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ENG3007 - Class Notes L3 (Student)
ENG3007 - Class Notes L3 (Student)
Lesson 3
Features of Spoken Language: Social relationships
Assertiveness
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In today’s lecture we are going to understand the intricacies social relationships and
how they vary in terms of power, contact and expression of emotion. Furthermore, we
will take a look at how the regulation of behaviour shows how commands and
expressions of obligations are a way of influencing others’ behaviour. Then finally we
will explore assertiveness and how degrees of dogmatism (stating strong opinions and
not accepting anyone else’s opinions) in a text depend on the linguistic resources for
expressing probability, frequency, universality and subjectivity.
The appropriate interpersonal stance is quite difficult to judge, but this lesson will make
you more aware of the language choices in various interpersonal relationships.
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Emotion
Feeling annoyed with someone and then quickly forgiving them, or, by contrast,
holding a grudge (a strong feeling for someone for a long time) against them for
years.
Dimensions of relationships
Cate Poynton in her book Language and Gender: Making the Difference suggests
that interpersonal relationships can be analysed along three dimensions:
Power
Contact
Emotion
Power
The Power someone has over you might be a matter of physical strength/force:
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Contact
We communicate with some people more often than others, and so they will be more
familiar to us.
o Members of our family we might see every day and provide a lifelong
relationship.
o Fellow students whom we have just met we might also see every day at the
moment, but perhaps our relationship will not last a lifetime.
o We might consult our dentist regularly but with long time intervals in
between.
o We recognise the bus driver whom we see several times a month, but hardly
talk.
o At the extreme, there will be total strangers who we have never met, and if
we do meet them, do not expect to meet again.
o Parents and their children are very close, seeing each other frequently, but
there is clear inequality in terms of Power. The same may be true of the
relations between teachers and pupils.
Activity 1
Think of a time you held a grudge on someone. What happened? What kind of
interpersonal relationship did/do you have? Was your emotion short term or long term?
What kind of emotions did you feel? Did you forgive them? Or do you still have a
grudge? Write a few notes below and be ready to share your story with the class:
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Activity 2
Think back to the situation you shared in activity 1. How did you handle the grudge with
the other person/people? Did you express your feelings to the person/people? Were
they negative or positive? Be ready to share some of your responses to the questions
listed above.
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Regulating behaviour
regulating the behaviour of other people in accordance with our wishes/the wishes
of the institution we represent.
If we wish to regulate their physical behaviour, the most straightforward way of doing
this is to issue commands/insist on the listener’s obligations.
E.g.
Wash the
dishes Have a
drink Take a
bath now
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we have a high degree of Contact, or to people with whom we have very little
Contact (Perhaps having met them once, and never expecting to meet them again.
We reserve the politer forms where there is a medium degree of Contact, but
where we anticipate that Contact may increase. E.g. people you quite like in your
class, but who are not yet close friends
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In conclusion, commands and questions are the main ways of getting other people to
act/speak in accordance with our wishes.
Assertiveness
Watch the following TED talk video about assertiveness and make
notes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MEDgtjpycYg
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Role-play practice 1
The context: Siblings Peter and Annie lose their father while climbing a mountain. The
father forces Peter to cut him loose in order to save his sister. There relationship has
never been the same again.
Watch and listen to the video clip from the movie “Vertical Limit” Follow the transcript
below and answer the following questions.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q0gx_D--iDw
Dad: Listen, Annie. No matter how experienced.....a smart climber always wears a
belt and
suspenders. Annie:
Dad
Dad: I'm not kidding. Nobody is going anywhere until you put another cam in
the wall.
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Dad: Hold it together, you two!............Now get a grip! We're getting out of this.
(Whispers) Annie, how close to the wall are we?
Dad: Both of you......keep very still. Try and stay calm. Annie. Is the other cam
moving? (Calm voice)
Annie: No!
Dad: Try and reach the wall. See if you can anchor us back in......Try it.
Peter: What?
Dad: Just do as I say. Get it! You don't have much time here. You have to do
something for me okay? Cut me loose.
Dad: There’s too much weight here! One cam is never going to hold us all.
Peter: I can't!
Annie: Stop it! Peter Peter
Dad: Any second that cam is gonna come out of the wal and Annie and you will
die! Is that what you want? You'll kill your sister!
Annie: Stop it!
Dad: Cut the damn
rope! Annie: Don't do
it!
