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Culture Documents
Cinzia Guarnaccia
Supervisor:
Mentre si avvicendavano
L‘uno sull‘altro addosso
I branchi annichiliti
Dei cavalloni del nitrire ignari,
Il velluto croato
Dello sguardo di Dunja,
Che sa come arretrarla di millenni,
Come assentarla, pietra
Dopo l‘aggirarsi solito
Da uno smarrirsi all‘altro,
Zingara in tenda di Asie,
Il velluto dello sguardo di Dunja
Giuseppe Ungaretti
On the front cover: The Tree of Life, Gustav Klimt (1905, 1909)
Table of Contents
Pag.
1 THEORETICAL BACKGROUND 4
1.4 Genosociogram 12
2 CASE STUDY 16
3 CONCLUSIONS 33
REFERENCES 35
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THEORICAL BACKGROUND
to identify and treat the negative effects of transgenerational transmission within an individual
The term "Psychogenealogy" was created by Anne Ancelin Schützenberger in the 80s to indicate
all family ties, transmissions, transgenerational. The Psychogenealogy was proposed by its inventor
as a guiding principle, offered to the client to understand his life, his personal and professional
choices and enlighten its way into the case of neurosis or in cases of trauma (Ancelin
Schützenberger, 2007a).
Recent clinical observations and research have demonstrated (Hildgard 1989; Cyrulnik 1999;
Ancelin Schützenberger 1993, 1998, 2000) that images of past traumas and past family traumas can
be passed down from generation to generation, for example via nightmares and also by the
Hildgard‘s (1989) widely known research has shown that intergenerational or transgenerational
development of some cases of adult psychosis, and our research has shown the repetition of car,
mountain or hunting accidents, early deaths and traumatic events on the anniversary of the first one
In some cases, these repetitions of the same event go back one or two centuries before – in
France, up to the French Revolution (1789) and the terror of the guillotine (1793), in America as far
back as the Civil War (1860-64) and the War of Independence (1774-1783), and in England as far
back as the Civil War (1625-1649). This kind of research and therapy, based on an awareness of
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prior generations, is a great help to the living generations and their mental and physical well-being
The transmission of a deep story is often tacit, indirect, revealed by the emotion and the
unspoken, the avoidance, the silence; sometimes "it goes without saying" and feelings, desires,
thoughts, purposes, are articulated and expressed differently (Ancelin Schützenberger, 2007a).
Many concepts of classical psychoanalytic theory are useful to better understand the implications
of the transgenerational on the life of individuals. Without limitation this paragraph presents a brief
The first useful reference is the Jungian theory of the Collective Unconscious. While Freud did
distinguished the collective unconscious from the personal unconscious particular to each human
being. The collective unconscious is also known as ―a reservoir of the experiences of our species‖
(Maciel, 2007), According to Jung (1936, 2014), we define the collective unconscious as an ―entity‖
formed by instincts and archetypes that are symbols, signs, patterns of behavior, and thinking and
experiencing, that are physically inherited from our ancestors. Moreover, the collective unconscious
consists of mythological themes, as well as original paintings, which projected outside, create myths
and symbols. Themes of archetypal images are the same for all cultures, are common to all people
of different ages, races, and cultures and correspond to the phylo-genetically conditioned part of the
Some psychological theories recognize that the psychology of a newborn baby is a white card
programmed by experience, according to Jung, each child has the archetypal genetic potential,
without which the "programming" would be impossible. Therefore, all rituals associated with the
social contacts such as choice of partner, ways of perception and evaluation of the world, attitudes,
ideas, and cultural norms, are associated with the role of archetypes, because they are typically and
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eternally repetitive human behavior. Archetypes are a reflection of instinctive reaction to certain
situations and with an innate predisposition can bypass consciousness, to such a course of action,
which arises from the need for mental health (Adamsky, 2011).
The Moreno‘s concept of the co-unconscious is not the same as Jung's concept of collective
unconscious: it is about team and family links and not generalized to the whole society. It is
cannot be the property of one individual only. It is always a common property” (Moreno
1946/1980: VII) Co-conscious and co-unconscious states are phenomena which they have "co"-
produced and which operate between partners who live in "intimate" ensembles and cannot be
substituted by other persons; they are irreplaceable. They are tied together through "encounters"; it
is life itself which binds them together and it is the experiences of living which develops between
encounters between individuals and the coconscious or co-unconscious states developed between
them are the source from which tele, transference and empathy spring.
Moreno defines Tele (from the Greek word meaning distance) as "...the process which attracts
individuals to one another or which repels them..." (Moreno 1937, 213). Tele, for Moreno, is
(ibid., p.178). It can be understood as the ―socio gravitational factor that operates between
individuals, inducing them to form pair relations, triangles, more positive or negative than by
chance‖ (Moreno 1946/1977, p.84). Today, we can understand that these descriptions of Moreno
correspond, in the biological field, to the operation of a system of mirror neurons in the brain, from
the beginning of the social life, favoring the creation of an inter-subjective space (Fleury, Hug,
2008).
