Discourse markers (so, right, okay)

 
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Discourse markers are words or phrases like anyway, right, okay, as I say, to begin
with. We use them to connect, organise and manage what we say or write or to
express attitude:
[friends are talking]
A:
So, I’ve decided I’m going to go to the bank and ask for a car loan.
B:
That sounds like a good idea.
C:
Well, you need a car.
B:
Right.
A:
Anyway, I was wondering if either of you would teach me how to drive.
The discourse markers in this extract have a number of uses:so marks the beginning
of a new part of the conversation.
well marks a change in the focus (from getting a car loan to needing a car).
right marks a response (B is agreeing with C).
anyway marks a shift in topic (from buying a new car to having driving lessons).
We use different discourse markers in speaking and writing. In speaking, the
following discourse markers are very common:

anyway like right you know

fine now so I mean

good oh well as I say

great okay mind you for a start

 In writing, the following discourse markers are common:

firstly in addition moreover on the other hand

on the one
secondly in conclusion to begin with
hand

thirdly in sum

Discourse markers do not always have meanings that you will find in your dictionary.
However, they do have certain functions, and some discourse markers, such as well,
can have a number of functions.
See also:
 Actual and actually
 Like
 Look
 Mind
 Okay, OK
 Well

Discourse markers that organise what we say

Some discourse markers are used to start and to end conversations. Some are used
to start new topics or to change topics.

Starting a conversation or talk

A:
Right, let’s get started. We need to get the suitcases into the car.
B:
Okay. I’ll do that. Katie, will you help me?
[at the start of a radio interview]
Now, we have with us in the studio today someone you will all know from television.
John Rice, welcome to the show.
See also:
 Okay, OK
 Ending a conversation
[A mother (A) and daughter (B) on the telephone]
A:
So we’ll see you Sunday, Liz.
B:
Right, okay Mum.
A:
Okay, see you then, love.
B:
Bye, Mum. Thanks for calling.
A:
Bye, Liz.
[At the end of a meeting]
A:
Anyway, is that it? Has anyone got any questions?
B:
No. I think we’re done.
A:
Right, fine, thanks everyone for coming. We’ll circulate the documents tomorrow and
make some follow-up calls about the project.
See also:
 So
 Okay, OK

Changing or managing a topic

A:
We went to town to buy wallpaper to match the carpet.
B:
Did you try Keanes? They have a sale.
A:
We looked there, but Jim said he thought it was too expensive and he didn’t like any
of their designs.
B:
 What does he like?
A:
He likes geometric shapes. He hates flowers. Anyway, we eventually found some
that we both liked and when we went to pay for it, we realised that neither of us had
brought any money. (Anyway marks a return to the main topic of buying wallpaper.)

Ordering what we say

We also use discourse markers to order or sequence what we say. Some of the
common words and phrases which we use for this are:

and in general second to sum up

and then in the end *secondly what’s more

first (of
last of all so well
all)

*firstly next lastly a…b

for a start on top of that third(ly)

firstly and secondly are more formal than first and second.

A:
I think Sheila might be having some financial problems at the moment.
B:
I don’t think so, Caroline. For a start, she has all the money that her aunt gave her.
What’s more, she has a good job and she seems to have a good lifestyle.
Firstly, we are going to look at how to write an essay. Secondly we are going to
look at what makes a good essay and what makes a bad one. Lastly, we’re going to
do some writing activities.
We can use the letters of the alphabet (a, b and c), to list reasons or arguments for
something:
There are two reasons why I think it’s a bad idea, a because it’ll cost too much
money, and b because it’ll take such a long time.
See also:
 Numbers: first, second, third
 Discourse markers that monitor what we say
As we talk, we monitor (or listen to) what we are saying and how our listener is
responding to what they hear. We often rephrase or change what we say depending
on how our listener is responding. We use words and phrases such as well, I mean,
in other words, the thing is, you know, you know what I mean, you see, what I mean
is.

