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emotional pain. It can seem like there is no other way out of our problems, we've run
out of ideas, possible solutions. Our problems seem unfixable. The pain feels like it will
never end. We believe we've run out of options, and suicide is the only
answer left.
Maybe the suicidal thoughts come to mind, you might have mixed
feelings about them. They're frightening and confusing.
Feelings will pass. Depression feels permanent, but it's transient. Things will change.
Depression comes and it goes. Over 90% of people who survive a potentially lethal
suicide attempt, do not go on to kill themselves. It is a temporary crisis, an attempt to
stop the inner pain. You will get through this tunnel and come out the other side. The
feelings will pass!
Depression and pain distort our thinking. It can seem like we're wearing very dark
tinted 'gloomy specs'. Everything looks different to how it really is.
Thoughts are thoughts - not necessarily how things are, although
it certainly feels like the thoughts are true. Thoughts affect the way
we feel, and thoughts and feelings affect the way we react, what we
do (see this page).
Suicidal thoughts can result when we experience too much pain, without having enough
resources to cope.
Self-soothing
Whilst it seems like they help for a while, they will make your problems worse.
Ask yourself:
Tell yourself:
I've coped this far, I can get through the next .... (day, hour, 10 minutes)
Things will look better in time.
Depression is temporary - this will pass.
Depression is distorting my thinking - these thoughts are the voice of
depression. They are not facts. I don't have to act on them.
The vast majority of people get better from depression. I will look back and be
pleased that I chose to live.
Take things a little at a time. Set out to get through the next day, the next week
or month, perhaps the next hour or even less. Tell yourself: "I've got through so
far, I can get through the next hour".
Grounding techniques
Distract!
Do something else, and focus your attention fully on what you're doing, e.g.
Gardening
Household chores
Physical exercise - walk, run, cycle, dance
Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique)
Reading - magazine, self help book
Television
Seek out a supportive discussion forum on the internet
Learn something new on the internet
Imagery
Help someone else
Go to the park, the beach - pay attention to nature
Visit someone
Music
Stroke a pet
DIY
Feed the birds
Sudoku or crossword
Do something creative: painting, writing, knitting, play a musical instrument,
make a collage, bake a cake, cook a meal, arrange some flowers, make a website
or blog
Take action!
We can only change our situations by changing something about the way we
think, or what we do
Complete a Multimodal Treatment Plan (Suggested self help plan & links)
Eat healthily, balance sleep, treat physical or mental health problems, avoid
drugs and alcohol, get regular exercise (PDF)
Systematically work through a problem
ALL PDF SUGGESTIONS ARE AVAILABLE ON www.getselfhelp.co.uk
Safety Plan
If you sometimes struggle with suicidal thoughts, complete the form below.
When you are feeling suicidal, follow the plan one step at a time until you are safe.
Feeling suicidal is the result of experiencing extreme pain and not having the resources to cope. We
therefore need to reduce the pain and increase coping resources.
What warning signs or triggers are there, that make me feel more out of control?
What have I done in the past that helped? What ways of coping do I have?
What would I say to a close friend who was feeling this way?