QUESTIONNAIRE Name: Age:

Occupation:
Educational attainment:
Sexual barriers used:
1. When did you found out that you were HIV (+)?
a.) Can you describe your initial reaction upon knowing you were HIV +?
2.) How do you cope with the challenges that you first encountered as a serodiscordant
couple?
3.) How did you manage to discuss being HIV (+) to your partner at the early stage of
the relationship?
a.) Can you describe his/her reaction after hearing about your situation?
b.) What was the difficulties of discussing it?
4.) What was the “changes/adjustments” happened in the relationship after knowing
that one of you is HIV positive?
5.) Describe the challenges you have encountered with people especially when labeled
as Serodiscordant.
5.1) Intimacy
a. What are the boundaries created after knowing that one of you are HIV positive?
b. What are your thoughts about engaging in specific sex acts, such as intercourse,
and does it cease certain kinds of sexual activity altogether? (-frequent use of condoms
-practicing safer sex -reduced number of sexual intercourse -numbers of agreements
and restrictions)
c. How do you deal with the scary part of the HIV-positive partner may have the high
risk of infecting the other partner?
5.2) Commitment
a. What are your perception on the idea of separation in relationship?
b. How do you feel or think things are going between you and your partner?
c. Do being a serodiscordant couple caused dilemma when it comes to child bearing,
What are your plans when it comes to child bearing?
5.3) Passion
a. After being diagnosed as HIV positive, what was the impact on your perspective
about your physical quality?
b. What are the things you decided to do both to keep the positive partner healthier?
c. Aside from having sexual activity, what other things do you provide to your partner in
order for them to feel loved and secured?
When did you found out that you were
HIV (+)?
a.) Can you describe your initial reaction
upon knowing you were HIV +?
2.) How do you cope with the challenges
that you first encountered as a
serodiscordant couple?
“nung 18 years old ako, 7 years ago.”
“Nalaman naming na positive siya nung
after niya mag 23 years old”
“Sa totoo lang, nalimutan ko na kung
kalian yun kasi pinilit kong kalimutan yung
araw nay un dahil sa stress.”
“26 years old ako nung na-diagnosed
ako”
“Sa pag kakatanda ko 24 years old ako
nun, sinamahan pa ako ng partner ko
noon nung nalaman naming.”
“Nanlumo ako nun, may part na nandidiri
ako sa sarili ko.”
“natakot ako kasi di ko alam kung may
tatanggap pa ba sa akin.”
“Sobrang balisa ako nung araw nay un”
“takot lang naramdaman ko nung mga
araw na yun”
“Takot at galit”
“Siguro natuto kaming tanggapin kung
ano yung katotohanan, acceptance.”
“Malaking tulong yung pananampalataya
ko sa Diyos”
“Nung una syempre ang ginagawa ko
para mabawasan lungkot nya is i-comfort
siya”
“pag tanggap nalang siguro sa kung ano
yung nangyari”
“Palaging pagdadasal ang ginagawa ko