Saying something in another way

Sometimes, as we talk, we add phrases to show our listener that we are going to
rephrase, repeat or change what we are saying. These discourse markers help to
make what we say clearer for the listener:
I just had to leave early. What I mean is I hated the show. It just wasn’t funny.
You exercise regularly, you have a good diet and you don’t have too much stress. In
other words, I think you have nothing to worry about. Your health seems very good.
I think I’ve found a house I’d like to buy. Well it’s an apartment actually. It’s ideal for
me.
See also:
 Actual and actually
 I mean
 Well

Shared knowledge
When we talk, we think about how much knowledge we share with our listener. We
often mark what we think is old, shared or expected knowledge with you know and
we mark new knowledge that we see as not shared with the listener with phrases
like see, you see, the thing is:
You know, hiring a car was a great idea. (The speaker and the listener know about
hiring the car.)
A:
Why don’t you come and stay with me when you’re in Lisbon?
B:
It’d be difficult. I have to be back in Dublin by Friday. You see, my sister is getting
married on Saturday so I won’t have time to visit. (B assumes that A doesn’t know
about her sister’s wedding. This is new information)
See also:
 See
 You know
 You see

Discourse markers as responses

As we listen to someone speaking, we usually show our response to what we hear
either by gesture (head nod) or by a short response (Mm, yeah, really, that’s a
shame). This shows that we are listening to and interested in what is being said. We
call these short responses ‘response tokens’.
Common response tokens include:

absolutely fine okay wow

quite (more
(all) right good yeah
formal)

certainly great really yes

definitely I see sure

exactly no wonderful

that’s great/interesting/amazing/awful, etc.

We use response tokens for a number of functions:

To show interest and to show that we want the speaker to continue

A:
So he opened the door.
B:
Yeah.
A:
And he went in very quietly without waking her.
B:
Right.
A:
 He opened her bag and…

To show surprise

A:
We’ve decided to go to Africa for a month next year.
B:
Oh really!

To show sympathy

A:
He can’t play soccer for at least six months. He’s broken his leg.
B:
That’s terrible.
See also:
 Adverbs as discourse markers (anyway, finally)
 Of course

Discourse markers showing attitude

Some expressions are used to mark attitude or point of view in speaking or writing.
Common expressions of attitude are:

actually frankly I think (I’m) sorry

admittedly hopefully literally surprisingly

amazingly honestly naturally thankfully

basically ideally no doubt to be honest

certainly if you ask me obviously to tell you the truth

clearly I’m afraid of course understandably

 confidentiall
I must admit predictably undoubtedly
y

definitely I must say really unfortunately

essentially in fact sadly

fortunately indeed seriously

If you ask me, Neil is making a big mistake leaving his job to go travelling with his
friends.
We will obviously have to pay for the damage done to the window.
The whole problem has been caused, I think, by having too many cars on the road
at busy times.
Sadly, Hilda has decided not to come with us.
See also:
 Actual and actually
 Think

Discourse markers: sounding less direct

We are careful when we speak not to sound too direct or forceful. We use words and
phrases such as like, maybe, sort of to soften what we say (hedges).
We often use these words and expressions as hedges:

apparently kind of perhaps roughly

arguably like presumably sort of/ kind of*

I think maybe probably surely

just
 * sort of is more common in British English; kind of is more common in American
English.
Can I just ask you a question?
We can probably add some more water to the sauce.
Is this perhaps one of your first times driving a car?
Compare

There’s a new restaurant in town. We The statement is hedged or softened so as

should probably try it next weekend. not to sound too strong or forceful.

There’s a new restaurant in town. We should The statement is not hedged and it sounds
try it next weekend. more direct and forceful.

See also:
 Hedges (just)
 Think
 Like
 Mind
 Well

Discourse markers: um and erm
We can use um to introduce a new topic carefully:
Um, could I ask you a personal question?
Um, there’s something else we need to talk about.
We can use erm when we pause before saying something, especially when we are
not sure about what to say:
He’s… erm he’s not very pleased with your work, I’m afraid.
Her last book was called… erm what was it? I can’t remember the name.

Discourse markers: interjections (Oh! Gosh!)

An interjection is a single-word exclamation such as hooray, oops, ouch which
shows a positive or negative emotional response:
 A:
The meeting’s been cancelled.
B:
Yippee!
A:
I’ve just dropped the box of eggs.
B:
Oh no!
A:
I don’t think this dessert looks very fresh.
B:
Yuck!
See also:
 Interjections (ouch, hooray)
 Oh