INTRODUCTION

Family is all the individuals who live in the same house or who live under the same
roof. Throughout the years this term has been evolving, not only do we understand as
family the group formed by father, mother and children, known as the nuclear or traditional
family, but there are different types of families, such as the extended family, which is
composed of grandparents, uncles, aunts and uncles or other relatives who live in the same
home, There are different types of families such as the extended or consanguineous family,
which is also composed of grandparents, aunts and uncles or other relatives living in the
same household, the single-parent family, which is composed of one of the two parents, and
the homoparental family, which is the family where a couple of men or women are the
parents. This diversity of families is finally part of our society and day by day they are
interrelated or related and each one has or not its own conflicts, which will permeate our
society.
Family is the basic unit of social organization. The family is conceived as a microcosm
from the point of view of Virginia Satir, who is based on the theory of communication and
transactional patterns between people& where the most important elements are
communication, self-esteem, rules and risk taking. For Bowen, the family is a system where
the change of one is followed by the compensatory change of other parties. Throughout this
work we will get to know aspects of the family in which we can intervene as therapists to
guide them on their path.

THE FAMILY

Family as well as individuals also have their own self-esteem, understanding self-
esteem as defined by Nathaniel Branden.
Self-esteem is the confidence in our ability to think, in our capacity to face the basic
challenges of life. Confidence in our right to succeed and to be happy; the feeling of being
respectable, of being worthy, and of having the right to assert our needs and shortcomings,
to achieve our moral principles and to enjoy the fruits of our efforts.
Family also has its own self-esteem, it can be low or diminished, that is characterized by
a vague, insincere communication, rigid, inhuman, fixed and immutable rules. The high
self-esteem in the family is characterized because there is communication, there are rules
that apply and are fulfilled and in this way the family is functional in society. in this type of
family there is love, understanding and support.

Parents know that their children are not deliberately bad but that there are changes that
are part of their development as individuals, they avoid being condescending, they only
have to guide them and the decision they make also make them responsible for its
consequence, taking care of each one with the knowledge that they are individual beings
and that they can respond differently to the same situation. This type of parents love their
children unconditionally with that love that makes you see. in the family there are
evolutionary crises that are the expected changes, through which they go through as part of
development, for example adolescence, and there are unexpected crises such as the death of
a family member. these crises will be faced or they will adapt to them, depending on the
self-esteem of the individual and the family.
 A family with diminished self-esteem is a dysfunctional family where there is no
adequate communication, where there is abuse, aggressions, whether physical,
psychological or patrimonial, in this family people do not take responsibility for their
actions but hold others responsible for them. Nowadays in our country divorce is very
common, as a consequence the families of separated parents have increased, most of them
are dysfunctional, since they use the children as a negotiation point, they inherit their
grudges, and in some occasions, the children take part of the conflict that exists between the
parents, when it should not be like that, as adults they have to solve their differences and
work on them. Whatever the scenario in which the family develops, we have to work so
that the children develop healthy in the three biopsychosocial spheres. we have to create an
adequate environment for health and total well-being.

Virginia Satir mentions that we have to take care of, attend to, exercise and love our
body. Develop the intellect by finding out how to learn and surround ourselves with ideas,
books, activities, learning experiences and stimulating opportunities to establish a dialogue
with others. To allow us to be more friendly with our emotions, and to make them benefit
rather than harm us. Develop feelings, learn to care for them, consider them and use them
as essential vehicles to assimilate things. To develop harmonious methods to solve
problems in order to be more nourishing and solve conflicts and develop congruent and
healthy relationships. Find out what our nutritional needs are and satisfy them, remember
that every individual's body is unique. Fill the places where we live and work with images
and sounds, temperature, light, color, air quality and space that best favors life.

CONCLUSIONS

The family is the basis of our society, if currently in our country there are high rates of
crime we must return to the place where it is born, the home where there are no limits,
where there is no genuine love, where communication fails, where the value of the family is
diminished, where the aggressions are part of everyday life, where there is no respect for
life, from an animal to an individual and work there, guide and lead these individuals to
reconnect with the universe.