Professional Documents
Culture Documents
1 introduction
2 what is wrong with me?
4 why, why, why?
5 the three keys
8 heads up
9 observing our thoughts
15 nervous system
17 anchors
18 unhelpful thoughts
19 emergency tips
20 negative thoughts
22 people-pleasing thoughts
23 wish list thoughts
25 to-do thoughts and time-related thoughts
26 competitive thoughts, comparison thoughts and
ego-based thoughts
28 lazy thoughts
29 the hardest part
30 what now?
33 behaviour
34 more antidotes for unhelpful thoughts
40 suffering
42 where did all this come from?
44 things to remember
46 what to expect in parts 2 and 3?
47 how has the three keys helped me?
48 acknowledgements
49 recommended reading
50 notes
INTRODUCTION
Are you currently working at your peak or optimal level?
Is anger, stress or perhaps anxiety holding you back? Do
you want to be free from these constraints? Do you
wish to win the Mum/Dad of the Year award? Or
improve your work–life balance? If any of these
questions resonate with you, read on. The Three Keys
program will be just what you need.
The aim of the Three Keys is to help you cope with living
in our modern world by giving you the skills and
knowledge to be able to release the grip that your brain
has on you in terms of uncontrollable anger and chronic
stress. The program can also be useful for providing
relief from anxiety. The Three Keys can be used as a
standalone program or in conjunction with other similar
programs, such as the Wim Hof Method and/or Dr.
Daniel J. Siegel’s Healthy Mind Platter.
1
some point in your life, you are either doing something
wrong or you are a robot. If you are suffering, how can
you make it a more enjoyable experience? Is it possible
to suffer less?
2
We no longer live in our natural environment. We’re
not designed to be stuck in traffic on our drive to work,
or to spend eight hours or more each day at work, or to
live in cities with millions of other people. Our desire to
have more money to buy more unnecessary things in
this fast-paced consumer driven world is making us sick.
We then use social media to cover up the sickness: to
make it look as if we are doing well. We’re instead
designed to hunt and gather food and to live as part of a
small tribe out in a completely natural environment
(with no McDonalds, cars, roads, or video games).
3
WHY, WHY, WHY?
Anger and stress are indicators that something is not
quite right. They are merely signals that we often just
want to avoid and ignore. However, these signals are
necessary if we wish to survive. If we are stressed, we
may need to take a break and rest. If we are angry, we
may need support from others. We need to pay close
attention to these signals, otherwise they can have a
negative effect on our health.
4
somatic sensations, such as being unable to breathe
properly and increased heart rate, (which sometimes
led to panic attacks), or frustration and avoidance of
social outings, to inescapable stress which led to manic
behaviour and eventually work-related burnout.
5
Reenergise (getting out into nature, exercise, eating a
healthy diet, getting adequate sleep, and socialisation).
6
go to the pub or sit on the couch? How has the
pub/couch been working for you lately?
7
out of your daily routine to make your life easier. Use
this extra time to work on yourself. Embrace the boring
and tedious. Jump in and get it done; rip off the band
aid. The hardest part is starting. Once you’ve started,
it’s easy.
HEADS UP
This book mostly focuses on the ‘how’ and the ‘why’.
How can I live a more normal life? Is this even possible?
8
How can I fit this into my busy schedule/life/typical
day? Why is this information/exercise important? Why
should I give a flying fuck? You most likely selected this
book to find out how to relieve the symptoms of anger
and stress, to be able to live a better life. So that is
mostly what I will share with you. However,
understanding anger and stress as well as anxiety and
depression is extremely important and definitely worth
learning more about. A quick internet search for ‘what
causes people to get angry?’ Or ‘what causes stress?’
should do the trick. This book contains evidence-based
research to answer the ‘why’ questions. Meaning that
experts in their field have conducted research, studies,
and/or experiments to show you the benefits of the
exercises or strategies used in this book. I haven’t
plucked information out of thin air or developed
exercises and strategies because they seem like a good
idea.