Another theory useful for our analysis is typical of group analysis. Foulkes (1975) identified in
the report, the fundamental structure of the psyche, discovering that the individual is not only
struggling with impulses and / or internal ghosts but can be considered as a nodal point crossed by a
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network of unconscious relations. This concept is embodied in the concept of Transpersonal that,
in the different levels of analysis so far theorized, realizes the complexity of present and past
relationships that cross the individual (Foulkes, 1973, 1975; Napolitani, 1987).
According to Foulkes the individual is a key point of a network of unconscious relations, and
human life cannot develop outside of the basic groups. Since each individual belongs to several
groups (and at least one: the family), you should be careful with the difficulties arising from the
unconscious dynamics of group membership. In particular, the family is the primary network in
which significantly shape our personality, and although we are not aware, the entire way we feel, to
decode the world and express ourselves has been shaped by the original family group (Foulkes,
1973).
The levels of the transpersonal allow you to focus on various aspects (Biological-Genetic;
the image of the human mind as each other transpersonal. Now, though none of these aspects can be
isolated from the others, the most interesting aspect for our discussion is that related to
transgenerational level.
The family, not only as a nuclear family but as a set of relationships, past and present, that make
up the family matrix of belonging (Nucara, Merarini, Pontalti, 1987, 1995), therefore represents a
real "identificatory universe" in which each individual develops his identity as a complex of
internalized relationships. We define "unsaturated" the family matrices that enable the symbolic
remodeling of their themes and "saturated" family matrices where evidence of unavailability in this
remodeling. According to this view individuals grown in saturated family mental fields and not
available to the remodeling of their symbolic patterns are more exposed to fragility and suffering
and can become representatives of the pain belonging to their family group (ibidem).
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1.2. The transmission of trauma across generations
Images and past traumas, family or social history, can therefore be transmitted from generation
to generation. These traumas are discovering through the transmission of images, sounds and
feelings through generations. This is of real events or ill-beings who can continue to be transmitted
We distinguish what is known and consciously understood about the legacies from prior
generations (intergenerational) from what is forgotten, not worked through or elaborated into words
(transgenerational). It is not just sin, faults, mistakes and errors that may be passed down
unaddressed from generation to generation, but also unresolved traumas, losses, family or personal
Theorists of Psychogenealogy argue that the human being is brought to defend lifestyles and
thought from his family system and reproduce it in their behavior. We speak in these cases, of
visible or invisible family loyalty. These invisible loyalties are manifested through repetition, life
events, choices and behaviors renovating the traumatic passed down from generations.
systemic force, aimed at keeping the multi-generational group, through an invisible fabric of
expectations. an invisible statements transcribed on a book of accounts exist in families where past
and present obligations affect the delivery of roles and expectations according to what is ethics of
repetition of events, sad but also happy, that have touched the family and that repeat the same dates
We speak of "unfinished business" or "Zeigarnik effect" to explain the impact of these tasks
uncompleted that continue to influence the psychic life of individuals, relapsing in their well-being
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and visible effects on behavior and personal life choices, professional, social (Ancelin
“The „Zeigarnik effect‟ may be applied to all „unfinished business,‟ including that going back
generations, such as family secrets, tragic deaths or unspeakable war traumas, for which mourning
was impossible. Because they are often related to such past traumas, we look at the
„unfinished business‟ can leave its imprint with events and physical and mental illnesses that repeat
themselves through generations, following the rule that unfinished tasks need to have a „closure.‟
The „Zeigarnick effect‟ of the interruption (called „unfinished gestalen‟ by the Gestalt schools of
philosophy and psychotherapy) describes feelings and traumas that tend to be „ruminated‟ (as in,
„chewed over‟) from one stomach to another stomach, and repeated until they are fully „digested,‟
Several traumas transmitted between generations are connected to the concept of loss and
bereavement, loss of a loved one (a child, a family member) but also, in the case of war and
refugees, loss of their origins, of their own territory, of their own nationality, of their identity
(Ancelin Schutzenberger, 1993, 2007; Naor, Goett, 2010). The impact of a trauma, therefore, its
contagion, such as behavior patterns, symptoms and values that appeared in one generation, will
affect not only the generation that was victimized but also the next one. Danieli (1998) suggested
that the trauma will be passed down as the family legacy, whether or not survivors talked or kept
As we shall see again later, in processing a specific clinical case, the invisible loyalties may also
concern the transgenerational transmission of trauma linked to specific historical events. Ii is the
case of several wars, deaths, genocide and migration of entire peoples, in the past as in recent
history, causing, among refugees, victims of conflict and political games, a feeling of "psychic
nakedness" as well as legal. It is to abandon many conditions, often confined to the "waiting areas"
where, no documents will recognize, you are bringing the heavy baggage of the loss and the
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necessary transformation that, in some cases, it will be possible only after several generations
(Pestre, 2010).
