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Sexual Identities and Schooling

Mary Lou Rasmussen

The Problem of Coming Out

This article focuses on contemporary research per- situations or to certain people without generally dis-
taining to the closet and coming out within and closing his or her sexual orientation or gender iden-
around educational settings in Australia, Britain, tity. “Coming out” is a process that takes place over
time, in some cases over many years. (Bochenek &
and the United States. The research tends to forge Brown, 2001, p. xiii)
a relationship between inclusivity and coming out,
a relationship that often situates the closet as a
zone of shame and exclusion. Lesbian and gay pol-
itics often tend to reinforce this relationship. Many
A S DESCRIBED ABOVE , there is a sense that “the
closet” and “coming out” are easily under-
stood. A person may be considered closeted if they
educational researchers are perturbed by “the com- live without disclosing their sexual orientation or
ing out imperative” and point to some of the limi- gender identity. Alternatively, someone who de-
tations of this discourse in diverse educational clares their sexual orientation or gender identity
contexts. This article considers these limitations publicly may be construed as having come out.
as well as the possibilities that may surface when Such neat definitions inevitably overlook the diffi-
coming out becomes a pedagogical practice in the culties of dealing with these issues in discourses
college classroom. In sum, this article considers related to sexualities and schooling. In this article
how teachers and students might benefit from be- I do not seek an end to coming out. Rather, I en-
ing mindful of the moral, political, and pedagogi- deavour to flesh out some of the complexities at-
cal issues that necessarily influence educational tached to discourses of coming out and the closet,
discourses of the closet and coming out. complexities that are inevitably mediated by the
particular bodies that are engaging these discourses.
This consideration of coming out discourses
is broadly focused within and outside educational
Closeted - the experience of living without disclos- settings; as such it is not pitched at a particular
ing one’s sexual orientation or gender identity (also educational cohort. My principal argument is that
referred to as being “in the closet”). students and teachers in diverse educational set-
Coming out - becoming aware of one’s sexual orien- tings may benefit from engaging the varied moral,
tation or gender identity and beginning to disclose it political, and pedagogical issues that influence the
to others. A person may be selectively “out” in some
production of coming out discourses. This argu-
Mary Lou Rasmussen is lecturer of education at Deakin ment is also explicitly directed to all teachers and
University, Australia. students who, regardless of their sexual or gender

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identities, may have different investments in the I have found that the process of bringing lesbian and
in/out binary. Putting aside the issue of different gay literature into the classroom, like coming out,
leaves no room for turning back. The experience has
people’s motivations in deploying discourses of reaffirmed my personal commitment to challenging
coming out and the closet,1 it is important to rec- myself to face the worst of my fears. (p. 141)
ognize that these discourses are absolutely funda-
A U.S. secondary teacher, Boutilier makes referenc-
mental to contemporary understandings of
es to self-affirmation, overcoming fear, and, finally,
sexualities and schooling, and, therefore, they war-
her hope that she might motivate others to create an
rant closer scrutiny.
educational system that more accurately reflects the
breadth and depth of human experience.
The Coming Out Imperative
The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education
One of the first U.S. texts to directly tackle Network (GLSEN), the largest U.S. organization
issues related to sexualities and schooling was Har- specifically advocating for the rights of lesbian,
beck’s Coming Out of the Classroom Closet (1992). gay, bisexual, and transgender teachers and stu-
This anthology includes several chapters that advo- dents, publishes a range of coming out guides for
cate the value of coming out, including Griffin’s youth, their allies, and educators. These guides cau-
“From Hiding Out to Coming Out: Empowering tion students and teachers about potential problems
Lesbian and Gay Educators” (pp. 167-196). The that may be associated with coming out in school
notion that coming out is necessarily empowering settings. Though akin to Boutilier’s coming out nar-
did not originate with Griffin, and did not end in rative, these guides tend to reinforce the assump-
1992. This emphasis on coming out continued in tion that coming out is a valuable—if sometimes
Sears’ and Williams’ text, entitled Overcoming Het- difficult—task, and that the act of coming out is
erosexism and Homophobia: Strategies That Work likely to benefit the individual and their peers.
