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P.J.
affectionately referred to as
the love guru
Whether married or single, this book is for you – because when you learn to love yourself first,
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ALL your other relationships will flourish, too!
Contents
Introduction 3
Ch. 1: Physical 8
Ch. 2: Emotional 21
Ch. 3: Spiritual 35
Ch. 4: Intellectual 61
Ch. 5: Creative 74
And the one relationship that gets sacrificed most is the intimate connection we should
have with ourselves!
Sacrificed?! Eek! That’s Awful — “awful” for the woman giving up so much of her
intimate connection with herself!
YOU live in a time, right now, when your life experiences hold more untapped potential
and opportunity than an individual—especially a woman—has ever had, historically!
Personally, I am incredibly excited because the beauty of a healthy and happy woman is
unmatched. The value a truly connected woman brings to any relationship, business, or
community affiliation is remarkable!
I know nothing about your interests, creative In the midst of this, you will learn about
expressions, fears, worries, and/or doubts. yourself.
To be honest, . . . I hope this mini-book inspires a greater love and compassion for all people
—and that you find an unmatched joy and reverence for life!
Ultimately, please enjoy life, and . . . take care of yourself, so you have years ahead of
you to love, laugh, and enjoy!
With all of that being said, . . . “what are you doing this weekend? Do you have any
plans? If not, . . . I was wondering IF YOU wanted to go out with YOU?”
The feminine energy has a wonderful way As you know, there is a real deliciousness to life
of moving through and exploring life; when when it is sensually experienced. Modern day
open-and-receptive, it’s as if you’re drawn life tends to really distract us from this deep,
or gently pulled through every moment. personalized, and intimate engagement.
Your 5+ senses are all turned on, and you This small book is designed to very simply
are having a completely different reintroduce YOU to YOU! That’s all.
I hope you will enjoy these and even more importantly, I hope you will be inspired to design
your own dates with yourself — I promise you will be glad you did!
some cases, to even look fear in the eyes, . . . and choose to play anyway!
I sincerely hope you are as excited for your first solo–date as I am for you!
Have Fun!
* Remember, it’s always the best option to consult your doctor or physician
before engaging in any physical activities.
The first time you go on any of your solo–dates gets to be about your personal experiences,
thoughts, and feelings — if others you know are there, you might not allow yourself to truly
play.
And finally, stay for every bit of 2.5 hours, and then
go for a favorite decadent treat afterwards. I’m a fan of smoothies, but you may slip into a
chocolate store briefly and emerge with a half–dozen chocolate covered strawberries—it’s
100% your treat!
The only requirement is simply enjoy—allow yourself the opportunity for this deliciousness!
Focus On: Play, laughter, lightness, simple joy, exploration, challenging yourself,
smiling a lot, bringing the playful, explorer energy—don’t wait for the universe to
make you happy; instead find genuine joy inside you first!
Follow-Up (optional, but encouraged):
• Journal about your date: what you did, how it felt, what was the best part,
would you do it again, and what did you learn about yourself?
• Add another play-inspired solo-date to your calendar within the next month.
Choose something fun to do alone!
Trust me, . . .
“I am not beautiful like you,
I am beautiful like me!”
There’s a method to my — Unknown
madness.
Find an indoor climbing gym and see if they have a
“bouldering” area or a low climbing wall to practice
Bouldering is hard, and climbing skills.
you should be
prepared to fall a lot— For those non-climbers—before you skip this date and
but getting back up proclaim, “Oh, climbing is definitely not for me”—I
would strongly encourage you to embrace this date; let
and doing it again is
this opportunity challenge you to explore your body,
great emotional mind, courage, curiosity, your will to learn, your
fortitude training. creativity, and your puzzle-solving skills.
Generally speaking, though, most people think of climbing with their arms—this is not
quite proper technique. A more accurate explanation would be to tell you that your
arms are primarily used for keeping your chest close to the wall, while your legs do
the primary “climbing” below you.
3 Pieces of
Encouragement
Open up, let your unconscious mind and your spirit talk with you about your fears and/or
your internal resistance. Get it out, get it ALL out!
Then, in your journal, talk about who you REALLY are at your core: strong, confident,
loving, generous, kind-hearted, loving, patient, . . . whatever is true for you.
Then when you feel better from getting it out—and your powerful spirit has been
released from the fears and limitations of your unconscious mind, . . . get back on that
bouldering or practice wall!
You can do it! I COMPLETELY BELIEVE IN YOU!!!
And . . .
Run through, in your mind, what their body is doing, but instead see it and feel your
body doing it. Mirror it in your thinking and muscles while watching. Watch with
genuine curiosity; really watch to learn, . . .
Approach the hand holds and foot plates as if they are a puzzle, and you are figuring
out how YOU—with your strength, flexibility, and intellect—can map-out and define
a route YOU CAN CLIMB!!! Yes?!
This doesn’t have to be at home, nor in the gym, . . . you can sit in your car
before driving, if you’d like, and with your eyes closed and a smile on your face
that emotes a suggestion and feeling of satisfaction, simply breathe in-and-out
and feel a sense of gratitude for the power you’re now feeling throughout your
body!
• Lastly, based on the outcome of this date (including post smoothie and
delicious vegan meal), . . . identify a new found commitment! Who are you
now, and what kind of internal transformation has this solo–date inspired?
Focus On: The relaxation. Smile a lot and feel that sense of wonder and gratitude
nature often inspires within us.
Seek the stillness and quietness of a mind at rest. Allow yourself to become
increasingly more open–and–receptive to both your own self and the natural world
around you. Can you feel the “Presence” that connects you with nature?
• I might also invite you to call one person AFTER you’re home, again, and tell
them you called ONLY to tell them you love and appreciate them! The
conversation doesn’t have to be long, . . . just intimate—meaning connective!
And . . .
• If you’d like to share some of your pictures, . . . I’d love to see them! All my
contact information will be at the end of this book.
I hope you really enjoy the “Presence” you’ll feel on this solo-date!
Emotional
Emotions are the language of our soul, crying out sometimes for more
juicy-delicious life experiences and guiding us back on track when we’ve
become lost from our soul’s integrity. Emotions are rich, they’re the
pigment on an otherwise blank palette of life. We all know they don’t
always feel good, but most of them, at least, make us feel alive.
There are so many unfortunate reasons a single mom could end up in this situation, and it is
my intention with this solo-date to touch the deepest parts of your heart and soul, and
inspire you to do everything you intentionally can to avoid falling in to, and/or getting
trapped, like so many women and single moms. No judgment—just heart!
First and foremost, take care of you, so you can take care of others. If you must eat,
please eat whole foods, (not processed, if possible), and eat enough to allow you to
continue to function physically, emotionally, cognitively, and socially.