These unfinished dramas from previous generations may be passed down and affect succeeding
generations in myriad and profound ways. Until this "work" remains unfinished, the tension persists
and you are unable to "turning the page", only the reprocessing of this past can open the doors to the
misunderstood by descendants, they testify to non-symbolized ruins of the surviving parent, that
remain suspended in his psyche. Because of this we often say that the trauma of some serious events
necessity of several generations (at least three) to be metaphorized and become thinkable. The heirs
become so pain carrier transmitted by his ancestors to act in his psyche until sometimes determine
The long-range generational effects of trauma have been reported in the literature, especially
regarding war experiences such as the Holocaust. Other studies on different populations have
reported contrasting results on the issue of the transmission of war trauma. Kupelian et al. (1998),
for instance, examined intergenerational issues among Armenian survivors of the Turkish genocide
in 1915. They found that the third generation to survivors exhibited more pathological symptoms
than did the second generation. Rosenheck and Fontana (1998) who studied the intergenerational
transmission in Vietnam veterans whose fathers were Second World War veterans, found that the
grandchildren suffered from secondary traumatization associated with the combat-related post-
traumatic stress symptomatology. A different trend was reported by Davidson and Mellor (2001),
who examined the intergenerational transmission across two generations of PTSD among
Australian Vietnam veterans. In that study, no significant differences were observed in terms of
self-esteem and PTSD symptomatology between veterans and their non-veteran offspring (Lev–
Wiesel, 2007).
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1.3. Transgenerational Therapy
This approach is based on the observation that transmission within family groups occurs across
Traumas, not elaborate mourning, secrets, unspoken, violence, abuse, experienced in previous
generations, leaving their traces mental and / or physical in the descendants, by the fact of not being
able to be developed. The repetitive pattern races forward, trying by these recalls dates, events,
names, commemorating an older which should not be forgotten. This often bulky and unsuspected
heritage recalls the loyalty of its members in situations or events of this echo from the past
When engaged in the examination of his family tree, we can observe rehearsals of dates, names,
events, jobs etc. over several generations which produces the paradoxical effect of continuity and at
the same time an immobility in the past that give suffering (Ancelin Schutzenberger, 1993, 2007).
According to Anne Ancelin Schutzenberger, life does not begin with the birth but by conception,
due to the wishes of the parents, to their ideas and dreams as scenarios of repetitions of their family
life. The context in which the baby arrives, the context of pregnancy, the choice of first name and
the role of the child, attitudes is the behaviour of the parents and the environment, or the child is
conceived and where he spends his first years. In the case of refugees, migrants and people who are
in situations of "cultural mix" an important role is that of the language spoken at home, which can
be different from that of the country where the child grows and the differences d social and
religious environment.
family history by investigating from genosociogram information from first names, places, dates,
business, events - birthdays syndromes that provide information on the unconscious transmissions.
Thus, by revisiting and restoring places of each member who made the family system, the
individual can reduce internal tensions and find a fair distance from the family's past.
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There are numerous methods that allow the technique of transgenerational psychology, a
special interest is covered by genosociogram and transgenerational interview that are particularly
useful for focusing the relevant elements of the history of the past that may have useful implications
on the present. Also several group methods are helpful to the exploration of transgenerational, in
1.4. Genosociogram
genogram that emphasizes the sociometric phenomena and the invisible loyalties within the family
(it may include up to 7 generations). The genosociogram is a quick and very useful, deep and
For the design of genosociogram there are very precise conventions that allow to give meaning
to the entire drawing but also to be able to confront with other professionals, training or supervision,
In genosociogram one draws all family ties, including eventual divorce, remarriage, blended
families, but it also marks the dramatic or important events of life, dates of birth and death,
connections or particular repetitions. This can include occurrences of the ‗anniversary syndrome‘
For the customer, to see his family history depicted in a clear and complete set allows to unify
and take a glance, this overview often causes vital movement. It allows the client and the therapist
to trace - like a red thread running through - the similarities and links between traumas, sicknesses,
The choice by which we begin the description and what is written is often not logical but follow
the course of thought in free associations and emotional ties. We must understand what is important
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for the person at that time specific. We can then go back to what is not clear or complete at another
time, or later in the course of therapy, to also observe different emotional overtones given to events.
One can also choose to mark with different colors the most important elements and indicate the
links and positive affect (in red) and identification (green) with ancestors, living or not, because
Moreno defined psychodrama as ―the science which explores the truth by dramatic methods. It
deals with inter-personal relations and private worlds.‖ (from a paper read at the American
Psychodrama encourages the spontaneity and creativity of clients for therapeutic purposes. It has
very wide applications and allied disciplines of sociometry (the measurement of group relations)
and sociodrama.