(1997). In the introduction to this text, Williams The image conjured up by Williams of clos-
argues “the single most effective way to change ho- eted professors “cowering cowardly” points to an-
mophobic attitudes is through one-to-one personal other side of coming out and the ties that bind the
contacts. . . . Thus we need more research to sug- closet and exclusion. Students and teachers who
gest the best ways to encourage more lesbigay per- fail in their duty to come out may be marked as
sons to come out to their relatives, friends, and lacking, while those who do come out may be cele-
co-workers” (p. 7). Williams’ emphasis on coming brated as role models promoting tolerance and in-
out is also evident in his comments regarding clos- clusivity, empowering themselves and others.
eted academics. He notes “Many tenured full pro- Nowhere is the coming out imperative starker than
fessors who are gay or lesbian continue to cower in the National Coming Out Day program. Orga-
cowardly in the closet” (p. 4). Bridgewater (1997) nized by the Human Rights Campaign,2 the pro-
advocates “coming out as a prime method for reduc- gram is an annual event in hundreds of U.S. schools
ing negative attitudes and acts of prejudice against and colleges. The booklet (2001) produced to pro-
sexual identity minorities while increasing the well- mote National Coming Out Day calls on people to
being of gays, lesbians, and bisexuals” (p. 65). Both be honest and open about their sexual orientation—
Williams and Bridgewater see coming out as impera- one corollary of such a statement being that those
tive in combating prejudice. Griffin (1992) also who don’t come out are yet to prove themselves as
mounts an argument about the individual therapeutic honest and open. Yet such an emphasis on coming
value of being out as an educator. out of the closet may conceal the complexities inher-
The sense of empowerment linked with the ent in self-describing according to contingent sexual
coming out process is echoed in a number of nar- and gender identities.
ratives of teachers who have come out in their As I will demonstrate, people resist coming
schools, triumphing in the face of homophobia. out for a range of reasons. The implication that
Boutilier (1994) provides a fairly typical example those who do not are somehow disempowered or
of the sentiments expressed in teachers’ coming dishonest is one of the problems associated with
out stories: many of the discourses that call for teachers and

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students to come out of the closet. This approach person’s education, coming out might compromise
to coming out also perpetuates a narrativization of their access to tertiary education. Such pragmatic con-
gay and lesbian life where people are constructed siderations necessarily complicate young people’s
as having no agency in the adoption of their sexu- negotiations of the in/out binary.
al identity because, as the Human Rights Cam- While Telford indicates the complications that
paign states, “Sexuality and gender identity are not may mitigate against young people’s heartfelt de-
choices any more than being left-handed or having sire to come out, Snider (1996) disputes the idea
brown eyes or being heterosexual are choices” that coming out is necessarily a “heartfelt desire”
(2001, p. 11). When the largest and most well- or a liberatory process. In particular, Snider has
resourced lesbian and gay organization in the Unit- been critical of the Toronto Board of Education’s
ed States argues that homosexuality is not a choice, Triangle Program, a drop-out prevention initiative
an important slippage occurs. The notion that sex- targeted specifically toward lesbian and gay iden-
ual identity is somehow essential becomes conflat- tified high school students. Pointing to the Toronto
ed with the idea that coming out is also somehow lesbian and gay community’s failure to account
essential.3 for issues of race in coming out discourses, Snider
There is an imperative for lesbian and gay poses the following questions in relation to cele-
identified people to come out in educational set- bratory discourses on coming out:
tings, and I have argued this imperative can place How can the disruptive potential of coming out be
people in an invidious position. When coming out actualized for lesbian and gay youth confronting not
discourses are privileged, the act of not coming just homophobia but racism as well? Is the dominant
out may be read as an abdication of responsibility, discourse subsuming the speech of lesbians and gays?