Please allow me to clarify—I do not want, nor encourage, you to starve, but being a LITTLE
hungry is good, until AFTER the final Follow-Up below. It will create an opportunity for
appreciation and gratitude. All of this being said, . . . please take care of yourself, first!
Listen, this may not be easy—and it might not be easy to find a shelter that will even
allow you to volunteer, but if you can, . . . please do!
And, if for some reason you cannot find a women’s shelter you can spend a day
volunteering for—please consider other options: orphanage, homeless teens, soup
kitchen, going with a local group to pass out food bags and toiletries to people living on
the street. My first suggestion is above with the homeless mommies’ shelter; if that
doesn’t work, you have options—just be safe!
Then sit quietly practicing Tonglen* meditation (details found on the next page).
How long should you practice it? Until you’re complete; you’ll know when you’re
done—you’ll feel it.
• You are very likely going to need and want to eat something after this—please do.
Keep it all natural, quick, easy, and light.
• Once home, turn OFF your phone, grab a blanket and some tissues, place your
journal and favorite pen where you can reach them, turn off most of the lights, and
watch the 1992 movie, City of Joy with Patrick Swayze. Let it touch you deeply!
After watching it, grab your journal, and write about who you are at your core,
where you want or need to shift in your life, who you want to be from now on with
specific people (you’ll know in that moment whom you want or need to write
about), and write a letter in your journal to God, Source, the Universe, your Higher
Consciousness committing to live more-and-more authentically..
* Tonglen meditation is a Tibetan Buddhist practice designed to transmute the negativity and
darkness of another’s suffering into light, love, and positivity.
There are a number of ways it can be practiced. I will share with you my most common way
of practicing and teaching it.
Please note, . . . you will be breathing in others’ attachments, energy, pain, and suffering;
HOWEVER, you will not be clinging to ANY of it—you will be transmuting it to light and
love and general positivity—so you can then breathe it completely OUT of you and back
into them.
In this activity, you are simply a catalyst, transforming negativity into loving-kindness and
positivity. If this—in any way—does not sit well with you, skip it, or do your own version.
Practicing Tonglen
To ensure this practice feels natural for you, I’ve simplified the process. For this meditation, you
will be breathing “in” through your nose and “out” through your mouth.
Think of anyone you know who is struggling—can you see, feel, or get a sense of their pain? As
you slowly and intentionally breathe in—whether you can sense their pain or not—imagine your
inhalation pulling their pain and suffering from them.
Draw their negative energy in to your heart area to allow your love, kindness, gentleness, and
compassion the opportunity to “transmute”—turn, change, shift—their pain, suffering, and
negativity into light, love, health, energy, and positivity. Remember, you are not taking on,
keeping, or allowing anything to attach or take root in you.
After transforming their negative, simply exhale as if you’re intentionally blowing new life, light,
power, health, energy, kindness, compassion, and love directly back in to them.
It may not all purify on the first pass, so run it through your heart, until only loving-kindness, real
positivity, and total light can be seen and felt in them. Then, go on to the next person, family, or
group.
Go until you feel complete, or you begin to tire—trust your own energy levels.
Be aware, too, of how much they’re impacting you! What is your heart doing? How
does your body feel? What are you thinking? Is this influencing your dreams and/or
desires for your future?
I’m not attempting to manipulate you in any way here—whether you want children of
your own or not—I’m just hoping you’re experiencing an emotional date, a truly
beautiful moment to intimately connect to life and love, and your true commitments—
children or not.
Stay as long as you can—you’ll know when you’re done because, I imagine, you’ll be
either highly energetic and just buzzing with life, or you’ll be exhausted and ready for
food, a nap, and/or an adult conversation and interaction.
Focus On: Joy, love, gratitude, hope, enthusiasm, and real prayers for them.
Follow-Up (optional, but encouraged):
• Immediately following your date, please find a quiet place inside or outside the
hospital and journal about your experience, beliefs, thoughts, and feelings.
Listen to your heart and spirit very clearly. Did you enjoy this? If so, what did you
enjoy, or why was it not enjoyable?
Has this left you thinking and/or feeling any way in particular?
This specific date could very well have been put in the
“Creative” section, and I chose to put it here because it
really allows you to explore and potentially interact with
a significant range of emotions—feel them deeply and
watch how they impact and influence you.
Open Mics are opportunities a neighborhood bar, university, or coffee shop, usually,
set up for local performing artists to come out and share their talent, for example: a
poet might come and read a poem or two, a “slam” poet might perform their latest
work, a singer might share their favorite song, a guitar player might perform her
most recent piece of music, an actress might do a monologue, a professional
speaker could offer some wisdom, a comedian might tell a few jokes, a storyteller
might weave an interesting and captivating tale, etc.
Have fun with this and understand, upfront, suggestions for this section. With this
this may really test your emotional fortitude. first suggestion you are encouraged
to . . .
At the very least, it will give you a chance to
stretch what you may have previously Identify one of you talents and muster
thought were non–negotiable activities for the courage to share it publicly at a local
you to do in public. Open Mic Night.
And that might have put a damper on your And, if you’re thinking, “Talent?! What
relationships and limited your capacity for talent?! I don’t have anything I can share
real enjoyment in the past. or perform;” that’s no problem, . . .
And, now—by saying “Yes” to this solo-date I encourage you to identify something
—you may be removing any previous fears you’ve truly wanted to do for a long
you’ve had and embracing the fullness of time: poetry, sing, play guitar, mime
what life and culture and relationships truly lessons. You’re choice!
have to offer!
Just don’t back out—challenge and
I am excited for you! encourage yourself! Go to an Open Mic
Night, or two, and get a feel for what
This is the first of two (2) solo–date others are doing.
Humor really tears down walls and builds connection (provided it’s not at another’s expense).
I think amateur night spots are only about 10-minute sets, so one of the benefits, here, is you
don’t actually have to write a whole lot of material—just enough to be able to deliver for that
evening.
You must work on the material alone, and you must show-up to
the amateur’s open mic night all by yourself!
Your family, friends, and support network can meet you there, after you’ve arrived and signed-in.
One last thing, . . . have someone, at least, take a picture; it would be better if you got some video, also!
I understand this is not actually you being by yourself; however, it does take preparation,
connecting with your emotions, developing a fun sense of humor, stepping out there on
stage—by yourself—in front of a crowd ready to be entertained, and telling your jokes, and
virtually all of this, in essence, is something you’re doing alone, so I’m A-OK calling this a
solo–date!
Focusing outward. There’s a saying that holds true here, even for this particular date,
“when in doubt, focus out!” Sincerely care more about the audience receiving
something AMAZING from you, than what they might think about you—think about
giving, not getting.