Dad: It doesn't matter about me. Cut it. We're running out of
time! Annie: No!!!!!! Don’t do it peter
Dad: No one is going to blame you for it! Just cut
it! Annie: No No Nooooooooooo
Dad: Annie and you are gonna die! Just cut it, Peter!
1. Based on watching the video and reading the first line of the transcript. What is a
cam?
4. How does the tone of the father’s voice display his assertiveness?
5. What do you think will happen to the relationship between Annie and Peter after
this traumatic experience?
Role-play practice 2
Watch and listen to the video clip from the movie “Flight.” Follow the transcript below
and answer the following questions.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nGHP4uGImX4
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Flight attendant: And how long has Sleeping Beauty been out?
Co-Pilot: Twenty-six minutes. We're gonna start descending any second now.
Flight attendant: Well, looks like you'll need to wake him up.
Announcement: SouthJet 227, Atlanta Center. Descend and maintain flight IeveI 300.
Flight attendant: Ladies and gentlemen, fasten your seatbelts now. Fasten your
seatbelts securely now!
Pilot: We've lost hydraulics. Center, this is SouthJet 227. We've lost our hydraulics
and it feels like our pitch control.
Announcement: SouthJet 227, Atlanta. Say your intentions. Are you decIaring an
emergency?
Flight attendant: Everybody's belted in. Are we going down?
Pilot: Get belted in. We need everybody in brace positions.
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Pilot: Yes. That is affirm. We are in a dive! We are in a dive! We have lost vertical
control. We're gonna need drag. l want you to throw out everything you got, the
speed brakes, the gear, everything.
Flight Attendant: Brace position. Head down! Bend forward! Head down, bend
forward!
Pilot: Atlanta Center, this is SouthJet 227. We're in an uncontrolled dive descending
out of 21 ,000 feet. We're declaring an emergency. We've dumped our fuel. We've got
a jammed stabilizer or something. We need a block of altitude to work the problem
and a heading to the nearest airport.
Pilot: 315 we’ll try our best. All right, that bought us a little time. That bought us a
little time. Now we got to revert to manual control. Your side first.
Co-1.Pilot:
WhatOkay, gotthink
do you it. Nothing. No intonation
about the control. Oh,used
no, we're
in thisdiving
scene?again!
Pilot: Just... No, stay strapped in. Stay strapped in. Margaret! Margaret!
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Announcement: I see you're going beIow 10,000. How are you doing?
Pilot: Not good. Not good. Margaret, there's a red lever right there next to my seat.
lt says "manual control." You see it?
Pilot: Okay. On the count of three, l want you to pull it up, turn it clockwise, push it
back down. Ready? One, two, three.
Pilot: That's okay, it's okay. Argh! Come on. All right, okay, okay, okay. Here we go.
We got something. Argh!
Co-Pilot: Oh, Lord, we're coming out at 7,000! l see nothing but houses!
Pilot: Evans! Listen to me. When l say l want you to retract the flaps, retract the
gear, trim us nose down, okay? But everything's gonna be opposite, so make sure
you trim us nose down.
Pilot: Margaret.
Pilot: When l tell you l want you to push these forward, full power, full throttle. Can
you do that?
Co-pilot: Wait, wait, sir. What are we doing? Why would l trim down?
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Pilot: We gotta do something to stop this dive. Margaret, what's your son's name?
Flight attendant: l love you, Trevor. You be a good boy. Mommy loves you.
Co pilot: Flaps!
Pilot: We're flying. Listen, we're level. We can maintain altitude like this.
Announcement: SouthJet 227, Atlanta Center. I see your position. Four and a haIf
miIes southeast of the airport at 1,800. Are you okay?
Pilot: Atlanta Center, this is SouthJet 227. We are inverted. l repeat, we are
inverted.
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Pilot: All right. We're not gonna make that. Our engines are burning up.
l see a field and a road ahead of us. We're gonna set it down there.
Pilot: Evans, we're coming back around. Margaret, l want you to hit full power.
Full throttle, you understand? Here we go. Evans, speed brakes.
Announcement: SouthJet 227, I see you descending through 1,000. Do you concur?
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(Heartbeat sound)
Groupwork
In your group, practice your assigned role-play and be ready to read it out
loud to the class with the sense of urgency and interruption.
Next, discuss what happens in the next scene and create a short script
together showing the next scene.