Moreover, does the dominant discourse within lesbi-
or, the act of somebody who is disempowered or an and gay politics subsume the speech of lesbians
somehow ashamed of their inherent gayness. In and gays of color? Finally, in what ways has the
the next section, I draw together educational re- coming out discourse altered underlying systems of
search that questions the coming out imperative, domination, and in what ways are these systems be-
or, alternatively, indicates why coming out may be ing reproduced within this discourse? (p. 300)
a problem for some. These questions offer an important challenge to
the coming out imperative outlined in the previous
The Politics of Coming Out section. Snider illustrates well the need to chal-
Several researchers have drawn attention to lenge dominant discourses of celebration and the
the difficulties that may be associated with com- concomitant enforcement of coming out discourses,
ing out, especially for young people. For example, silencing and shaming people for whom coming
Telford’s (2003a, 2003b) study of young gay iden- out is not a realistic or preferred option. This cri-
tified British university students points to the dif- tique of coming out, which is located within the
ficulties people encounter in endeavouring to come broader context of discourses relating to lesbian
out when they enroll at a university. Drawing on and gay identity politics, is especially salient in
interviews he conducted with young gay men, Tel- the context of this discussion of the problem of
ford highlights the ways sexual identity can be- coming out. The “problem” is not located in an
come compartmentalized in young people’s lives individual’s desire to identify as lesbian or gay,
due to pressures placed on them by family and but rather in the sense that dominant discourses
peer groups. Pressures not to come out might be relating to lesbian and gay politics tend to offer no
allied to a young person’s racial or ethnic background, moral alternative BUT to come out.
their family’s religious affiliations, or to family The complex intersections of race and sexu-
threats—real or implied—regarding the withdrawal ality in coming out discourses are apparent in
of financial support. As Telford states, “Fears about Akanke’s (1994) discussion of her decision not to
being cut off financially seemed to be an important come out to peers when she was a university stu-
factor for the young person when deciding to come dent, and to remain closeted in her interactions with
out” (2003a, p. 137). If family members fund a young school authorities as a lesbian parent in Britain.

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Akanke, who identifies herself as a Black Jamai- various identities and their potential coming out
can woman, states: within and around school settings has been em-
Being “closeted” is not a choice I wish to make. phasized by Evans (1999). She points out the “in-
Nevertheless, because of the pervasiveness of rac- teractive nature of identity negotiation” (p. 240)
ism, it is one that I choose to make. Being Black, and argues that the construction of divisions be-
however, is not a choice. As a Black woman my tween public and private spheres must be constantly
color is my most obvious feature, not my sexual pref-
erences. (p. 102)
renegotiated by teachers and students who are not
heterosexual identified.
While Akanke expresses a preference for a life My focus now turns to the constant negotia-
lived out of the closet, she goes on to argue that tions of coming out in classroom settings. In two
outing herself would be foolhardy, as it may com- articles published in the same issue of GLQ: A
promise her relations with her Black community. Journal of Lesbian and Gay Studies, Khayatt (1999)
She further remarks that the support of that com- and Silin (1999) emphasize the interactive nature
munity “far outweighs any desire to openly assert of identity negotiation. They also consider the pos-
my sexuality” (p. 113). Akanke feels there is no sibilities and problems posed by the act of coming
escaping discrimination based on her color, but out in educational spaces. While both of these arti-
discrimination based on the grounds of her sexual cles raise important issues relating to the problem
identity is something she feels she has more agen- of coming out, they also navigate readers toward
cy in trying to control. difficult terrain.
Snider and Akanke demonstrate that univer- In his article, “Teaching As a Gay Man,” Silin
salizing discourses compelling people to come out poses the following questions: How is pedagogy
often fail to consider racism. Similarly, in her dis- changed when we dismantle the wall between pri-
cussion of the process of coming out in Asian com- vate and professional experience? What risks do
munities in the United States, Varney (2001) we take? What goals do we achieve when we open
critiques celebratory narratives that permeate main- our lives for public inspection? (p. 96). Silin, a
stream queer youth groups “where people are urged teacher educator who works in New York City,
to be proud and out to everyone” (p. 94). What partially responds to these questions by stating that
this research suggests is that people’s relationship being gay in the classroom “encourages the au-
to the closet and coming out is affected by factors thentic voices I hoped my students would assume
such as race and age. in their own classrooms” (p. 96). While Silin is
In conclusion, people’s ability to continuously aware that the relationship he has with his stu-
negotiate their identity is necessarily mediated by dents is a confessional one, he also notes that it is
varying circulations of power relating to age, fam- simultaneously self-constitutive. In other words, he
ily background, economic position, and race. The constructs himself as a particular sort of gay man
dominance of coming out discourses in lesbian and through the act of conversing about his gayness
gay politics, within and outside educational set- with his students.