Focus on your authentic expression and your desire to share and/or entertain.
Practice letting the nervousness out and as you’re releasing it, transform it into
excitement.
Follow-Up
(optional, but encouraged)
• Simply Celebrate! You Did It! Really-and-truly celebrate! Go get a great meal, or
your favorite takeout and a really great glass of wine—with friends, family, or solo
—or binge watch the latest session of your favorite, funny show! It’s your success
and, consequently, your soiree, celebrate in the way that feels best for you!
• Go on your favorite social media site(s) and tell people what you just did and how
you felt before, during, and now! You’ve successfully faced your fears and had this
experience—how do you feel now?! Share, at least, one picture and/or your
video, too!
• Journal the impact saying “yes” to this date had on you, and how it will influence
and/or inspire you moving forward. Please be specific, not general.
Spiritual
How deep can you go? How much do you want to know? For many
people this is the foundation everything else in life is built on. And
while
spirituality
means
something
different to
everyone using
the word, . . .
generally
speaking, it
references the
connection we
have with, and to, a Higher Consciousness, the universe as a whole, and
everything in it—including our own personal consciousness.
If you choose any of these solo-dates, I strongly encourage you to fully commit, even more
than the others. Embrace the guidelines completely, release the fears holding you back, and
surrender yourself entirely to the experiences—you never know the wisdom, intuition, or
deep, true insight you might receive! Get Connected and Enjoy!
“Listen to silence,
It has so much to say.”
— Rumi
Before you say “No” because it looks, and sounds, like
too much, please read through the entire date—it’s really
quite simple and profoundly impactful!
This date will require approximately 32 hours because
you cannot speak for 24 hours straight—and this starts,
in essence, the night before the actual solo-date starts.
This requires a bit of preparation, so I created a checklist to ensure you’re 100% ready to
go deep! If possible, please follow this to the letter:
1. Plan 5 completely raw, vegan meals—whole, natural, preferably organic ingredients
—simple or intricate. Start with “FullyRawKristina” and the “Raw Chef” on YouTube
for some delicious ideas! Consider preparing your meals a day or two in advance, to
minimize all distractions—unless it’s a snack or meal of fresh fruit and veggies.
2. Please choose only water, teas, and pure juices to drink. If you are a regular coffee
drinker, you may still “need” your caffeine bump—please try green tea first, and if
that doesn’t work, just allow yourself a cup of java.
3. Plan for, at least, 2 all natural snacks—again whole foods versus processed snacks.
4. Please let the important people in your life know you are going on a complete media
fast, including from your phone(s). Let them know you’ll be available the next day
after a certain time, so they don’t worry or come over and interrupt.
5. If you live with anyone, either arrange for them to be gone for those 32+ hours, or
find another place or time for this date.
6. This is designed and intended to be prayerful and meditative, so if you have any
sacred texts you’ve wanted to read please collect, borrow, buy, or print them out.
No digital or audio books today. And . . .
7. Please turn off ALL of your potential distractions the night before, and leave them off,
until the morning AFTER your 24-hours of silence. These include, but are not limited
to: phone(s), TVs, radios, alarms, iPads, Amazon’s Alexa, Google Home Assistant,
and any other AI home support you use.
You may be wondering why 5 raw meals and not just the 3 for the actual day of your solo-
date. This is because I’m asking you to allow your last meal—the night before your
spiritual date—and the first meal—the morning after your date to also be raw.
Einstein suggested nothing changes, until something moves. And while I agree with
Einstein from a very physics–based perspective, I like to say, “Nothing changes until you
become still—deeply and profoundly still—then EVERYTHING Changes!
With this understanding, I further encourage you to do everything on this solo-date slowly
and mindfully. I encourage you to walk slower, eat slower, slow your breathing and be more
intentional with each breath—breathing fully in and breathing fully out.
Feel your breath, feel the floor beneath your feet, feel how your clothes touch and rest on
your body. If you’re sitting outside, can you feel the wind on your skin? If you’re
gardening, be intentional, methodical, present.
Become intimately aware of how both of these feel and for the
remainder of your date practice feeling this way—even deeper
and more connected, when possible.
How many people had a hand in making this possible for you to eat? What inventions
and technology made this possible; who conceived of it, and then who made it? How
many hours, days, weeks, months, years, even generations have had an impact in
bringing this food or water to you?
Allow the moments before, and during, eating and drinking anything to be sacred, at
least, today!
Moving meditation is
simply moving
intentionally and slowly
enough to be present with your breath and your 5+ senses simultaneously while active, or
in-motion.
Please understand and embody this concept—allow all of your actions to be prayer and/or
moving meditation; unless, of course, you’re actually practicing a still meditation.
Please stay at home, especially if you live alone, so your mind doesn’t get distracted from
your Day of Pure Silence (which includes internal silence), I realize you might feel called to
go for a walk, spend some time in nature, or connect with a sacred site. Save those
yearnings for the following day, or upcoming weak, please.
I do encourage you spend some time outside on
this day—no matter the weather—especially if
you have a private yard or a lot of land. Just
connect with nature while in this prayerful and
meditative state.
Meditation is a key component of this date, so we’ll want to get you familiar—and ideally
comfortable—with, at least, two or three kinds of meditation. This will give your spirit
options to choose from and possibly keep your mind from wandering.
Whatever meditation(s) you choose, it must be a silent meditation—just for the purity of
this particular date. So no “voiced” chanting, no music, and no guided meditation—again,
just for this particular date.
If you don’t know how to meditate without music or a guided process, you have a number
of options—and this is by no means an exhaustive list:
If you’re a writer, please feel free to journal, especially if you’re releasing and letting
go of attachments, hurts, sadness, etc.
Take notes, if you’d like, as the wisdom is connecting with you from your readings,
prayers, meditations, and/or insights and epiphanies. And like Rumi and Hafiz, you
are welcome to write your own sonnets or love poems to and/or about you, God, the
Universe, or Source energy. You can write other poetry, too, if the flow is coming
through and the Muse has come to visit.
Phew! Long, I know. See how it’s overall very simple—I complicated it by wanting to
spell out every detail. EEK!
Focus On: Slowing down—slow down physically and slow down (even silence, if
possible) your mental chatter; begin to listen with more than your ears—listen with your
heart, body, soul, intuition; be genuinely curious, patient, calm, open, and grateful. Truly
feel, and be in, love; practice an acute awareness of the present moment—and even
more importantly, . . . focus on the “Presence.”
Follow-Up (optional, but encouraged):
• Simply say a silent prayer of gratitude at the close of your 24-hours.
• If you wrote in your journal during the event, there may be no need to document
anymore, unless you genuinely want to, and if you closed your 24-hour solo
spiritual date with a raw meal, . . . you’re set!