Psychodrama is usually used as therapy that emphasizes the utilization of physical action through
enactment to achieve therapeutic ends (Fine, 1979). Since its development by Moreno (Moreno,
1964; Moreno & Moreno 1969), a lot of practitioners have supported the ability of psychodrama to
produce positive outcomes (D‘Amato & Dean, 1988; Gilbert 1992; Kellerman, 1991; Kipper, 1978;
Rawlinson, 2000). Moreno states that psychodrama intends ―to use life as a model, to integrate into
the therapeutic setting all the modalities of living-beginning with the universals of time, space,
reality…” (Moreno, 1971) and he developed psychodrama as a model to match the complexity of
human life. By making a role and by groups dynamics, the protagonist take an integrative position
toward the processes involved in the complexity of events. Zerka Moreno (1989) described
psychodrama as a ―synthesizing process, putting together many elements‖, and the ―integrative
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function‖ is one of ideal functions and goals of any psychodrama, even more so when we work on
Blatner (1996) lists a set of change processes and outcomes in psychodrama, some of these
change factors are typical and common for all of group treatment setting (Yalom,2005), others are
specific psychodrama:
1. Instillation of hope;
4. Psycho-educational information;
5. Developing of empathy;
8. Imitative behavior;
18. Increasing of perceived self-efficacy, confidence in judgment and tolerance for ambivalent
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19. Construction of a clearer sense of reality in terms of reduced dissociation, ego boundary
identifying invisible legacy, unfinished business or transgenerational traumatism we can use several
Individual or group psychodrama very often recover from invisible loyalties that are being
unhealthy for the individual comes from a dialogue and a symbolic ritual that ―gives back‖ the
weight to whom and where it really belongs in the story of the family (Maciel, 2007).
In psychodrama it is possible, using the different roles, the auxiliary egos and the conductor
functions to reprocess events of the past and dissolving the knots left unsolved by the ancestors.
The "theater of spontaneity" helps to break free from the invisible loyalties and close "situations
unfinished" meeting ancestors of which has not processed the loss or traumatic events that continue
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2.
CASE STUDY
The idea to start a research on transgenerational, born of a twofold requirement, on one hand the
curiosity to develop a practice on the topics covered in theory on the other hand the need to have
access to clinical material useful for the development of case studies and work experience.
On this basis I undertake, even with the difficulties of finding in a different context in which I
information effectively, the search for a setting, useful for the development of practical activities
1) Enabling a group of psychodrama on "Origins and Bonds" for residents of the Maison de
l'Italie (Cité Internationale Universitaire de Paris), a residence that welcomes foreign PhD
students and researchers, with the aim to explore together the theme of nostalgia of ties,
connections with respect to the origins and to introduce the issues of transgenerational for
2) A proposal for a "free interviews to explore the transgenerational" with which to recruit
volunteers interested in addressing together the issues of the relationship with their ancestors
in order to test a tool / interview precisely made for the occasion, and to practice with the
The course of the two initiatives will be provided partly in parallel, the group members are
recruited as potential participants in individual interviews, but at the same time, the promotion of
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individual interviews is activated via flyers posted at universities, cultural centers and leisure
The psychodrama group, with the participation of 9 subjects takes place for a total of 4 sessions
at a fortnightly basis with a duration of 1h 30 min, they are greeted residents of the Maison de
l'Italie who made spontaneous requests, following the proposal. Afterwards meetings are
interrupted by the absence of a "real demand" that pushes participants to strengthen cohesion and
In the course of the sessions will deal with different issues, loneliness, changing, adaptation to
new habits, but above all the nostalgia of origins (geographical and familiar), and the possibility of
finding behaviors and attitudes that stiffen the bond with the ancestors and their land giving a
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Individual meetings, performed with volunteers, with a duration of about 2 hours, dealing with
the major issues of the transgenerational path, detailed by a semistructured interview, built ad hoc.
During the working sessions, we will also proceed with the drafting of the genosociogramma
used as a tool for deepening ties and transgenerational repetition present in the history of each
family.
Many different stories during these sessions, different ways to "revive" the encounter with the
ancestors and different facets of the transgenerational that are organized around the life of the
various protagonists. Topics sometimes already addressed and "processed" in clinical and
psychotherapeutic individual paths, sometimes novelty that are revealed in the unfolding of
discourse and create new awareness, not yet exhausted than to help shed new light on their
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2.1. Carmen: a single case of transgenerational traumatism
The case that I will present now is that of a woman I got to follow in recent months, the poetry of
Giuseppe Ungaretti who is in the introduction of this paper was written for her and her story have a
Ms. Carmen contacts me by phone a few months after the start of activities, she received from a
friend the flyer about individual interviews, she says that she needs to talk to someone because it is
facing a difficult time following the death of her husband and she believes that ―the past that has
been dragging on his shoulders and the history of his family make it even heavier the way‖.
She shows first and last name clearly Italian (I later discovered that it is her married name) and
says that she is in Paris visiting her daughter, who lives here for some time, who did not want to
leave her alone at this difficult time. At the time her daughter is traveling and she would like to have
its own support at this time ―to feel better when she comes back, for me but especially for her,
because I do not want that she should worry about me and she does not even live weight of all these
The first impression is that of a woman very aware of the difficulties she is facing but extremely
fragile. On the phone she cannot hold back the tears when he speaks of her husband and daughter.