tings, belies the idea that coming out is not neces- Silin also observes that the stories he tells
sarily an option, or a desired objective, of all people his students regarding his sexual identity “change
who are non-heterosexual identified. Next, I turn over time and are transformed by the times” (p.
to a consideration of how coming out might relate 99). I wonder if his awareness of the relationship
to classroom pedagogy. While this component of between time, and the stories he tells his students
the article pertains specifically to teacher educa- about himself and his sexuality, is somewhat at
tion, the issues raised might also be instructive in odds with his desire to encourage the assumption
debates about coming out in K-12 school settings. of authentic voices in his students. I wonder how
he or his students would determine which voices
Coming Out and Pedagogy relating to their sexual identity are authentic, giv-
The difficult terrain that students and teach- en the propensity of these stories to continue to
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do better to focus conversations on how sexual one’s outness in the classroom without freezing
identities “change over time and are transformed one’s identity? Besides, what happens if and when
by the times.” Such a focus on the differences, your identity does change?
discontinuities, and similarities between and with- As Telford (2003b) observes, Khayatt’s mo-
in people’s sexual stories may alert students and tive in questioning the pedagogical value of com-
teachers to the idea that people’s sense of self ing out “is not advocating living a closeted life. . . .
doesn’t develop and then stagnate; rather, it con- Her point is that unsettling heterosexuality may be
tinues to change and transform over time. Students as well, or better, achieved through the curriculum
may consider the notion that sexual identities aren’t and by refusing to behave as if queer sexuality
imposed on them; they change over time, and stu- were a secret requiring a declaration” (p. 106). This
dents are involved in negotiating these changes. argument is compelling insofar as it makes a valu-
Later in the same article, Silin argues that able distinction between pedagogical discussions
confessing the personal in the classroom involves that unsettle heterosexuality and the act of coming
an exchange where “we give up being like our out. Clearly, these differing pedagogical strategies
students or even liked by them in order to foster may have different effects. For example, the act of
authentic dialogue with them” (p. 99). There is no coming out may have the reverse effect of rein-
doubt that coming out in the classroom does dis- forcing heterosexuality because of its tendency to
mantle taboos about what is and is not pedagogi- underpin the heterosexual/homosexual binary.
cally appropriate in educational spaces, enabling However, I am concerned that Khayatt’s ar-
Silin to shift “some of his discomfort about teach- gument could also have the effect of implying that
ing onto the students” (p. 96). I, too, am an advo- coming out is always pedagogically unsound in
cate of the provocative abilities of discomfort in classroom settings. To my mind, this is an untena-
the pedagogical process (Harwood & Rasmussen, ble position. Within and outside educational spac-
2004), but I question the methods Silin deploys to es, people will continue to choose to come out and
provoke discomfort. I wonder if Silin could strive others will refuse to disclose their sexual identity.
to be more discomforting by not only refusing to The pedagogical implications of the decision to
occupy “the position (students and institutions of- come out in the classroom will surely vary accord-
ten require of their teachers) of objective purveyor ing to the teacher, the school, the parents, and the
of truth” (p. 105), but also refusing connections community who are all drawn into and impact on
between statements about identity and authentici- this act of coming out. From a pedagogical per-
ty. Such a position would enable him to challenge spective, coming out isn’t in and of itself inherent-
the role of teacher as truth teller about all subjects, ly good or bad. While coming out does not
including gayness. necessarily equate to unsettling heterosexuality, nor
In response to Silin’s article, Khayatt (1999) does it necessarily define the teacher as standing
interrogates the “pedagogical benefit of coming out for an entire group.