“The first peace, which is the “Certain things catch your eye, but pursue
most important, is that which only those that capture your heart.”
comes within the souls of — Native American Proverb
people when they realize their Get ready for a journey.
relationship—their oneness—
with the Universe and all it’s Shamanic Drumming, from any tradition, can induce
powers. trance-like states and liberate your spirit to journey,
explore, even transition you through stages of suffering
And when they realize at the —healing you completely on the other side.
center of the Universe dwells
the Great Spirit, and this center Enter this solo-date with a real willingness to allow spirit,
is really everywhere—it is the Greater Consciousness, and your unconscious mind
within each of us.” to show you things you may not have considered before.
– Black Elk
In preparation for this journey, you will need to find a
drummer and/or guide; ready your body and mind; and
familiarize yourself with specific breathing techniques.
Ideally, I would encourage you to find a Shaman, or someone studying to be a Shaman, that
you trust in your area, or within an acceptable driving distance and do this in-person, one-
on-one with them!
You could do a class with others, if you’d like, but go by yourself to honor the “solo” aspect
as much as possible. Doing this one-on-one and in-person gives your journey guide a
chance to set the stage and help you shift into the most beneficial state before slipping off
into the spirit world on the rhythm of the drum da-dum-dum, drum da-dum-dum, drum da-
dum-dum, drum da-dum-dum, . . .
If that’s not possible, purchase a course online. There are some really neat spiritual training
courses tied to indigenous, shamanic practices and training. In these courses, I’m sure there
will be guided journeys with drumming and possibly even certain breathing techniques to
create peak states of receptivity! Look around, read reviews, and even contact some of the
reviewers.
And the third option is to do a Google and/or YouTube search, which honestly could be as
good as purchasing a program. When I did some research before writing this section, I
found several really good drumming and journey–guiding options free online. And with
modern technology today you can really hear—and feel—the drumming, as if your drummer
and journey–guide is right there in the room with you, especially if you’ve got good earbuds
in! You will have a much better experience with earbuds and/or good headphones.
The second aspect for you to consider before going on this solo-date—no matter which
methodology from above you commit to—is the preparation of body and mind. I would
strongly encourage you to:
• ensure good sleep for, at least, the three days before your
journey.
You could even benefit from fasting, if this is the route you’re interested in—remember,
consult your doctor before initiating any fasts.
Commit to these suggestions for, at least, one week before your Shamanic Drumming
date. Leaving this world to explore others becomes increasingly easier when you release
your attachments to this world and the distractions it offers.
Breathing techniques are the third, and very important, piece to this journey.
If you’re working with a shaman, or medicine person, you won’t need to focus on this
section as much because they’ll guide you through their process.
If you’re utilizing a training program or something free and available online, you’ll want to
ensure you have a breathing technique or two or three that will support your journey.
You will utilize any one of the techniques found on the next page immediately before lying
down and the actual drumming and journeying begins! These act as a primer for your
brain, body, mind, and spirit.
I think you’re ready. Again, if you’re with a Shaman, or a Shaman’s Apprentice, they’ll guide
you from here. If you’re not, and you’re by yourself—wonderful and congratulations! This
is a beautiful experience, and I will guide you very simply from here.
Let’s ensure you’ve got everything prepped and ready: confirm all of your ringers, alarms,
bells, whistles, and notifications are turned off; do you have a comfortable place to lie
down, maybe on some nice, soft blankets; do you have the drumming and/or drumming
with journey-guide audio queued up; and are your earbuds plugged-in and in your ears?
Yes? Great! Let’s get started.
Before lying down and starting your actual journey, let’s initiate, or prime your brain, body,
mind, and spirit with some powerful meditative breathing techniques. In your preparation
for this solo-date, did you find a breathing technique, or meditation suggestion you want
to use for this purpose? If so, sit comfortably on your nice, soft blankets and begin this
meditation and/or breathing method.
If you didn’t, no problem because I’m going to share my favorite three—for this sort of
activity—in order.
On the following three (3) pages are three very precise practices I created, refined, and use
regularly. You are welcome, and strongly encouraged, to choose any one of these three
breathing options below—again, immediately before beginning your journey:
As you breathe in through your nose and lift your face towards the sky, feel how your mouth
instinctually wants to open to release any tension in your jaw. This is the natural transition from
breathing in through your nose to continuing the inhalation through your mouth.
Try this three or four times now, so you get the feel and rhythm.
Notice, too, in the images below there are corresponding “opening exercises” you’ll be doing
with your arms as your cycling through your breath.
In an effort to synchronize your arm movements with your breath, please note—your inhalation
will continue through until your arms are fully open. At this point pause, until your body is
naturally ready to exhale.
Then exhale slowly as you allow your arms to float down to your sides and naturally glide back
together again in to the prayer–like position in front of your heart.
Notice the hand positions and the path your hands and arms take during this inhalation–and–
exhalation cycle. These opening and receiving exercises are powerful compliments for the
“Breathing in the Heavens” meditation. Feel as if you are opening up to fully receive the life
force and energy of the heavens.
* I suggest you practice this deeply-and-sincerely for 20-minutes, then lie down and begin your
journey.
Palms are up and open here.
Inhale ends / exhale begins.
Then, without a pause, do four (4) exhalation bursts through your mouth; you will find the first
three exhalation bursts through your mouth will not fully empty your lungs, so allow the fourth
exhalation burst to be elongated and prolonged as you exhale everything else from your lungs.
Again, without a pause, do one sharp, fast, and full inhalation through your nose—starting the
cycle again.
* I suggest you practice this deeply-and-sincerely for 10-minutes, then lie down and begin your
journey.
** Please Note—this WILL make you light–headed, it’s intended to—if this becomes too much,
simply stop the “Racing to the Top of the Mountain” breathing, lie down, breath normally, and
begin your journey.
With this meditation, the breathing technique starts out with four (4) quick, sharp inhalations
through your nose—your lungs WILL fill completely doing these; in fact, your fourth inhalation
sometimes might be pretty small because your lungs may have already filled almost completely
with the first three inhalation bursts.
Then you’ll simply do one long, forceful exhalation through your mouth; breathe out completely
before inhaling your next four inhalation bursts.
Just like the previous breathing style, there are no pauses between the inhalations and your
exhalation.
* I suggest you practice this deeply-and-sincerely for 5-minutes, then lie down and begin your
journey.
** Please Note—this WILL, likely, make you light-headed faster than the “Racing to the Top of the
Mountain” technique—if this becomes too much, simply stop the “Diving in the Deep” breathing,
lie down, breath normally, and begin your journey.
Focus On: Letting go of the mental chatter and need to control anything. Let everything
go—just be completely present.
