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Harley M Storey
The Life Coach Toolman
Dear Subscriber
Here is your Transference Effect Tool® from 101 Tools Life Coaches Use.®
This is a profound psychological process to understand and it's why when you go to your therapist
about relationship issues they ask about your childhood.
This is because many of our current issues have their roots in earlier formative life experiences.
If you're a wife who feels constantly ignored by your husband, this may have something to do with
your Father - perhaps he didn’t pay you enough attention?
Or perhaps your girlfriend treats you disrespectfully and you were attracted to her because that's
how your Mother made you feel when you were a child.
If we have not fully felt our loss, or if the loss is especially significant, we will probably experience
some degree of transference where we continue to feel - transfer - that grief onto subsequent losses.
For example, our beloved grandmother may pass and we are too busy to grieve over her loss,
but when our beloved cat unexpectedly dies, we experience profound loss and feelings out of
proportion to the event.
This is a clue that what we are really dealing with is not our cats passing, but our unfelt feelings over
our grandmother.
As always after you've taken a look at the tool, I'd love to hear your feedback, comments or
suggestions.
Kind regards
Harley M Storey
The Life Coach Toolman
A.C.E (NZSC), M.I.C.F
Paradigms Life Coaching Ltd
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