I propose to meet us, to begin the path of exploration of the transgenerational and if necessary
continuing with the psychological support meetings if she feel the need.
I am surprised by a specific clarification ―in which language will be the sessions, in Italian or
French?” my reply regarding the use of both languages referring to her the choice that ends with a
―No I prefer the Italian, I speak also French but I'm Italian and I'm Italian feel in all respects so I
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The focus in emphasizing its membership and nationality gives me a strange feeling and I do not
understand the significance considering the Italian name and the perfect mastery of the language
that proves. Sensing that this is a particularly delicate issue, and probably related to the "past"
mentioned I assure her about the possibility to speak in the language they feel most appropriate to
convey her thoughts. The conversation ends when you find a suitable day to the needs of both.
Carmen arrives, punctually, at the first meeting and immediately shows his need to talk, to
unburden, I hardly contain it because it does not begin to tell of himself already in the hall and why
you leave me the time to explain the purpose of the interview, the proposed to continue with other
Own informed consent is the first vehicle of information, Carmen tells me to have Croatian
descent and have actually 3 names, used at different times of his life and who represent her different
stages of the evolutionary cycle that leads to the need for today this "time to rework", reiterating
that the motive for this choice is certainly a search for personal well-being but even more a form of
Here begins his story, guided partially by the questions of transgenerational interview and
partially by the thread of his thoughts, narratives , facts and events, populated by people, many of
which have disappeared but that inhabit the memories of Carmen with a presence alive, sometimes
reassuring sometimes cumbersome and that makes it difficult to direct his gaze to its present and
toward the future. The meetings continued on a weekly basis over the purpose of "research" in a
Dunja K (C)armen Eugenia, this is her full name, with countless variations over the years, of
which every part was used in different periods of his life ―Dunja is the name of my Croatian
childhood, my mom just called me that and have stopped using it when they brought me to Italy
before and then in South America, they decided to call me Carmen, which fitted better and it was
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easier, I have always written with C Italian but in fact on some documents , I no longer know which
are true and which ones are not, it's spelled with a K, Carmen is the name of my adult life, except
for a few close friends, everyone calls me Carmen, is my Italian name , and then my name is also
Eugenia but this name has never used no, here is maybe now i begin to call myself Eugenia, make it
by my old name, so as to close the previous chapters and start a new life‖.
Carmen's life is marked by the pain of those who are moved away from their land and lives as
immigrants and refugees, by the loss of the origins, language and culture of belonging. She was
uprooted from her land when she was still a child and too many are, in her history, the bonds and
At the time of her birth, in 1942, Europe is destroyed by World War II and his land, Croatia, is
torn by internal struggles that follow since the years of World War I, and they will see, in the years
The Independent State of Croatia was a World War II puppet state of Germany and Italy, which
was established in parts of Axis-occupied Yugoslavia. The state was officially a monarchy and an
Italian protectorate from the signing of the Treaties of Rome on 18 May 1941 until the Italian
capitulation on 8 September 1943. The state was actually controlled by the governing fascist Ustaše
movement and its Poglavnik,[the equivalent of Italian ―duce‖] Ante Pavelić. The ideology of the
Ustaše movement was a blend of Nazism and Croatian ultra-nationalism. The Ustaše supported the
creation of a Greater Croatia that would span to the Drina river and the outskirts of Belgrade. The
movement emphasized the need for a racially "pure" Croatia and promoted the extermination of
Serbs, Jews and Gypsies. During World War II, the Nazi extermination plan led to the killing of six
million Jews only regardless of sex or age. Pavelic and the Ustasha movement actively participated
in the extermination of the Jewish people. Between 1941–45, 22 concentration camps, two of
which (Jastrebarsko and Sisak) housed only children, existed inside the territory controlled by the
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Independent State of Croatia. The Ustasha started conducting a deliberate campaign of massacres,
deportations and forced religious conversion in an attempt to remove unwanted. The atrocities
against non-Croats began April 27, 1941, when a new army unit Ustasha massacred the Serb
community Gudovac near Bjelovar. During the Second World War, with the Independent State of
Croatia - the Ustasha regime - they were killed between 330,000 and 700,000 people. The victims
were all ethnic Serbs and among them are also included 37,000 Jews.
The Ustasha army was defeated in early 1945 but continued to fight until shortly after the
German surrender on May 9, 1945. They were soon overwhelmed and the Independent State of
Croatia ceased to exist in May 1945, near the end of the war. The advance of Tito's partisan forces,
joined the Soviet Red Army, caused the retreat of the Ustasha mass. As soon as the war ended in
1945, were held hasty elections heavily influenced by the actual communist power over the country,
so much so that the Constituent Assembly proclaimed the republic on the same day two years
earlier, on November 29, and the state changed its name to Republic Federative People of
Yugoslavia (Federativna Narodna Republika Jugoslavija, FNRJ), while it was in 1963 that it came
to the final name, at the rewriting of the Constitution for presidential sense and explicitly socialist.