If your mind wanders in the breathing technique(s), simply bring your awareness back to
your breath. Immediately following your “priming” meditation, it is time for your journey
to begin.
Earbuds in, turn on your audio, lie down, and begin to feel the weight of your body—the
gravity pulling you down—and lose yourself to the sound of the drumbeat.
Let the drums, da-dum-dum simply and naturally carry you away.
Simply follow the drumbeat—it will lead you—if you will follow.
• If you wish to capture the journey and lessons you were given or understood, feel free
to journal, writing what’s important for you.
• If you’re not interested in capturing your experience—for any reason, like you dozed off
or nothing significant happened—please also sit quietly. I encourage you to use this
quiet time for a very simple, quiet prayer, and/or a very simple breathing in through the
nose and out through the mouth meditation, just to aid in you transition back.
• You will likely only do this once during this solo-date. However, IF you decide to go
again—please give yourself some transition back time with quiet prayer and meditation
before going in to the next journey. You may even want to shift your energy completely
by getting up, moving around, maybe even grabbing some food, water, even walking
outside briefly. And, lastly, if you do go on a second journey, please choose a different
breathing technique for your priming.
Many people even go in for three rounds—after each 3 to 4 minute session, they’ll step out,
warm up a bit, and then they’re back in, again.
You are under NO obligation(s)!
I’ve added this solo-date to your Spiritual section because when we’re faced with something
that triggers our fight-or-flight response so intensely, we choose life!
And I Love This! This is exactly why I’ve written this book and compiled all of these solo-
dates because I want your life to be filled with more life!!!
The theory—and some growing evidence—is the body responds positively when it is
exposed to extremely cold air for short bursts of time.
Others with skin disorders have used it to help increase the antioxidant levels in the blood
to support their skins ability to recover and ward off additional problems.
These flotation tanks were designed to study the origins of consciousness, and by
cutting off all external stimuli, . . . your mind will begin to do what it wants and/or needs
to do. This can lead to an extremely insightful experience.
I am intentionally avoiding adding any of my thoughts, feelings, or research beyond
what I’ve already said—and some of the possible health benefits below—because I
want your experience to be purely you!
The history of flotation tanks is also a history of individuals exploring the frontiers of
psychic phenomena. The weightless state enables deeper investigation of the mind. – Kalyn Wolf
And still others have suggested an enhanced focus, improved concentration, more precise
thinking, an ease of learning, and more consistent career performance.
It has even been suggested sensory deprivation, flotation experiences, reduce tension
headaches and can improve cardiovascular function by inducing deep relaxation.
In the end, this experience is your choice. It’s still advisable to talk with your doctor and/
or psychologist before engaging in any kind of isolation activity.
Enjoy!
Flotation provides a deep meditation experience, and connects you
to the undeniable and inexplicable magic that nurtures and inspires
evolution in growing perspectives of love. – Kalyn Wolf
This is why this solo–date section was shorter and, comparatively, less detailed because I
sincerely want your experience on these dates to be authentic and not influenced by me
—or anyone.
Follow-Up (optional, but encouraged):
• Just be present with yourself and listen to your heart and soul for the day—what do you
want to do, if anything; who do you wish to spend your time with, if anyone; go where
you want to go, if anywhere specific; and speak if you’d like to speak and remain quiet
and introspective, if you choose to remain quiet and introspective.
Intellectual
Challenge yourself to consciously think, test your mental endurance and
clarity, and have fun while doing this! Those we considered “nerds,”
yesterday, are our most respected and fascinating friends and colleagues,
today!
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• Solo-Date 1: Finding Fascination •
It seems crazy to say, but something in me keeps saying, tell the reader, “please don’t go
if you’re not really interested—go on a different solo date, until someone interesting, or
an interesting topic, is coming to your community.” And now that I’ve written this, I feel
lighter!
These are incredibly fun to go to because it seriously stimulates your brain—far more than
most people’s average day does in a year!
OK, a few more details to consider, . . .
Stimulate your understanding and retention by preparing for this date. I suggest you
spend approximately 30 minutes—on 3 different afternoons or evenings—the week
before the lecture researching this topic to establish a baseline understanding.
And come prepared to ask a question! If you’re really in to this, read the speaker’s book if
that’s what they’ll be lecturing on.
Please don’t proclaim “willing to ask,” but refuse to raise your hand, or intentionally avoid
stepping up to the microphone all together, . . . OK?! Be Curious—Ask Your Question(s)!
The other expectation is you will mingle with the other attendees—even talk with the guest
lecturer, if you feel inclined. The guest lecturer is usually available and accessible after the
talk, provided there is a meet-and-greet. And feel free to really mingle, even grab some
coffee or dinner with someone you might hit it off with while mingling.
Make a genuine effort, also, to remember people’s names when meeting with them—and
introduce them to others if the opportunity arises—while this is an “intellectual” solo-
date, by default it does have some social interaction ascribed to it. Remember, . . . you
are attending this particular lecture alone.
• Once home tonight—please focus on reading for the remainder of your evening.
Obviously eat, if you’re hungry, but please do it with a book in hand or an audio book,
or as noted above an intellectually stimulating podcast. Preferably non-fiction and/or an
autobiography. In short, read over listening to an audio book, and choose an audio book
or interesting podcast over TV, music, news, YouTube, or social media.
• And if you genuinely get board from reading, either pick-up a completely different
genre of book, or write—about anything: stuff you know about, insights and wisdom
you’d like to share with the world, your own autobiography, or even a story you’ve had
in mind for some time.
• Meditate after reading and before settling down to bed. How long? Until your BE–ing
says you’re done.
In case you’ve never been to an Escape Room before, many places offer a variety of room
challenges, and you should be able to choose online. For me—coupled with a bit of
imagination—Escape Rooms reveal my inner Indiana Jones and Sherlock Holmes.
When you arrive, you will be put in to a group with total strangers — yesssssss, . . . and
the adventure begins! While you will be with others, they will be people you don’t know,
so you’ll be faced with a number of opportunities to observe how your ego shies away
from the unknown. You’ll also get the chance to shine by challenging yourself to play full–
out! Really engaging your social skills, testing
the various ways to get your voice heard, and
exploring your relationship and comfort level
with assertiveness.
And if you’re an introvert, and this terrifies you to do, . . . . I would LOVE to see you
challenge yourself in this solo–date, just a bit, to create some additional flexibility in your
life. You know it won’t necessarily be easy, but for you, it may be worth it.
This solo–date will really challenge your own cognitive skills, giving you the right
environment to test your deductive reasoning, the thoroughness of your intentional
thinking, and your ability to ask questions that produce information-rich responses.
Think things through, and share your thoughts—this allows you to explore effective and
efficient communication.
