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The Trigger Workbook
The Trigger Workbook
WORKBOOK
HARNESSING THE WISDOM
FROM YOUR TRIGGERS
BY XAVIER DAGBA
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INTRODUCTION
Navigating triggers is an emotionally challenging experience. As you begin this journey,
please remember to be gentle with yourself in the process. Using triggers as a way to
claim more of your wholeness is an essential part of shadow work and healing in
general. Keep in mind that this is not about finding out who was right or wrong in the
situation that triggered you. It's all about claiming your wholeness. It's all about
becoming conscious of the repressed parts of yourself, to accept them and to validate
them, so that they stop running the show in the background.
The information contained in this workbook is intended to be educational and not for
diagnosis, prescription, or treatment of any health disorder whatsoever. This
information should not replace consultation with a competent healthcare professional.
The author is in no way liable for any misuse of the material.
1
You might want some privacy.
This work is a very intimate one. In order to allow yourself to be very authentic
and real with yourself, you might need some privacy. Make sure that you find a
book that you keep for yourself when you do this work and that you are in an
environment that is private and makes you feel safe.
2 As you dive into this work, you might uncover some disurbing patterns about
yourself. You might actually find that the very things that trigger you about a
specific person are also present within yourself. It is very important to dive into
this work with radical honesty and genuine curiosity. That is how you claim your
wholeness. As you do that, make sure not to identify with everything you find
out about yourself. Do your very best to remain non judgemental with yourself.
3
Please ground yourself first.
Working with triggers is very demanding. Please make sure you give yourself a
high dose of self love before you dive into it.
Timeliness
4 It is preferable to do this work as close as you can from the actual event
because the memory and the feelings from the trigger will be more readily
accessible.
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THE TRIGGER WORKBOOK
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What is the situation or event that triggered you? (Please describe the
situation extensively. What did you see? What did you hear? Who said it? What
was their tone?)
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What is the meaning that you created about the situation that
What did you see in the behaviour of the person that triggered
3 you?
A trait that you know you possess too, but that you dislike
about yourself? If yes, what is it?
A trait that you strongly judge? If yes, what is it?
Something that you envy? If yes, what is it?
(Take the time necessary to really ponder this question. It is necessary to
answer here with radical honesty. There might be great insights available for
you here. Be welcoming of any answer that you receive. It is very important not
to judge yourself about what you find out or to make yourself “wrong”)
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Now focus completely inward. Take your focus away from the
Take a moment to fully FEEL the emotions that came up for you
5 and to FULLY VALIDATE THEM. (This step is very crucial. Please take the
time necessary to sit in silence and to fully feel what came up for you. You can
validate these emotions with affirmations such as: “what I felt is valid”, “I
am not a bad person because of the way I felt”, “There is nothing
wrong with the way I felt”, “There is nothing wrong with me because of
how I felt” etc. Choose the ones that resonate the most with you and feel free
to build your own. These affirmations are more effective when you speak them
out loud.)
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THE TRIGGER WORKBOOK
Ask yourself when you felt this way for the first time. Use all your
If you uncovered a memory where you felt this way for the first
7 time, visualize your adult self walk into the the memory and join
your younger self in that memory. Join your younger self in feeling
all the ways he/she felt back then without judging it. FULLY
VALIDATE the way your younger self felt back then. You may use
some of the affirmations that you used at step 5 as you address
your younger self.
(It is very important not to rush this step.)
Ask yourself right now, how you’d rather respond the next time
Close your eyes, visualize the situation that just triggered you and
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AFTERWORD
Mirror 1: Self denial. If you uncover something about the person that
triggered you that is present in you but that you dislike, the invitation is to
have compassion for yourself.
Mirror 2: Judgement. If you uncover something about the other person that
you judge strongly, the invitation here is to practice compassion for them.
Finally, I know this sounds repetitive, but let me say this again: working with
triggers is extremely challenging. Remember to be gentle with yourself in the
process. Use this workbook as many times as you need and every time you
uncover a new trigger. After every single use of this workbook, my invitation for
you is to to practice self care. In my experience, if you use this journal enough
times, it will become second nature for you to analyse your triggers more
consciously and your healing and growth will be accelerated.
- Xavier.
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