9
and will try desperately to force you to stop them. It will
say things like 'this is too hard', 'I don’t have time', 'I’m
bored', 'I hate this', 'this is taking too long' etc. It wants
to maintain its control over you. By doing the exercises,
and forcing yourself to do them initially, by not listening
to the voice of the egoic mind, it loses its power. Every
time your egoic mind speaks, you can choose to listen
and continue to live the way you have lived your life
until now (angry and stressed) or you can choose to
ignore it.
10
New research surrounding a variation of the fatty acid
amide hydrolase (FAAH) gene—which contributes to
people experiencing low levels of pain, fear, and anxiety
—claims that around 20–33% of the population have it.
The gene causes an increase in anandamide, a
neurotransmitter that is believed to have a calming
effect. This genetic disposition would be a useful
adaptation in a tribe. 66–80% of the tribe would always
be on high alert and ready to signal to the 20–33% that
experience low levels of fear, anxiety, and pain. These
members of the tribe would most likely fight and
protect rather than hide and freeze or run away.
11
work problems, the thoughts that arise in difficult
circumstances can make the situation seem far worse
and impossible to solve. It may feel like there is no hope
of returning to normal when we are in the thick of it.
12
This is a messed-up way of thinking but possibly a clue
as to how early we develop unhelpful and unproductive
ways of thinking.
13
Suddenly and without the 'noticing' part of my brain
realising, my 'thinking' brain has me in its grip. The
pleasant thought changes into a not-so-pleasant
thought and suddenly my breathing slows down so
much that it barely seems like I am breathing.
14
and temptations. They can sit without a thought in their
mind and will not even flinch at the sound of a bomb
explosion. Imagine having this level of brain control!
15
that causes frustration, irritation and/or annoyance.
This can lead to extreme levels of anger and rage. Our
tolerance levels can also diminish due to ongoing pain
or lack of sleep.
NERVOUS SYSTEM
Nervous System in Healthy State
16
change your thinking habits, you can maintain a healthy
nervous system.
ANCHORS
So—how do we control the thoughts in our head to
allow our brains to rest and recover? The techniques
and exercises explained in Parts 2 and 3 of this book use
anchors, much like the one found on a boat. When you
focus on the discomfort in the stretching exercises, or
your breath in the breathing exercises, you are keeping
your mind (the boat) from drifting off. Beware that the
aim is not to stop or avoid thoughts. The aim is to
accept and acknowledge them and then refocus on
17
whatever anchor you choose to use. This allows you to
relax deeper and to give your poor old brain a well-
deserved break.
UNHELPFUL THOUGHTS
You can test if noticing your thoughts helps to keep you
from feeling intense feelings like stress quite easily.
Then you will know if this will work for you. In the past I
have been able to stay angry at someone for nearly two
days—possibly a world record. After practicing the
strategies and exercises laid out in this book for quite
some time, I have not been able to hold on to anger for
18
this long. The longest since has maybe been an hour, at
a guess. Think of a time where you were angry at
someone for a long time, perhaps a whole day or
longer. Think about how it felt. In my own experience, I
have this all-over horrible feeling. I feel irritated. My
thoughts ruminate around in my head, making me feel
worse.
19
When reading the following, you may experience
uneasy feelings. Below are some emergency tips if you
bring up any thoughts that cause you distress or makes
you feel horrible or sick in the stomach. All the tips
below work by activating your parasympathetic nervous
system (a.k.a the rest-and-digest system) which act as
the brakes, slowing down the effect of the sympathetic
nervous system (a.k.a the fight-flight-freeze response)
and returning your nervous system back to its
normal/usual state.
EMERGENCY TIPS
Physiological sigh—see Dr Andrew Huberman video
on YouTube for a demonstration.
Deep, slow breathing (more in Part 2). Full breath in
and release the air slowly through pursed lips.
Repeat as many times as needed.
Controlled eye movement (more in Part 2). Look at
an object near you until your eyes adjust on that
object. Repeat for four other different objects
around you in your near and far vision, left and
right.
Chew gum.
Splash face with ice cold water and/or hold breath
under water for around 5-10 seconds at a time.
Distraction: try immersing yourself in an experience
for at least two minutes (for example: listen to
music, sing, or hum a tune e.g., AC/DC's 'You Shook
Me All Night Long', or short burst exercise such as
push-ups, pull-ups or a short sprint run).
