Love or Infatuation

“…but I can`t help falling in love with you”, I`m wondering, did Elvis Presly
really know what he was talking about when he composed that classic love? Love.
Everyone has felt it before, right? But how do we know that emotion we feel is
really the one we think we feel. Do we really understand the difference between
love and infatuation?

Love is tender, passionate affection for another person. On the other hand,
infatuation is a foolish and extravagant passion. Though these formal definitions
may show a stark contrast in meaning, discerning the difference in a real life
scenario is truly no easy task.

Infatuation has the eyes of a falcon. It has scores points for detail and
seeks out the most fashionably impressive individual. The most beautiful girl,
cutest guy and so on. For the lack of a better term, I`m going to go ahead and say
this. Love is blind. It isn`t affected by physical attraction, appearance, or even
human nature. To truly love someone involves overlooking all flaws and
imperfections they display.

Moving on, Infatuation is short- sighted and short- lived. Distance and time
are factors that severe the bonds in a relationships built on infatuation. It`s like
building a castle on a bad foundation, and when time takes its toll, it will ultimately
crumble. Love in the other hand, is eternal. Separation only strengthens it, fueling
its passion to burn brighter. The longing to be together would only deepen the
bond, rather than weaken it.

Furthermore, infatuation is impulsive. It acts on instinct and on the spur of

the moment. This form of affection doesn`t wait until the time is right, but rather
choose to fulfill its lusty desires with no regard for anyone else. On the opposite
end of the spectrum, love is patient. Time is immaterial to it. Literally, love can
wait forever, or at least until the time is right for it to blossom. It`s the product
of the magic that God created, and not the drunkard sensation you get after a
barrel of beer.

Nevertheless, infatuation is selfish. A common individual would like a “love”

to work in their favor, in their own benefit. Let`s look at this from a regular
perspective: ladies, if you could choose between a rich, established gentlemen or a
kind, loving, regular guy, which would it be? It`s not an easy decision, because of
what? A selfish attraction. Un- likewise, love is selfless and understanding.
Sometimes it`s not the pleasures but the compromises that express how true a
love is. As quoted by maroon 5 in their hit- single She will be Loved,“ It`s not
always rainbows and butterflies, it`s compromise that moves us along.”

I know it may not be easy for an intellectual to accept the points mentioned above,
so I`m gonna explain this from a scientific standpoint. Infatuation is the result of
a series of chemical responses and reactions within the human body . Yes, this
involves hormones and pheromones, common in all living organisms. The human brain
reacts to sexual attraction the same way it reacts to thirst and hunger. Mother
Nature made it this way to ensure continuation and survival of the species. Just
like the body needs foods and water, the same force drives it to want to mate and
reproduce. Intimacy is only added into the equation due to pop cultural influence.
You wouldn`t say that litter of kitten is a result of a divine love, would you? We
can`t fault infatuation, because it`s only natural.
 Simply put, true love cannot explained by scientific means. True love is the
result of God`s grace on us. It`s devotional and committed, the same way God
loves us for who we are, the same way He loves us obstacle. It`s like gravity. You
can`t explain it`s really there, it just is.

Fact is, infatuation is lie. We only lust people for their perfections, but truly
love people for their imperfections. I guess that`s the hardest face to accept:
that we are all actually under the veil of infatuation, like it or not, and you`d be
naïve to insist otherwise. Anyone can and might “fall for” that beautiful girl or a
cutie one across the street, the one with the perfect eyes, perfect hair, perfect
body, but it takes that special someone to overlook all your flaws, and see you as
the person you secretly wished you were, and still be able to look you in the eyes
and say “ I love you”.