birth to that many children that they can take care of by
giving them all the required care and love and to keep them healthy

2) How do children enhance the relationship between the couple

- to share the responsibility between all the children would decrease the burden of
mothers
- will increase emtional tolerance among the family
- to keep the protection of family it is good to have siblings to keep track of
other childrens activities
- there will be kids to look after the parents in oldage

3) what are the benefits and challenges of a higher number of children in the
family

benefits
mutual dependency
more private life
sharing increases
increases responsibility among children

challenges
people keep commenting
can cause complication in health such as miscarriages

what are the reasons for infertility

polycystic ovariAn syndrome

closure of fallopian tube
problems in the uterus
infertility due to stress
endometriosis

what are the important steps in preparation for pregnancy

- make changes in life style
- to control food habits
- to stop sedentary lifestyle
to get the menustral cycle right
healthy diet
to maintain normal weight
- should not eat unnecessary medicines
- only to have folic acid medicines

what are the benefits of natural family planning

benefits - no additional medicines required

no side effects
both the spouses would be involved in the natural family planning

what are the important changes in the ways of relationships with parents and in
laws after marriage
-after marriage there should be a seperate family formed between the husband and
the wife
- there should be a small wall between the married couple and the in laws
what are the four important elements in the private space of a couple in relation
with the parents?

- secrecy in marriage
- responsibility in marriage
- should keed each other in confidence
- should be capable of taking their decisions

What are the ways to develop a healthy bonding with the

parents after marriage?

- to accept both the parents and siblings of other side

- No comparisions to be done with other side
Consult - the parents on important decision
collaborate - to do somethings together