20
Like leprosy, it consumes you. This includes negative
criticisms and judgements of yourself and other people,
or experiences. Hatred of others also belongs to this
category.
Examples:
21
pull people into line. In some hunter–gatherer societies,
when someone gains a greater share of the kill, this
person can become hated by the group and can face
elimination from the tribe. This could result in the death
of that person who now lacks the safety of their group.
In today’s world of different social classes, where the
distribution of wealth is clearly unequal and seemingly
unfair for many, it’s no wonder why there is so much
hate in the world.
22
boyfriends or your boss, these thoughts are
unnecessary and don’t allow your brain the need to
rest. Seeking approval from others is another people-
pleasing way of thinking.
Examples:
23
Similar to syphilis, wish list thoughts are like a rash that
won’t go away. Once you’ve completed one goal/desire,
you move on to the next. Each time hoping the next will
make you happier or less stressed or more relaxed. As
mentioned earlier, having desires like wanting to go
skiing in the French alps or surfing in Hawaii, are only
good if you are doing it for the experience, not to tick it
off a list or because the next-door neighbour did it in a
‘keeping up with the Joneses’ way. Life is not a
competition to see who can do the most fun things or
get the most done. You can’t brag about the amazing
things you’ve done once you’ve finished living. Even if
you could, who would want to listen? Keeping ourselves
busy with desires that seem important to us at the time
just makes us more miserable. We’d be more content if
we spent most of the day working on ourselves by
observing our thoughts and focusing on our breathing.
This may not seem like your idea of fun now, but if you
can control your thoughts in the toughest of times,
including when doing nothing at all, you will be better
off. Former US Navy SEAL and ultramarathon
competitor David ‘Superman’ Goggins says to 'get
comfortable being uncomfortable.' So, if you want to be
in control of your mind, you need to learn to be
comfortable in any difficult situation: whether it’s
extreme boredom, pushing your body to the max to get
in that exercise that your body and mind needs, or
forcing yourself to get out into nature amongst the
prickly bushes and wild animals. Johann Hari, the author
of the well-researched book, Lost Connections, sums up
wish list thoughts nicely: 'the more you think life is
24
about having stuff and superiority and showing it off,
the more unhappy, and the more depressed and
anxious, you will be'.
I should be…
25
I need to…
I oughta be...
How much longer is left?
I need to get there by…
I’m running late!
I have to get this done by…
26
starting a project, slowly working on it every month or
so and finishing it in years rather than days. What’s the
rush?' Sometimes it’s worth thinking: 'would this matter
if I died tomorrow?'
27
My boat's way bigger than his!
My dress is way more glamorous than hers!
28
type of thinking is considered to be a pandemic. While
it’s easy to spot when listening to people talk about
their diet and exercise history, it’s extremely difficult to
cure if the affected has no control over their thoughts.
Examples:
29
THE HARDEST PART
How can you discover that your thoughts are
dominating your life if you don’t know they are? You
don’t know what you don’t know! If you are unaware
that you have no control over your thoughts, you
probably have no idea that this is the cause of a lot of
your problems. To get control of your thoughts, you
must first discover that your thoughts are controlling
you.
30
It’s like you’ve gained an extra sense (a sixth sense). It
doesn’t make you perfect, but it makes you a better
person. You’re able to listen better in conversations,
you’ll be better company to be around, you’ll be calmer,
and you will see the world differently. Like looking at
the world with a new pair of eyes. The exercises in this
book will help you to challenge your thoughts and to
attain this ‘sixth sense’. You will have better control
over your thoughts.
WHAT NOW?
The list above is not an extensive list. A quick internet
search for ‘unhelpful thinking styles’ or ‘cognitive
distortions’ will help you discover other unhelpful
thought patterns. Now that you are aware of which
unhelpful thoughts to look out for and how they
contribute to poor mental health—making you feel
more stressed, anxious, depressed, and even plain
angry, we need to look at what we can do when they
arise. The best approach is to focus on them one by
one. One at a time as they arise. After reading through
the previous section of this book, find which ones stood
out the most to you. Pick one of them to start with.
Notice every time that thought comes up. Eventually,
after continued practice, you will be able to notice that
a thought has made you feel a certain way, label the
thoughts as they come (e.g., comparison thoughts),
determine why that thought has occurred and
acknowledge that it’s not healthy. Then you will be able
to move on without it bothering you.