His first head of state was Ivan Ribar and Marshal Tito became Prime Minister. In 1953, Tito
was elected president, a position that became lifetime in 1974. Tito died on May 4, 1980. With his
death began to reemerge nationalism, which had previously been kept at bay by a strict policy of
balance between the powers to the peoples of Yugoslavia, as well as with repression.
The memories that Dunja preserve these early years are few, a family divided because of the
war, the father fugitive in Italy while his mother, left alone with two children in his native town is
accused of collaborating with the partisans and detained, everything is very confused in the
memories of Carmen / Dunja, elaborated starting from the stories than from true memories. Here is
grafted the first indelible trauma of his young life, in 1945, only 3 years old, to save her from the
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terrible situation that was presenting, the paternal grandmother, choosing to save her could not risk
traveling with two small children, leaves the brother to the care of the maternal grandmother and,
Dunja illegally crosses the border, locked in a suitcase carried by her grandmother, to reach her
father and the promise of a new life in Italy. "I have asked many times to my grandmother how it
was possible that I had not died on that trip, she told me that they had made some little holes on one
side of the suitcase, to let me breathe, and who had told me I had to be quiet and not to move, that
on the other side waiting for us a cousin who would give us something to eat. "
The arrival in Italy is really very little happy, after a brief meeting with his father, Dunja and
grandmother end up in a refugee camp where they are hosted many other refugees waiting for
official documents and passport. And the news, would not have remained with her father but it
would be taken on board an transatlantic directed South America, the father would then reached in
Argentina as soon as possible. This reunion never come true, only rare letters come from the father,
sometimes accompanied by her mother's message (who still lives in Croatia), promises of a future
together and signs of affection that Dunja never really live but which will build a its form of
Dunjia that will begin to be called Carmen and grandmother live, between Argentina and
Uruguay, for 8 years, being enough to themselves , and becoming only one substance: “My
grandmother took care of me, it was my only source of affection despite being depressed for the
death and disappearance of the other two children during the war and for the broken promises of
my father who did not reach us, she was widowed young, and my father was her only living son,
there were so many economic difficulties but we managed go on, by him came only letters ... I
became her daughter in effect, not to give too much attention , and look like a "normal" family
began to call her "Mammita", for her love I continued to speak Croatian, I studied Spanish but with
her I spoke our language, I was her official translator and her only contact with the outside world,
she was protecting me and I was protecting her from what she did not understand”.
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The return to Italy and the “disappointment of the affects”
Dunja / Carmen will return to Italy on the threshold of 11 years, even with her grandmother-
mother, an attempt at reunification with his father that will prove unsuccessful. The man, in fact,
had in the meantime broke off relations with his wife as a result of a conflict that will last for years
and had built in Rome a parallel life that did not provide for the arrival of this ―inconvenient
daughter‖. Presented to all as the orphaned daughter of a sister (―so as not to become suspicious his
mistresses”, then say Carmen in a later interview), the little girl is locked up in a college run by
nuns and is prohibited from having any contact with his mother.
For many times, she is triangulated in the conflict between the parents, the mother wrote in
secret and sends the copies of the letters that her father sent, filled with hatred and insults, of which
she has to keep the secret, secret as the relationship with her mother, idealized and fantasized but
banned from his father that when realizes the epistolary communications between the two reacts
The father continues to present her as the niece, the mother sends her copies of his original
documents, photos from her childhood and where she does not recognize, a different name, a
different person, the foundation for identity confusion in which living the years of his childhood and
Carmen will meet / know her mother only 17 years old when, with the help of the Mother
Superior of the convent, the woman will be able to enter Italy illegally by hiding for a short time by
the nuns. The meeting, however, does not follow the logic of the heart and idealization because the
mother does not reflect what Carmen imagined, she brings an immeasurable pain and unable to
overcome the conflict with the father, which inevitably falls into any other report. Carmen describes
her as ―very calm but violent inside, with an unexpressed anger that made her suffer anyone was
close”. Carmen will take with her a few relations sporadic meetings, only two after having children,
not to ―contaminate them by all her pain‖ to the death of the latter in his old house in Zagreb.
Carmen will know years later, the little brother Zlatconewborn baby at the time of his escape and
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raised first in an orphanage and then with her mother after the liberation of this. A few years ago the
discovery of a half-brother, Ratco, not much bigger than her, son of a father's extramarital affair
This is the context in which Carmen grows, looking for more and more independence,
disappointed by loved ones, standing next to the protective figure of the grandmother, dedicated to
the culture, he surrounds himself with books, attending university to study the history of his country
A lot of Friends ―many more men, women have never had confidence, and then my shy and
closed put them in distress so they walked away after a short time‖, even many sweethearts but she
was not interested in marriage, “for me it was too linked to the memory of the letters written
quarrels between my parents”. Some of these accompany and are close even today, over time
others have come to miss, leaving memories and emotions. Peppino, the first love; Antonio, a
Carabineer native of Zara, Croatian and in some ways Italian compatriot, for the fate dictated by the
war, but an impossible love because, for "label reasons" could not maintain links with her; Silvio,
that she married precipitously to accommodate a wish, the day before of a delicate surgery, he died
a few days later, leaving a widow of a never experienced marriage. Meanwhile, in Rome, within the
walls of his home, his father died under mysterious circumstances, whose body was found just after
returning from a long trip to accompany Silvio at the site of the cemetery.