3.) How did you manage to discuss being
HIV (+) to your partner at the early stage
of the relationship?
a.) Can you describe his/her reaction
after hearing about your situation?
b.) What was the difficulties of discussing
it?
4.) What was the “changes/adjustments”
at ng partner ko”
“ Nung una natatakot ako aminin sa
kanya pero inisip ko rin na unfair para sa
kanya kung di ko sasabihin”
“Kinausap ko siya agad after ko malaman
para makapag pacheck up agada ko”
“Hindi ko nasabi agad sa kanya dahil nga
gusto kong malimutan kung ano man
yung diagnosis ko”
“After ko madiagnosed, sinabi ko na agad
sa kanya”
“Hindi na ako nahirapan sabihin sa kanya
kasi magkasama naman kami nun at
sabay naming nalaman.”
“Nagulat lang siya at nalungkot”
“Siguro natakot siya nung mga oras nay
un”
“Pareho kaming balisa noon e”
“Syempre takot kami pareho at
malungkot”
“Malungkot siya nun pero pinipilit niya ako
i-comfort dahil palagi akong mainitin ang
ulo noon”
“Mahirap kasi nakakahiya malaman ng
iba”
“Nakakatakot kasi nga gaya ng sabi ko
kanina baka walang tumanggap sakin”
“Marami eh, pero isa na dun yung hindi
ko alam kung pano ko sisimulan”
“Yung takot, kaba. Ayun yung mga
challenges ko nun”
“Siugro yun yung hindi ko alam pano
iexpress ng tama yung feelings ko dahil
lagi mainit ulo ko nun”
“Mas lalo niya akong minahal kahit nung
happened in the relationship after
knowing that one of you is HIV positive?
5.) Describe the challenges you have
encountered with people especially when
labeled as Serodiscordant.
5.1) Intimacy
a. What are the boundaries created after
knowing that one of you is HIV positive?
b. What are your thoughts about
engaging in specific sex acts, such as
intercourse, and does it cease certain
kinds of sexual activity altogether? (-
una akala ko lalayo na siya sakin”
“May mga oras na iniisip kong lumayo
nalang”
“Mas inaalagaan ko na siya mula noon
nalaman ko dahil stressed siya noon.”
“Nung una naging distant pero naisip
naming na kami parin talaga ang
magtutulungan”
“Stressed kami pareho dahil dati meron
siyang suicidal thoughts after niya
malaman.”
“Discrimination”
“Para bang nandidiri sila sa amin”
“Minsan parang ayaw na lumapit samin
dahil nandidiri”
“Madalas kami madiscriminate”
“Minsan yung mga kamag anak mo pa
yung lalong sisira sayo”
“Yung sa sexual activity naming
nabawasan”
“Mas pinili naming yung abstinence dahil
alam naming na ito yung makakabuti para
sa amin”
“Syempre unang una is yung sap ag
intercourse naming, nabawasan yun”
“Dahil nga naging distant kami nun,
nabawasan yung communication”
“Comunication, hindi kami nakakapag
usap ng maayos noon dahil pareho
kaming natatakot”
“ Habang tumatagal napapansin ko na
bumabalik yung intimacy naming dalawa
pero sa mas safe na paraan”
frequent use of condoms -practicing safer
sex -reduced number of sexual
intercourse -numbers of agreements and
restrictions)
c. How do you deal with the scary part of
the HIV-positive partner may have the
high risk of infecting the other partner?
5.2) Commitment
a. What are your perception on the idea
of separation in relationship?
b. How do you feel or think things are
going between you and your partner?
“Tinigil muna naming ang mga ganyang
mga bagay para sa ikabubuti naming
dalawa.”
“Gumagamit kami ng contraceptives gaya
ng condom”
“Pag gamit ng contraceptives ang naisip
naming para mas safe”
“Nabawasan yung pagiintercourse
naming pero sa tuwing ginagawa naming
yon, nagamit kami contrceptives”
“Palagi nagpapacheck up”
“Maingat kami pareho at laging
pagpapacheck up”
“Para sure kami nagpapacheck up kami”
“Check up talaga yung ginagawa naming
paraan para makasigurado”
“Pinaguusapan naming dalawa kung ano
yung mga dapat naming gawin
“Pag dating sa separation hindi naming
pinaguusapan yan”
“Hindi naming isusuko ang isa’t isa”
“May mga times na naisipan naming
maghiwalay pero hindi rin naman natuloy”
“Hindi niya ako iniwan nung may mga
problema ako kaya hindi ko rin siya iiwan
ngayong siya naman may problema”
“Hindi naming pinlano na magseparate”
“ Habang mas tumatagal mas lalo ko
narraramdaman na mas minahal niya
ako”
“Mahal ko yung partner ko at hindi yun
magbabago kahit alam kong HIV positive
siya.
“Humanap kami ng paraan para mas

c. Do being a serodiscordant couple
caused dilemma when it comes to child
bearing, What are your plans when it
comes to child bearing?
5.3) Passion
a. After being diagnosed as HIV positive,
what was the impact on your perspective
about your physical quality?
b. What are the things you decided to do
both to keep the positive partner
healthier?
mahalin ang isa’t isa”
“Ok kami ngayon, nagkakasundo kami sa
lahat ng bagay kahit minsan may
problema”
“Nung una may mga problema pero
naayos rin naming yon ngayon at mas
lalong tumibay relasyon naming dalawa”
“Sa question nay an alam naman natin
lahat na imposible dahil parehas kaming
gay”
“Hindi naming ito pinaplano sa ngayon”
“Hindi naming napaguusapan sa ngayonn
kasi marami pa kaming pinoproblema”
“Parehas kaming gay kaya di naming
napaguusapan yan”
“Hindi naming napaguusapan yan kasi
parehas naman kaming gay”
“Bawas na yung mga dati kong ginagawa
at limited na rin ang mga pwede kong
gawin kaya medyo hindi na ganun
kalakas katawan ko”
“Naiinsecure ako”
“Naiinsecure ako lalo nap ag nakikita ko
sarili ko sa salamin, nanlulumo ako”
“After knowing na may HIV ako
naiinsecure ako at medyo nandidiri sa
sarili pero mas tanggap ko na ngayon.”
“ Mahirap sagutin to e kasi after ko
malam na may HIV ako marami pang
sumunod na problema sa physical quality
ko.”
“Pag papachec-up ang pinaka naisip
naming na makakatulong samin at dundin
ang payo ng mga doctor”
“Pinaplano naming yung abstinence”

c. Aside from having sexual activity, what
other things do you provide to your
partner in order for them to feel loved and
secured?
“Nag papacounseling kami”
“Gumagamit kami ng contraceptives sa
intercourse at syempre palagi kami
nagpapacheck-up”
“Lagi kami nagpapacheck up pareho para
sure kami”
“Maraming bagay yung nakakapag
pasaya samin e gaya ng bonding naming”
“Nagbobonding kami, gaya ng
pagsisimba at paggagala”
“Ginagawa namin yung mga bagay na
makakapag pasaya samin gaya ng
pagbibigay ng oras sa isa’t isa.”
“Pag bobonding”
“Inaalagaan namin isat isa”