31
you have over your mind. Remember this is not a one-
off exercise or ‘magic fix’. It requires constant practice.
If you are too weak or soft, and if your mind still has a
dominant grip on you, this is a problem that will need
fixing first.
32
Eventually, your mind gets sick of you doing this and
your ego begins to hate that you are doing this to it. As
a result, these thoughts tend to pop up less often.
33
Physiological sigh.
BEHAVIOUR
When we believe what our mind tells us, we often react
in nonlogical ways. Because we have been under the
control of our minds for so long, we don’t realise the
effect it has on us. Now that you are aware that our
unhelpful and unproductive thoughts can lead to
increased stress and anger levels, which in turn lowers
our tolerance levels, you should know what to look out
for. You will become more tolerant of the world around
you if you choose not to engage with your thoughts.
34
Believing your thoughts can lead to you regrettably
lashing out at a loved one, becoming physically
aggressive or storming off and bottling the anger up
even more. When you feel yourself getting frustrated,
annoyed, irritated, or angry, there are several other
steps you can take. One other trick is to smile or laugh it
off. This produces feel good chemicals like dopamine,
serotonin, and endorphins in the body, helping your
body recover faster from a stress response by
counteracting the previous thoughts which caused you
to enter into fight or flight mode.
35
may even picture yourself in a relaxing environment like
your favourite holiday destination.
Remember to not believe everything your mind tells
you; be the observer of your mind instead. If unhelpful
thoughts keep entering your mind, try counteracting
them by saying in your head something like, 'Thanks
brain but that’s an unhelpful thought' or 'Thanks brain
but I don’t need this.'
Our brain is more powerful than we think, and we can
control it better than we think. Studies have shown that
it is possible to control our body temperature when
exposed to the cold; we can control pain; we can
control where oxygen goes in our body and we can
control the PH level of our blood, making it more
alkaline. Furthermore, and most importantly, we can
control our nervous system (SNS and PSNS): we can use
it to overcome fear and to override our fear response.
In addition to this, we can trick ourselves into thinking
something is a threat when it is not. Which is what we
call anxiety.
Should we have a fear of public speaking? Does this
seem rational for social beings like us? Shouldn’t we be
more fearful of cars hurtling towards us on a road at
110km/hr while we are travelling at the same speed in
the opposite direction? Most of us do this every day and
it does not faze us one bit. Past minds have created
incredible technologies like computers, basic robots,
supersonic jets, spacecraft etc. We even have the power
to hate people we don’t even know or a culture we
know nothing about in the same way that we can judge
a book by its cover.
36
American actor/comedian Kevin Hart says, 'You are your
biggest enemy.' You are the only one who can make the
choice to stop believing your thoughts and indulging
your ego. You are the only one who can choose to take
control back. You may initially experience unpleasant
feelings when you begin to take back control, but the
unpleasant or uncomfortable feelings take roughly 60–
90 seconds to dissipate from after you think the
unpleasant thought that caused the uncomfortable
feeling. Psychologist and author Dr Joan Rosenberg says
to 'surf the wave' and to think of it this way, 60-90
seconds is 'half a song'.
However, you can’t get rid of thoughts forever and you
mustn’t try too hard to get rid of them. Try to stay calm
and relaxed as often as possible and remember that you
can still have fun with it. You can defuse unhelpful
thoughts by changing the voice in your head; making
the thoughts sound absolutely silly! This is a trick I
learnt from Russ Harris, a physician and bestselling
author of The Happiness Trap. You can change the voice
in your head to make it sound like Yoda, or Abu from
'The Simpsons', or David Attenborough, or maybe like
Arnold Schwarzenegger's voice in ‘The Terminator’ (‘I’ll
be back’). You can even play around with the volume of
the voice in your head by making it softer or louder.
If it’s reoccurring images or visions, you can also
manipulate them by changing the scene. You may like
to give the voice in your head a face and a name, like
'Mini-Me'. You can also use the power of your mind to
make the horrible sensations caused by your thoughts
to change by encouraging the feeling caused to become
bigger (amplified) or smaller. You can even move or
37
spread the horrible feelings to different parts of your
body.