Among these is the figure of the poet Ungaretti, close friend, confidant and "comforter" that in
his poems has been able to capture many of the complexities of this mysterious woman.
“…Ungaretti was the only one who called me Dunja and not Carmen, he recognized the
Croatian side that was in me, he said I reminded him his nurse when he was a child, I went with
him for the first time in Croatia, officially for accompany him as guide and interpreter, but in fact it
was he who accompanied me to the rediscovery of my roots, his last two poems are dedicated to me,
one with my name Dunja, the other is titled "the stony and the velvet "and speaks precisely about
that trip in Croatia. Many have thought about a love affair between us, but no, it was an intense
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friendship, we wanted to build a school founded on innovative principles, we already had the name
and structure, when we met in Rome did the projects and plans on the paper tablecloths tables
outside cafes, they still have some autographs as some of his books, he alone wrote in green ink…”.
The way along the life of Carmen / Dunja leads us closer to the present and her story,
reconstructed here from the different fragments of our talks, arrives to the central part of his life, his
marriage to F. (who died just two months before our meeting), and the birth of two kids, Marco and
Carolina.
Many journeys and movements in recent years, linked to her husband's work, “the tendency to
not take roots”, short trips but also long-term shifts because Carmen, basically ―always prefer the
bags to the cabinets, they are more comfortable to wear e can be transported quickly if you need
to‖.
A further trauma marked his life, his eldest son, at the age of 30 and in full development of a
brilliant career in archeology develops a psychotic symptoms, never properly diagnosed or taken
over and, after various difficulties related to the lack of pharmacological compensation, in
succession of mystical delirium and in progressive isolation, in 2008, ends his life with a tragic
Since then, a few memories, the life of two parents broken and solely dedicated to the culture in
the fortress of a small island, the only place where you can find a bit of serenity, the caring of the
daughter, distant but ever-present, and the 'advancing health issues of her husband that lead to his
death at the age of 87. Her husband, buried on the islet in which he had sought serenity and where
there is a statue / memorial of his son, is the loss that motivates today to ask for support. A death
clearly not yet processed, but that reopens the wounds of many other deaths not made, tears always
held to give strength to someone else that now Carmen cannot hold. "Always having to be strong
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for someone else but never for herself" which today makes her feel weak, to have continuous crying
spells, a generally depressed mood and a strong anxiety related to his future plans.
Where to live? How to attend to all the bureaucracy linked to her husband's family, to their
homes etc? Where to store what she calls ―the museum‖, namely all the books and photographs of
years of family life? How to behave with her daughter? How to choose his traveling companions?
So many questions present from the first sessions, to which we will not give an answer but will
be gradually linked to elements of the history of Dunja and his ancestors, which she had already
Figures 1 and 2 show the simplified Genogram and the genosociogram built with Dunja.
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The story of Dunja, at transgenerational level, is full of paths for reflection which can be
discussed from genosociogram. The story of the mother's side of the family is almost entirely
unknown, her mother, Maria, is part of a large phratry of which only two uncles are known:
Anna, whose Dunja said that she was very young widow with a small child and that desperation led
her to suicide, she was saved by a man of Islamic faith, who later became her husband; and an
uncle, of which she does not remember the name, known for being a brave partisan commander and
Dunja recalls with much anger as responsible for the placement in the orphanage of the brother
Zlatco, entrusted to her grandmother while her mother was in prison but that he did not wish to
grow up in his house. The grandfather Pietro, who died young, is a completely unknown character
and the grandmother Maddalena is remembered only through photographs and memorabilia that
have been passed down from generation to generation, of her it is known that was a very brave
woman, died at an advanced age the collapse of the ceiling of the house where she lived.
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The ceiling collapses on Grandma Maddalena kills her in the family myth, erasing from the
memory that I had of her family, as well as pain "crushes" and then kills his mother Maria, whose
pain is so intense as to contaminate the others and define the impossibility to have a relationship
Even Aunt Anna, before the advent of "her rescuer" (later her husband), in danger of being
crushed by this pain, the risk of repeating the story of the mother, a young widow with a small child
and the tragedy is so strong push to suicide groped. The memories of family history of the father's
side are richer, thanks to the long coexistence and affection that binds Dunja paternal grandmother,
The grandmother Lucia, widowed in 1917 after the death of her husband, the grandfather
Giuseppe, during the battle of Piave, then she carried her unborn third son to whom he gave the
name of her missing husband. The son Giuseppe, the father of Dunja, repeat the dramatic end of his
father, dying in 1973 in mysterious circumstances at home, suicide or homicide victim, no one
identified cause of death and found only after few months. The two oldest sons, uncles Marco and
Franco, also died during the First World War, young adolescents sent to the war front to fight the
long war, Marco will remain for many years "dispersed" and the search for his trail will accompany
the grandmother for years, until in South America, punctuated by research in the archives and the
offices of the red cross and prayers ―If he is alive is that it can go home, if he is dead does may he
rest in peace‖.
