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Twenty-two years ago, as a candidate for the Head of School position at Cate, I sat
before the assembled faculty to answer their questions about my suitability for the
job. About half way through the 90 minute session, a long serving teacher who
was also an alumnus of the School stood up and said, “Assume I am a parent of an
applicant and tell me why I should send my child to a boarding school.”
Everyone in the room, it seemed, perked up after that query, wondering perhaps if
I would be stumped. But for me, boarding school was never a question. It was a
given. My father was a Headmaster in the northeast, at Lawrence Academy, so I
grew up on school campuses. And when I was approaching ninth grade, I asked
my father if he would take me to interview at a few schools. His answer,
“Absolutely. Let’s go find you your school.”
But I didn’t tell that story to the faculty. My questioner wanted to know how I’d
convert the skeptic, and so I referenced instead a saying that is familiar to most
parents, or at least should be. “If you let your child choose his or her own path, it
will always lead back to you.” Letting go is something we parents struggle
mightily with, for how can our children grow and mature without our guidance,
supervision, and tutelage?
In fact, our children do not lose such mentoring when they leave for boarding
school, they simply supplement it, gain partners and teachers, discover themselves
in a new context, and ultimately mature more quickly and more fully into young
adults. My own experience certainly affirms that truth. I am one of three boys
who grew up in boarding schools to parents who believed in not only our
possibilities but in all that we could learn from the faculty members, coaches,
counselors and mentors who supported and inspired us every day. All of us now
run boarding schools, trying to do for subsequent generations what was done for
us.
As always, education is the key – for a student, a family, even a country. In
building a home and a school for Ethiopia’s young people, HMA and its soon to
be fortunate graduates will show the way.