Don’t forget that suffering is a normal part of life.
Everybody has struggled at some point in their lives.
Whether it is the struggle that comes with grief, the
struggle to get out of bed, financial struggles,
relationship struggles, chronic pain etc. Experience the
suffering. Let the suffering in and say, 'Thank you
horrible feeling' or 'Thanks Mini-Me.'
The best time to notice unhelpful and unproductive
thoughts and the related horrible feelings they cause, is
when stress and anger are more prevalent. Notice how
the thoughts affect the way you feel. How do you feel
when you are stressed or angry? The stress response
can make us behave in interesting and unusual ways
and we can feel strange and uncomfortable feelings. It
is extremely important to check in and notice when this
occurs. These feelings are subtle signals warning you to
stop, rest, relax and recover.
The most common place we hold tension is in our legs
as we need our legs first and foremost when we are
required to fight or flee. Wriggle your toes and feet and
move your legs to see if there is any tension. You may
need to do this many times throughout the day. We
also hold tension in our face, neck, and shoulders. Every
now and then squeeze your eyes shut and open them as
wide as you can raising your eyebrows. Do you notice
tension? Shrug your shoulders and move your neck
slowly side to side, up and down, ear to shoulder. Do
you feel any tension there? If you notice tension, figure
out if your thoughts are the culprit. Breathe deeply and
try one or more of the emergency tips mentioned
earlier to engage the rest-and-digest system.
38
Keeping stress levels down can be a difficult challenge
and it is important to remember to break life down and
take it one day at a time. I often feel stressed at work
when I begin to think to-do thoughts like 'I need to get
that done,' or 'I’ve got way too much to do!' In these
times I try to remember to take things one day at a time
—even down to one minute at a time. This is why it is
important to filter out any unhelpful or unproductive
thoughts, as they can trigger the stress response.
When you get upset about what your mind is telling you
regarding this, for example, someone gives you a look
and you instantly think that person is judging you or
dislikes you, be sure to query this thought. In this
example there is a good chance that the look was not
intentional and was nothing more than a look. Perhaps
the other person made the look due to the thoughts
going on in their own head. On the other hand, there is
a good chance they were judging you or perhaps they
really do dislike you. When your ego-driven mind has
39
engaged in self-preservation tactics such as getting
angry and engaging in fight mode, it’s definitely the one
in control of the situation, not you.
40
frantically in your mind because of these threats. The
lion could also be you following and chasing down your
thoughts, like a dog following a scent. The cameraman
observes the chase through the lens. Noticing the
beauty in the unfolding scene: the tall grass swaying
gracefully in the wind, the lion’s golden mane and the
bold patterns on the zebra’s coat. Suddenly, you hear
David Attenborough’s voice 'Ah...there’s the thought
that...' The point I am trying to make is to be the
cameraman. Just observe what’s happening in your
mind. If paying attention to your thoughts causes
frustration or you feel stressed or anxious, laugh it off
and refer to the emergency tips section.
SUFFERING
After reading numerous books and conducting
extensive research on how the brain works and the
cause of stress and anger, I have come to the conclusion
that there are only two paths we can take. The first
involves fully engaging in and believing in our thoughts,
which is a bit like choosing to travel on board a yacht
sailing around the world. Sometimes you will sail in
calm waters where you can relax and have a bit of fun.
Other times you will be thrown around violently in a
storm and face having to ride out the horrible feelings
that come with this like deep sadness, anger, hate,
anxiety and stress.
This pattern may continue for years and years and
overall, you may feel good about the way things are
going or you might feel somewhat unhappy, like
something is missing in your life.
41
The other option is to stand on the shoreline and watch
the yacht from a distance. When the waters are calm,
you can choose to engage and maybe catch a dingy out
for the day or you can just sit back, crack open an ice-
cold beer and watch the yacht sail on by. During stormy
weather, you can also choose to sit back and watch the
yacht being thrown about and continually bombarded
with waves. This path seems much easier and nowhere
near as stressful. I know which path I would choose.