Giuseppe, the father of Dunja, has never known his father (of which has the name) and he is
incapable of doing the "father", he cannot, he does not know how to follow the role of which he has
never experienced. When the daughter arrives in Italy, at first he leaves her physically (by sending
her with her grandmother in South America), then, after returning presents her as his niece and
relegates the convent of nuns, making herself "orphaned of father" like him in due time.
If we consider the personal identity as consisting of a variety of factors: the full name, marital
status, citizenship, residence, language, it is easy to understand how to identify what makes a person
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(or more generally an entity) ―herself‖, is trained or at least influenced by the tradition, culture,
Dunja Carmen Eugenia, so many names, so many identities, often confused. The name Carmen,
or Karmen as reported on official documents, does not exist in the original birth certificates and is
assigned to the child by his paternal grandmother, to facilitate the process of adaptation and
integration in Argentina and in Italy then. Dunja, childhood name, abandoned, is the name that
carries the traumatic memories and that is "rehabilitated" only by the long friendship with the poet
Ungaretti. It is not a name originally "familiar." In Croatian it indicates the ―quince‖, fruit with
many hidden properties, emblem of Venus and a symbol of fertility. The etymology of this name
contains the word ―Glory‖ but, if we look at the Arab world, in the Qur'an the Dunja item is used in
Dunja, deprived of her personal identity from an early age, for many years did not have the
"official" papers and, later, those who had reported a different name, now she states that no longer
know what name is more appropriate to use, with which language and into which nationalities
identify themselves, it brings with it a heavy luggage and suitcases are the only thing which
differentiation that the other perceives as potentially dangerous due to its identity.
The importance of the name, as well as in her own name (the choice of which is one of the
objectives of this process) also lies in the choice of the names given to the two children, recalling
The major, who tragically died in 2008, identified with a trio of names related to painful events
of the past, Marco (paternal uncle lost in war), Antonio (the impossible love of his teenage years),
Silvio (her first husband died a few days after the wedding). If it is true that “Ce qui n‟est pas dit en
mots se manifeste dans les maux” (Schutzenberger, 1993) and that there is need three generations to
make a psychotic, Marco, archaeologist, perhaps seeking among his excavations the roots of his
own personal and family history, is exactly the third generation, that embodies the traumas of the
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past becoming a carrier of a suffering related to removal and the inability to forge lasting bonds that
leads him to develop psychotic symptoms and, the height of his delirium, to choose to end his life.
His death is placed in the transgenerational chain of traumatic deaths of all the men of his father's
side (the grandfather Giuseppe, the uncles Marco and Franco, the father), as well as the men who
loves Carmen, like her first husband Silvio and his lover Antonio.
Carolina Lucia, however, called as the two grandmothers, becomes a symbol of the union
between the parents' families. She embodies the positive image of Mammita, who knows how to
cope with any change in the best way, that is resistant to pain and separations taking good care of
Dunja. As well as her grandmother Lucia had carried to safety from Croatia Dunja, so Carolina
Lucia saves with him to Paris after his father's death by arranging for her suffering (perhaps
neglecting their own) and trying to restore the balance of a new journey through a new generation
of bonds.
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CONCLUSIONS
―While some traditional therapists could be described as people who adopt the attitude, «I know,
I'll tell you», I maintain the position that is of the type «You know, tell me »”. (John Bowlby)
In this sentence by Bowlby synthesis sessions with Carmen, not a search for "answers
preformed" posed to problem solving, but a series of questions to which she often provides answer
and that, if they remain unsolved, they have the flavor of a new discovery because they are placed
in a transition area that allows it to deal with the pain of its rich history with the confidence to go on
living.
Of course, like any therapy, this is nothing more than a fragment and many other issues will be
addressed by Carmen, individually or in therapy, but they are outside the scope of this paper.
Therefore I conclude this discussion with a picture, a statue of the monk-seal with her pup.
This statue has become a memorial of Mark, as a symbol of his commitment to the environment
but also of its purity and innocence, the first statue was placed on the Mediterranean island where
also rests the body of F., husband of Dunja, who died in March 2016, after his parents decided to
On the statue we read the following words «Le vent se lève!... Il faut tenter de vivre» (The Wind
Rises! ... We must dare to live), a verse of "Marine Cemetery" poem by Paul Valery, a warning to
Dunja, and to each of us, to let go of what keeps us stuck in the past for "daring" a better and deeper
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