in the classroom, particularly through a declarative As Khayatt goes on to observe, the telling of
statement” (p. 108). She argues that the process of one’s identity is not restricted to the form of speech
coming out to students through the use of a declar- acts. She states, “telling may occur through the
ative statement (such as, “I am an out and proud ways in which our bodies are inevitably read by
gay teacher”) may be pedagogically unsound
students and/or through what we include in and
not least because one’s identity is continually in flux leave out of syllabi. Some of us are perceived as
[italics added], and the act of freezing one’s identity in queer regardless of what we say, while for others
place to render the declarative statement true, even for
a moment, does not do justice to the teacher presenting the act of announcing one’s queerness does not
herself or himself in class. What it does is to define the ensure this perception” (pp. 110-112). In clarify-
teacher as standing for an entire group. (p. 108) ing her particular objection to the use of declara-
If teachers’ and students’ sexual and gender tive statements, Khayatt explains:
identities are continuously in a state of flux, as Whenever I use a declarative statement to proclaim
Khayatt suggests, then how is it possible to state my sexuality unequivocally to friends and colleagues,

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it seems to end the exchange. We move onto another argued that this imperative is often underpinned
subject, closing this one forever [italics added]. I by a broader movement within gay and lesbian
find that by assuming instead that they are aware of
my sexual orientation, it does not focus menacing
politics that tends to unproblematically valorize the
attention on itself but remains a natural part of the act of coming out. In addition, I have analyzed
conversation and continues to come up whenever rel- arguments related to the pedagogical value of de-
evant. (p. 110) stabilizing heterosexuality through curriculum con-
Khayatt’s position is somewhat contradictory. tent or through making declarative statements about
She is particularly critical of declarative statements sexual identity within the college classroom. I have
about coming out, but recognizes that these state- considered how the coming out process is natural-
ments take many forms. Thus, there is a distinc- ized and made familiar, and suggested that far from
tion made in her argument between teachers who being familiar, it is constructed differently depend-
are outed because of the tone of their speech or ing on the individual (i.e., their race, age, family
students’ reading of their body, and teachers who are background) and the time, place, and space in
outed because of the content of their speech. Given which that individual is located. Such an approach
such a distinction, is it then plausible to suggest that to the complex issue of coming out enables a move-
one method of outing will attract menacing attention ment away from the focus on when, how, and if
and foreclose speech forever, while the other will teachers should come out in the classroom. In clos-
allow one’s sexual orientation to remain a natural ing it is worth restating that this article is not in-
part of conversation? This prompts further questions: tended as a call for the abandonment of coming
How does discussion of sexuality becomes natural- out discourses in educational settings. Rather, I
ized in conversation? Is it only possible to discuss have argued for the value of taking a more com-
sexual orientation naturally if one has not made a plex look at how coming out and the closet are
prior declarative statement? And do these guidelines constructed via moral, political, and pedagogical
pertaining to coming out also hold true for people considerations related to the production of sexual
who choose to identify as heterosexual? identities.
In spite of any considered argument that one
might mount for or against coming out, it is also Notes
worth remembering that regardless of the theory, in 1. Though I think such a study would be a worthwhile
undertaking, it is beyond the scope of this article.
practice educators cannot prevent “students forc(ing) 2. See http://www.hrc.org/Template.cfm?Section=
our polymorphous perversities into their prefabricat- About_HRC for the Human Rights Campaign’s mis-
ed boxes of limited understanding” (Khayatt, 1999, sion statement.
p. 112). For Khayatt the way forward is to ask “stu- 3. For an analysis of how such essentializing classifi-
dents to grapple . . . with the articulation of the erotic cations can cause problems for LGBT young people
see Rasmussen, Rofes, & Talburt (in press).
in the texts we assign, rather than ourselves as texts”
(p. 112). I am sympathetic to Khayatt’s desire to
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