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Everything You Need to Know About Milking a Guy's

Prostate

For starters, it's not called milking because semen looks like milk.

by
CARINA HSIEH

NOV 16, 2018

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hen it comes to butt play for guys, it's normal to be a lil' intimidated.
After all, heading around back is a mainstream enough act that you know
it can feel pleasurable for men, and yet, actually trying it can be anxiety-
inducing if you have no idea what you're doing back there.

In that case, here's everything you need to know about milking a guy's prostate, which
is accessed through his bum, to give him a next-level orgasm.

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Has your dude ever asked you to milk his

prostate?

YEP. NAH.

1. The prostate is highly sensitive. The prostate, which is located inside a man's
rectum, has a ton of different nerves, says Dr. Michael Ingber, MD, a board certified

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urologist. There are small sensory nerves, parasympathetic nerves (that come into
play with erections), and sympathetic nerves (that come into play with ejaculation),
which make it incredibly sensitive and responsive to gentle touch... in the best way.

2. Although it's rare, some men can orgasm through prostate play alone. This
tends to be a learned technique, says Dr. Evan Goldstein, CEO and founder of Bespoke
Surgical. What's more common is to combine prostate play with oral or manual sex
for a more intense orgasm.

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3. It's probably a good idea for your guy to go to the bathroom and try to empty
his bowels before diving into prostate play. Goldstein notes that if your partner has
a regular bowel schedule and is eating a lot of fiber, they'd likely be ready for a
prostate massage without much pre-planning. Since the prostate is located close to
the opening of the rectum, this area is usually void of any stool, especially if someone
is pretty regular. However, for extra peace of mind, Goldstein suggests having your
partner hop in the shower and inserting a well lubed finger or toy into himself. If it
comes out clean, you're good to go, otherwise, have him try to go to the bathroom or
perhaps raincheck the prostate massage for another day.

4. Cut your nails! Seriously, think about how nasty it is when dudes don't do this for
you.

5. You're gonna need to use plenty of lube. Unlike the vagina, the rectum doesn't
self-lubricate, so you'll need lots of lube if you want to enter butthole territory.
Goldstein recommends water-based lubricant since you can use it with toys and it
doesn't stain fabric. But many people prefer silicone lube (which, note, is not
compatible with silicone toys) as it tends to last longer and stay wetter than water-
based lube.

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6. You'll know you've hit the prostate when you feel a "walnut." Insert one or two
very lubricated fingers slowly into your partners rectum while facing them. You'll want
to reach your fingers as if you're trying to touch their belly button with your fingers
fully extended, says Goldstein. Try to touch for the prostate using your finger pads. It
should feel like a walnut and your partner should feel increased sensitivity in the
penis when you touch it.

7. There are two lobes to keep in mind when giving a prostate massage. The
prostate has a left lobe and a right lobe (hence the walnut analogy). "It’s best to start
working the left lobe from left to right, deep to superficial, and then the do the same
for the right lobe," says Goldstein. Repeat this as your partner wishes, but make sure
you're not going for hours or really jamming your fingers up there as it'll obviously
cause pain.

8. It might take a few minutes. Just like how you can't be expected to orgasm after
30 seconds of oral, guys can't be expected to just magically orgasm after 30 seconds of
prostate play. Every body is different, and while some might say that within seconds of
starting a prostate massage they'll orgasm, know that it usually takes a few minutes
before anything starts feeling good. Be patient, and communicate with your partner
throughout to make sure they like it, of course.

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9. Don't stress if it doesn't seem like anything's happening on the first try. If you
and your partner are comfy with trying again, try again! "There is for sure a steep
learning [curve] to prostate massage," says Dr. Jamin Brahmbhatt, MD, a Urologist at
Orlando Health. So don't stress if it's not the magic ejaculation button you thought it'd
be in three seconds or less. Goldstein adds that since the sphincter is naturally tight, it
makes sense that someone might take a few tries to fully relax and get comfortable
with the idea before it becomes pleasurable.

10. This move is called prostate "milking," but it's not because semen looks like
milk. It more relates to the movement: Just like how milking a cow requires manual
manipulation of the cow's udder, you're using your hand (or more specifically, finger)
to stimulate a man's prostate, says Goldstein. Also, what you are actually milking from
the prostate prostatic juices. Semen is just a small fraction of ejaculate, while the
prostatic juices make up the majority.

Did you think it was called "milking"

because semen looks like milk?

NO, YOU DUMBASS. TBH SAME.

11. There can be health benefits to prostate play. When done correctly, prostate
milking (or massage) can help decrease localized inflammation like prostatitis
(picture a clogged drain with a ton of pressure building up behind it), says Goldstein.
Dr. Brahmbhatt adds that doctors may sometimes perform prostate massages to obtain
fluid samples when assessing for prostatitis.

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CARINA HSIEH
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Carina Hsieh lives in NYC with her French Bulldog Bao Bao — follow her on Instagram and Twitter • Candace Bushnell once called her
the Samantha Jones of Tinder • She enjoys hanging out in the candle aisle of TJ Maxx and getting lost in Amazon spirals. 

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