How my past may influence me Now that you've taken a look gr how you learn and develop habits and how you can change chem, it may be helpful to According to one theory, the tinderstand how and why you Social learning model, we learn many of our ideas and developed some of the habits bchaviors by observing how and behaviors you have now. people close to us behave. Keep in mind that social influences can have both positive and negative effects on us. My life story map The following pages give you the opportunity to explore the influence that your family and friends have had on who you are today. Review the example and the guiding questions below before beginning the exercise on page 18. Guiding questions for my story map What were your family and living situation like when you were growing up? Who did you live with? What were the positive and negative things you learned in this living situation? ‘¢ What important events happened in your life? Were they positive or negative? ‘¢ What experiences did you have that taught you what to expect and how to behave in intimate relationships? ¢ What were you like asa child? How did you feel about yourself and your life? + Did you ever get into trouble? Ifso, what kind? Looking back, is there anything you are particularly proud of or happy about? 4 Is there anything you regret or feel guilty abour? + What type of discipline was used in your home when you were a child? Ieee saps th page in ay manne. “17. {©2011 The Change Compan”h uncomfortable feeling, | (Cong, Me Working throug secs ahinkers” They avoid dont weigh thei, ¢ ti As you work to develop new sre“purthlnkets- ith thir oon, ways of thinking, itsimportane the sancevtable lings that take the path of ey 1 Fa fay areanatural part OFA pg ar handle the uncomfortable changes in one’s habits. jie ie : us, ind 7 7 ‘Your thi In Fling aun 7 yy ick wth aig wil el uncom Py, ry seni choices because they feel The key i tobe abe People who make deekions comfortable to you, You won the uncomfortable flje. based on what feels right, be successful in changing enough to overcome iene rather than what is rational, negative habits. “Gut thinkers” habit. old listed bow you ei beni, 9) | Describe three changes you want to make in the near handle the uncomfortable feelings that occur. | MS Ieranc to changes: 00 mma a ne EES I will handle my uncomfortable feelings by... 2. [want to change... —— I will handle my uncomfortable feelings by... 3, [want to change...