NOTRE DAME OF KIDAPAWAN COLLEGE

GRADUATE SCHOOL Formation of Moral Values

MA MATHEMATICS SY 2022-2023
1st Semester
Name: MECHELLE N. BAUTISTA
Level & Course: 2ND Year / MA Math

The man under “shotgun” marriage had to express his vow before his wife, and this is what he
said, “For better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, until further notice, sorry, I
mean until death do us part.” True, why not “until further notice”? What made staying together always
possible even if the road has turned rocky in a relationship? Develop a thought on this by using Plato’s
idealism and his concept of the good. You have to use commitment in marriage as an example throughout.

Noon, magpapakasal dahil bilog ang buwan, Ngayon, magpapakasal dahil bilog ang tiyan. I
remember the lyrics of the song “Here come the bride, all dressed in white” And when the bride is already
pregnant, “Here comes the bride, three months inside.” Ouchhhh. Am I facing in the mirror? It is always a
bounce back to me, you know. I got married, because, I got pregnant. Well, It’s a shame, of course. I’m
ashamed not just to the people but of course to our creator. Being an Idealist has a basic viewpoint
stresses the human spirit as the most important element in life. In Plato’s philosophical sense, Idealism is a
system that emphasizes the preeminent importance of mind, soul, or spirit.

Biblically speaking, in Hebrews 13: 4 Let marriage be held in honor among all and let the
marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. Being pregnant before
the wedding is okay nowadays. The mindset is, as long as he’ll marry me. Or should we say, it is now
normal in this generation to that what we called a premarital sex. But if only Plato is still alive today who
believed about the preeminent importance of mind, soul or spirit would be the one of the some who will
oppose to it. Idealistically thinking, marriage is a commitment
separate from pregnancy. Marriage is sacred. The couple promised not only to his wife/husband but also to
the Lord God, The creator of everything and the holy one. When you get married just because you’re
pregnant, well, that means a you are a deviant to the will of God. The will of God that we as woman, we
should conserve ourself and remain as pure as we are for our future husband. And this will be our greatest
gift for them. How I wish. Anyway, if your partner really loves you, he will respect you, he will not touch you,
if only you are under the presence of God, guided and let God be the center of your relationship, there will
be no problem. Because, both of you are aware that the first legal kiss/touch you will ever have is after the
wedding. Well, I’m quite guilty of that. If that so, then, I have many illegal kisses before my wedding.
 What if after this shotgun marriage everything seems not to work out. What made staying
together always possible even if the road has turned rocky in a relationship? In my case, our baby is the
very reason why I stay in our relationship for as long as I can see that he value my daughter, he stands as
someone who’ll complete the family of my daughter it would be so okay for me. It’s true that when you
became a mother, you became selfless. Even if he hurts me physically and emotionally as long as he’ll
there for my child it would be fine. Those pain and wounds heals anyway. Even if the people around me
says “I’m too stupid to not file a case and just let him hurt me.” Well, I always says that time will come he’ll
change. It takes a lot of effort from both parties. As in the lightning of the candle symbolizes that if your
partner doesn’t have light you should share your light to him. And vice versa. It requires hard work, dream
for the family, and acting upon it. Hindi lang, “Be a man” ang reminder kundi “Be the right man/woman “ for
them. Having your dream marriage is within your reach. The answer and solution is witrhin your grasp. You
yourself can help you attain your dream marriage with the help of the Lord. Just do your best and God will
do the rest.

The vow that we've spoken during the wedding, now is forgotten and Faded. Faded by time.
Time when your partner has been cold to you. Time when your partner has been unloving to you and
doesn't care about you anymore. Time when he don't put blanket to you while your breastfeeding your child
and he just pretend he don't see your in so much cold. Time when you can feel that he just marry you
because you got pregnant by him without his will. It sucks. This is the time you'll realized that you had put
the rest of your life to him which is uncertain to be with you the rest of his life. Yes, the rest of your life. I
mean it. Because, once you're married it's lifetime. As adage goes, "Ang pag-aasawa ay Hindi parang
kanin na isusubo, na kwpag napasoay iluluwa" dapat handa ka sa sarap at hirap na pagdadaanan nyo.
Pinili natin Sila, panindigan natin. Pinakasalan natin Sila, Panindigan natin. Nagdevcide Tayo
magkapamilya, Panindigan natin. We should take full responsibility of it. Hindi naman ito laro-laro lang.
Don't throw away the blessing "the baby, who knows that will be your everything someday" Don't throw
away everything what both of you have started and built, maybe that shotgon marriage will be the catalyst
for us to be responsible of our action. We might have a bad beginning , maybe an unwanted pregnancy as
well as unready to have a new family but we have to. We have to face the consequences of our action.
Atleast, we are brave enough to face the consequences of our action unlike of the others who prefer
abortion than to take charge/responsibility of their action.