42
torturing yourself. You are self-sabotaging. As soon as
you notice you are suffering, pay attention to your mind
(your thoughts), question your thoughts, thank your
brain for trying to help (accept the thoughts), distract
your mind, and take back control. Every setback, every
failure, every mistake is not a failure—but rather a
chance to grow. Over time, your level of suffering will
decrease, but it takes practice and dedication.
43
to their biggest problems in life. The leaders of the
seminar would ask them a series of questions on stage
to uncover their thought process. They then cut through
all their bullshit and exposed them to all that was left:
the truth. This brutal technique was often the key for
many to see that their minds had been making up
stories throughout their lives. Most if not all the people
who went up on stage were left speechless at one point
when they realised that there was no logic behind their
thoughts. Most of the complaints people brought up
were things that we have all experienced or thought in
the past. It made me realise how similar we all are.
44
for anything thrown at them. It wasn’t until well after
this that I stumbled upon the concept of cognitive
distortions (which were mostly developed by
psychiatrists Aaron Beck and David Burns) that the
penny dropped and I connected the two together. I
believe now that this is how the leaders of the seminar
were able to free peoples’ minds and see the error of
their ways of thinking. For most people, including
myself, this was a life-changing moment.
THINGS TO REMEMBER
Anger and stress are signals that tell us
something is not quite right, and we need to
make changes.
You have the capability to control your SNS and
PSNS, in fact, all humans do.
Effort = reward. How good you want to feel is
completely up to you and the effort you put in.
When you engage with unhelpful thoughts, you
are only torturing yourself.
There are many illnesses associated with stress
and anger.
When you are suffering (pain, anger, stress
etc.), know that you can reduce it or even stop
it by noticing your thoughts and changing your
behaviour.
Pay attention to your thoughts on a daily basis.
Notice at what times throughout the day your
mind thinks unhelpful and unproductive
thoughts. Notice the types of thoughts that
come up e.g., negative thoughts, time-related
thoughts, competing thoughts…
Use the techniques mentioned to keep your
stress and anger levels down as often as you
45
can to avoid catastrophic side-effects such as
heart attack or stroke: question the thought, do
some deep breathing, or short burst exercise or
use the emergency tips page.
Anchors can be used to help quieten the mind
which gives your brain a break from thinking.
It’s pointless hating someone or holding anger
towards someone. People are the way they are
due to the environment they live in and have
been raised in. Without loads of self-control it is
difficult for civilised people to control the way
they behave. However, you can control YOUR
RESPONSE to someone else’s behaviour.
Don’t waste time trying to please others.
Instead, look after number one (that’s you).
Steer clear of wish lists and to-do lists. Where
you should be, and what you should be doing,
you are doing right now.
Only compete with yourself. Don’t compare
yourself to others. Life’s not a competition.
Take it easy.
Don’t give in to your mind's sneaky tactics to
avoid pain and suffering. As soon as you realise
your thoughts have one over you, take action.
There would be no need for mental asylums,
antidepressants, psychologists, or psychiatrists
if our brain knew what was good for it and if we
could control it (our thoughts in particular).
Allowing your thinking brain to maintain control
over you is one of the main causes of your
stress and/or anger issues and is detrimental to
your physical health.
When trying to limit unhelpful/unproductive
thoughts, don’t strive for perfection as this will
46
only cause frustration. Do what you can do in
the time that you have and leave it at that.
Laugh off any frustration. Lower your
expectations as you will always have bad days.
Make it fun.
If like me, you’ve read a stack of mental health
self-help books, and research papers on areas
surrounding mental health, you will know that
the main components revealed in this book,
that is—observing the mind, relaxation
strategies, getting out into nature, exercise,
diet, sleep, and socialisation, are the seven
most mentioned. I have not simply plucked
them from thin air.
Most of these components just so happen to be
the common habits of highly successful people.
Most of these components were discovered to
be beneficial thousands of years ago. They have
been studied by numerous scientists from all
around the world who dedicate their lives to
their field of interest and often by more than
one scientist. For example, there are possibly
hundreds of scientists that have drawn different
or similar conclusions on how exercise impacts
mental health. A quick internet search brings up
the names of eight different scientists that have
published information on this on the first search
page alone.
WHAT TO EXPECT IN PARTS 2 AND 3?
Part 2 (RELAXATION):
Breathing and stretching to relax.
Best way to breathe.
