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Professor Ferrara
ENGL 1001
8 April 2022
What if the rule you’ve most likely been told your whole life, “don’t talk to strangers,”
was actually keeping you from having important, meaningful conversations? Everyone has a
different view on strangers, but the usual response is to look down, keep walking, and avoid
conversation. Kio Stark, however, gives a very persuasive TED Talk on “Why we should talk to
strangers.” Throughout the TED Talk Stark talks about all the benefits that come from talking to
strangers and the best way to go about it. Stark was enlightened to give this talk based on a
conversation she had with a stranger who was looking out for her safety. Her purpose of the talk
is to encourage people to talk to strangers as real individual people and not just a person they
pass and scold at. She discusses what can come out of talking to strangers, and how it can be a
meaningful experience for each person. She explains how it can be a way for people to express
feelings they are too uncomfortable sharing with closer friends and family. Stark gave this talk in
order to convince people to break the barriers that we as society put up between civility and
privacy. Certain people and cultures go to extremes to avoid talking to strangers, but she argues
that it has many benefits. Cultures that value hospitality will ask strangers for water or offer
strangers coffee. She challenges us to act more like this; break the “rules” of society that keep us
from interacting with strangers because it can make us more open minded and helps us to break
the habit of being prejudiced. Throughout the talk, Stark used the rhetoric devices, ethos, pathos,
and logos, to effectively help listeners to stay engaged in the talk and really persuade the
Stark does a very good job at using ethos to give herself credibility, therefore
strengthening her argument. She appears confident and sure of herself and she backs this up by
giving examples of her real life experiences and conversations she has had with strangers. These
conversations and examples make her more credible so I trust her. She also talks about different
cultures and their typical “rules” when it comes to interactions with strangers. She explains how
some cultures are very open and hospitable to strangers, while others do anything they can to
avoid people they don’t know. Our culture in America leans more to the side of avoiding
strangers. This is how most of us are taught to act from a young age by our parents and how we
see others act. These facts and personal examples show the research she’s done on this topic
She uses pathos to pull the listeners in by their emotions. She tells the story of her dad
dying, which is a very personal and sad piece of information. This is information that we tend to
only talk about with close friends and family. However, she says that when strangers ask her
about her father, she is honest and tells them what happened. She explains that strangers will
typically reciprocate this with stories of their own losses. This is a bonding moment that makes
each person feel less alone with their feelings and experiences. It makes her feel understood. She
knows all people want is to feel noticed and appreciated even if it is from a stranger. She
explains that when she documented her experiences of talking to strangers, she found these were
“genuine emotional connections,” and “unexpected pleasures” (“Stark 1:04-10). She uses these
facts to persuade people into being more open to talking to strangers by explaining that these
conversations will help to feel noticed and cause them to make others feel the same way. Most
people have lost someone close to them and will relate to this story. This makes the listeners feel
more tied to the argument she is making because bonding over loss is a great way to feel less
upset or alone. The listeners will be much more likely to talk to strangers after hearing this. She
also explains how conversations with strangers can make yourself and others feel important, and
that people often realize; that people “often feel more understood by strangers,” or emotions with
strangers more easily than with people they are close with (“Stark” 5:25-28). She even adds that
this is a special form of closeness that “we need just as much as we need our friends and
families” (“Stark 5:52-57). She says that after a stranger told her to be careful when standing on
a storm grate, she felt happy knowing someone she didn’t know was worried about her safety.
She says “for a minute I felt like my existence as a person had been noticed. And I was worth
saving” (“Stark” 2:06-12). She uses the common human emotions of loss and the desire to feel a
connection with others and make others feel happy, to further persuade her listeners to talk to
strangers.
She uses logos to convince the listeners that talking to strangers has more benefits than
we would expect and that it is not dangerous as most people are taught. People can get a good
perception of others at a first glance and can usually trust their instincts to what strangers are
willing to have a conversation and are ok to talk to. She explains that “we should use our
perceptions rather than our fears,” and to “think of people as individuals” rather than put
strangers in a box of people we don’t know. We also know how to interact with people without
giving too much information and in a safe area so there is really no danger in talking to strangers.
She also says that these conversations are “quick conversations so they have no real
consequences” (“Stark” 6:05-09). This is a great point to persuade the audience because it will
make them more likely to talk to a stranger knowing that it won’t take long, and they probably
won’t see that person again so there's really no reason to be afraid of how the conversation goes.
She convinces the readers that there really is not any danger or reason to worry because we can
determine who and when to talk to a stranger, and the conversation will be short and fleeting.
In general, I think she did a really good job using all of the rhetorical devices. She used
ethos to show she is a credible source and create a convincing argument. She used pathos to
effectively persuade the audience that talking to strangers is a good thing because it can create an
emotional bond and help people feel understood and appreciated and make others feel good.
Finally, she used logos to convince the audience that this is not a dangerous task because people
have enough sense to know who, when, and where they can safely talk to strangers. She presents
her argument to the audience as if she was a friend giving them good advice on how to improve
ours and others’ day to day lives in a simple and easy way. This exercise helped me to realize
that using any of these rhetorical devices, especially all three, can help me to make a convincing
and strong argument. If I watched this Ted Talk before learning about these, I would have been
persuaded that talking to strangers is a good thing without realizing how she makes this
argument strong. Watching this with these rhetorical devices in mind, I understand how she did
this and how I can do the same with any arguments I want to make.
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