Follow-Up (optional, but encouraged):
• If people are going out after this, and you want to go, GO! Have fun! Make some
new friends!
• This was supposed to just be fun—nothing deep. Ideally, it gave you, at least, a little
insight into how you think, and uncovered a few new angles you can implement when
problem–solving in the future. If you’re a writer and would like to journal about, or
document your Escape Room experience, please do! If you’re not necessarily a “writer,”
per se, but you feel like you grew and learned a thing–or–two about thinking outside the
box—and you want to remember these insights—please open your journal and share
everything!
• OK, . . . while the memories of “thinking outside the box” are still fresh, . . . journal—
even briefly—about some area of your life, right now, where you’re feeling stuck. And
practice brainstorming completely out–of–the–box ideas to escape, or transform, the
situation.
Explore the fears, limitations, and excuses your mind is creating to keep you stuck.
And do a deep dive into what it means to be stuck, and how it benefits you. Then also
do the reverse deep dive—what would it look like if you were to escape, . . . what would
it mean, . . . and what would the benefits be?
I’m not sure how it’s going to work, since you’ll be buying a single ticket online—ahead of
time. If you get sat with others, that’s absolutely acceptable!
You’ll know when your mind is still and your in the flow because your typical mental
chatter is quiet—as if the one responsible for that normal mental chatter has the night off
—additionally your focus will sharpen, and your senses will heighten, in an effort to
capture every subtle detail.
This solo-date is designed to encourage you to practice focused attention and intention.
Much like the Escape Room date, the majority of the directions for this solo-date will come
after you’ve arrived. Enjoy and put on your thinking cap because you’re in for a
wonderfully fascinating evening!
• Head to a late night coffee shop, restaurant, or restaurant-bar and just begin to people
watch.
Set very clear intentions, so you’re honing one primary skill: are you curious about what
people’s body language is saying; are you interested in power dynamics between two or
more people—who is in control, and why is that person in control; are you able to
identify endearing traits in people that reveal something about their character?
• If you’re interested in mysteries or spy stories, there are some interesting podcasts you
can listen to on your way home, or as you’re lying down to go to sleep. You can also
pick-up a good spy story or mystery—fiction or non-fiction—your choice.
Creative
As an artist, myself, I believe there is a deep intimacy one experiences
when doing art and being genuinely creative. Connecting with your
Muse . . .
In essence, he simply began to remove pieces that felt as if they were hiding, or covering
up, the essence of the sculpture within the stone.
Come ready to talk with and communicate with your clay. Learn to listen to it. This
begins the sensuality, the intimacy, of sculpting and pottery.
If you find you’re standing there not knowing what to sculpt, . . . good, . . .
NOW, you’re ready to stop trying and actually, simply, and naturally . . . start listening with
your heart, mind, body, and soul in perfect unison.
You’re giving it options to explore as you stretch its understanding of itself. As you
liberate it’s oppression from the processing wrap, you’re giving it breath—life—every time
you shift it from its former position; in essence, you will be creating and encouraging some
suppleness, some flexibility, some expansion, some opportunity for the clay and your
creativity to explore together.
Trust me, . . . the clay is alive in your hands from the beginning,
sometimes it simply doesn’t know it’s allowed to express itself, yet.
Stay connected and prayerful and openly intentional with it; this is an act of making love—
in a manner of speaking, . . . all art is an act of making love—an expression of natural,
unbridled freedom.
Just sculpt. Just feel the clay. Just dance and move with the clay. See with your heart
and soul, not your eyes, nor that judgmental mind.
“True self discovery begins where your comfort zone ends.” — Adam Braun
Learning these skills will be instrumental in your success with pottery—and finding
everyday applications for these principles will allow you to approach life and relationships
with a greater sense of artistry and presence.
• Second—be present with the clay. Be mindful of how your personal interaction with the
clay, either subtly or dynamically, impacts the clay and reshapes your design immediately.
Realize you have power and influence and identify clearly when, where, and how you want
to leave your imprint—because with every movement, every touch, your clay will be
reshaped. And . . .
There will come a time when you may take it too far, and it falls, causing you both to have
to start over, together, again. Listen to the clay, but . . .
Do you want to continue this interaction, this connection, this fluid relationship with
the living clay, or . . . do you want to let fear cut everything short, this side of
perfection?!
Simply slow down, pull back, become more intentional, and create a real spiritual
connection — a oneness — between you, the clay, and the co–creation you’re both
engaged in.
Remember, . . . that limit, that distance, that depth, that shape, that magic you’ve
made together must come from, and be decided upon by, YOU, . . . not your fears of
messing up and watching your creation fall again.
Simply realign, refocus, and move forward with the sharpness of you intention and
the genuine expression of your heart!
Remember, it’s clay—you cannot “break” it; at least, not until, or if, you fire it. If
something falls, or you’ve removed too much clay., . . . it’s flexible, simply start again, or
add some clay back in to your creation.
And lastly, . . . do not “try” to do or make anything, . . . . just truly be in love with the
process. Let the truth, and the creative Muse, flow through you. Be the conduit for
natural expression. And shift back to this natural state, and this spiritual connection,
every time you realize you are effort-ing.
Follow-Up (optional, but encouraged):
• If you enjoyed this, sign-up for ongoing courses; learn and express and create more.
• Go to your favorite tea or coffee shop, after your studio time is up, and take your
favorite journal and pen, order something truly delicious—maybe even decadent—and
journal about what you felt during this process.
° What were you thinking and/or feeling?
° What were you going through emotionally?
° Was there anything you let go of, and how are you feeling as a result of that
release?
° Will that letting go impact you, or your relationships, in any way? If so, how
and when? And . . .
° Did you learn anything about yourself, and your relationships, in this whole
process?
When you understand “the obstacle” is simply a reminder to relax, a reminder to release
attachments, a reminder to release resistance, then . . . you are opening to the path.
The true path is letting go. So these obstacles are teaching us to release the resistance, and
once we let go and open up, we instantly—without pause—begin to receive that spiritual
connection, which allows us to feel whole and connected again.
Art is a moving meditation and serves as a respite from the everyday chaos. Most of the
Japanese arts are this way; they’re not just “creative” practices or technical processes, but
spiritual disciplines.
Sumi-e
It’s simple, . . .
“Sumi” means “black ink” in Japanese and “e” represents “painting.” It allows the student of
Sumi–e to study how subtleties make huge differences in life. It provides the student with a
living framework to understand and successfully engage in life and relationships. And stillness
is a key element for learning Sumi–e as both an art form, and a way of life.
Fear is an obstacle—will you let it lead you or liberate you? Find a Sumi-e Sensei in your area
and allow your essence to awaken . . .