47
How to use anchors to control your thoughts
during long hold stretching exercises.
How to use anchors to control your thoughts
during breathing exercises.
Other exercises that involve using anchors to
reduce unwanted, unhelpful thoughts.
How to incorporate these exercises into your
daily routine.
Part 3 (REENERGISE):
The benefits of getting out into nature, of light
exercise, eating a healthy diet, adequate sleep,
and socialisation. How to incorporate all these
components into your daily routine.
Ways to get outside more.
Best type of exercise and how this can connect
to the observation component.
Foods to avoid and eat more of.
Ways to help you sleep.
Ways to include more socialising.
Weekly timetable suggestions.
Understanding Fear and Anxiety
HOW HAS THE THREE KEYS HELPED ME?
The worst of my IBS symptoms (bouts of
diarrhoea that lasted several weeks at a time)
have disappeared after living with it on and off
for 11 years.
I have better control of my emotions (I rarely
experience anger and it is mostly fleeting
moments, not for hours and hours on end).
I can observe/feel my stress levels rising, and
using the Three Keys, I know what I need to
correct my system (9/10 it’s exercise).
48
I can recover from stress-related burnout much
quicker than before.
I have more energy (and I'm getting a lot more
out of life).
I am much more clear thinking—I’m more
efficient at work.
The more I execute the Three Keys, the better I feel. I
can’t wait to hear about your success with this first part
of the Three Keys: OBSERVATION.
If you would like to stay in contact and be the first to
receive Parts 2 and 3 when they are available, send an
email to threekeyslearning@outlook.com with the word
‘Subscribe’ in the subject box. This will be the best way
to contact me as I am trying to limit social media use to
save my sanity!
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
Many thanks to Joel van der Loon who has provided his
time to further my understanding of the Hadza way of
life. Joel has spent a lot of time living and hunting with
the Hadza and travels to Tanzania frequently to visit
them. Joel’s videos can be found on YouTube at 'Joel V
Bushcraft'.
Thank you to all the scientists and writers for the work
you have done to understand the human body and for
making the information I have used available to the
public.
49
Thank you, Sarah Newton-John, for your editing
expertise, Debraj Dey for the cover design and [insert
name here] for text formatting.
RECOMMENDED READING
Birbaumer, N., Zittlau, J., & Shaw, D. (2018).
Thinking is Overrated. Scribe Publications
Pty Limited.
50
Manson, M. (2020). Everything Is F*cked (Reprint
ed.). Harper Paperbacks.
51
Beyond Blue. (2022). Beyond Blue.
https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts
52
How Anger Can Hurt Your Heart. (2009, December 22).
WebMD.
https://www.webmd.com/balance/stress-
management/features/how-anger-hurts-your-
heart
53
-inner-voice-problem-solving-thoughts-and-
emotional-chatter/13197356
Scherma, M., Masia, P., Satta, V., Fratta, W., Fadda, P.,
& Tanda, G. (2018). Brain activity of
anandamide: a rewarding bliss? Acta
Pharmacologica Sinica, 40(3), 309–323.
https://doi.org/10.1038/s41401-018-0075-x
54
Steptoe, A., & Marmot, M. (2005). Impaired
cardiovascular recovery following stress
predicts 3-year increases in blood pressure.
Journal of Hypertension, 23(3), 529–536.
https://doi.org/10.1097/01.hjh.0000160208.66
405.a8
55
total knee replacement: A randomized
controlled trial. Annals of Medical Research,
27(9), 2408.
https://doi.org/10.5455/annalsmedres.2020.04.
295
56
(2019, June 20). Pain Research Forum.
https://www.painresearchforum.org/news/118
611-wow-that%E2%80%99s-faah-out-newly-
discovered-genetic-mutations-woman-who-
feels-no-pain#:%7E:text=Now%2C%20a%20new
%20case%20report,pain%20in%20a%20female
%20patient.
57
Zeidan, F., Johnson, S. K., Diamond, B. J., David, Z., &
Goolkasian, P. (2010). Mindfulness meditation
improves cognition: Evidence of brief mental
training. Consciousness and Cognition, 19(2),
597–605.
https://doi.org/10.1016/j.concog.2010.03.014
58