JOURNAL #1

Today is the day we were able to meet our teacher in FPE. We finally got to
know a little of his background. As I’ve observed along the way of our discussion, he
is very particular in asking us questions about our experiences where we felt at
peace. I admit I like the way how he handle us, as his students, I can say that he
really care about our mental health. He wants to know if we ever feel at peace but if
not, he’s very open, understanding and willing to listen to our opinions.

Sad to say, we don’t have that much of time to spend the rest of the time
asking each one of us about our experiences. But if I were given a chance to share
my opinion, I would honestly tell the truth that it’s really hard for me attain the peace
that looked forward to. No matter how much I tried myself to be happy and do the
things that make me feel at peace, it feels like it’s killing me instead. I do admit the
fact that I’m currently experiencing an awful family problem that really did not expect
to happen. For me, a family that is fed with greed and jealousy is way harder to deal
with than dealing relationship heartbreak. Because once a family started to shake
and break into pieces, no matter how hard to put it the same way as it was, things
will not go back to the same way we wanted it to be. There is really a huge gap. I do
hope that time will heal the wounds.

There I conclude that I cannot fool myself and be pretentious with the things
I’m not okay with. It’s not okay to be okay. It’s not okay to pretend that I’m okay
because at the end of the day, after showing them my pretentious face full of fake
smiles, my eyes will never lie. Until that point of time where I find myself at the corner
of my room contemplating at the ceiling until the tears in my honest eyes started to
fall and became endless tears. I just let it fall until there’s no tears left to cry. I just let
it be at least it made me feel a little bit okay. I hope and pray that this agony will soon
to end.
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CONFLICT

Our topic for today is about conflict. My definition of conflict is something that refers
to a situation where I cannot feel at peace. No matter how hard I try, regardless of
the time and place where I want to be alone just to escape from this chaotic reality of
mine, I still can’t manage to forget it. Maybe because of the pain and shock that my
family are going through, upon seeing them not in good terms it really affects me and
the other members of the family as well.

This kind of conflict arises mainly because of misunderstanding, their needs, values
and ideas are seen to be different. They have different goals and that goal may bring
bring happiness to the other however, on the other side, it can bring pain and
jealousy. That’s how I can describe the situation that my family is currently
experiencing. I can tell that they are really in a great conflict. Out of all conflicts that
they had before, this one is the worst and has break the record because it took them
months, how many months had passed by but it’s hard for them to bring the idea to
RECONCILE the dispute.

For this week, I can tell the truth which I cannot perfectly hide. The truth that our
family is still in an ongoing conflict but I hope and pray that someone or something
will put an end to this mess as soon as possible. I cannot afford to see my family lost
their faces full of excitement when they see each other. I honestly don’t want this
kind of relationship that out family has right now. Situation like this really affects me
and my family. I cannot afford to see any of my family members crying in times they
can no longer hide the pain.
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CONFLICT MANAGEMENT

Our topic for today is about Conflict Management. Conflict management by definition
is the process by which disputes are resolved, where negative results are minimized
and positive results are prioritized. Dealing with conflict is not easy and it’s obviously
inevitable. There’s no such thing that only one solution is being used that will work in
all situations. In our discussion there are 5 conflict management styles. They are
accommodating, avoiding, compromising, competing and collaborating.

Honestly, I like how my teacher delivered this discussion to us. In a ways that we can
share our thoughts and experiences depending on the conflict management style
that we chose. And this is the time that I finally knew my conflict management style.
My conflict management style is ACCOMMODATING. As a very accommodating
person, I am simply not selfish. In every circumstances, I think about others need
before I do. Sometimes my friends told me that I’m so selfless because for them it’s
already too much. When it comes to handling conflict, I certainly no dot care about
the issue because I prefer to avoid it as much as possible especially when the
conflict is not worth of my time and addressing it will only damage relationships. This
option is about keeping the peace, not putting in more effort than the issue is worth,
and knowing when to pick battles. But if the conflict is weak and not that too hard to
handle, then accommodation can be the absolute best choice to resolve a small
conflict.

What’s more important in handling conflict is the key management skills. This
involves using differ tactics depending on the situation. One must be able to take a
birds-eye view of the conflict and immediately apply the conflict management style
that is best suitable to the specific situation. When the conflict is properly managed,
an association can limit relational issues, improve customer fulfilment, and produce
better business results.
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VIOLENCE

Violence can be in a form of physical or psychological damage inflicted to human.

That’s the definition of violence that we all aware of. But that’s not it, violence is more
than that because it can touch many lives in various ways. According to Galtung,
there are 3 common types of violence. Namely,Direct/Personal violence,
Indirect/Structural violence & Cultural violence.