Seek stillness through meditation and “mindfulness” the week preceding your lesson.
The meditation and the “mindfulness” are two different practices intended to get you into
that same still state—that state where your mind is quiet and clear, and you’re simply in a
state of Presence, . . . a deep awareness.
Meditation allows your mind to become quiet because you’re focused solely on your
breathing—often times. And “mindfulness” encourages you to be aware of all the
subtleties your senses are taking in, at the same time, WITHOUT labeling or attaching to
any of them.
A tip that may help is to physically relax your body, soften your gaze, become aware of
your breathe, and innocently ALLOW your 5+ senses to share what they’re bringing in.
Attempt to be aware of the information your senses are hearing, smelling, tasting, feeling,
and/or seeing simultaneously. It’s a fun activity.
Follow-Up (optional, but encouraged):
• J ournal Entry: what did you learn? About the art, life, or yourself? Did anything speak
to you philosophically, spiritually, socially, or egoically? Did you, at any point, begin to
experience that connection, or stillness? If you did, what did it feel like, and where will
you seek to bring that feeling in to your life?
• If you plan on taking another class with this, or another teacher, look at your calendar
and schedule your next session. If this isn’t the art for you, go online and do a little
research to find something more aligned with your natural creativity, then look at your
calendar and schedule your first class.
LIFE CHANGING!!!
This solo–date isn’t just about watching, . . . it’s about getting in there and connecting with
your deeper self! And this is definitely going to happen!
On the previous page, I mentioned this will be one of the most rewarding solo–dates on your
list, and if you love this and decide to pursue it as an art form—or even a new way of life—it
promises to also be one of the toughest exercise regimens you’ve ever imagined because to
be the best you’ll need to develop speed and endurance because Taiko is often hard and fast.
Additionally, you’ll develop new ways of connecting with people and reading their energy
because, in many ways, . . . you’ll be communicating through the rhythm of the drumming.
Some groups make the understanding simple: sound, body, mind, and spirit. And others
offer a slightly more esoteric description: attitude, kata (form), technique, and ki (energy).
Mind / Attitude: Having the right mindset will demonstrate respect for the art and prove
you to be teachable. An enthusiastic attitude will help you learn music faster and
implementing proper techniques will unleash the power in your body for constant and
never–ending improvements!
Spirit / Ki (energy): The very life force that runs through all of us—that force that connects
us to the deeper wisdom and the sound of the drum. When your energy is high, your
natural ability and willingness to use kata correctly will be enhanced. And, obviously, this
will improve your connection to the music and your fellow drummers!
It’s quite difficult to separate these out and speak just about one of them. They‘re
interdependent, and it’s this collective that creates exquisite art. Within the drummer as an
accomplished artist, they’re interconnected; and within the ensemble, they’re interwoven in
a way that allows for the phenomenal music to be shared!
By aligning with these 4 Principles, you will develop and find new
ways of expressing strengths, skills, personal growth, and a real
love of life! In essence, adhering to these principles, . . . YOU will
be celebrating life!
Smile regularly and let the waves of life force energy just exude, and/or pulse, out
of you during these smiling sessions!
EXCITING!!!
• Maybe enjoy some YouTube videos of other Taiko groups, like the world famous
group, KODO. If you’re really going back, . . . Take a look at how good you can
get!
Dating is such a wonderful opportunity to get to know another human and, yet, so many
people don’t like it, at least, at first.
Yet, we seem to be excited about, and love, going out with our friends—even if this
“friend” is a new friend, and this is our first time hanging out together!
And YOU get to decide who YOU are; who YOU want to be; and whom YOU want to get to
know.
Then I’ll return to discuss “thinking,” clarify in a bit more detail why I’ve written a book on
dating yourself, and finally I’ll reveal the “1 BIG Reason Why You Should Date Yourself” and
the value it brings to your life!
Hopefully, this structural breakdown will offer some unexpected and unintended insight in
to other areas of your life, also. In many ways, this is just the study of results, and . . .
Even if your results were the “act of God,” you can celebrate
for the exact same reason!
These are not moments of failure, but instead, these are moments of
feedback! And feedback is Gold!
What you have in your life are the direct and indirect
results from the actions you have been—or haven’t been—taking.
YOU can immediately impact the outcome of your life and relationships instantly!
If you want different results in your life, then you get to take the
actions necessary for you to achieve the particular outcome
you’re seeking.
In order to do that, it stands to reason, you will need to control
your emotions.
Since your emotions influence your actions, and your actions
both directly and indirectly create results and outcomes in all
areas of your life, . . . you must control your emotions.
Believe it or not, controlling your emotions is really much easier
than you might “think.”
And it starts with simple awareness, . . .
“What thoughts, physical feelings, and/or emotions am I having
or experiencing, right now?”
Awareness of your present–moment thinking is quintessential because your THINKING
gives rise to your emotions—whether YOU are thinking something intentionally, or your
UNconscious mind is pushing out thoughts.
Becoming Empowered
Be aware your thinking and emotions are intertwined. They are inextricably linked in an
interesting—yet subtle—loop.
That would cheat you, and I believe in You cannot seem to get yourself to do
giving you as much as possible to truly something you don’t want to do; or do
enrich your life. something you’re uninterested in, scared
of, or embarrassed to do—even though
Besides, . . . I’m going somewhere with YOU KNOW it could, and would,
this, so stay with me. produce a better, more preferred,
outcome than your inaction or
Most of the time YOU KNOW when you procrastination will. Ugh! Why?!
don’t feel like taking the “right” actions
needed to create the best outcome and Remember, most of your thoughts arise
results for your life? from your unconscious mind.
Machine or Mind
They tell YOU, the conscious you, how the world works.
Where did this “authority” rise from?!
Who “programmed” it?
EXACTLY!!!! Who indeed . . .
Programmed . . . your beliefs?!
“Are you thinking your thoughts, or . . . are your thoughts, beliefs, and programs (from
Mom, Dad, friends, family, former partners, bosses, teachers, etc.) thinking and controlling
YOU?!”
Hhhhhmmmmmmmmm, . . .
Food for thought, as I bring us back to the dating world, as a whole—dating yourself more
specifically—and the “1 BIG Reason Why You Should Date Yourself!”
For you to have everything you want in this world—including, but not limited to that
beautiful relationship you imagine—YOU, the conscious you, will need to take charge back.
You will need to make the decisions and take the corresponding actions, . . . not your
unconscious mind.
Your unconscious mind is concerned about you getting hurt, and so it’s programmed to keep
you safe—and that means wiring fear in to YOU!
Or, at least, not until you knew your partner was fully
committed to YOU, first.
Again, . . . “it,” your UNconscious mind, is doing
everything it can to keep you safe.