I once heard this question ask in a discussion in church: “ Is it a sin to be pregnant before
marriage?” The answer is "Yes, Because pregnancy before or outside of a marriage covenant may be
owing to a woman’s sin or maybe owing to being sinned against, like rape. Or both. Like, if she engaged
willingly and he engaged willingly, they are both sinning. She is being sinned against by a man who should
take better care of her, and she is sinning by willingly participating. “Sex belongs only in the sanctuary of a
marriage covenant between one man, one woman, while they both live.” But Paul says in 1 Corinthians
6:18, “Flee from sexual immorality” — the old translation says “fornication.” And we know from 1
Corinthians 7:2 he is talking about extramarital sexual relations, because he says, “Because of the
temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.”
In other words, sexual relations belong only in the safe, holy, beautiful sanctuary of a marriage covenant
between one man, one woman, while they both live. So, the presence of a child in the womb outside
marriage is either the result of being sinned against in rape or the result of sinning. Assuming that this new
mother of this unborn child did sin in having sexual relations outside the marriage covenant, is the presence
of this child in her womb sinful? Is pregnancy or the child sin? she asks. The answer is: No. And let me
surround that no with three observations to give some seriousness and Christ-centered hope to this mother
with an unplanned pregnancy or to whoever else may be listening that way. Sin Is Sin. First observation:
That there would be a stigma that attaches to pregnancy outside of marriage is, I think, a good thing. We
have almost entirely lost it today, because of the normalization of sexual immorality and because of putting
people’s feelings above a call to holiness. But having said that, it is crucial that every Christian and every
church make clear that any stigma to pregnancy outside marriage is because the pregnancy signifies
previous sin, not because the pregnancy is sin. If there has been no previous sin, say, in the case of rape,
that should be handled really delicately and tenderly, but not, I think, in the church merely privately. So, I
say again, appropriate stigma attaches to a previous sin as its basis and to a present pregnancy only as a
possible pointer to that sin. And the reason that is important and hopeful is what follows in my second
observation. Unhindered Forgiveness. The second thing to say is that a woman’s experience of shame
should also only attach to the previous sin, not the present pregnancy. One of the reasons for that is
because sin can be forgiven, because of Christ. “Any stigma to extramarital pregnancy is because it
signifies previous sin, not because the pregnancy is sin.” A woman can confess that sin and be cleansed of
it so that the shame is overcome and taken away by the merciful cleansing grace of God. If the shame
attaches to the pregnancy or the child itself, then there is no overcoming it. In other words, the solution to
both the stigma and the shame is in the preciousness of the forgiveness of Christ and the forgiveness of a
humble community of saved sinners. And all of that assumes that the basis of the stigma and the shame,
the basis of both, attaches to the proper place; namely, the previous sin, not the present pregnancy.

And here is a third observation: We are Redeemed by God. Even we are unlovable because of
sin we STILL loved by God. Sovereign grace, the sovereignty of God, makes it possible for both a
pregnancy and a child — that is, the woman’s experience and the child’s experience — to be turned for
good in the life of the woman and the child and the family and the church and the world. No one needs to
feel, no woman needs to feel, no family needs to feel that, because the child originated in a sinful act, if it
did, God cannot make this child great. He can.
 So, to all of that woman out there who is Just like me, let's always internalize that it is wise
and good to be serious and sober and honest about the stigma and the shame of the sin of sexual
immorality, if that is the case. The remedy for that sin and the hope for a life of freedom and joy and peace
and usefulness for mother and child and family and everybody affected should not be sought in the
minimization of sin, but in the maximization of God’s grace. This grace is very, very great. Your pregnancy
is not a sin. The sin that brought the pregnancy, if it did, is no less forgivable than my sins or the sins of
those in your church. Your experience of that forgiveness through repentance and faith in Jesus can
become a mighty testimony to the beauty of Christ. And that child can grow up in the beauty of Christ and
become great.