Personally, there’s nothing much I can tell about this topic because I have no
experience when it comes to this. I guess I’m thankful because my family do not
tolerate and practice violent actions to discipline us as part of parenting. But I can tell
a story where I witnessed my aunt being beaten by her violent drunkard husband. I
can’t help myself but just stared at them fighting because of the shock. I’m just a kid
back then. I cannot defend my aunt because I’m not that strong enough. I pity my
aunt so much, I can tell just by looking at her eyes that she’s not happy. Even if she
wanted to leave her husband alone, she can’t do it because of her children. Not until
his husband started to abuse their children as well. Whenever we visit them, I see
bruises in their legs and arms. My aunt cannot take it anymore, she doesn’t want her
children to live that kind of life because it hurts her even more while watching her
children starved and being abused by their father. I happy to tell that my aunt finally
got out from the den of the tiger that’s she’s been living with for years. She separated
with her husband, took all her children with her away from her abusive husband and
started a new life only with her kids.

Issues like this is very common here in our country. Physical violence, domestic
violence and such. I’m grateful because the law is indeed working. As stated in the
Anti-Violence against Women and their Children Act of 2004, it recognizes "the need
to protect the family and its members particularly women and
children from violence and threats to their personal safety and security", helped my
aunt and my cousins. DSWD put their attention to them perform immediate action to
save them.
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PEACE

Our topic for today is about Peace. For me, peace is just simply referring to a
situation where conflict and violence are not acknowledged. Where people in the
society are in harmony by showing their love and support to one another. But
somehow peace can be defined in many ways, depending on the situation. Some
would say that “peace is more than just the absence of war and violence”, “Peace is
not the absence of conflict – but the ability to manage conflict” and lot more.

Honestly saying, last week I don’t have any peaceful experience but I am glad to
share that yesterday is my birthday and I really do experience that peaceful
experience that I’ve been looking forward to. I can tell that I feel at peace because I
am happily celebrating my 20th birthday with my family and friends. It’s just a simple
celebration, not that bonggacious enough, but what makes it extra special is the
presence of my love ones. They made my day a very memorable one, we had the
chance to meet again. There’s a presence of societal friendship, harmony and
tranquility during those times. I feel so secured with their kind greetings and words of
wisdom. There’s nothing much that I could ask for, as long as we’re peacefully
celebrating my birthday in this trying times.

I am beyond thankful for everything because God already gave me the peaceful life
that I want. Complete family, awesome group of friends and good health especially in
this time of pandemic. I really appreciate a small thing that is why every
achievement, no matter how big or small that is, I always give value to it. I hope and
pray that this peaceful experience that I’m already experiencing right now will
continue because I’m constantly avoiding conflict as much as possible. I hope and
pray that everything will go back to normal so that we’ll continue to live our normal
and peaceful lives.
GROUP REPORT LEARNING INSIGHTS

 Nonviolence Education
As what I’ve observed, I can see the presence of stress and violence at
home during pandemic. Because of too much stress this could make
someone slowly starting to become violent. Nonviolence education is very
essential especially during this time. It may not be too late to educate
someone to be nonviolent but it’s never easy to persuade someone to
become nonviolent in responding to a certain situation. I believe that humans
have the potential to change but it really takes time to change someone to be
better. Just like how Mahatma Gandhi responds to tremendously oppressive
situations, he chose to remain calm and nonviolent. According to his famous
saying, “Non-violence is more powerful for converting the opponent and
opening his ears which are otherwise shut to the voice of reason”
 Human Rights Education
As a student, I learn about my rights as well as my responsibilities
through human rights education. Not just my right as a student but my right as
a citizen. Human rights education shares the same goal with peace education
as they associate with social peace. We all have the ability to exercise our
human rights to achieve peace and our right is not something we can take for
granted. They must be safeguarded.
 Interfaith Education
The main take away in this topic is to encourage and motivate people
to embrace and uphold peace building as the essential goal. Despite of our
differences in culture, religion and etc., we are one humanity, united in our
core desires for mutual respect and acceptance as we coexist harmoniously.
 Multicultural Education
As what I’ve learned in the discussion, RESPECT is really important in
multicultural education. If a person does not show a single respect, this could
most probably lead to worst case scenarios like discrimination, prejudices and
racism. Multicultural education, encourage us to understand that all people
should be treated equally, regardless of cultural, religious, or ethnic
differences. RESPECT is very important to practice as respect for other
cultures will lead to respect for the fundamental humanity of all people.
 Gender Fair Education
Gender-fair education tackles about the insights, experiences and
viewpoints of girls and women just as boys and men. For a variety of reasons,
gender is a significant consideration in the context of peace education. Aiming
to promote gender equity especially in women's empowerment and ending the
stereotypes towards men in all domains are essential for achieving long-term
peace.
 Environmental Education

Peace education does not only apply to humans but also to the
environment as well. Respect need not only be applicable to human being but
also to for all ecological life in the planet. Environmental education is
important to promote as it focuses in developing in people’s awareness,
knowledge and concern in the environmental sustainability and respect for our
planet Earth. It is one step closer towards peace in the society as well.