Unfortunately, that fear it’s producing—in an effort to protect you—is exactly what could
cause you to get your heart broken, again.
If you cannot commit to someone you’re in a relationship with, . . . they’ll feel that—and
start to think, . . . “how can I commit to this person because they’re not committing to
me?” That’s a scary place to be for both of you.
Then you’ll feel their fear and, in a manner of
self–protection, you will pull back a bit to keep
your own heart safe. And then they’ll feel you
pull away—and out–of-fear and self–preservation,
. . . they’ll do the same.
It’s another terrible loop. And this is how many,
many, many relationships fail.
It’s a classic example of a “disempowerment” issue.
Remember, . . .
“Seek not to love more, instead remove the obstacles separating YOU from LOVE.”
This, alone, is everything.
If you simply remove, release, and let go of ALL your obstacles, fears, worries, and doubts
separating YOU from LOVE, . . .
And, very naturally, you will begin to attract While it’s wonderful to date yourself as a
people like YOU to you— means of self–discovery and connecting with
the deeper, truer you! your authenticity, don’t allow the idea, or
belief, that NOW—finally—my loving life
partner is going to come strolling in to my
life.
He, or She, Might; They Really Might!
And . . . they might not.
In case you’d like to take a proactive
approach and be a contributing factor in
speeding this process up, I feel it’s very
necessary to remind you to Keep Your
Standards High!
Final Thoughts
This is your life—not mine, not your mom’s or your dad’s, not a sibling’s,
nor a mentor’s, and it’s certainly not your former romantic partners’ or
previous love interests’.
It’s yours, and this means
there’s a certain amount of
responsibility you have, and a
certain amount of freedom
you’re afforded.
Even this “responsibility” hosts
its own access to freedom—
what needs to be done, does
not always dictate how or when
you do something.
“Freedom is the oxygen
of the soul” – Moshe Dayan
How you acquired this book, I don’t know. What I DO KNOW is I am grateful you got it
and, at the very least, started making your way through it!
Hopefully, you’re this deep in to this book because you’ve legitimately made your way
successfully through it, had some wildly enjoyable and insightful dates with yourself, and
you’ve truly fallen in love with your “True Self,” along the way!
If you haven’t yet gone on even a single date, please . . . don’t cheat yourself!
And if you’ve had a few dates, remember, . . . the greater the challenge you accept and
successfully move through, . . . the more you know who YOU are, what you like, and how
YOU want to, and get to, shape your new life!
P.J.
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P.J.
I’ve had this idea for a couple of years—and finally the Muse found and encouraged me to
share this idea of dating yourself—I Love It! And I hope you will, too!
You’ve likely heard the saying, “no man is an island;” meaning no one person exists and
operates alone—we are interdependent—and this project is no different.
My sister, Carie, has always been fearless! She never let anything ever stand in her way;
when she saw something she wanted, . . . she focused, committed, and achieved! She’s
brilliant and unquestionably knows who she is and what she wants in and from life!
Carie’s confidence stems from an unapologetic commitment to her own heart–and–soul,
and I have always both admired—and been in awe of—her courage, resourcefulness, and
dedication to her vision!
When she was born, I was 5, and I remember thinking she was the most beautiful thing I
had ever seen—even now as I type this I’m in tears thinking about how much I truly loved
her, . . . even though I might have wanted a brother! God knew better, though, and I truly,
truly, truly feel blessed to have her as my sister and childhood playmate! We had lots of
fun together as kids, and we’ve got plenty of stories to prove it!
I’m the older brother and, yet, . . . I’ve always looked up to her!
“Carie, . . . I Love You!
I cannot imagine my childhood without you—or that mischievous smile that caused me so
much turmoil when playing Star Wars! I don’t know if anyone has ever told you that you had a
constant sparkle in your eyes when you were little—and that sparkle, . . . even today, . . . melts
my heart! The feeling I get when I think about how you, as a little sister, would look at me as
her older brother, both honors and humbles me and, once again, honestly just brings me to
tears!
Carrot, you’ve been the best sister, unparalleled supporter, and childhood playmate a brother
could’ve ever had! At such a young age, you were my strength, letting me use your shoulders
when I felt too weak and unbalanced walking up–and–down the driveway; you were my
shadow, living YEARS being known mostly as “P.J.’s sister;” you were my mirror, constantly
reflecting my behavior and reminding me to be a better, kinder, more patient and loving
person; and you were my inspiration and my light, challenging me to read Siddhartha by
Hermann Hesse when you knew I hated reading—your persistence led me to both the light of
wisdom and understanding, and to the real joy of learning!
There are, at least, two other ladies I would like to thank, briefly, for both their contributions
to this specific project and for their friendship that has made me a better man and served
to improve my life in more ways than I can count! Thank YOU—you have both inspired me
to be a better human being, friend, and businessman!
Michelle Mann directly contributed to this project by kindly being my “movement model” on
page 49 in Chapter 3, Section 2, entitled: Shamanic Journey.
She has been one of my closest friends since—2014—I believe. She’s kind, loving, patient,
silly, so playful, and deeply, deeply wise. Her spiritual understanding and healing abilities far
surpass most spiritual teachers and healers I’ve met throughout my life. If you feel as if you
need to heal from some things in your past—before or while you’re dating yourself—I
absolutely encourage you to connect with Michelle! There’s no one better!
http://www.authentic-choices.com/
“Thank You for your ever–present love! I am truly honored, humbled, and grateful for you!”
Kalyn Wolf was kind enough to donate 3 pictures for Chapter 3, Section 3, entitled: Are You
Courageous?! Additionally, her quotes appear on pages 57 and 58 enlightening us on the
spiritual and psychological benefits of floating.
Kalyn opened Cloud Nine Flotation Center in 1985 and continues to be a leader in the
flotation, and deprivation, tank industry. And while we’ve only known each other for a short
period of time, we’ve certainly engaged in some powerful dialogue that continually reminds
and encourages me to be a better, more patient, and sincerely inquisitive man! Her courage
and honesty are commendable—as is her commitment to her clients and product
development. If you’re looking for products infused with love and Reiki energy—or you’re in
Tucson, Arizona, USA and want to “float,” definitely visit: https://floattucson.com/
“Kalyn, thank you for turning on the light when I’m in the dark!”
AND, I’d like to extend a VERY SINCERE and GENUINE THANK YOU to ALL the
Photographers and Models—too numerous to name here—who TRULY made this project
possible—and BEAUTIFUL! THANK YOU for so GENEROUSLY SHARING your art,
photographs, and images across the DollarPhotoClub, Pixabay, Pexel, Unsplash, ShutterStock,
and iStock platforms! HONESTLY, . . . Without YOU—each one of you—this project would’ve
been much less beautiful! Thank YOU!