EMBESTRO, HAZIEL DE LUNA

BSED-3
UNDERSTANDING THE SELF

MODULE 5 UNFOLDING THE EMOTIONAL SELF

This module focuses on the human emotions. In this module, we tackle the distinction
of emotions and feelings. Emotions serve as a driving force in how one acts and behaves. While
the feelings are more like a hormonal response to the emotional state of the mind. When you
can distinguish between emotions and feelings, you are enable to make better choices.
Emotional intelligence is your capability to be aware, control and express your emotions and to
handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. People say that emotional
intelligence is the key to success in both personal and professional success of an individual and
for me this is true because having a good social relationship with the people around you can
give you a sense of belongingness and can keep you away from trouble or conflict with other
people. Being emotionally intelligence has a lot of positive effects not just to yourself but also to
the people around you. Balancing your own emotions and the emotions of people around you
can be called an emotional intelligence for me. Showing empathy and giving sympathy to the
people around you and to others is another way of having emotional intelligence. In this
module we talked about the different aspects, categories, branches and components of the
emotional intelligence according to different intelligent people like Mayer, Salovey and others.
People with high emotional intelligence manifest high social competence in dealing with
different kinds of people. For example, children that has high emotional intelligence will have
more friends rather than that children with high IQ. People with high emotional intelligent are
less likely to develop mental illness because they have the capability to effectively cope up with
stress and other negative emotions they might feel.

We may not notice it but I believe that we use our emotional intelligent in our every
decision in life, especially on the things and events that we know will have a very big impact on
our lives or to ourselves. For example, you are in a situation where you needed to make a
decision that can affect you and the people around you making decision when you are in a state
of being angry or happy can give a different result. In decision making, being in your right mind
and having a rationale can give you more advantages in dealing with different types of people.
As we grow older, our emotional aspects also develop. Our perception with everything changes,
our values changes and we reach the level of emotional maturity. Just like our physical body,
our mind and emotions also develop. When we are young we tend to be impulsive in decision
making because of our emotions but we manage to control ourselves as time passes by and we
grew much more than before. Some people have an emotional maturity at a young age for
some reasons such as because they were abandoned since they were a child and they needed
to tend for themselves or because they are the first child of their family so the obligation of
feeding their family is on their hands or in some cases, they matured at their young age
because of an event that changes their lives forever.